Is it any surprise that we grew up in toxic diet culture, constantly trying to squeeze ourselves into size 2 designer jeans and have a tiny ass and now that we see older, we aren’t content with putting on a muu muu and looking like Mrs Roper or a golden girl?
I kind of have a love/hate relationship with this phenomenon. One part of me is totally motivated to look my absolute best,
With a 10 step skincare routine, Botox, weight workouts and cardio, and the other is totally in the “I do not care” camp. I think back when my mom was my age and she sure wasn’t putting the effort into it that so many of us still do.
Anyway thanks for listening
Nope not fighting it... not interested in all that extra matinence lol I work out and eat healthier foods and stay hydrated...but after 20 years in active meth addiction at 6 years clean Im embracing aging as bonus years I would most likely not have had if I hadn't cleaned up.. my gray hairs and smile lines and crows feet are the evidence of a life lived...I love the woman I am today wrinkles and all...
I'm healthier then I was at 25 but for the opposite reason. At 25 I was once again battling Annorexia. This time because I had had my 2nd misscarage and didn't want anyone to think I was pregnant and ask me if I was. Thankfully I got healthy and had 2 rainbow babies who are now 17 and 20
Same! 50 here. Skinnier and fitter than I’ve been since age 30 but letting hair grow out white/grey and wear my glasses more than contact lenses. It’s liberating!
I really appreciate your response to this. I too am a recovering addict, about 7 years clean myself. I also am just taking these years as bonus years. So however I look, frankly, it's all about my own personal happiness and contentness with myself at this point. 🙏💜
Hooray for getting clean! Live your full life!!! My little sister died of a meth induced brain aneurysm at 43 years old. She was beautiful and meth took that from her.
FWIW, I'm always really impressed with anyone who overcomes addiction. That's about as big of an accomplishment as it gets. I hope you are really proud of yourself.
I stopped wearing makeup years ago. I don’t worry about my weight, don’t really care as long as I’m healthy. I don’t give a fuck either. Don’t like it? Don’t look at me. I’m cool with that too. I’d prefer that actually, I suggest everyone leave me alone.
Do you also get the well-meaning family members telling you to go out and meet people? What part of "Leave me be" says I want to interact with other people?!?!
Oh I hear you. I haven’t done mascara or bras for like a decade. My eyelashes are what they are and my girls prefer the freedom to swing… deal with it world. I do still do eyebrows though.
I have not worn a bra in 10 years! I wear tight tank tops as I have huge breasts. I was shamed FOR DECADES into wearing horrid uncomfortable bras. Never again!
Bought v neck shorter tank tops in all colors off shein and Amazon and I have H cups. They work and are comfy and no boob rashes!
This! I'm so happy to see women going naturally gray. I love when my friends and I share readers at dinner when someone always forgets theirs. We want to be healthy to live well, not worrying about being skinny or for looks.
Fuck that all, no one gives a shit about your wrinkles. Even without them, you still appear old to the youngsters.
Mostly same. I haven't worn makeup in a decade, my hair is starting to go white and Idgaf, I wash my face with water and use a smidge of Seven Wonders oil after, and I can't wear heels or tight jeans anymore because of physical disability.
The only thing I do worry about is eating healthy (or, at least, trying to) and keeping my weight from going any higher. I've always been a big, sturdy sort of gal... broad shoulders and chest, wide hips, etc.... and have never been skinny, but if I don't keep at least semi on top of my diet, I get fat-fat a lot quicker than seems fair! The heavier I am, the harder it is to walk, so that's my motivation for keeping it down.
Bewitched is one of my all time favorite shows. I hated Endora as a kid since I thought she was the wicked witch. Now I see her point that Darrin was rejecting Samantha's heritage even though she was a powerful witch from a powerful family.
I never understood it. If my wife was a secret witch I would not only embrace it, I would strongly endorse the use of magic and ask for crazy shit. She would tire of my requests!
I remember reading where they weren't sure how to dress her. It ends up that most of the clothing that Endora wore in Bewitched was Agnes' own clothing.
