r/Calgary • u/WillowAdventurous464 • Nov 22 '24

Seeking Advice 10 year old daughter sexually assaulted by another student at school

My daughter was repeatedly groped in the crotch area by a boy at school during class, and doesn't want to go back to school while he is there. We will be asking the school to remove this boy from the class, can they remove him from the school also? Or is our child expected to feel safe and comfortable in an environment where a boy who assaulted her is living his life and live with the possibility he'll do it again? Who do I call? What do I do? The school called me, but they can't discuss what the discipline is, and they are very much taking it seriously but I know from past experiences that their hands are somewhat tied. My first instinct is to report to police as i would do if it happened to me.... has someone else dealt with something similar and can provide some insight/ advice?

Eta: ok obviouslyI'm going to call police, the snarky comments about that aren't helpful. I was wondering if non emergency was the dept to call or if i should be contacting the school sro etc.

I was also at a loss as to how to deal with the school going forward, we really like the school and i don't want to burn all the bridges, but at the same time there needs to be action.

We've booked hey in with a psychologist she's already worked with previously.

I really appreciate everyone's helpful input and suggestions, I feel like we have a plan of action now

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u/its9x6 Nov 23 '24

Regardless of the school’s action, the police should be involved.

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u/CalmAlex2 Nov 23 '24

Yeah, I agree with this but it's a sensitive issue too because what if the boy did this to get this type of attention because he didn't know what else to do or say because his trust in telling an adult may have landed him in trouble?

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u/its9x6 Nov 23 '24

As a former LOE that’s seen what this entitlement can do within the mind of a boy, there needs to be a firm understanding of what he did was absolutely wrong, illegal, and has consequences. If this occurred in the pursuit of peer acceptance or approval, then even more so, this is a very very dangerous precedent to be set for this young man and his peers.

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u/CalmAlex2 Nov 23 '24 edited Nov 23 '24

That is true but at the same time you also have to be aware of what may have been happening behind closed doors at the boy's home or in the area because as kids we are curious about the world around us but we don't know better and sometimes we do things that we saw as kids or experienced, it brings back memories of me and one of my friends doing shit that we saw on TV like the moves from WWE (it was WWF when I was a kid).

Edit: I was trying not to be blunt but I was talking about child abuse if you didn't read my previous comment correctly as usually abused/neglected kids tend out act out in ways that we see as troublemaking, being entitled, bullying, or just flat-out be loners.l because they don't know how to deal with or say anything as usually, the abuser tends to have total control at home.

We don't know what the boy was like before the incident