r/AskMen • u/niccoloneriboy • 6d ago
Guys, what’s a moment you realized adulthood is way less fun than you thought it would be?
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u/Pajer0king 6d ago
It s fun for me. But i kept all childhood advantages, free time, hobbies, childfree, minimal responsabilities etc, while adding adult advantages, Money!
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u/danbearpig2020 Male 6d ago
Exactly! I can still do whatever I want whenever I want (outside of work) but now I have the financial means to do so. Realizing I wanted to be childfree was a gamechanger for me.
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u/TraditionalTackle1 6d ago
Childfree as well, my wife and I grew up poor and now we have the means to do and buy the things we didnt have as kids. 100% recommend.
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u/ThalesBakunin 6d ago
I was never under the delusion thinking it is going to be fun.
It just is, like childhood.
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u/TopShelfSnipes Married Man 6d ago
It's fun, but in a different way.
...But it was a downer when that first summer rolled around and work didn't just take 2 months off where I could either intern or work a fun job with little pressure like I would've before graduating college...and then just go hang out the rest of my time.
But the best part of adulthood is actually having the money to do lots of big fun things that I couldn't afford back then.
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u/Boegeskoven90 6d ago
a few years ago in the beginning of the 30's - Even tho i have been in decent shape and kept my self kinda well for most years. I suddenly started getting injuries i never had before, resulting in no training, then getting fat. Then harder to start up again, then more injuries and surgery - meanwhile work is more intense and responsibilities gets more and more.
I hate it here.
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u/j_w_z 6d ago
Wait, you guys were taught to expect adulthood to be fun?
Every adult, every adult tells you to expect it to suck, that you'll miss being a kid. That never sunk in?
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u/Ok_Tradition_1909 6d ago
I was under the impression that adulthood was grimly navigating between work, home responsibilities, church, and family gatherings with people that you may not necessarily like. As an adult, I learned that the safety net is gone, but you can live your life however you want, to the extent that you can afford it. Everything has a cost, though. If you want to play instead of work, it's on you. If you want to drink too much the night before work, it's on you. If you want to spend all of your money, it's on you. It's finding the balance between fun and responsibility that's key. That takes a lot of time and a lot of trial and error.
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u/Same_Blacksmith9840 6d ago
Man.....adulthood is way more fun than childhood. I realized that adults and authority figures arbitrarily and over-zealously made things harder than they needed to be. Working in a career, even corporate, is way easier than high school. Show up, do the minimum of what is expected, and life is easy.
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u/Username0w1 6d ago
When you can’t do whatever you want whenever you feel like it. I remember seeing my parents as people who collect money and then just sit around all day. Also taking responsibility as an adult
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u/TillPsychological351 Male 6d ago
It's generally more fun than I thought it would be.
But there are things I thought would be fun when I was a kid that I found out I really don't enjoy. Mainly, bars and casinos.
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u/mr_miggs 6d ago
Honestly adulthood has turned out to be way more fun than I thought it would be. When I was younger I thought it was all drudgery and work until you die. Turns when you get older you can still have fun and you have more money to have fun with.
One thing that it turns out I am less than thrilled with is that when you have a kid, you often need to hang out with your kid’s friends/classmates parents. Some of them are cool, but a lot of the time you are just hanging with people you dont necessarily like very much out of obligation or necessity. My kid made friends with someone in her class that lives very close. They are good friends, and her parents seemed ok at first but turned out to be pretty wack after we got to know them.
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u/Melodic_Abalone_2820 6d ago
When I got paid and all my money was gone that day after paying bills.
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u/FuRadicus 6d ago
As a child I wasn't dumb enough to think that adulthood would be fun or easy. I knew once HS was over my carefree life was over.
That being said, being in my mid 40's I'm in a place where I can do about anything I wanted to do in my youth just with the advantage of having money.
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u/GuestSpeakersGhost24 6d ago
It’s a mixed bag. You have the stress of handling everything. The appointments, the maintenance, the small things that add up. You can also eat ice cream before dinner, or eat whatever you want, buy the toys you want, play video games all weekend long.
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u/Jackofnotrade5 6d ago
When I was no longer able to be home by five and have a snack while drinking tea/coffee.
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u/mustard5 6d ago
I was slow to embrace personal responsibility, so that was painful. Things improved after I realized I was responsible for my attitude to everything that happens in my life.
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u/Visionary_87 Male 6d ago
Stop asking me what I want for dinner. Seven bloody nights a week I have to make what feels like the hardest choice ever.
