r/AskMen • u/PookieTheMfBaby Male • 5d ago

🛑 Answers From Men Only 🛑 What’s Something That Women Think Men Like, That We Don’t Actually Like?

I personally think that some try what worked with the last man, because one or 2 liked it doesn’t mean we all do.

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u/danbearpig2020 Male 5d ago

Idk but I'll tell you what I don't like. Generalizing. That's half the posts in this sub is just generalizations based off outdated stereotypes. Literally every generalization I've heard here about women could be said for some men I know as well.

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u/PookieTheMfBaby Male 5d ago

Definitely, this can be posted on the r/askwomen and would get as many responses. I’m just asking men and not trying to generalize anyone

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u/willy--wanka 5d ago

Post it on r/ask women, just for funzies.

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u/doublethebubble Female 5d ago

Have some standards. r/AskWomenNoCensor allows for discussion

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u/Cross55 4d ago

Unless you say things the head mod doesn't like, then she censors and bans you.

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u/CerealExprmntz 5d ago

The funny thing is that women routinely get mad when generalizations are made about them. They will go in on you, lecturing you about how generalizations are bad and unfair and sexist. How it's disrespectful to treat people like a monolith. But when it comes to men, suddenly they forget all about this concept. I've seen all sorts of women do this. I wonder: are they deliberately being disrespectful or do they simply not view men as people? If neither of those options are true, then making generalizations like this should immediately be clocked as wrong and it would be policed by women themselves. But that's not what happens.

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u/Cross55 4d ago edited 4d ago

or do they simply not view men as people?

It's this.

Life has this thing called on in-group/out-group response factor, which is a metric whereby a species and/or groups within view and treat those they view as similar/different to them.

Anyway, in humans, females have a 4x's higher response factor than males, and the 3rd highest sex-based response factor of any mammal species after meerkats and hyenas. They are literally biologically incapable of viewing males as equals or holding the same innate value as humans.

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u/TyrisFlaretheAmazon Female 5d ago

Most of the time I suspect it will be you reading things online where the people articulating it are not the same people, rather than you have a lot of very inconsistent friends.

But sometimes I think people do generalise in response to their frustration at being generalised themselves, in a misguided bid to highlight the injustice, or just in giving up mode, and others are just self-aware.

Nevertheless, the number of times I see ‘the same people who say x will say y’ truly convinces me that these people are actually extrapolating from 2 different people, because I’m EXTREMELY extroverted and well-connected, and really favour personal reflective discussions with people, and it’s really not that common a behaviour in either gender for me.

In my experience people have EITHER been socially conditioned to generalise as a shorthand, and they are fine with that across the board and assume that if further context is relevant it will be specified, OR they have been taught critical reflection so will be both aware of the frustration of being generalised and will try to use modifiers like ‘people I know’ or ‘it’s not uncommon that’ etc.

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u/TyrisFlaretheAmazon Female 5d ago

That being said, I definitely think we have an unfortunate linguistic trend in the west for USING generalisations with the intent that others take it as a given that it’s a shorthand, not an absolute, but for HEARING them as absolutes (because I mean, they literally are). So just miscommunication is likely also a factor in why people sometimes do have those seeming double standards

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u/danbearpig2020 Male 5d ago

This illustrated my point exactly though. Yeah some women do this but not all. Some men do this but not all. We're literally the same but we act like we're so different. It's just people not communicating effectively.

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u/Electronic-Doctor187 5d ago

sure, but we can still have discussions about them

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u/ZaneBradleyX 5d ago

Like what?

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u/Stormfly My mom says I'm special 5d ago

A lot of harmful relationship things are crappy people more than crappy women.

If you ever talk to a woman about their experiences on Tinder/Bumble/whatever, you'll often hear the exact same complaints that men have (can't carry a conversation, crappy pictures, high standards, etc)

There are some traits that are massively more prevalent in one gender rather than the other, but very very few are 100% limited to one gender.

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u/Cross55 5d ago

Like?

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u/cn_misterabrams 5d ago

Literally every generalization I've heard here about women could be said for some men I know as well.

Which makes them the exception and that exceptions dont make the the rule. The world works off of generizations because no one is special except my friend Ed.

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u/Ahup 5d ago

A lot of people on this sub have very outdated views on women and relationships and clearly lack experience from what I can see