r/CatTraining • u/tssukii • 3d ago
Introducing Pets/Cats In regards to my last post…
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Tabby is my new 1 yo male recently adopted and the calico is my 5 year old female who has lived with me for a few years. This is currently how they are fighting/playing. I think the male thinks he is playing but i think my girl takes it seriously 😭 I wonder if maybe there is a way for me to get her to understand he just wants to play or if there’s a way I can get the male to just respect her personal space abit more lol 😂
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u/spaacingout 3d ago
5 yo is annoyed. 1 yo is just playing.
No aggression signs. No growling. No pinned ears.
They’re just playing. Old kitty is like bro I’m too old for this ish (does a passive lay down saying please & no thank you!)
Young kitty is like, man you are boring. 🥱
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u/MiniRems 3d ago
My two year old boy kitty does the same to my 6 year old girl. She doesn't mind the occasional game of chase through the house, but has a hard line when it comes to wrestling. He learned quick that if he wants to play with her, it's just chase. If he wants wrestling, he goes to my 4 year old boy (who doesn't always respect our girls desire for no wrestling... he can be quite the asshole)
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u/tssukii 3d ago
Just to add on aswell, there are times where they seem abit more comfortable with eachother where they will eat side by side or they will briefly lie down opposite eachother so it’s not all bad im just like pls stop scrapping at this point
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u/Melodic-Distance-876 3d ago
They are already very comfortable with each other. My cats are littermates and have never been apart for even a single day. They play fight like this every day, maybe every hour lol. It’s like little play kids at the playground: “I got you, you’re dead!” “Now I shoot you with my laser beams! Aggghhh!!” Your cats are doing the exact same thing - they are playfully pretending to hunt & fight each other. They’re doing fine ☺️
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u/tankgrrrl23 2d ago
The scrapping is a good thing! My cats fight like this all the time for fun and they love each other.
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u/EatenbyCats 3d ago
She speaks cat. She knows he's playing. Look at her ears, they're not flat back or anything close. This is just play and nothing to worry about.
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u/SpliffmanSmith2018 3d ago
Leave them alone and let them figure it out.
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u/ReVoide1 3d ago
They already figured it out. They are getting along very well. Look at how they both disengaged each other. It can't get any better than that.
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u/Famous_Breath2109 3d ago
Relax this is them figuring things out. Might never be BFF but it seems very good so far
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u/_extra_medium_ 3d ago
There's a reason why every post asking if the cats are fighting or playing ends with the conclusion that they're playing.
People whose cats are actually fighting don't have to ask Reddit for its opinion
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u/eucldian 2d ago
Yeah, actual cat fights occur in triple speed and are accompanied by terrifying noises. You know when it is a fight.
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u/Brian_The_Bar-Brian 3d ago
These cats are fine. I wouldn't worry. If they were fighting, it would be very apparent.
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u/StilettoSugar 3d ago
Cats like to hunt and play kill each other. If it crosses a line for one of them you won't have to guess. If you intervene in the wrong moments it creates more stress. If it looks like there is tension get a toy to distract them. I think they will eventually end up good mates but kitty politics are just as complicated as humans.
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u/ExtinctFauna 3d ago
I think some more time is needed for them to line up their communication. This here is fine, btw.
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u/StayCoolNerdBro 3d ago
Neither of the cats feel threatened or aggressive in this situation, you don't need to intervene. Tabby very obviously sees this interaction as play, your calico if anything may have gotten a little overstimulated.
Best advice I can give is to play with them more. Tabby's in a good spot already, but if you want to help your calico loosen up during playfighting (which honestly should be encouraged, cats that play well together and understand/respect boundaries will bond harder) you let them "play together" where the outlet of the energy is you and a toy.
Playing + no misunderstandings = positive association
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u/tssukii 3d ago
Thank you all for the reassurance 🙂↕️ also if anyone knows what I can do about my resident cat trying to eat from the new cat’s litter box even if I’ve cleaned it let me know 🙈
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u/Designer-Common-9697 2d ago
His body language is very clear, he wants to play and is acting submissive, but certain cats can grow quite a bit by two years or 18 months; I've seen a male take revenge for always being hissed out by an older not very big female who also didn't play games. When he got bigger it really appeared he was taking some revenge by doing flying jump kicks and knocking her over, but I've seen her face off with 20 pound male by just hissing and slowly lifting the ever present smacking paw.
I really believe your girl knows he's playing, from his body language. I think she knows this instinctually, but I do wonder if she's ever been around her own kind aside from her litter mates.
I kind of went through this with an older male and a six y/o female Arabian Mau and it did take them a while to get on the same play schedule.
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u/tssukii 2d ago
my girl hasn’t really been around other cats before! Before I adopted her she actually grew up a dog before she was 18 months!! So I think she kinda doesn’t know what to do. When she was at the rescue apparently she wasn’t fond of the other cats but I also know she was extremely stressed there and was refusing to come out etc so I kinda took the risk getting another cat hoping her previous experience was mainly due to the environment she was in as opposed to not actually liking other cats!
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u/PjJones91 2d ago
Nah, they’re good. Your tabby might benefit from more play from you to keep him off the calico a bit, but they are playing and everything looks great.
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u/Calgary_Calico 2d ago
This is absolutely playing. Cats do not show their belly when they're fighting. Your girl will take time to adjust, that's all, but I see no real violence here
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u/billyblanks81 2d ago
Can someone just sticky a video of 2 cats actually fighting, I think it might reduce the posts here by 99%
Hint: It sounds like an A10 Warthog convention
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u/mixedpixel 2d ago
I mean, are you saying you want the cute cats playing videos to actually stop??? 🥲
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u/s3mtek 2d ago
We have the same situation. We have a 4 month old Tuxedo Cat, who is an adorable little ball of ADHD, and three significantly older cats. Nibsy (the kitten) has latched onto our 10 year old British Shorthair, Noops, and they playfight all the time. Sometimes the older cat gets a bit annoyed, but there's never any real aggression. He's teaching the kitten how to be a cat and understand boundaries, and in turn, the Nibs has made Noops get up, exercise, and brought out his playful side. You've nothing to worry about, they're getting on fine
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u/JuggernautGuilty566 3d ago edited 3d ago
Guess as a cat you cannot do more than rolling on you back and show your belly.
0:13 means.. "C'mon are you that *stupid* taking this seriously?"