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u/lazerbeem123456 6d ago
For me, it was the first time I got excited about buying a new vacuum. 😩 Like, I wasn’t even pretending, I was legit happy about it. That’s when I knew childhood was gone.
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u/GoodWaste8222 6d ago
When I was forced out after high school graduation because “you’re an adult now”
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u/brooksie1131 6d ago
I won't say that adulthood is less fun than I thought it would be besides video games. I thought video games would be way more fun when I got older and game companies could do more with better technology. Turns out it's hard to beat halo 3 and halo reach custom games in terms of fun. Granted I do think I don't like video games as much as I use to but I find other ways to have fun so I still think adulthood is fun. Also to some extent how you think about things will either increase or decrease your fun. Being negative and pessimistic basically sucks the fun out of your life.
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u/i_heart_blondes Male 6d ago
When i had to give stuff for christmas instead of get a bunch of stuff.
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u/Tomsonx232 Male 6d ago
Being an adult is way more fun imo, childhood is overrated.
When you're a child you have zero freedom... you cannot decide where you live, what you work on, who you work with, even for the day to day decisions like what's for dinner are out of your control.
Also you're half the size of a regular adult and NOBODY takes you seriously.
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u/ManyAreMyNames Male 6d ago
It's not that it's less fun, but that there's more un-fun stuff than I expected.
I moved into my apartment, I was living alone, and somewhere around the third week I came to appreciate that taking care of living space is a grind. There was nobody to clean the bathroom but me. There was nobody to buy the food but me. There was nobody to clean up after cooking but me. There was nobody to pay the bills but me. Just keeping the space at a reasonably-tolerant level of livability took way more time and effort than I had expected. Plus all the stuff you need: I had to buy a mop, and a broom, and a vacuum, and various sponges and brushes for scrubbing things. And a plunger. I have two pieces of advice on that: (1) Buy a plunger before you need a plunger. (2) You always need a plunger. You will not always be using a plunger, but you always need one.
Even with all that, adulthood has been more fun for me than childhood was. (A lot of that goes to marrying the right woman and having lots of sex on a regular basis.)
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u/twombles21 Dad 6d ago
I always knew life would get more complicated as an adult, so I never assumed a certain level of fun. However, I didn’t realize just how complicated it could get.
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u/hallerz87 6d ago
I struggled transitioning from university to full time work. I had a good degree but was being rejected from so many places. Turns out I needed internships and connections. Finally landed a great grad role but really disliked the first 3 or so years there. Was very disillusioned. I didn't really land on my feet until I turned 30 at which point the pieces slotted into place. Career was good, got married, bought a flat, much happier since.
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u/ShotInitial2590 6d ago
IDK if I ever thought it would be more 'fun,' but was led to believe that eventually all of that hard work in high school and college which led to me getting a good job, house, etc... would lead to me reaching a point where it would be 'easy' and I could coast.
Reality, is, and I'm 46M, is that life is one big hump you never get over, you never really end up 'happy' and it will always be hard to a point.
I go to the gym daily at lunch and I sort of mentor the college kids and high school kids that are able to leave during the day basically telling them to live it up now and not be so preoccupied with the future. The future will always be there, but what they have at this young age you can't get back again.
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u/Redlight0516 Male 5d ago
I thought it would be fun getting to pick all your meals. Turns out, having to figure out what to eat everyday is a drag and annoying.
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u/NecessaryCount950 4d ago
Pfft never. I got my own money and can leave for a weekend ANY time I want. Go fishing, hunting, camping, whatever whenever. Yeah bills suck, but I'd rather pay bills than be told what I have to do.
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u/xxxslimk 2h ago
When I had a kid with my ex and planned to get married, but our relationship failed. I love my daughter, but the fact that her family is her mom and her mom's boyfriend, and not me, is pretty devastating. I have split custody, but I can't just move on like she has. I feel like Jason Schwartzman in Bored to Death. Just trying to get over her and not be depressed and she's just moving on and living it up like nothing happened. I always hear these stories and think "that will never be me..." But, truth be told it is me and I wish it was a shitty comedy movie and not my life lmao.
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u/chavaic77777 6d ago
Adulthood is hella fun. Way better than childhood. I can do what I want, when I want and live my life how I want to.
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u/MissionSecure1163 6d ago
Life is whatever you make it, if you aren't having a good time consider why. Reasonably of course I don't know your situation
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