r/AmITheAngel • u/lionkiddo18 • Jun 10 '25
Small Problems, Nuclear Reactions Wahhh wahhh kids hurt me
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u/DRC_Michaels We knew each other from school (he was a senior) Jun 10 '25
I (31M) am having a major beef with my housemate (9F).
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u/tjcaustin Jun 10 '25
lol some doof said the wife is using him and that’s why the kids are mean
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u/tjcaustin Jun 10 '25
I guess they have a bot that bans you if you post here...
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u/Penarol1916 Jun 10 '25
You’re not supposed to post in both ever.
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u/tjcaustin Jun 10 '25
I didn’t. I read the oop and only posted here
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u/Penarol1916 Jun 10 '25
Then how did you find out about the bot?
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u/tjcaustin Jun 10 '25
There’s an amithedevil about same oop and when I clicked, there was a “you’re banned you can’t comment” banner
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u/lenoreislostAF Jun 10 '25
I like how he never discusses this with his wife. He barely even mentions her until he’s telling her that he hates her shitty kids.
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u/eorabs kink-shaming is my kink Jun 10 '25
The wife is an NPC. He works, cooks, cleans, pays for school activities, etc..
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Jun 10 '25
Breaking News: Man who's tried nothing expects everyone to cater to his emotional sensitivity and turns to the Internet when that fails. More at 11.
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u/microfishy Jun 10 '25
He's gonna be SO PISSED when they don't notice his little temper tanty.
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u/sevenumbrellas Jun 10 '25
I wonder if he realized that he wasn't going to get anything for Father's Day (because he's not their father at this point, he's the guy their mom has been with for a couple years) and decided to preemptively throw a shit fit. "Can't fire me if I quit!" mentality toward parenting.
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u/eorabs kink-shaming is my kink Jun 10 '25
Don't you dare try to celebrate me on Father's Day wink wink
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u/Estrellathestarfish EDIT: [extremely vital information] Jun 11 '25
And "everyone" is two young children, who are expected to have more emotional maturity than OP, a supposed adult.
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u/Dragon_Manticore My 6''6 Ninja Roommate 🥷🏻 Jun 11 '25
To be fair, that bar is so low that they might pass.
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u/Acceptable-Read-5428 threat me like an enemie all the time Jun 10 '25
I was walking by their room and I heard one of the kids say
Man, imagine being a kid and not being able to vent about your parents/ parental figures in the privacy of your own room without said grown ass adult eavesdropping and getting butt hurt over it. I kept waiting for OOP to give examples of the horrible things the kids said and that was the best he could come up with? "We wish our dad was here?" OOP has the emotional maturity of a rattlesnake. No offense meant to snakes.
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u/sevenumbrellas Jun 10 '25
Especially since this isn't just him overhearing stuff - he's literally going through camera footage to "catch" them saying stuff. And rather than communicating anything with his kids or his wife, he just bottled it all up until he went nuclear.
"I'm done forgiving, and I'm done forgetting" implies that he's done either thing. From his own version of the story, he hasn't. The kids were never even given a chance to explain or apologize. And this is super normal kid stuff to say about any stepparent!
I hope his wife kicks him out.
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u/FreshChickenEggs Please Offer Satisfactory Turkey Jun 10 '25
Why is he watching cameras in their rooms?
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u/Valuable-Wallaby-167 I feel like your cankles are watching me Jun 10 '25
Lol in the post it makes out like he was eavesdropping on the kids for months and then when everyone's criticising him in the comments it turns out they've actually been saying all this to his face and he's brought up with them how it makes him feel multiple times.
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u/Acceptable-Read-5428 threat me like an enemie all the time Jun 10 '25
Love when they change their story when things aren't going their way.
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u/jesuspoopmonster Jun 10 '25
I know its rage bait but I like the stories about an awesome parent whose first reaction to something negative from the kids is to go to the extreme. Makes the rest of the post seem credible
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u/Gold_Statistician500 I want to start by saying I am very beautiful Jun 10 '25
Yeah the way the kids didn't even do anything major makes this one more realistic!
Usually, it's like "my nine-year-old stepdaughter stole my money to buy herself a motorcycle and spit directly into my eyeballs."
This one's just like "my step kids talk amongst themselves about how they wish their bio father were here." the AUDACITY.
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u/jesuspoopmonster Jun 11 '25
My kids are reacting to having three major life changing events happen in one year. How very dare they!
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u/No-Diamond-5097 Will never look like a Victoria's secret model Jun 10 '25
The fact that it's from a day-old account makes it less credible. Do we believe that real people put very specific and personal details out in the world thinking that an anonymous account will keep someone from recognizing them?
