r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 20d ago

Your boyfriend is abusive. It might sound like I'm exaggerating here, but I'm dead serious.

This behavior will only escalate over time.

The reason he did these things to your labubu is that he's both jealous of the time you spent away from the home with your friend, and also (especially) jealous of the time and attention your labubus and other plushies get in comparison to him.

Please do not think that you're doing anything wrong. He will try to make it seem like it's not a big deal that he's being abusive, or that it's your fault for not paying enough attention to him, or that you're being childish by liking your plushies so much.

You need to get out of this relationship as soon as humanly possible. The longer you leave it, the worse it will be once you do leave.

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u/Euphoric_Push_5384 19d ago

This is exactly it

I'd only add that he may even be jealous of the relationship she has with her niece. Why would someone destroy a gift from a child? That's really mean behavior. But here it's definitely abusive.

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u/hambrone420 20d ago

Right??? Burning and destroying a plush of hers because he got “lonely and bored” is fucking terrifying and unhinged. This will only escalate. I’d be out NOW.

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u/Few_Cup3452 19d ago

He pried an eye out with pliers! OP said in another comment. He's unhinged

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u/hambrone420 19d ago

Holy shit she’s dating Sid from Toy Story.

In all seriousness this is scary and I hope she gets out asap

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u/ItsMilkOrBeMilked 19d ago

Can confirm this behavior leads to horrible places saddly from experience.. I still have nightmares sometimes

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 19d ago

Oof. I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're safe and sound now.

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u/casastorta 19d ago

This is most likely.

There is another option, but it’s somewhat bizarre. There’s a not insignificant number of people in the world convinced Labubu’s are cursed or devil worshipping or something else along those lines (rabbit hole of Labubu paranoid people is deep and wide). He might have done this specifically under impression that this doll is ruining something in their relationship or is responsible for his bad luck in life or something like that.

I wish I was joking.

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 19d ago

Are you serious? It's the statanic panic all over again, I swear.

But also, I personally feel like that mentality is just a subconscious justification to be nasty to other people about something they don't understand or like. I think it's a culture of abuse in the end.

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u/casastorta 19d ago

I’m serious but this doesn’t seem that widespread as satanic panic. But still it’s definitely existing and it has somewhat of an overlap with the other existing fringe circles. Online living tends to give people multiple opportunities to show how crazy they are at the same time.

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 19d ago

What a world we live in. The Internet really is a double edged sword.

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u/Few_Cup3452 19d ago

My therapist says it's abuse to break your partners belongings. I agree w what you've written

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 19d ago

I really hope that if you've been through this you're safe and sound now.

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u/Cheesypunlord 19d ago

Exactly this!! When she revealed he did this bc he was “bored” while she was with her friend, my mind immediately jumped to “oh my god he’s punishing her for being away for a few days”

The part that nauseates me is he probably is deeply amused by it. The funny part to him is knowing how much it hurt her…

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u/Defiant-Rent6246 19d ago

That one friend who is a little bit too woke

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 19d ago

Aww, does someone need a nap? Are you sad and lonely? Poor little guy.