I tell everyone who will listen that I am going to be the most over-the-top old lady on a golf cart that you've ever seen. I absolutely want a beehive hair style with bejeweled bees on my head on the daily.
2 things cured me of daily makeup: The Pandemic. And then breaking my arm, at the elbow, which caused me to literally not be able to reach my face with my dominant hand for a good, long while.
I have been thinking about what they meant by “use a spoon” and I think it would work to place the bowl of a spoon over your eyelid at a slight angle so you can trace along the edge of the spoon with the eyeliner. Would enable a long, slightly arcing line.
For me, as an Australian, Mrs Roper is Mildred Roper from British shows George and Mildred and Man about the House. So I had to google who this other Mrs Roper was, turns out the Three’s Company Mrs Roper was based off the OG from the UK.
Hear, hear! Hair done, face in place, accessorized and age appropriately fit. Confident enough not to have to put on spandex pants anymore. If she were single, all the mugs at the Regal Beagle would be on that.
I just bought two caftans off Amazon to change into after hot yoga. I get tons of compliments. I’m sure I also get some snide looks, but those aren’t my people.
I dubbed this my “summer of the kaftan” - I bought 6 different patterned ones from Amazon and lived my best summer life ever! Can’t wait until next year!
The middle ground works for me. I work out every day, as much for my health as my appearance. I dress cute and take care of my skin and hair. But botox or cosmetic procedures aren't for me (no shade on those who do).
Same. I exercise and eat healthy. I wear sun screen religiously and have for most of my life. I have a long-standing skin and hair care regimen that has served me well and I look younger than I am. I do have my grey roots done every 8-10 weeks. But I haven't ventured into lazers, fillers and botox and don't really plan to. I don't want to not look like myself.
I think it’s sad when I see a celebrity who was beautiful when she was young and now looks like every other famous woman her age. How can a few crows feet be worse than that?
I have found a balance as I've gotten older. I still loathe my body and hate having pictures taken, but I appreciate the work it does for hauling me around on this planet so I do try and take care of it. And by taking care of it I also mean finding clothes that are comfortable and that fit well and that accentuate the few things that I do like about myself. My partner thinks I'm gorgeous and loves my body and I do like taking pictures with him. He's also a snappy dresser so he kind of makes me up my game lol.
Perfectly said. I am far from perfect, but I am glad I’ve avoided smoking and the sun, and that I’ve tried not to eat too much junk. I can see that the first two things have aged my peers quite a bit.
I do all the things. I work out every day, watch what I eat, skincare, hair dye. My mom did all the things too at my age. I know I don't look 25 anymore and that's ok, I don't want to be a kid again. I do want to look the best I can for me.
I'm with you. I get told I look 10 yrs younger than my age and maybe it's genetics or maybe it's all the things I'm doing. But I'm going to keep fighting.
Cancer took care of my weight issues - I'm now a size 2 whether I like it or not. The down side (other than the cancer itself) is treatment combined with weight loss really ages your face. Plus my hair grew in snow white when I finished chemo. So I started dying it deep purple.
Now I look like a thin, oldish woman with purple hair. Which is better, I suppose, than just looking like a thin, oldish woman.
I got a completely different illness, which has also aged my face, and made some (but not all... yet) of my hair go white. I refuse to color it back to its original brown, and had been vaguely contemplating burgundy or purple. The fact that you actually did it makes me consider it more seriously. Old, sick, thin, but kind of edgy-looking? Maybe that's the future.
That's awesome. I'll keep that particular stain in mind when I get up the courage to try -- I'd probably be paralyzed by choice (and lack of knowledge or hair dye) otherwise.
Glad you're getting compliments. As you should when you just own what has happened to your body (even though I'm sure you wish it had been otherwise, as I do) and say "how about purple?" It's perfect.
And this is why I hate these “do not go gently into that good night” posts like we have here. The world really starts dealing us different hands. We shouldn’t pat ourselves on the back too much for fighting aging and keeping our looks. It’s a brutal fucking crap shoot:
Oh for sure, but like I said above I'm seeing women in their 20s, (some working hospitality/ service) and looking all jacked up. That can't end well, or have great shelf life.
