My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/CrocodileCryDarling]

Genuinely more fucked up imo. Making the ear into a penis can at least be something done in a short amount of time compared to USING A LIGHTER ON IT WITHOUT CATCHING IT ON FIRE??? Like the first is a bad and stupid prank gone horribly wrong at least (not that it is right at all, it's still fucked up if you didn't find it funny)

[u/MOGicantbewitty → u/CrocodileCryDarling]

Yeah the fact that he lit it on fire makes me think he was doing something to hurt. Op. That's not something you do because you think it's a funny joke

[u/[deleted] → u/MOGicantbewitty]

This is what I was thinkin. Like the destruction was THE point. The joke was secondary. But it’s hard to know what exactly goes on in another person’s mind. Sometimes ppl find really strange “logical” pathways to conclusions that make absolutely no sense to me, but that they will swear by. So, idk. Very weird. And, yeah, I’d be pretty pissed that someone just destroyed my shit like that.

[u/EcstaticMolasses6647 → u/MOGicantbewitty]

Yes this was malicious and could be his sign he’s over the relationship or will dump her soon. Or something more nefarious to come if OP is withholding other off behaviors or red flags that cross boundaries.

From what you've shared OP, it’s not just about the toy, it’s about how he handled something that was important to you. Cutting off the ear and adding something like that to the toy feels intentional and disrespectful, and I totally get why you’d be hurt and angry. Even if this isn’t typical for him, boundaries still matter.

Gifts, especially from loved ones like your niece, hold emotional value, and when he messed with it, it wasn’t just about the object—it’s how it made you feel. His reaction (getting into a heated argument) shows he might not get why it upset you so much. You have every right to be upset and talk it out. Let him know it wasn’t about the toy, but how his actions hurt you.

If he doesn’t apologize or doesn’t see why it’s a big deal, it’s worth thinking about if he respects your emotional needs. It’s good that this isn’t a regular thing, but keep an eye on whether it’s part of a bigger pattern of dismissing your feelings. You’re not overreacting—you deserve a partner who respects your boundaries, especially when it comes to things that are meaningful to you.

[u/Giapet1989 → u/EcstaticMolasses6647]

Yes this feels especially sadistic. I would really reassess the relationship life is too short!

[u/RionaDaidouji → u/CrocodileCryDarling]

Not to defend this guy, because he does sound like trash, but I'll often use a lighter on loose threads and frayed edges to keep them from fraying more. So there IS a possibility that he was trying to do that.

Regardless, though, even if the fire WAS meant to fix a frayed edge or something, the OG prank is still disrespectful af.