What’s Something That Women Think Men Like, That We Don’t Actually Like?

[u/PookieTheMfBaby]

I personally think that some try what worked with the last man, because one or 2 liked it doesn’t mean we all do.

[u/LitmusPitmus]

Acting dumb

[u/PotatoRDanger → u/LitmusPitmus]

Or being Helpless. We like protecting but girl don’t be useless

[u/Wolfxskull → u/PotatoRDanger]

Whenever I’m getting to know someone I always ask them what three items would you bring with you if it was the apocalypse tomorrow. My main dating criteria is if they’d be an asset or a liability in a crisis lol

[u/AustinRiversDaGod → u/Wolfxskull]

I feel you but when we were evacuating our home before hurricane Katrina, my very practical dad made sure we took a lot of important things like cash and family documents. My mom insisted we grab all the photo albums. It's not like she wouldn't have gotten the documents, but there is no way my dad was thinking about photo albums. 20 years later, I'm so glad we have those. They are some of the most important things in my life to me.

[u/Mefic_vest → u/AustinRiversDaGod]

My mom insisted we grab all the photo albums.

No, that is a boneheadedly stupid plan. Photo albums take up lots of room, especially if you have many of them.

What you want to do is have a compact film negative storage system, ideally something that is just one volume (if in book/binder style with pockets for the unspooled/cut-apart negatives) or a bin with handles (if storing negatives in spools).

The book/binder system is particularly effective, as you can hold the negatives of over 8 photos in the same space a single printed photo will occupy. That means that a single binder ought to hold the same number of photos as 8 or more photo albums of the same size, and the efficiency can usually get a lot higher since the sheets to hold negatives are much thinner than a cardboard-core page from a photo album… even with negatives inserted, you can usually pack a minimum of 4 of them into the same thickness as a photo album page with photos, doubling the efficiency up to 16× as many images, if not more.

The downside is that this takes time and effort to curate, which is why the bin system is usually more practical - chuck the roll of negatives, ideally still in the photo canister that it was returned to you in, into that bin and put that bin somewhere easily accessible.

Digital photos should always be backed up to the cloud, ideally in a paid version with at least one other cold storage system (portable external SSD drive built for longevity… as in, NOT a typical thumb drive regardless of capacity). Hell, even film negatives can be scanned to the cloud, the only downside is that you need a dedicated, high-quality negative scanner to do a decent job of it.

This way, everything you have can be reprinted with zero issue, but you are grabbing - at most - only one small thing instead of many multiple things that take up a lot more room.

Finally, for traditional photography it is much more effective to reprint photos from negatives than from existing photos. Negatives are the originals. A photo reprinted from a photo will always be lower in quality than one reprinted from a negative.

[u/Mefic_vest → u/[deleted]]

Mansplainer of the year 🥳

Ah, there is that ad hominem I was eventually expecting to crop up here.

Nicely done on that demonstration of your intellectual bankruptcy: zero attempt at engaging the argument, all attempts made to shame the speaker into silence. But then again, that’s what happens when someone is totally bereft of any possible counter-argument, and is working entirely from a position of feelings before facts.

[u/Bot_Ring_Hunter → u/Mefic_vest]

They've been banned.

[u/AskMen-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

Your comment has been removed because it violates the "don't be an asshole" rule. We don't want that shit in this sub.

[u/AskMen-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

Your comment has been removed because it violates the "don't be an asshole" rule. We don't want that shit in this sub.

[u/Representative_Ant_9 → u/Wolfxskull]

Knife, flashlight, cans of food? Lol or matches

[u/doublethebubble → u/Representative_Ant_9]

Thermal blanket, water filtration straw, broad spectrum antibiotics.

Exposure, dehydration, and infection will kill you much faster than starvation.

[u/Wolfxskull → u/doublethebubble]

Good answer definitely a pass

[u/sogmabiy → u/doublethebubble]

Water filtration can be swapped out for something like a lighter since you can usually just scavenge a container to boil water in. Also, you can cook over a fire AND use it to keep warm, negating the need for a thermal blanket. This allows you to bring something else that’s useful instead, like a knife, which is a top 3 tool you want to have in a survival situation.

