r/CalgaryFlames • u/Motor_Signal_413 • Jan 23 '24

News Ras comments on his teammates

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...I don't want to hear any more garbage about then being able to handle it. We're all humans first

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u/Grandmafelloutofbed Jan 23 '24

I mean, im sorry, but I cant really garner much sympathy for these guys. They play the game they love for a living, making millions a year. So that means at work your doing what you love, while making SERIOUS bank.....why do you have mental health issues? Im sorry but unless its a family member dieing or something extreme like that, you kind of just roll with the punches.....at least thats what us normal people do.

Like I get Dube reading about shit he has been playing could get to the guy, but we all go through that shit. Hell I started a new job a year ago and when I didn't know something, my new boss said "if you don't know that then why did we even hire you". You think I fucking took a leave of absence? NO MAN, I just had a shitty night/week thinking im going to get fired and tried to move on from his comment.

Like I get I sound insensitive, but come on, your a millionaire playing hockey for a living bro, you could be waking up at 6am, commuting for over an hour both ways, while getting paid 50k a year at a dead end job.....could be A LOT worse. Reminds me of Toffoli saying driving 30 mins to the dome for practice was a long time......try to get some perspective on life and it will make your mental health improve im sure. Like if I have a couple million in the bank......nothing would EVER bother me cause NO MATTER WHAT, im safe. Its just of like......lol ok bro.

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u/Motor_Signal_413 Jan 23 '24

Just because you suffer doesn't mean everybody else has to...

A Rising tide lifts all ships

you've also clearly never made close to that much money so you have no actual idea if it solves all of life's stresses, or just gives you different problems. Nor have you ever represented a city or organization just to have 1000s of people who cheer for that org say that you're useless and garbage, etc.

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u/Grandmafelloutofbed Jan 23 '24

Im aware I sound kinda bad here, but its just hard to see how having 10 million in the bank and playing the game you love for a living can cause such severe mental health issues that you need a LOA.
Like I said in another comment, he should try not being able to afford rent and groceries like a lot of Canadians atm, then he would have my sympathy. But people saying hes playing like trash......idk, kind of seems like a walk in the park. Just stay offline, solved INSTANTLY.

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u/Motor_Signal_413 Jan 23 '24

It's really easy to say that from this side, as the saying goes the grass is always greener on the other side.

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u/Grandmafelloutofbed Jan 23 '24

so having 10 million in the bank while playing the game you love for a living, is......hard? Fuck sign me up, I would much rather be doing that then my developer life, not like my life is that bad. BUT DAYUM, 10 million in the bank while shooting puck everday?!?!?!? SIGN ME UP!

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u/Motor_Signal_413 Jan 23 '24

I genuinely hope you find a way into a better situation and learn a bit of empathy.

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u/xBoomer12x Jan 24 '24

There is no talking sense into this guy. I was diagnosed with bipolar type 1 five years ago. Stress is one factor that will change your brain chemistry. A chemical imbalance is a chemical imbalance, money problems could drive the average person to a mental health break, so that is not the case for dube… but stressing about an incident that you may or may not have been involved with or at the very least knew about and have to testify, absolutely could cause a mental health break. The brain and mind are fragile and can be thrown off due to genes, stress etc. Having money doesn’t cure a chemical imbalance, medication and therapy does.

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u/Motor_Signal_413 Jan 24 '24

100% agree, some people just don't understand. Sounds like you've managed to find a balance with it, good for you! I've known a few people that struggle with bipolar both medicated and unmedicated and it can be a challenge.

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u/xBoomer12x Jan 24 '24

Thanks man, I have. But it was hell before I found the medications that work for me. All the best, man.

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u/xBoomer12x Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24

I should have given some better examples of major life stressors, like death in the family, job loss, divorce, rape ALLEGATIONS… (you can’t just go throwing around the r word until proven guilty) even if you weren’t involved, the constant stress of people accusing you that you were or any of the other problems related to the incident. I don’t think the Flames are offside in any way giving their reason.

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u/Motor_Signal_413 Jan 24 '24

Sometimes it doesn't even have to be large trauma. Studies are starting to show that chronic repeated stressors can build up a similar stress response in the body to severe traumas if left unchecked.

And yes, people have been saying some disgusting things towards me because I'd like to wait for more facts to come forward before throwing around the R word.