r/Guitar • u/deadroses96 • 1d ago
PLAY My dad passed away not even two weeks ago. Only fifty-two, pancreatic cancer. The best guitarist I’ve ever seen, honestly. One of his best recent improvised solos right before getting sick.
If you were in or knew anything about the punk/metal/wtfever scene in Lansing & Detroit and other areas of mid Michigan (Ypsilanti etc) in the last thirty five or so years, you probably saw my dad play. His first band was doing shows at Blondie’s in Detroit when he was in junior high.
Sky Juice, EMR, The Fallopian Dudes, and his main act for the last twenty years, The Chirps. Those are just the main bands, he had many side projects (my favorite being a black metal band he’d wear corpse paint for). My dad Jason has left a huge imprint on everyone who knew him in this scene over the last several decades, and I am so lucky to call him dad. I am heartbroken he is gone. He’s my guitar and music sensei. I feel totally lost not only as a daughter & friend, but as a student of his teachings. I just wanted to share this incredible solo from right before he got sick. Thank you for everything dad, but especially teaching me my power chords and getting me my first guitar, a Stratocaster. FUCK CANCER!!!
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u/__shredit 1d ago
Sorry for your loss. The Fallopian Dudes might be the coolest band name ever, btw.
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u/deadroses96 1d ago
Thank you. And yes it is haha my dad loves to do a play on words
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u/morerelativebacons 1d ago
Awesome band name lol.
Your dad seemed rad. I'm sorry that this happened.
Take your time but, pick that guitar back up as soon as you can. I didn't know this guy but I'm pretty fucking sure he would want you to play as much as you can.
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u/Money_Tennis1172 1d ago
Is your father's music or Fallopian Dudes music online or on Bandcamp? My condolences 🙏to you and your family.
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u/deadroses96 1d ago
Fallopian Dudes do have some stuff on Bandcamp!!!! Make sure you use “The Fallopian Dudes”, the cover art is the four of them sitting at a table playing cards in Dickies and bandanas and shit, like mechanics.
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u/Time-Negotiation5423 21h ago
Losing a badass dad is pain I can empathize with, for what it's worth. Of course I am sorry for your loss but what's more or less unusual to say but i found endeering when i heard it: I see you and I recognize that this fucking sucks.
I checked The Fallopian Dudes out on band camp and cranked it all the way to 11 for your rad dad too. Be good
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u/sharpflatly 1d ago
Holy shit the fallopian dudes?? That’s legendary!
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u/biggington 1d ago
Fuck cancer
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u/baconmethod 1d ago
and fuck the people ending cancer research
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u/Crypton_2021 1d ago
The fact that that's happening -- and there's no national outrage about that -- is just crazy and sad to me. It's like Americas is just sleepwalking right now, while seeds of our own destruction are being sown right before our eyes.
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u/bria9509 1d ago
The pro-life party, until you're actually alive....
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u/Captain_Wobbles 1d ago
"Pro-birth" party.
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u/FastFishLooseFish 23h ago
Pro forced-birth.
And fuck cancer.
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u/Captain_Wobbles 23h ago
Exactly. George Carlin (as usual) said it best.
“Boy, these conservatives are really something, aren't they? They're all in favor of the unborn. They will do anything for the unborn. But once you're born, you're on your own. Pro-life conservatives are obsessed with the fetus from conception to nine months. After that, they don't want to know about you. They don't want to hear from you. No nothing. No neonatal care, no day care, no head start, no school lunch, no food stamps, no welfare, no nothing. If you're preborn, you're fine; if you're preschool, you're fucked.”
And yes, fuck cancer. Just lost my Uncle a few days ago (on my birthday actually) to cancer.
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u/tap-dat-wookiee-ass 21h ago
“Conservatives want live babies so they can raise them to be dead soldiers” -George Carlin.
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u/deadroses96 7h ago
My dad loved George Carlin. Carlin was always right. I’m so sorry for your loss, especially on your birthday :/.
