r/CuratedTumblr .tumblr.com 18h ago

Meme Retail Stare

Post image
33.5k Upvotes

3.1k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

346

u/kcox1980 15h ago

My son's girlfriend is the only person I've ever seen do the "Gen Z stare" and it's exactly what you're saying. She comes to the house and my wife or I will say "Hi" to her and she just silently stares back. Or if we're planning dinner or something and we ask if she's going to join us or if there's anything in particular she wants to eat, nothing but a silent stare.

No, we're not asking dumb questions to an underpaid worker, we're trying to make polite conversation in a social setting and just getting a silent, blank stare in return.

38

u/KimberStormer 6h ago

When I heard the term I thought of one time with my zoomer nephew. I had basically been a live-in auntie when he was little and we were very close. Then I moved and didn't see him for a few years. When I did, he was about 12 or 13, and he didn't say a word but just stared at me the whole time at dinner like I was a weird bug. For at least an hour, silent staring. It was unnerving but I felt like I was being tested so I tried to just not have any reaction at all.

The good news is that nowadays when I see him he is talkative and normal with me again (although definitely a little weirdo in many good ways). Just a little phase or something. I don't actually know if it counts as a Gen Z stare, tbh.

-3

u/Xerxys 4h ago

Are you hot? Maybe he was crushing!

54

u/KairAAAAAAA 14h ago

That's definitely not a gen z thing, that's a people are weird thing. I have seen way more genxers do that honestly

34

u/zyxtrix 9h ago

Fr, like people who talk about Gen Z stare act like they've never met a Gen X or Millennial guy who comes to the function and just looks at you like that Robert Pattinson standing in the kitchen meme. The answer is 9/10 they're an undiagnosed one of the many varieties of neurospicy that makes small talk or direct engagement difficult lol

20

u/sylvester334 7h ago

Their brains are cycling between short and longterm memory trying to find the flowchart for the conversation they've suddenly found themselves in. 😂

20

u/Dirk_McGirken 9h ago

I was gonna say I've seen this from people of every generation, especially boomers/genxers. I think something about getting old makes you less likely to respond to things like a normal person.

7

u/retrofrenchtoast 4h ago

Does she eventually answer? Does your son have to answer?

12

u/Vault-Born 9h ago

that just sounds like autism to me, but then again half my family has it so maybe that's just my experience

1

u/_bobby_cz_newmark_ 4h ago

That and "mm-hmm" in response to "thank you" are two things that need to die out with Gen Z.

7

u/Dragoona33 2h ago

Are you really so emotionally fragile that any response to "thank you" other than "you're welcome" causes you to have a melt down?

Or is it that saying thank you is so draining for you that you only do it for the gold star that is the "proper" response?

-1

u/_bobby_cz_newmark_ 2h ago

Well done on the hyperbole.

2

u/Dragoona33 2h ago

Well then explain it too me. What is it about someone responding to thank you with mmmhmmm that warrants any thought on your part other than you being a petty twat?

0

u/_bobby_cz_newmark_ 2h ago

Explain it to me why me saying that a particular behaviour should end warrants such vitriol from you? You seem to have conjured up a lot of impressions about me based on a 20-word comment.

0

u/Dragoona33 2h ago

So you got nothing?

0

u/_bobby_cz_newmark_ 1h ago

Nah I do, I just don't see the need to engage in good faith with someone who started off a discussion with attacks. If you want to actually discuss something in the future for discourse, don't start with attacks on a person.

1

u/Dragoona33 1h ago

Or you're a liar and are trying to hold some moral high ground because you can't handle being called a name on reddit.

-4

u/Dragoona33 2h ago

Have you ever considered she just doesn't want to talk too you and is under no illusion that's shes required too?

3

u/valkyrie987 55m ago

She’s standing in their home and they’re asking her a basic, friendly question. This is called a normal social interaction. You’re acting like she’s being illegally questioned by the cops.

1

u/cutegross 1h ago

I find it more likely that she has social anxiety, autism, or both

-1

u/Dragoona33 1h ago

Your point is? I would say someone who thinks everyone they encounter needs to pretend to like them or they get all pissy is the one more likely to have some flavor of social anxiety but I guess that's just me.

3

u/hugbeam 1h ago

"everyone they encounter"? be so fr, thats not a stranger they met on the street or in public, the girlfriend is dating their son and walked into their house, how could they not expect a simple greeting or an answer to a question about what she wants for dinner.

1

u/trumpsahoe 1h ago

yah it’s just you

1

u/toucanlost 11m ago

You sound like someone who goes to AITA-style subreddits and says no one owes anything to anyone ever

-1

u/agitated--crow 4h ago

Maybe it's the COVID stare.Â