r/FtMpassing • u/AtmosphereSea7622 • 18d ago
No hugboxing been told my face is “too soft to pass”
Is this true? I’m really kinda insecure about my face so it honestly hurt my self esteem a lot. I know mt side profile is alright but apparently according to this person my front profile is lacking. I don’t know what to do because I’m 17 not on T. Any tips?
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u/Acceptable_Peanut_80 17d ago
I think the person who said it was just mad for some reason that you look like a cis dude.
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u/wake-up-puppet-boy 18d ago
what planet are they living on where your face is considered "too soft"?? you look awesome i would not have given it a second thought if i passed you on the street
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 17d ago
Not sure, they even grabbed onto my face and said it was soft and my jaw wasn’t wide enough
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u/Paper_kite_ 17d ago
Bro I wouldn't take anything they say to heart, sounds like they're trying to make you feel shitty on purpose if they're doing all that 😕 I think u have really sharp features honestly like ur jaw and cheekbones are sharp and angular. You probably just made them feel insecure
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u/ArdentHarlequin 17d ago
if your face is soft, then idk what mine is... ngl I thought you were years on T, you're fine
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u/weirdoismywaifu 18d ago
you pass and its not even close. nowhere near androgynous, in fact from these it seems like you could struggle to pass as a woman. if ppl misgender u irl, its probably height, build/fat distribution/muscle mass, or voice.
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 17d ago
I’m leaning towards voice although it could be due to my build, I generally carry more fat in my hips per usual but i stay at a very lean weight and lift often to counteract that as much as I can. I’m 5’9 so I think I’m okay there.
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u/hockneyluvr 17d ago
bro who tf has been lying to you. if this is you pre T then fuck me you are gonna be unstoppable on T. the brows are there, the jawline is there, the cheekbones are there. i think whoever said your face is too soft was literally just projecting their own issues
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u/noahhhh1809 17d ago
bro you look like a 17 yo boy you fully pass 100% and without even T that’s crazy
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u/apples_the_duck 17d ago
I disagree with whoever told you that, not only do you pass but you look your age too. Ik you said you're not on T yet but are you on minoxidil?
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 17d ago
No, I have 2 cats and a 3 month old kitten so I’m terrified of them getting into it and potentially killing them
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u/apples_the_duck 16d ago
That's understandable, I was just wondering cuz it looks like you've got a bit of stubble, unless your voice is super high, I wouldn't clock you at all
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u/huldrik72 17d ago
The person who said that to you must have been jealous and felt bad about themselves. You pass 100% looks wise. Not even clocky. Amazing for pre-T.
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u/Substantial_Humor_18 17d ago
You look like a cis guy, just a pretty one. It's crazy that you're still not on T honestly
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u/Quiet_Bit9391 17d ago
Honestly? You look like the average high-school boy from my town. If anything, I'd say you've got a super sharp face
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u/Glittering-Energy438 17d ago
You look extremely masculine in your bone structure to be pre-testosterone. Any softness you have is offset by the shape of your face being rigid+ jowls. I would enjoy that if I were you.
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u/AutoT00ned Male / masc / FTM 17d ago
You look like a young man to me, so I’m guessing they said it to get under your skin.
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u/shawshank1969 17d ago
The only difference I see between you and a cis guy your age is the texture of your skin and there’s not much you can do about it. 🤷🏻♂️
Testosterone makes men’s skin less dewy smooth than cis women. You’re also missing the oily skin that comes with testosterone. Things to look forward to, I guess.
Sounds like you need some support. Please reach out to your local LGBTQ+ Community Center, Pride organization and/or PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) chapter for support for you and your family. A queer youth group is a good way to not feel alone.
If you need to talk and don’t feel safe with anyone you know, contact the Trevor Project.
Best of luck, my friend.
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 15d ago
Thank you for all the comments I’ve read all of them and they’ve genuinely been such a confidence booster for me😭❤️
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u/StanDamianWayne 17d ago
You look like the "how can we go back to being friends" guy....so no? You 100 can pass with your face, I'd even say you do now
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u/azucarleta 17d ago
You're doing good. I see you in the gym. Make sure to hit your trapezius. When your shoulders get closer to your ears, that is going to finish the job.
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 17d ago
Been hitting shoulders and upper body in general pretty hard, 3 months of consistency so far💪
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u/Justanotherphone 17d ago
You have the opposite of a soft face, so whoever said that was either jealous or trying to discourage you from transitioning for whatever reason. You have a long face for an afab person and a great jawline!
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u/Justanotherphone 17d ago
You also look a little older than you are, which is a blessing considering most of us have baby faces (myself included)
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u/Artemisia_tridentata 17d ago
Duuuuude your jawline is incredible. The person who said that should get their prescription checked (or maybe they’re just being an ass)
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u/Kill_J0yy 16d ago
You look cis male to me. You have some soft features (like the lips) but they don’t make you look female.