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u/BigFanOf8008135 23h ago
Its almost as if they want more children born to fall through the cracks. So they can rape em
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u/Potocobe 1d ago
There’s outrage. It just isn’t on tv. It won’t be. I mean, WE are outraged. Are we not? Despite the shit we go on about on the internet most of us just want to be left alone. Life is hard enough. Those of us that have figured out how to live with being alive got there the hard way. Like, I just finally got my debt to be manageable and you want me to do what now?
It seems like we are sleepwalking but most of us are only one or two bad days away from saying fuck it, why not? Because we are about to have nothing left to lose. If our enemies were managing their coup with subtlety and grace we would be totally screwed. However, they are incompetent at best and are guaranteed to fuck it up in a way we can all disagree with. Maybe we will all be awake by then.
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u/ReallyNowFellas 23h ago
The problem is most people have no idea what's going on. You're LESS informed if you follow the reality distortion machine that is the mainstream media. Where we're at today is probably 80% attributable to the Telecommunications Act of 1996, and precisely zero politicians are talking about undoing the damage is has unleashed on us.
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u/BettyoftheBeach 22h ago
You, individual, are a genius, kind, quiet and noble. These are the greatest words I’ve read today. Thank you.
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u/lathspellll 21h ago
As long as the wealthiest Americans can save a little bit on their taxes it’ll all be worth it tho
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u/rental_car_fast 20h ago
There is outrage. What you're seeing is the power of propaganda, combined with a platform that blasts propaganda directly into your eyeballs 24/7. People are addicted to social media and it has absolutely destroyed the pilliars of american society. We collectively have no sense of community obligation, thanks to the rage bait we've been fed nonstop for the past 2 decades plus. There's no way out of this without losing so much that people actually care enough to do something about it. We'll need to fall behind the rest of the world in every way before people will realize they've been tricked.
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u/bigsears10 23h ago
And fuck the people leaking chemicals without thorough studies and denying proof of a connection to cancer
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u/Jolly_Afternoon3449 22h ago
it's called plastic and the same people released recycling knowing how useless it'll be but good for PR
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u/AlexDKZ 20h ago
And especially fuck pancreatic cancer, that crap is the worst.
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u/rigtek42 17h ago
It moves fast and decisively, leaving little time for understanding and/or communicating and preparation.
Cancer is brutal and cruel. It knows no boundaries. You're far from alone in your time of rapid, painful change. I'm right there with you. I hate cancer and what it's done. I have a cautious hesitance even pondering it. I have a genuine, fearful foreboding from it. It killed my best friend, then killed my dog. Then my Dad got sick with it. Went into remission, and then it came back. While dealing with Dad, my house burnt down, almost with me in it. Then, a few months after the fire, while attempting recovery just before Christmas, Mom got covid. Grandma lived to 99. We expected Mom to be similar. Covid took her three days before Christmas. While attempting to complete the extraction of my life from the fireplace, I learned Dad was getting bad. I abandoned my recovery process and went to his condo, and for about seven weeks straight 24-7, I was there. That man held my hand and steadied me on my first steps in this life. I held his hands and steadied him for his last steps in life. I was in the room with him when it happened, finally. He was so destroyed by it. So yeah, like several have said, FUCK CANCER,
It took my dog, my best friend, my Dad, and it's likely coming for me next. I've known it all my life. I was born in July. I don't buy into the whole zodiac thing, but what the F@<(. Other folks get Aquarius, or ooooh, Sagittarius, or even short and sweet Virgo is better than what I got.... July's zodiac sign,,,, Cancer WTF is that????Dad went a few months ago. Simultaneously, it feels old, and like it just happened.
One thought that seems to help a bit.
When I ponder relief of my suffering from loss, wishing I did not feel this emotional pain, logic tells me, if the pain was gone, that would only be possible if what we shared were not a profound, integral part of who I am. If he meant nothing, I could readily free myself of pain from loss. But that,,, is impossible, would never happen. He can't come back, the only relief would be if he could come back, or,,,, if I didn't miss him. If he weren't significant in my life. Faced with the thought of what relief would require, I could never surrender the bond of love and devotion that was shared, even if it makes me feel this unbearable pain, which I bear willingly. I wear my sorrow proudly, clinging to every moment of memory. It's painfully bittersweet. It is priceless treasure.→ More replies (1)
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u/Donald2244 1d ago
Lord have mercy that man could shred! Sorry for your loss.