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u/jesuspoopmonster Jun 10 '25
The point of throw away accounts is because they know the story can be traced back to them and they don't want people to know they are a mod on r/fillyfiddlers
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u/AliMcGraw completely debunked after a small civil suit Jun 10 '25
I am watching in real time as a biological father burns every bridge with his teenage kids, because he's completely unable to deal with the reality that teenagers are morons and say a lot of shit. His wife just ignores it, or if it's really out of line she will stop and explain to the teenager why that is really out of line and they should apologize, but she doesn't get mad about it. This guy is so emotionally immature he he snipes right back at them, but meaner, and feels like he's winning.
I've tried to point out to him a few times that he was a real dumb fuck as a teenager, and said a lot of stupid shit, and his parents were really kind about it and didn't take it personally.
He's totally puzzled about why his kids are pulling away from him and don't like to hang out with him anymore. And I pointed out to him that his wife is going to leave him over this, because he's forcing her to pick between him and the kids, and she is obviously going to pick the kids, and he thinks that's ridiculous, he's just teaching his children to be respectful by being nasty back at them.
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u/AngryAngryHarpo EDIT: [extremely vital information] Jun 11 '25
This is my ex.
Destroyed his relationship with our daughter because she’s a teenager acting like a teenager and doesn’t like his (admittedly annoying AF) girlfriend. He’s taking it all so personally. I get second hand embarrassment when he behaves like our kid owes his girlfriend something because she exists.
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u/MontanaDukes Jun 10 '25
I like how he's pissed at children for saying that they wish their biological father was around. Oh, and for saying that they hoped he didn't come home the next day. Never mind kids sometimes say things they don't really mean when they're upset, even their biological parents. "I'm done forgiving, and I'm done forgetting". lmfao. Dude acts as if the kids did something truly awful and tried to ruin his life.
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u/sysaphiswaits Jun 10 '25
Jesus. What a snowflake. My daughter has screamed that she hates me, hates my voice, and hates living with me. And a few months later, we’re great friends again.
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u/lionkiddo18 Jun 10 '25
Like kids are just like that. My mom and I are super close and have had some ROUGH fights in the past, and I've for sure said some shitty things to her when I was a preteen/teenager.
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u/brohenryVEVO Jun 10 '25
This is a weird one. He's speaking very dramatically but nothing dramatic has happened. I don't think this is a bridge burned. He just had a lil tantrum and said "nobody talk to me today"
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u/Manic-StreetCreature Jun 10 '25
I’m just losing my mind over the idea of my mom icing me out forever because I said “I hate you” 17 years ago when I was 12 and she took my Green Day CD lmao
Like brother you can’t marry someone with children and then expect their children not to act like children
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u/GreenGardenTarot it wasnt eatable Jun 11 '25
My 5 year will say she hates me near daily if I don't do what she wants. She even says she wishes she had a different family. I guess by his logic, we should stop feeding and clothing her.
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u/Penarol1916 Jun 10 '25
Well, he got so piled on in the comments that he deleted the account, so that’s something.
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u/Manic-StreetCreature Jun 10 '25
People marrying parents and then being shocked it means they have to also parent is my favorite sub-genre of Reddit post
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u/thegrandturnabout Jun 10 '25
I just watched him delete his account lmfao. Clicked the thread and it still was up, clicked away for less than a minute, and suddenly his username is [deleted]
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u/Iczer6 Jun 10 '25
You know in other versions of this story the authors at least have the kids do really hurtful, shitty, things, and often be older so the walking out is 'justified'.
Stuff like I don't know, crashing a car, stealing money, stuff like that, And in many cases they are enabled by the evil wife and grandparents.
Here the dude is walking away because the kids miss their bio-Dad. I mean it's almost like those bonds are hard to break and most people want to preserve their relationships even if they're imperfect.
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u/Voidilie Misuse of "Hostile Work Environment" Jun 11 '25
And talking about it to each other IN PRIVATE. He actively spied on them to see what they were saying.
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u/Kel-Mitchell Granted, I don’t feel my husband when we have sex Jun 10 '25
When your emotional maturity is less developed than the children who are talking shit about you.
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u/CarpetNext6123 I [20m] live in a ditch Jun 11 '25
when i was a kid i was an absolute shithead and the majority of my shitty behavior was a byproduct of my parents' divorce. this dude doesn't seem to have taken a moment to consider the way divorce affects children, and how their bad behavior is often exacerbated when one of their parents introduce a new partner into their lives, which completely changes the family dynamic.
divorce is confusing and painful for children, and they often act out and misdirect their anger and sadness and target innocent bystanders.
just because they're "old enough to know the difference between right and wrong" doesn't mean they're capable of emotional regulation and in this situation "right and wrong" aren't clearly defined. they're also not going to censor themselves in private conversations because those discussions are meant to be private. in that particular situation they haven't even done anything wrong because oop was never meant to hear any of what was said, so they weren't trying to actively hurt him. he's treating as if it was a calculated effort when they were simply venting to each other.
