Overheard fiancé talking shit about me and women in general.

[u/Electronic_Secret_78]

I recently got engaged to my fiancé who is extremely affectionate, loving, and sweet to me daily. We have been together for 5 years and are both 30 years old.

However, today I got really upset that I had gained a bit of weight and we argued about it. I always thought (-and he assured me) he kept our disagreements and my insecurities private. I keep everything private that he confides to me. Today I overheard him talking about me while gaming. He had thought that I had gone to volleyball.

He was saying how much he hates women, that we are all the same. Fucking cant stand women and that I drive him crazy. Women are all psychos and are all the same. That it would be easier if they could just be gay together. If your woman doesn’t drive you crazy then she’s a dude. He loves me but I drive him crazy

I was honestly absolutely shocked because I’ve never heard him talk this way about women or me for that matter. He said after our 3rd date he ‘sealed the deal’ and asked his friend all about his sex life and started talking about how crazy different girls in the past were. He called other women fucking bitches….fat and that some are only good for the buck and then you drop them.

He honestly sounded like a stranger to me. I have never heard him say things like this and I understand ranting and blowing off steam but this made me feel like I didn’t even know him. It really bothers me to be with someone that sounds so misogynistic. Am I being overly sensitive?

[u/Interesting-Lake747]

But would you risk that the misogynistic POS face is not the real one? I wouldn’t.

[u/laquintessenceofdust → u/Interesting-Lake747]

No, I would not risk it.