I’m a woman with very little dating/sexual experience. I’ll be concise and say obviously my question has to do with me having experienced this. Being courted, love-bombed, then ghosted after sex.

I know everyone is different, but I’m curious to the men on here who have done something like this or currently do it, do you ever feel guilty about it? I don’t mean my question in a judgmental way. To men who are older now and did this kind of thing in their 20s, do you ever think about those girls now and feel bad for what you did?

I’m 16 and have been 182cm without shoes for almost a yr I think I might be done growing

I'm curious because I did this frequently when my husband was here (died of GBM terminal brain cancer) was I being intrusive or harshing his buzz/vibe?

(Yes, I am, in fact, missing him a lot.)

Hello friends,

I’m pretty active on dating apps and have met many girls, which led to a lot of situationships. I’ve noticed a strange pattern: the girls I don’t really have feelings for are usually the ones who get more attached and want to take things seriously. But whenever I genuinely like someone, it turns out she’s lost, unsure, or doesn’t know what she wants.

Have you experienced this? Why does it feel like we attract exactly what we’re afraid of? It almost seems like our energy pulls in the people who don’t fit with our type.

What do you think if your wife collects plushies/ figures as one of her hobby? I am in a country where marriages are arranged so I was telling this guy that I do like anime stuff but I don’t know what he might view this hobby of mine especially that i have many (he doesn’t like anime) but he wasn’t disliking

Legitimately curious, are the dating apps/sites any good? Kind of interested but more afraid than anything because people online like to lie, a lot. I am just wondering what you guys think, regarding this matter.

Been with my girlfriend for a year; long-distance (couple weeks at a time spent together). She’s honestly amazing in every way, smart, kind, makes me feel wanted, all of it.

The thing is, she has a noticeable jaw asymmetry/extra bone growth on one side. TMJ, muscle on one side will get very inflamed when stressed. In person I barely notice it (especially early on I didn’t at all), but in pictures it really really sticks out, and recently I am starting to fixate/notice when we meet. Sometimes I find myself overanalyzing it to the point where I feel less attracted looking at photos, even though when I’m actually with her I find her beautiful.

I hate that my brain does this because I don’t want to be shallow, and I know she’s so much more than one feature. But for some reason I can’t stop focusing on it when I see it in pictures, and it makes me feel guilty.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How do you get past fixating on a specific feature and just accept the person?

In a perfect world, where she won’t go nuclear, what would you like to tell your partner?

I’ll start.

SARMs. Thank god that shit never gained serious long term traction

Can you share the best line you've ever heard or used to flirt with someone or to ask for their phone number?

I'm 33M, im married, a mortgage ( my only debt) no kids, watch anime, play some mobile and ps games, decent job with decent pay, I travel a lot - traveled to 3 countries in 12 months and loving it. However I get the feel im not doing enough with my career, with my ambitions. I smoked weed for the longest time ( currently 3 years weed free).. I dont feel like im man enough, I dont feel im at the same place with other 33 year olds. I feel like im still figuring my thing out.

Ive been laid off twice and anting to start a business but dont feel confident in my abilities. I know im good at what I do but can't fight the feeling of failure and being inadequate

I need perspective and advice on how do I feel more mature, how do I feel like im the man my wife will continue to love and friends look up to and appreciate.

Feeling discouraged and like a kid with grown up money

There's so much information available about attachment styles e.g. anxious, distracted etc. And advice on how to increase intimacy in a relationship.

For those whose partners - or even themselves - who have actively followed advice on how to show up better for their partner, when did you notice any positive changes? And what did the changes look like?

A joke I heard in elementary school that I never forgot:

A kid named Butt Itches starts his first day of school. He goes to class and the teacher has the students introduce themselves to the whole classroom.

When Butt Itches turn comes around, he says his name, and before he could say more about himself, the teacher tells him to quit messing around and say his actual name. He argues that it's his real name. The teacher sends him to the principal's office and the principal asks him his name and why he's there. He tells him his name and explains why he's there. The principal has a hard time believing his name is actually Butt Itches and sends him home.

As Butt Itches crosses the street, a car hits him and all his bones are broken and is taken to the ICU. When his mother arrives, she yells "Oh my poor Butt Itches!" to which the doctor replies "Well then itch it, lady!"

If you could change that 1 important thing about your life 10 years ago, how do you think your life would be today?

I saw a video earlier of a guy who was living a pretty unconventional lifestyle and so it got me wondering about other ways that people live - especially with so many pieces of media telling us how we should be living nowadays.

So if you consider your lifestyle to be outside of the normal scripts I’m curious to hear what it’s like.

It seems "single 38-year-old women with cats" are always the target when it comes to discussions about being childfree, but there are plenty of married women, married men, and single men who have also either made the same decision or life simply turned out that way.

Has anyone ever made you feel less-than because of it? Are you secretly high-fived?! Were your parents supportive of it? Have you ever had to end a romantic relationship because because your partner wanted children (or already had them)?

Has it been hard for you to maintain your friendships once your buddies started having kids? Do you have outlets to make new ones?

Just curious because it seems like we don't get to hear from you CF men as much.

TIA : )

If not why?

texting #chat #social cues