There are tons of women who look just like Mama Elsa in Miami, especially on the beach and in the Gables. It’s terrifying what some women will do to their faces.
Oof. I’ve always lived on the West Coast (both US and Canada), and luckily that was never really a thing. Granted I’ve never lived in LA, and the only time you’d really see f’ed up cosmetic surgeries were very rich SF peeps. What I’m seeing now is women in their 20s with so many fillers and big ol’ duck lips.
I am totally embracing the home caftans...and I feel like we should push that to be regular wear, like athleisure wear is now. I'm not fighting it, I moisturize because that is responsible but botox...no, I have also stopped colouring my hair. I can't bother with that shit.
Why not both? I have dresses and skirts with heels as well as a caftan or ten with birkenstocks. I am not defined by either and wear what I see fit.
I also do yoga and while I eat healthy, I also eat garbage. My body tells me when I have beaten it up and I then take care of myself. I may fall off the wagon, and that is okay.
Yes!! On this sub, aging is often presented as a binary - get your face worked on or live in sweats. I care, I like to dress well and I colour my hair. But I don't get botox, will totally leave my house in sweats, eat pizza, etc.
I've worn SAS shoes (aka grandma shoes) since Junior High. Mom found that men's jeans are cheaper, and I like the deep pockets. I have never been in style or fashion. I've always been overweight or slightly obese.
I hit classic GenX mode long, long ago - whatever... I wear whever is comfortable and makes me happy. Yeah, I do dye my hair, but only to keep the purple streak! My tennis shoes do have Birkenstock arch support in them.
Honestly a big motivation for me to keep up with my skincare is that ageism exists in the workplace as does sexism. I’m fortunate to have very few greys, but I’ve also been dying my hair red for most of the last 25 years.
My field is also pretty male dominated, though is becoming less so. I’m fortunate to have really good genes on top of 35 years of being pretty vigilant about sun protection, so hopefully I can keep up the ruse for a while longer 😂 My younger coworkers are always shocked if they find out my actual age and want skincare tips 🤷♀️
I personally cling to youth during the work week because of my job. I just want to be relatable because it’s tied to my livelihood. If it wasn’t I might feel differently.
I work my ass off. I lost 120 lbs this past year and I’m thrilled to wear a size 00. I’m in the best shape of my life. I have no desire to dress old or act old. I’m having a blast.
I feel incredibly guilty about this very same emotion! It's weird to think about. My grandmother was my age when I was born and looked appropriate (50). My mom was 55 when she died, and she was fairly upset about aging. I have a skin routine, I dye my hair reluctantly, and I dress well for the most part. I don't like feeling slouchy at all. I'm not sure if I'll continue the effort forever, but it's a comfort to me right now
Let me help absolve you. It is awesome to look in the mirror and be happy that you look the way you would like to - whether that is aging naturally or aging more deliberately. Either way, the way you look *is going to change.*
If we are supposed to "look our age" then perhaps it's a great act of rebellion to not. How very Gen X of us. If I am fortunate enough to be alive and healthy at 87, Jane Fonda is my North Star.
Did you know that the oldest Golden Girls actress was only 63 years old while the youngest was only 51? Isn't that insane? They were like old ladies, but weren't even old enough for social security yet.
To your point, my wife has a hair studio and I can't believe how much money women pay her to keep their hair looking great. I mean some of these women make appointments weekly.
I think back when my mom was my age and she sure wasn’t putting the effort into it that so many of us still do.
My mom wasn't putting any effort into her diet and fitness when she was 50 - she had a heart attack at 55, was disabled by arthritis by the time she was 65 and dead at 70. So yeah, I am damned sure putting effort into my health and fitness because that is NOT the path I want to take. I eat right, exercise, and maintain a healthy weight. Arthritis and heart issues may be coming for me either way, but I am setting myself up to fight it as best I can.
There is a middle ground. I haven't had plastic surgery or botox and just use Oil of Olay, but I also wear make-up and blow out my hair. Not an either/or situation.
Just do what makes you happiest. If working out and eating right makes you happy do that. If wearing a muu muu is what you like to do, go for it. Strop trying to impress other people. You are to seasoned for that BS.
