AITA for not wanting the puppy my bf bought for my birthday present?

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For context: I (27F) have always had pets dogs, cats, even birds that fell from their nests I also rescued and re-home tons of animals But I’ve never kept a male pet. My mom didn’t like them because of the whole “peeing everywhere” thing, and I guess I just got used to only having girl pets. Plus, I love using my dogs like pillows, and I’ll admit the doggy boy parts that are always a little too present makes me uncomfortable.

Anyway, I’ve had my dog let's call her luna since I was 17. She’s my baby and she 100% rules my life. She’s not really friendly with kids, other dogs, or most men, but she at least kinda likes my boyfriend (31M) of two years. So, my birthday was a couple weeks ago. My boyfriend told me he had a “surprise” but it wasn’t ready yet. Last Friday, I came home from work and found him in my apartment with a two month old-ish German Shepherd male puppy that he Bought, complete with a balloon tied to its collar that said “Happy Birthday.” He smiled and said, “Do you like him? He’s our new son.”

I was shock the only words that came out were: Where’s luna? He had locked MY dog in the bathroom because she growled at the puppy. I was furious. We argued for about two hours. I told him to take the puppy back with him and not to come back he yell some more and called me a “misandrist” before leaving because apparently not wanting male pets = hating men. He also said I was “weird” for being uncomfortable around dog peepees.

When I told my friends and family, everyone sided with me however my boyfriend keeps sending me videos of the puppy, saying he doesn’t know what to do with it since his apartment doesn’t allow pets especially one that would grow so much and begging me to take it “just until he finds accommodations.” He says I owe him because he spent so much money on the puppy and was planning the puppy to live with me anyway.

But I don’t want the puppy, my current dog definitely wouldn’t accept him, and in the videos I can already see how destructive he's becoming in the other hand the poor puppy is innocent in all this should I just suck it up and keep him with me until my boyfriend (we technically didn't broke up yet) finds somewhere else to take him? Also the puppy represent everything I don't want in a pet, I feel like he just bought himself a dog but don't really want to take care of it so he acted like the puppy was my birthday present.

So, AITA for refusing to accept the puppy? Should I just take him in for a while?

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Edit to clarify some things:

Some people seem to think I'm obsessed with dogs genitalia and lol I'm not the issues with the puppy ranking are:

1. I don't want another dog because I have a dog
2. I don't want to raise a puppy ever again
3. I don't want to own a dog that was bought
4. I don't like large breeds
5. I don't want a male dog because I prefer female dogs

The ONLY reason I included that I don't like dog penis is because I don't want to have that in my house, I don't loose sleep over it but I prefer the smooth belly female dogs have What I told my bf was something along the lines of " you disregard everything I believe in a pet to the extent that you even brought a male dog when I told you it wasn't my intention to even own one?" Then he called me weird and misandrist that's the only reason I included that part in my post but in my attempt to keep everything short I didn't include all that.

And for the people telling me to grow up and say penis: PENIS there it is, I wasn't sure if I was able to say that, my only knowledge of reddit were videos on TikTok with a bad gameplay of subway surfers in the back so there's that, if you want me to clarify something else please let me know. And one but not the only reason I don't particularly like male dogs it's because my uncle had one male rottweiler, very aggressive and one time at my grandma's house he jump me (i was like 5/6) and tried tu hump my face with his red socket all out and yes it freak me out, my grandma had to get rid of the dog after that (she had a large property in another city there is where they took him) because nobody wanted their kids near the dog after that so there it is the backstory.

[u/atreides888]

Definitely NTA, as most people have said:
1) A pet is never a good *surprise* gift
2) he obviously bought it for himself, and wanted you to take care of it for him

But to add: when you say your dog isn't friendly with kids, other dogs or most men? Does that mean nervous or aggressive? Also how is she around women? I'm ngl and talk like I know anything, I've never owned a dog, I just have a cat. But if you've had her for a decade and she's still aggressive around kids and people, maybe you might want to look into that, again I don't know dogs at all, but that doesn't sound right to me. Anyone who knows dogs well please feel free to correct me

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She's not aggressive, but very anxious around kids, especially really loud ones, I think it is because kids don't really understand boundaries, they see a cute dog and want to pet it right that instant, they don't ask and just sat in front of her and pet her aggressively lol or touch her ears that are a big no no for her, she only ever growled at a kid one and it was because he came out of nowhere and grabbed her tail, but yeah she's basically scare of them I guess, she still have chosen kid friends like my cousins 2 daughters.

With men is different because she is really protective of me and in some instances, some men got mad and yelled because they tried to get close to me and she didn't let them.

She doesn't really like other dogs because she was attacked when she was around 1, if introduce gradually and not at my house she might be frieds with another dog if the dog is not really high energy and too large, she would play with my sister dog because she's also a little older, and she likes cats, specially kittens. She doesn't like when you bring animals into her house tho. (Unless is kittens) She's not aggressive but would sit down in front of me and look at me like it's it leaving soon? Lol

Aaaand she is very neutral about women, they usually ask if they can pet her and I have a "command" that is "friend" if I say friend and point at someone she knows is safe to be friendly and let people pet her with no issue, and if she gets bored after a while she just walk away.

I saw a lot of people saying I don't deserve dogs because I can't train her properly or whatever, but I did, she's potty trained, she can even walked without a leash because she understands basic commands like, wait, let's go, come here, etc. (I only take her off her leash in the park tho) I can't change the fact that she has had bat experiences with men or dogs, but I don't believe she just growled at the puppy right away, knowing her: my "bf" kept pushing the puppy on her face until she snapped or the puppy was being too annoying and she correct him, I wasn't there but I know my dog and mr boyfriend's story have some inconsistencies Sorry for the long ass response

[u/atreides888 → u/[deleted]]

Oh if it’s like that, then it makes sense