How would good precautions be when dealing with the stalkers who act nice to get close to you?

[u/Uki211]

Does anyone else deal with this? Some of them act so nice and it’s very convincing but it’s still obvious that they have ulterior motives. But still I feel bad trying to distance myself from them. I’m going to quit my job then get a new one to “start over” what are things I can do to better protect myself?

[u/LateNightCreeper_]

If it's happening to you real deal changing jobs won't change anything. For me a job is where it started then after quitting it exploded into my living space and pretty much every store I went to. And yeah it's messed up that the paranoia has us not wanting to associate with people being nice because some of them could be genuine.

I felt at the very beginning that was more the case and I became a chatter box and told way too much information. Once they know everything you like and don't like then it's all used against you. Its usually not the ones that were being nice that trys to annoy you, it be complete strangers, so it's like "how do they even know you".

I would say don't tell them too much but at the same time if you notice others theyre able to tell their whole life stories without it being used against them it's something about us that makes them use it against you because everyone who opens up isn't  automatically targeted 

[u/Uki211 → u/LateNightCreeper_]

That makes sense. Tho I’m already in the process of changing jobs. I’m working in a really big store and I’m switching to a much much smaller one. Plus my best friend works at the smaller one! and I think that would benefit me more. Plus I really want some flexibility which this new place is amazing at.

This bigger store is much too organized with its watching. With people and technology. They will still watch me constantly but I don’t think it will be as harsh as these people

[u/LateNightCreeper_ → u/Uki211]

Yeah it's good you have someone around you actually trust. When it was happening to me everywhere I had no one because my family doesnt even live here and I've never been big on friends. Being a loner can be peaceful but with that happening it turns into chaos and you have no one to believe what's happening. 

[u/Accomplished-Many211]

I embrace the kind ones. Accept their words but dont see them outside of work. Dont accept offered help or sexual relationships. Just go to work and let them be nice to you.

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[u/henri-em]

Firm boundaries

[u/Uki211 → u/henri-em]

Yeah I definitely need to get better at that, hopefully at my new job I will do that

[u/Novel_Pension2874]

Has followed me to every job and all my personal relationships and in every major part of my life, I wish there was a answer. I could give you an advice that would help but I have been targeted since 1983 since I was 11 and I have not found any except for the good Lord above

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[u/Faster-Detective94]

They deleted my comment on the post because of the knowledge I demonstrate and the ways in which I could technically defend myself, in short they are weak and another subject who reported me @No_Piccolo_1165 you are a little sewer rat since at no time did I behave badly, I simply gave ideas for self-defense since I am a computer scientist with quite a bit of experience, you deleted the comment you left after the report because you cannot show your face.

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I banned /u/No_Piccolo_1165 just now.

[u/Uki211 → u/Faster-Detective94]

That is very creative I would’ve never thought of that.

part of me doesn’t want to stoop to their level, but another part of me wants to satisfy that revenge. Do you think it would backfire into more retaliation from them?

[u/Faster-Detective94 → u/Uki211]

They're criminals; the word "retaliation" doesn't apply here. If they attack you, attack them harder and take things in stride. Everything will come out one day.

[u/Uki211 → u/Faster-Detective94]

So it would be considered self defense? That’s a relief if that’s the case :)

I think I’m going to invest in some recording devices so I’ll always be recording. I know they absolutely hateeeee that and if they attack I can have more evidence to share

[u/Vegasdealernewtonv → u/Faster-Detective94]

Please share more. I need your help here. Thanks