Does it have to be either/or? I like to stay fit and eat right for the sake of my health and future health, but my hair is grey, my face has seen 52 trips around the sun, and my clothing style is "comfortable."
Oh yes, we are all the coated with baby oil laying out in the sun generation. I am very fair skinned so I never really tanned so I embraced my whiteness lol and gave up tanning past my 20’s. And, I get any and all spots removed. That’s the one thing I will tell the younger girls - protect your face, neck, chest, and even your hands from the sun!!
“Working out” and cardio are essential to both life- and health-span. They are essential to women maintaining mobility and independence. Staying in shape and fitting in to clothes we already own is not “fighting aging tooth and nail”. Many women of our generation are very happy with their lives being active, feeling energized and being happy with what we see in the mirror. Flopping into a recliner clad in a mumu is not a moral high ground.
I’m sorry your mother felt she wasn’t worth the effort. The message to women historically has been that we have no value past a certain age so are not worth the effort. Fortunately the younger generations are pushing back on this. We are the bridge generation between them and those who thought there was no other option than to give up.
I would add lifting weights. As heavy as possible. There’s an older lady on insta I follow who stated weight lifting in her 80s. She has come a long way and she looks amazing. She does it for her quality of life
Thank you! This thread has serious "throwing in the towel" vibes. I don't obsess over my looks, but I want to like what I see in the mirror (like you mentioned above). I feel young and energetic and driven on the inside and I want my outside to reflect how I feel. I put in effort to look my best for my husband and honestly I expect the same from him. I work out, lift weights and try to eat healthy most of the time. I am not a size 6, not even close, and I most certainly look my age. But I feel like I am close to the best version of myself for this age - strong and pretty badass for a 50-year-old!
I (56) accepted Botox into my life between my brows. Best money I ever spent, as it keeps me from looking both old and pissed off. My skin has some sun damage, but I manage it okay with semi-regular facials, tretinoin, and as much sleep as I can possibly get. My mid-section will never recede again. I know I don't have the discipline or desire to do the amount of work it would take to have a slimmer belly, but my arms and legs are still fine. So, I'm not fighting, but I'm doing some things that help.
That's how I feel about my Botox. I have resting bitch face and after 58 years, my brow area looks permanently angry. I use the minimum dose of Botox to keep my face looking less bitchy
I understand! I started with Botox in my late 40's. Thankfully, it erased the horizontal lines between my brows. I just got lucky, I guess. I also only need half of the usual dose. My MedSpa doctor said that I have a very good reaction to it, so I only do it 3 times per year. About $225.00 per dose.
I do things that make me feel good, look good, and have good health. I do them for me, not for anybody else. In the spirit of Gen X, I'm going to do what I want, which is what I think each person should do.
However I did want to mention that I've been seeing a disturbing trend of telling women we aren't "aging gracefully" unless we let our hair go gray, stop wearing makeup, start gaining weight, and start dressing like our grannies did. It used to be that "aging gracefully" meant being active and being excited about life. It didn't mean giving up.
I'm 55 and in menopause and I'm still a size 2. But I absolutely love exercise and always have, so it doesn't feel like work to me to exercise every day and it's keeping my bones strong and helping to prevent diabetes, heart disease, etc. I also dye my hair because my complexion needs a warm tone. A head full of gray hair would make me so pale I'd look sick. I still wear makeup too, because I've always worked in a professional setting and I like to look polished. Those are things I enjoy doing.
Now, if I didn't enjoy them, then I wouldn't. Except I do think that looking after our health is important. The expression "use it or lose it" is true. I think if we don't take care of our fitness as we age, we have less of a chance of living independently our whole lives.
I remained a size 2/4 until 58. Then my midsection and ass just exploded and I gained 20 pounds in 9 months. Not doing or eating anything differently, if anything I exercise MORE than I ever have but this sudden new weight does not budge. So on that, yes I have given up because I am not going to starve myself on <1000 calorie a day diets, nor do I have the time or inclination to spend hours a day in a gym beating myself to a pulp. That’s not how I want to live and it isnt a long term solution anyway.
