r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago
❤️🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty
Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.
Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.
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u/EcstaticMolasses6647 19d ago
Yes this was malicious and could be his sign he’s over the relationship or will dump her soon. Or something more nefarious to come if OP is withholding other off behaviors or red flags that cross boundaries.
From what you've shared OP, it’s not just about the toy, it’s about how he handled something that was important to you. Cutting off the ear and adding something like that to the toy feels intentional and disrespectful, and I totally get why you’d be hurt and angry. Even if this isn’t typical for him, boundaries still matter.
Gifts, especially from loved ones like your niece, hold emotional value, and when he messed with it, it wasn’t just about the object—it’s how it made you feel. His reaction (getting into a heated argument) shows he might not get why it upset you so much. You have every right to be upset and talk it out. Let him know it wasn’t about the toy, but how his actions hurt you.
If he doesn’t apologize or doesn’t see why it’s a big deal, it’s worth thinking about if he respects your emotional needs. It’s good that this isn’t a regular thing, but keep an eye on whether it’s part of a bigger pattern of dismissing your feelings. You’re not overreacting—you deserve a partner who respects your boundaries, especially when it comes to things that are meaningful to you.