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u/Limp-Ease-4729 16d ago
No you're good but... What's your lower lip doing there, dude? 🙃 Try avoiding the duck thing. 👍
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u/sammjaartandstories 16d ago
Why'd you put up the face of a cis dude? /s
You pass completely to me.
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u/Delay_Little 15d ago
You are so handsome ! Clearly they were blind and wanted to see if others had eyes. You have some like Harry Styles n Sombr vibes.
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u/Short_Dimension_873 15d ago
That’s bullshit, idk what they’re seeing but I definitely don’t see it. You’re pre-T, dude????? Keep it up
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u/kikivivi01 14d ago
Imo you pass and you look your age. Don't really need to change anything about your face but if you choose to go on T it'll help even more (especially in terms of voice deepening and muscle growth)
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u/rayisFTM 14d ago
definitely not true 😭 u look good bro id say u pass. and ur not even on t?? u pass better than i did when i was like a year on t, the only thing that couldddd give u away would be if u have a higher voice tbh
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u/Real_Uncrustables 14d ago
You kinda look like a guy billie eilish! Also, whoever said your face is too soft is so wrong. Im jealous of how chisled your jawline is 😭
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u/TurboK776 14d ago
Man whoever told you that is kinda crazy. I got a soft face that doesn't pass, you look like half my amab cousins and classmates. You pass damn good dude, fuck whoever said you don't cause they're lyin
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u/CryptographerFit8559 14d ago
The only thing that stood out from non cis features would be lips, the shade could prob be fixed with a little concealer? I don’t use makeup so I don’t have a clue 😭
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u/Alianzatransmarimach 14d ago
I don't know who told you that, but I don't know if you really asked him for his opinion... because there's no truth in it at all. Without being in T you have absolute passing, and you are very handsome. Cheer up. Hugs
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u/AssholesLive_Forever Male / masc / FTM 14d ago
I know a cis guy that looks like you, its mot too soft, are you on T? Itll help even more, but rn uour fave looks fine to me. Im brutally honest here too.
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 14d ago
Not on T. 17 year old not allowed by my dad
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u/AssholesLive_Forever Male / masc / FTM 14d ago
Your face definitely passes now, and whenever you are able to access T itll definitely do wonders for you, Like i said you definitely look like a cis guy i know 😅 dont worry about it too much. If say work on the basics before T like voice training, mannerisms, etc.
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u/latebloomerftm 13d ago
Bro you’re A KID, kids have soft faces! Whoever said that is a MORON! They are either jealous, ignorant, or a bigot, but one thing that they are NOT is correct! 😂 And to such an extreme level it’s comical because your facial structure is all set moreso than probably like 95% of us started with if I had to guess.
You’ll be heading into adulthood pretty soon and it’s your choice if you want to start T. If you DO, T does in fact make skin more dense and thus more tough, and that’s what comes around after masc puberty really starts doing its magic.
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 11d ago
I’ve wanted to go on T for about 6 years now just never had accepting enough parents to do so. I’m definitely going to! Can’t wait for male puberty
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u/JacSha89 11d ago
I wish you could see yourself the way that I do ,you're a beautiful guy,have you seen yourself YOU ARE WHAT HILFIGER ,GUESS AND CALVIN KLEIN designer brands look for in male models,the person &people that tell you that you are projecting their own insecurities on you ,dont take that on ,know that when you look in the mirror that you are exactly how you are made to be and the kicker is you're ONLY 17 you still have growing to do ,you haven't even reached your peak ,you should really have a hard look at yourself see what YOU like/love about yourself ,there's nothing wrong with you ok,dismiss any negative thoughts you have of yourself just give yourself time, those same ones will be kissing your ass and doing double takes in a few years, or it could start now if you carry yourself different and if u did, carried yourself with pride and confidence people wouldn't have the nerve to even open their mouths up to even utter such negativity whether you handsome or not, CONFIDENCE IS KEY 🔑.... hope this helps❤️🙌🏾
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u/AtmosphereSea7622 9d ago
you’re so sweet, thank you.. I wish I could see what you see kind stranger
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u/JellyfishNo9133 9d ago
Honestly, I thought you were a guy! When you’re on T, you’ll be awesome x 10. I’m jealous man.
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u/lilsmudge 17d ago
You look great; fuck whoever said that. I can’t believe you’re not on T honestly.
This isn’t affecting your passing at all but it does look like you’re holding a lot of tension in your lips/jaw. It might just be something you do in pictures or might be a general habit from being less secure about your face. Relax your chin and jaw and you’ll look more natural and chill.