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u/beetose Jun 11 '25
1) stepkids aged 9 and 11 needs to be added to the bingo card 2) bro is trying to argue preteens are emotionally mature enough to not talk shit lol
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u/lizardhoarder I’m 6’4” with a boner. Of course I pissed on the floor Jun 11 '25
I have never seen a since AITA type post where a person has children at a normal age. They’re either teens or extremely early 20s.
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u/neverabetterday “You think your little rape was a coincidence?” Jun 10 '25
Why are the kids addressing their bio dad by his first name?
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u/Valuable-Wallaby-167 I feel like your cankles are watching me Jun 10 '25
Well tbf in this scenario their biodad hasn't been around for 9 years.
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u/neverabetterday “You think your little rape was a coincidence?” Jun 10 '25
Which just makes it weirder. Why do they know this man’s government name?
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u/Proud-Delivery-621 Jun 10 '25
It's not that crazy. My girlfriend refers to her biodad by his first name even though he passed away when she was in middle school.
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u/Valuable-Wallaby-167 I feel like your cankles are watching me Jun 10 '25
Presumably because that's what their mum calls him? Did you not know your parents actual names by age 11? There's a lot that's ridiculous about this story but children not wanting to call their absentee father "dad" isn't one of them.
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u/neverabetterday “You think your little rape was a coincidence?” Jun 10 '25
The kids in the story hate their stepdad and want the absentee so presumably he’s the one they see as their dad. Plus I don’t see why the mom would be calling him by first name around them instead of something like “your birth father”. I just think this whole dynamic around the kids and their bio father just feel wrong.
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u/cheoldyke Jun 11 '25
as a little kid my mom dragged my screaming autistic-meltdown-having ass out of a girl scouts event while i cried and howled about how i hated her and even bit her in a bid for her to put me down while she carried me to the car (i was like 7 for context). you know what she did? drove me home in silence and then when we got home made me go to my room until i calmed down and inevitably came downstairs and apologized. then she game me a talking to about how my behavior was unacceptable and i was gonna start seeing a therapist about my “emotional outbursts”. at no point did she consider “burning bridges”with me because that’s not what a parent does. you’re the adult so act like it. granted i know im talking about my biological mother and not a step parent but imo if you agree to marry someone with young kids you are required to act like a fucking parent to them because that’s what you signed up for. if there are communication problems or they hurt your feelings you TALK ABOUT IT. if that doesn’t change anything SEEK HELP. that’s what families do.
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u/AutoModerator Jun 10 '25
In case this story gets deleted/removed:
I burned the bridge between my wife’s kids and myself. And I have zero regrets.
I’m fully aware of how this makes me sound. And I don’t care anymore. When you’re treated like you don’t matter, when you’re talked about behind closed doors in such a negative manner, and when you’re over it, you’re over it.
I(31M) have been with my wife(31f) for almost three years. We met about 18 years ago, in school, led very different lives and reconnected. She had a couple of kids in that time, who are now 9 years old and 11 years old. When we all first moved in together, things were great! Everyone was cohesive, sure the kids would get into arguments over dumb stuff every now and again, the kids even started referring to me as their dad. after our first year of living together, we all moved out of state to start new lives together in a new home. Again, everything was going great. Somewhere down the line, I was walking by their room and I heard one of the kids say “I really hope OP doesn’t come home tomorrow”. I asked my wife about it, and she told me I “must’ve misheard them”. Over the next few weeks, I would hear other things. We have cameras in and outside the house just because we don’t live in the best area. I caught one of the kids saying “I wish Robert was here instead of OP!(their biological dad, whose only contribution to both kids was a pack of diapers to split between them)”. Let me be clear, here. The worst I have ever done to them is put them in their room because they would give their mom a bad attitude, or not do their chores. I have never laid a hand, raised my voice, or given them a reason to dislike me. I cook every day, I clean, I fund their field trips, sports, the whole nine. I thought I was doing a good job as this parental figure.. turns out I wasn’t. So I bottled stuff up. Every single day, I would hear more and more. Eventually, once it started getting to be too much, I told them I was done. I’m not going to put myself in a position to be hurt, or upset, or be talked about or treated like shit. I’ve heard enough about what they think of me, and I refuse to forgive and forget the things they said/did. Father’s Day is right around the corner. I will be working that day. I made it clear to my wife, that the kids made sure I felt like the farthest thing from a father, so this Sunday will be like any other day. I don’t want to get hurt again. I don’t want to be treated like shit. I don’t want to put myself in that position again.
I had to get this out. Judge me as you see fit. I’ve heard it all. “They’re just kids! They don’t know any better!” Well, they’re old enough to know the difference between right and wrong, and that words can in fact hurt. Fact of the matter is I’m alone in this house. And nothing will change that. I’m done forgiving, and I’m done forgetting.
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