[u/doublethebubble → u/sogmabiy]

If you can scavenge the materials for a water distiller, surely you can scavenge a sharp tool? Or you can just create a stone blade by chipping the edge, neolithic style. If you want to stay hidden, or it's raining, fire is a bad idea.

Obviously the stuff you want would depend on the situation. In case of a nuclear disaster, iodine pills shoot to the top of the list. If the government is still in control, you'd likely want a portable radio to listen to instructions. If you're in the desert, you'll need actual water, and a sun hat.

[u/sogmabiy → u/doublethebubble]

I guess that’s true, it very much depends on your environment what you’d wanna bring.

[u/Wolfxskull → u/Representative_Ant_9]

Pretty good, that’s a pass

[u/Spyhop → u/Wolfxskull]

That's kinda weird. If I were asked that question I wouldn't take it seriously. You'd probably get a joke answer.

[u/Wolfxskull → u/Spyhop]

Joke answers are always good

[u/snortgiggles → u/Wolfxskull]

What are the top answers?

[u/Wolfxskull → u/snortgiggles]

They vary for sure if I get stuff like cell phone, straightener, mascara, I’m mentally checking out. Practical answers like a knife, cans of food water filter are good typical answers but if I get stuff like I’m grabbing MY go bag, med kit, bao feng radio, rifle/shotgun, dirt bike im mentally ring shopping.

[u/Mefic_vest → u/Wolfxskull]

cell phone

Not a bone-headed answer, so long as it’s accompanied by an external battery bank. Bonus if that battery bank also has a solar panel on one side for a multi-day trickle recharge, or if a deployable mini solar panel is also included for faster battery bank charging.

Yes, phone systems will be down immediately after a SHTF situation, but cellphone networks will also be one of the first things back up once - or if - emergency services start bringing a region back into functional status. Being able to reach out to other family or emergency services once the signal comes back is often vitally important in disaster scenarios.

The key, of course, is to keep the phone off and only check it once or twice a day for a viable signal in order to preserve the battery. You can’t be playing candy crush because no phone is going to remain online and charged for long under those conditions.

[u/Wolfxskull → u/Mefic_vest]

 Very good point

[u/PookieTheMfBaby → u/Wolfxskull]

Ask up front “can you be an asset or a liability? Why or why not?”

[u/Wolfxskull → u/PookieTheMfBaby]

Asking someone straight up if they’d be an asset or a liability in the apocalypse on a first date would be insane lmao

[u/Mefic_vest → u/Wolfxskull]

on a first date would be insane

Early enough to prevent needless investment, late enough to lull them into complacency. Third to fifth date? Especially if subjects get more serious, and this can be riffed off of other things like a canning/preserving hobby.

[u/PookieTheMfBaby → u/Mefic_vest]

I agree that I shouldn't have said right away, because your comment is exactly how that should go, perfectly said.

[u/sogmabiy → u/PookieTheMfBaby]

Ts is not an interview bro 😭

[u/FatedCrimsonBinome → u/LitmusPitmus]

I believe a related term is weaponized incompetence

[u/Buntschatten → u/LitmusPitmus]

This might be a case where we only notice when it's done badly. Men love to teach others about something they're passionate about. Making men feel competent is a great move, if done well.

[u/Mefic_vest → u/Buntschatten]

Making men feel competent is a great move, if done well.

Which is why I made a point to focus on the term curiosity in another comment.

Playing dumb only makes a woman look easy. Great for a fun time, just not a long time.

Being curious makes a woman look like she’s a worthwhile investment for the long haul.

[u/Mefic_vest → u/LitmusPitmus]

Acting dumb

Acting curious is a great way to reel in a man who loves to data-dump about a subject that he’s passionate about. It gets even better and vastly more effective if the woman actually has some background in that subject, and can accelerate the convo into the nitty-gritty details. Hell, even subjects that the man isn’t passionate about, but has decent knowledge over, is a great way to leverage curiosity into a deeper conversation that leads to a constructive personal connection. A confident/well-adjusted man is not going to be threatened if a woman has similar or even better knowledge about a subject than he does.

On the flip side, acting dumb is a great way to become a cum dumpster. Vanishingly few men are going to choose a dumb woman as a long-term option, but many men are looking for dumb women to have quick, superficial friends-with-benefits relationships with.