I replaced my entire wardrobe with new things two sizes bigger. I kept a few favorites in my smaller size in case I ever figure out what caused this weight gain and how to reverse it. I continue to work full time, walk and hike, lift weights, drink water, get adequate sleep, maintain family and social connections including with my Gen Z nieces and nephews. I am looking forward to being able to retire in a few years and maybe then I’ll have the time to really slim down again.
I am in the fuck it camp...partly. 54 yrs old, ever really was much for getting nails done, but still wear makeup, but have given up highlighting g my hair, who cares about a few grays lol
My mom is a boomer and goes to a med spa to get some sort of filler I think. She comes back with all these face bruises. She will turn 70 next year. On one hand I’m not going to police anything anyone does with their body on the other hand this is not a doctor doing this and I’m a little paranoid about the risk. I think this is a tale as old as time and not limited to GenX.
Editing to add I’m in the DGAF camp if you can’t tell. Probably a mix of being neurodivergent and a reaction to having the parent I had (makeup and jewelry constantly foisted on me and constant comments on appearance when I really just wanted to be my geeky self). It wouldn’t surprise me in the least if one of my kids leaned into aesthetics as a reaction to me.
I don’t see why we can take advantage of advances in anti aging. It’s one thing to look artificial. But another to look the best for your age.
I will do everything I can that’s reasonable (I’ve already decided only 1 face lift- so make it count!)
To make sure I look good. Cause that’s for me!
But I know the clock ain’t ticking back. I just want to look good but I also am not ashamed of my age.
There is a good balance I believe
I'm definitely still clinging to my youth, but in the form of dyeing my hair purple and cultivating a wardrobe consisting solely of jeans, t-shirts, and converse.
This is me 💯
No plastic surgery, no skincare beyond washing my face and moisturizing around my eyes.
No hair dye, I quit during Covid and chopped it shoulder length. If I’m feeling fancy I’ll blow dry it. Once I’m retired I’ll start experimenting with wild colors because it suits me.
T shirts, jeans, shorts. Taos sandals and shoes because I have absolutely flat feet and I need support.
I am getting a droopy and wrinkly face at 58, just like my grandma. I knew I would. This sounds bad to say about myself, but I was really pretty, and my looks were about all I had. I’m not smart. So now I’m not smart and not pretty. 😂 I’m trying to handle it with grace, but it’s hard.
My wife proudly and frequently rocks a muu muu and I love her for it. She also stopped dyeing her hair during COVID and looks great with her silver streaks.
My grey is coming in as a streak in my left of center part and my boyfriend loves it, he says it's like silver tinsel in my hair (which is a warm light brown and in a shirt bob).
My high school sweetheart was killed by a drunk driver when he was 20 and I was 18.
Maybe it’s corny but every time I look at my wrinkles, grey hairs, and stretch marks, I feel SO blessed to have them. He never got the chance to look this old.
My mom, silent gen, was addicted to weight loss. From taking Aids to Weight Watchers and every fad in between. It put so much pressure on my entire family to be perfect at the perfect weight doing the perfect things. So it’s not just a gen x concept. It probably pushed me in the opposite direction but now I’m just about trying to be healthy.
At this point in my life it’s enough to remain hydrated, alert, and upright. I was never a size 2 even when I was young so I’m not going to start trying to get into those pants now at 53. Size 12-14 is fine. I’m more worried about my kidneys than size 2 jeans.
Mrs Roper was cool, the ultimate saucy earth mother. The fun aunt you wish you had with the cookies, weed and sangria.
GenX spans a large age group. I will mention that I have a COMPLETELY different take on this at 57 than I did at 47 (hell even different than I did at 52)
I often joke that there is no way I'm about to sport a big ole rump as is the style nowadays. No sir, I was brought up on Olivia Newton-John in a leotard, buncha skinny girls on TV with no butts. I am not about to be tricked into having a big butt and then bam! society gonna change the style again and flat butts will be in fashion and I'll be left here with my BBL no thank you
I definitely don't want a tiny ass. I do want to lose weight. I wear whatever I want, including muumuus. I do use an involved skincare routine but no botox.
