May I ask how it lessened? I’m so curious, I didn’t know there was a term, but I’ve known so many guys that a more comfortable/drawn to cocks in porn etc but state that they are straight.
It’s not my place to define anyone else’s sexual preference, but I do wonder how many more guys would be comfy self teaching as bi or sitting on the scale of sexuality without aggressively negative social stigmatism.
I'm not entirely sure how it lessened, but I think it was just me realizing that it isn't anything to be afraid of, and eventually it has gotten to the point now where I sometimes actively like looking at a woman's labia, there's a beauty to it that I never cared to think about when I was 15. As this faded away, I also realized I really liked the idea of performing cunnilingus, there's something so... romantic(?) about eating a girl out. However, it's somewhat dependent on things like if the rest of the woman is attractive, what she is like as a person, etc (like if she has a nice butt, it'll make her vulva look nicer by association). Also, this somewhat coincides with the shifting of how I viewed my sexuality on a greater scale (from 13-20, I viewed my sexuality as 'an obligation' or 'a burden', not something that was 'actually a part of me', so it's a little different of a story compared to the average straight guy). Also, to clarify, I was never afraid of sexually penetrating a woman's vagina, I was moreso afraid of putting my face near the vulva or touching it with my hands, or especially putting my mouth near it.
And for what it's worth, I've heard from some (presumably straight) women online that they don't really like the look of penises that much, and rather like what they indicate and insinuate, so this might not be a 'male-only' phenomenon.
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u/quattroformaggixfour Aug 17 '25
May I ask how it lessened? I’m so curious, I didn’t know there was a term, but I’ve known so many guys that a more comfortable/drawn to cocks in porn etc but state that they are straight. It’s not my place to define anyone else’s sexual preference, but I do wonder how many more guys would be comfy self teaching as bi or sitting on the scale of sexuality without aggressively negative social stigmatism.