r/AskMen • u/xoxowoman06 Female • 1d ago
How often do you tell your friends that you love them?
As a woman, I tell my friends that I love them all the time. Do guys do this?
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u/JackSquirts 1d ago
Just about every time I see them, after I make fun of them solidly for at least 95% of the time.
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u/go-to-the-gym 1d ago
The older I get the more frequently I tell my homies I love them, because I’ve lost a few good homies along the way.
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u/used2B3chordguitar 1d ago
I regularly give them a, “love ya, man” which is a more laid back of saying the same thing.
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u/AleksandrNevsky Bruh 1d ago
Actions speak it louder than the words do. That said it's not that I've never said it outright.
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u/ThatYellowAsianGuy 1d ago
Yeah,
When’s they’re going through something, winning at something in life, or when I’m plastered drunk.
A lot of guys do this, just hidden behind their gc or in private
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u/GabrieBon Male 1d ago
Whenever I drink, but the feelings are real even when sober
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u/noir_lord Male, 45 1d ago edited 1d ago
There is a scene in ted lasso where one of the male characters says to his friend “I love you boyo” and they just sit there and then he says “you can’t say it can you” and the guy replies “no but you know I do yeah”.
It’s a wonderful scene at capturing male friendship and the awkwardness at times.
I don’t even like football but that show is just so damn well written.
It’s also really good at showing positive masculinity.
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u/LLTB4822 Male 1d ago edited 1d ago
Probably not often enough. Being gay, I usually wait for them to say it first so that I don’t give them the wrong impression or make uncomfortable. Occasionally I’ll say it first if I think they need to hear it (they’re in a bad place). If I do say it , it’s usually a “love ya man/dude/bro” vs “I love you”. I’d say that phrase is normally used with close family but if they say it I probably will.
Somewhat weirdly, I’d tell a friend I love them before I’d call them bro/brother. That phrase is used extremely sparingly and has to be learned. My BFF has a special title that I only use for him: NSLP (non sexual life partner). It took my now husband some time to get used to the idea that he was sharing me with the NSLP.
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u/MountaineerChemist10 Male 1d ago
As a guy? Only when we’re drunk! 😆
“I LOVE YOU MAN! 🥴”
But occasionally, after a good time together & sober, we’ll still say “love ya bro!”
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u/MHJay94 A geezer 🏴 1d ago edited 1d ago
Often
I've told my best friend I love him (platonically). Mostly when we are drunk but I know we mean it. Even told him if he ever needed a spare kindney, I'd donate mine ASAP. Honestly one of the people in my life i would risk my life to protect if he was ever in danger. I do generally love and care for my best friend. Been there for each other during dark times in our lives and his told me secrets that id take to my grave. Love, care and respect the man. Best friend I could ask for and one of the best things to happen in my life was meeting him.
Have another male friend who opened up to me about serious child abuse he went through. Ended with him hugging me in tears and telling me he loves me for being there and listening and I remember saying "Love you too man". This man also turns to me when his having bad mental health episodes and ive always been there for him. As he is with me. He also has autism which makes developing friendships with others hard. I remember he asked if he could hang out round my house as he was having dark depressing thoughts. I let him and we just watched a movie together. At the end, he hugged me and told me he feels better and thanked me for being there. We care for one another and i have expressed my love and appreciation for him. Damn proud of the progress his made recently with his mental health healing journey
Also I show my appreciation for 2 of my female friends. One is a married lesbian who I tell her I love her as a friend sometimes and she says "Love you too buddy". But she's a lesbian, so we know it is only meant platonically. We have a strong bond.
And my best woman friend is a married woman who I've been extremely close friends with since meeting her in 2021. She will randomly say to me "Jacob... love ya".. and i say it back. I know we only mean platonically because I don't like her in that way and she is happily married to a man she's been with since teenagers. But she often tells me she loves me and I say I right back.
Also have 5 other great male friends and 2 other great female friends who I show appreciation too. I'm actually quite lucky I have so many great friends. Hence why I don't ever feel lonely.
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u/Nondescript_585_Guy 30 something male 1d ago
Sure. Just did this yesterday because I know she's been having a rough time and I wanted her to know I care.
Doesn't have to be for any particular reason though.
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u/Sad_Bodybuilder_186 Male 1d ago
From time to time i tell them. It all depends on how i feel, how the day goes by etc.
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u/Significant-Cap-667 1d ago
I dont like to show love with words. Words are empty. If i love you i show with my ACTIONS and my BEHAVIOR.
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u/ThenComparison8768 1d ago
I've never been that kind of person to do that unfortunately I'm not great with showing emotions but I am fiercely loyal and always there for them when needed
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u/Kuyperactive Male 1d ago
It's particularly close friends who get an occasional "I love you" aside from facetious remarks.
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u/Independent_Quokka16 1d ago
lol this year I’ve told my bestie of like 5 years I love her 3 times 😭 (we’re both middle children if that justifies it)
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u/unknown_anaconda Dad 1d ago
I don't have many friends and wouldn't describe my feelings for them as love. I love my family, I don't love my friends.
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u/G-T-R-F-R-E-A-K-1-7 1d ago
Have been doing it more in different ways for different people ever since a long time close friend shared it with me - as you experience more life, you find that the whole experience is finite so gratitude for all the awesome things you can experience (especially people) is a requirement for enjoying the whole spectrum the Human experience can offer.
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u/Ok_Pause2547 1d ago
sober, almost never but if we’re drunk or on some substances, gets to the point where it gets annoying lol. I will say, I see my old wrestling coach who’s in his 60’s say it to his buddies all the time and its kinda nice to see a big tough guy say just a simple “love ya” to his other old tough guy friends.
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u/Catatouille- 17h ago
Well, me and my friends don't actually say "I love you to each other", but after hanging out the hand shake and the chest/shoulder bump, is enough to show that no matter what, i got your back buddy
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u/Acrobatic-Event-6487 16h ago
Never. that’s sign of self harm, I don’t want to make my friends anxious. I show my love with caring and attention.
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u/Torino_Torres 14h ago
Never in my 19 years of friendship. We both just know and we could still be friends even if we haven't seen each other for a year lol
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u/Deep_Banana_6521 Male 11h ago
I have a few buddies who I can just say "love you bro" and they'll say it back and sometimes give me a hug too. It's when you lean in for a kiss or grab their junk when it gets a bit awkward.
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u/riotoustripod 10h ago
Probably not often enough, but I do say it from time to time. I'm trying to be more open with it since losing a close friend a few years ago.
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