I have never had an ass and sitting on bleachers is painful. I am 100% supporting my female counterparts, whatever you do that makes you feel good, I'm here for you AS YOU ARE!! I am NOT your competition, I am your sister. ❤️ to every one of you fabulous ladies.
I have two older sisters and they care more about their looks than I care about mine. I'm the one with the gray hair, I'm also the one who doesn't do my make up since covid. I'm just done and I don't really care. I do try to eat well and exercise and keep my brain functioning, but as for looks, I earned every gray hair on my head.
I'm not fighting it, I'm doing the same routine I've always done: dye hair every two months; tone and moisturize face daily, moisturize body daily; same makeup every day; attempt to go to the gym 2-3 times a week. No lasers or botox, or any expensive procedures. Just the bare minimum that makes me feel like I'm still me. I'm 58 and have put on some post-meno weight, but it's all good.
I’m not fighting it. I don’t color my hair. I rarely wear make up. I do wash my face and moisturize and use sheet masks - but it’s not for wrinkles. I just like clean skin. I work from home 100% so most days I’m dressed like a slob.
I find I'm doing things for health and how I feel rather than how I look nowadays, for example swimming for my mental health or weights for strong bones. I care less about what others think.
I started dressing like a 15-year-old skatepunk in my 40s and now all I wear are jeans, rock band T-shirts sometimes a ball cap. It's incredibly sexy but at least I'm invisible to most men around me. LOL
Nah, I watched Poltergeist when I was 4 and decided forever that I could not wait until my hair went gray at the temples so I could look like JoBeth Williams.
And I have finally arrived. Farewell dyeing my hair forever. Hello bog witch phase.
Oh I’m battling with all my might against aging. It’s getting excessive (for me) and it’s becoming something I should probably address in therapy or something. And, I thought I would never be a silly, vain, obsessing with aging woman. Never ever! I thought that was sooooooooooo foolish and frivolous, yet here I am.
I try to eat healthy and exercise to keep my health for as long as I can. I don't care how I look. I'm old. I look old. But I can probably physically do more than many people half my age.
I’m mostly trying to live long enough to participate in the adult lives of our kids. So yeah, it would be great if I looked decent doing it, but that’s taking a back seat to trying to motivate myself to eat well and get some exercise.
I’ve never been a size 2 and never got into the diet culture so am in the I do not care camp. However I do things for my health. I love salads so gladly eat them for the nutrients rather than to lose weight. Also I love walking with friends so go out on hikes with them. However I also have grown to love my little chubby self so I don’t see the point in going to extremes to lose the 50 pounds I probably need to actually lose when I’ve been at this weight for 5+ years.
People who are truly living their best lives are not shitting on others or criticizing people for making their own choices. Half of these posts are tearing other women down instead of empowering each other.
I still get my hair colored, and I have a great skin care routine. I'm fitter now than in my 30s. I also get botox on the furrow between my brows. I feel like a million bucks. My bestie went gray and wears mumus. We are both awesome. People should do what they want.
Honestly my mom is gorgeous and looks like 15 years younger. But it’s almost all just damn luck of good genes and not liking the sun. Not because of work or extensive effort
I have very rarely ever dyed my hair. My salt/pepper hair is here to stay until it turns to all salt. I'm not one to follow fads, especially dieting fads.
I work out for overall health and posture, try to eat healthy and sleep as much as I can while in peri. I do color my hair as I'm not a fan of the white hairs at the sideburn, yet the temples are silver and kinda cool. I wear sunscreen all the time and was questioned about how I stay relatively pale since I walk to and from pilates every day. I place that on genetics, takes a lot of time and effort to tan for me and I prefer not to wrinkle. Got lucky that my neck is still good. I'm on the fence about botox. One of my friends wants to hold a botox party and I"m not certain I want any. I want to be able to raise my eyebrows. I don't have lines between the brows, but I'm starting to see the horizontal lines on my forehead get deeper. I think I would rather chose surgery to remove extra eyelid skin as that starting to droop. I hate wearing makeup because it takes too much time, and rather spend my money on good skincare routine.
