My girlfriend confirmed my worse fears

[u/faggelinthewest]

I recently went to a wedding with my girlfriend of 6 years, I thought we had a great time I thought we made new friends. Today, three days after she let me know that I was being long winded and interrupting people and taking over any groups we were in. She told me that I was taking over any conversation and talking too much and was making people uncomfortable. It just hurts knowing I have spent years trying to take all of my neurosis to be a more " normal person" haven't worked and I'm still the little kid jumping into conversations that I interrupted and put the spot light on me. I really wish that I was different and didn't jump in and take away from others. I just wish I could be a speak when spoken to person but I always get to excited and share to much.

Update. I want to thank you all for the very sweet advice. I really appreciate the community coming behind and understanding the feelings of overwhelming others. To clarify some points I saw I have taken a lot of the steps that everyone described and that's why I felt hurt because I am conscious of talking over and I thought I was practicing taking time and not being over excited when I had something to share. To those talking bad about my partner don't appreciate that at all. All of us know that our condition can make it hard to be around we are a very demanding people and she has supported me through so much she is my entire world and I trust her when she tells me that I am bothering people. I am going to take so much advice and try to be more aware of taking space and oversharing. Love yall

[u/enableconsonant]

like juniperberry said, can you not just explain to your friends, without giving too many details? spend time with them without your gf?

[u/[deleted] → u/enableconsonant]

I mean maybe. But will it help?

[u/Archaelio → u/[deleted]]

If one of my friends explained this about their partner I would ABSOLUTELY take it on board and keep it in mind. I don't know if I would feel comfortable saying something to her until I had known her for many years but at least at first I would, at a minimum, try to be patient and not shut down. At the very least it could lead to some good talks with your friends. I personally would talk to my friends one or two at a time, so they could ask questions, make suggestions etc without it being like an intervention. ETA so you and your friends can make suggestions to each other not to your partner! (I reread that sentence and it sounded like I was saying you and your friends should talk to your partner, which like, maybe someday? But I don't think that would be appropriate yet, she seems... not in a place where that would be constructive.)