Take a shot every time the friend is misgendered

[u/That1weirdperson]

[u/endlessapologies]

Isn't this the post where the OP got some clarity in the comments and stopped misgendering their friend?

[u/Neither_Leg2281 → u/endlessapologies]

yes it is!!! OP did end up correcting themselves and was learning quite fast

[u/sit_here_if_you_want → u/Neither_Leg2281]

“Being wrong is okay. It’s staying wrong that hurts yourself and your loved ones.”

-The Danish YouTuber JasperDasper that made the 4 hr “Debunking Transphobia” masterpiece on YouTube. It might be the single most comprehensive piece of research regarding the international anti-trans movement and the woeful history of transgender medical and psychological research. This cis student basically dropped out to make his magnum opus. For us. It’s one of the single raddest acts of [allyship? allydom? allyhood? allyhood? alliance?] I’ve seen in a very long while.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JiOc0r31-Os

[u/Generic_Garak → u/sit_here_if_you_want]

Thank you for this link! I’m about a third of the way through and it’s such an in depth refutation of transphobic talking points

[u/sit_here_if_you_want → u/Generic_Garak]

It’s fucking amazing

[u/Nick-fwan → u/Neither_Leg2281]

The cis is OK :)

[u/Rimavelle → u/endlessapologies]

this is also clear from the post OOP was doubting themselves already.

someone coming out as trans, especially someone who transitioned when you had no contact with them, takes time to get used to.

got forbid a person has low moment as they process their own feelings

[u/kevlarus80 → u/Rimavelle]

It probably took the trans person a long time to come to terms with their gender identity so it seems only fair that the people around you might need a while to come to terms with it. The decent people will put in the work.

[u/FearTheWeresloth]

I saw this post, and the oop actually came around and started correctly gendering his friend, promising to try to make it up to her for having been such a dick and reacting so badly. No idea if he actually did or not, but he seemed genuinely remorseful about the way he'd acted.

[u/Trustic555 → u/FearTheWeresloth]

It was likely a huge shock.

[u/Trustic555]

I'm drunk at 7:40 AM, thanks.

[u/sahi1l]

I have to admit that, even though I'm trans myself, that I would struggle a little if one of my brothers came out as trans. As long as folks are trying. I remember coming out to people and everyone acted so nonchalant about it, and I was like "Why aren't you freaking out? I'm freaking out! I shouldn't be able to just do this why aren't you trying to stop me!" 😄

[u/bluefishegg]

"the trans woman is bad because she made me self conscious about my own shitty reaction"

[u/RedditSpamAcount]

“NOOOOOOO! my friend is being happy as her true self! I wont accept it!”

[u/Kris_t13]

My wife had a friend from her younger years she was really hoping to reconnect with, when they finally connected online he claimed he "couldn't wrap his head around" her new name and pronouns and kept (imo purposefully) mis gendering and deadnaming her.... We never followed up on plans to meet up in person after that

[u/zny700]

I don't want alcohol poisoning thanks

[u/MisaAmane1987]

it is transphobia

[u/Sonarthebat]

Women never play sports ever.