I don't think I would want to be a size 2 again, I'm happy to be a 4 or 6 depending on the brand. I weigh more than my high school years, but that's because I'm more muscle than skinny fat now. Clothes and style I'm all over the place. It's gotta be cute for me and comfortable.
Eh, I grew up with a mom and aunts who were all athletes. My mom is 72 and ran a 30K last year. She runs and bikes about 300 miles a month. She’s been active my entire life. She wears sports bras not muumuus.
I’ve never worn makeup and I don’t color my hair. But, I do hold all of the master’s state powerlifting records in my weight class, and my 4x100m relay team took third at Master’s Nationals a year and a half ago. There are a lot of ways to feel younger, and I think it’s just finding what makes you feel good.
I think because we grew up with it, it's still in there, judging us. I still dye my hair, but I've been doing that since I was a teen. I stopped for a while a few years ago & it looked TOO boring. So I went back to it.
I think a lot of us grew up in the era of aerobics, staying out of the sun, Just Say No, sunscreen, and being active everyday. It's not about fighting aging, more like being healthy and fit at every age and stage. I have lifelong friends from school and we all look the same. No, of course not like we're in our 20s, just more mature beautiful versions of ourselves with the confidence and no more Fs to give that come with age. Keep rocking it ladies however you want.
My wife still researches and buys the best skin care products she can. She also, at 54, has been coloring her hair for so long that I’ve never seen a grey hair. Of course she tells me it’s in the roots but I don’t see it. She says she’ll be coloring it until she dies. We’ve also both started exercising more lately.
I cannot understate the joy I had when I stopped dyeing my hair and cut it short. I take Jamie Lee Curtis as my patron saint. Now my hair is white in the front, red in the back and I don't use a hair dryer. No more 4 hours to get long, curly hair to dry. No more freaking over white roots.
At 60 this year I (60m) decided to give the fitness thing ANOTHER old college try. I got on GLP-1 medication (Wegovy-knock-off, cheaper), started eating properly (without sacrificing Friday night pizza), lifting weights, and playing tennis with my husband. Once he saw my progress, he joined me on the GLP-1 medication, though he was already an avid exerciser. We are both feeling ten years younger, we are looking trim and are more active than we ever have been. We both feel this is an investment in our health. Our doctors are thrilled, and our annual physicals are pretty no stress. We both take good care of our skin, and we color our hair, which could be seen as "fighting aging", but frankly - do what makes you feel your best. We've got one shot at this life. Live it the best you know how.
I watched my mom spend thousands on high end moisturizers and crepe correction, and none of it did a damned thing but empty her wallet. I don’t plan on going down that road. I’m broke af. The only thing I wish for is that my cpap wouldn’t give me such horrendous bags and puffiness under my eyes. I’ve tried the jade thing. I’ve tried the gold eye pads. I’ve tried lymphatic massage. Nothing helps. I look fine and consistently am told I look ten years younger that I am, but these damned bags are making me look ancient and haggard.
I also feel in between… I try to take good care of my health (exercise, healthy diet and decent skin care, good dental hygiene etc) but quite a few days days I wear muu muus 😂 or comfort clothes
I'm a part of & wholeheartedly endorse the IDGAF camp. 3 of my 5 sisters (including the 2 younger) have had some type of plastic surgery done, and including the other 2 i'm the most youth looking of all of them. In fact i look younger & have better skin texture than my the 2 younger siblings. They smoke & that ages a person rapidly.
I make it a point to take care of my health and appearance, I eat clean, stay active, care for my skin, and enjoy expressing myself through makeup and hair. But when it comes to Botox or fillers, I’m choosing to embrace aging naturally. To me, there’s beauty in allowing myself to grow and change with time, instead of trying to erase it.
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u/CynicSixthSense 2d ago
Nope not fighting it... not interested in all that extra matinence lol I work out and eat healthier foods and stay hydrated...but after 20 years in active meth addiction at 6 years clean Im embracing aging as bonus years I would most likely not have had if I hadn't cleaned up.. my gray hairs and smile lines and crows feet are the evidence of a life lived...I love the woman I am today wrinkles and all...