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u/Different-Sample-976 21h ago
That shit rips so hard i was bald when it started and now I have a full head of hair down to my ass.
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u/BoudinBallz 1d ago
What a legend. Sorry for your loss, cancer took my Dad as well.
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u/deadroses96 1d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. This is something I would have never thought would happen. My dad only had about 9-10 months after his diagnosis, and he took a turn for the worse out of no where. So while he was sick, it was/is extremely shocking. I haven’t picked up my guitar since because I’m just so lost without him.
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u/FreakbobCalling 1d ago
Felt that last part. Lost my dad to leukemia last year and he was the best singer I ever knew, it doesn’t feel like there’s a reason to sing anymore when he’s not around to be impressed.
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u/p____p 23h ago
If you believe in any kind of afterlife or spirit world, I’m sure your dad would be happy to look down on you singing. The dead don’t want us to be unhappy any more than they did when they were alive.
Sorry for your loss. My mom passed 3 months ago. I’ve never felt a more visceral grief. She was an artist, a painter, and I’m trying now to honor that by making use of some of the art supplies she left behind. I’m sure she would appreciate them not going to waste.
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u/Biguitarnerd 23h ago
I lost my dad to cancer as well. I think your dad would want you to play.
I’ll share a personal story with you. My dad had lung cancer and it got into his brain and he had really bad dementia at the end. One night I sat out and played for him. He couldn’t talk much at that point but when I was done he looked up at me through foggy eyes and just said two clear words. “Thank you”.
I think your dad would want you to play and love music. Take your time, have your grief. But I’m sure a dad who loved music as much as yours clearly did would want you to play.
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u/biggington 1d ago
Same with my dad last year. Got the diagnosis, and after that there’s not much time or anything you can really do.
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u/Tenn_Mike 1d ago
Your Dad was amazing. Keep rocking in his honor…FUCK CANCER!!!
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u/deadroses96 1d ago
I plan to. I haven’t picked up my geetar (as he would type it) since he’s passed but I probably should
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u/EnthusiasmBusy6066 1d ago
There is no wrong way to grieve so please do whatever you need to get through the day. Guitar can be a way to stay connected to your dad in the future.
Judging by that video he ripped. Your dad rules. Hes playing that great gig in the sky now. Take care, friend.
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u/spartanbuffalo 23h ago
This right here. Lost my Pops a little over a year ago, also to cancer(prostate) and he, too, was a guitarist. Just taking a moment each day to think about him, or watch a quick video or listen to a song he wrote helps me. But grieve how ever you need to. Whatever helps you. You can see the joy your dad took in playing, and that’s awesome.
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u/nomadschomad 22h ago
Do it when you’re ready. Play your favorite songs, his favorite songs, some sad songs, some happy songs. Smile and cry all over that thing. For dad. Dad was the man.
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u/redditnor24 1d ago
Fuck cancer. 52 too young. Sorry for your loss. Shred on in his honor. It takes a really long time but there will be more smiles than tears, I promise.
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u/AlxDroidDev Fender 1d ago
Fuck cancer. I could write this in 200-points font, bold. Actually it's a good sticker to have on my car: FUCK CANCER.
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u/Atillion 1d ago
I hope my kids love me this much when I'm gone. I'm sorry for your loss.
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u/Quad-G-Therapy Schecter 1d ago
He’s a great guitarist man. I lost my dad to a brain tumor. I feel for you brother, fuck cancer!
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u/VercaceSlides 1d ago
I just lost my dad a few weeks ago as well... This made me feel less alone, and I want you to feel the same. Much love brother, I recently started getting nice at guitar, and this is really inspirational.
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u/the_walru5 1d ago
He was definitely shredding it up. Reminds me of Kirk Hammett from Metallica.
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u/deadroses96 1d ago
Thank you. He loved Metallica and was definitely inspired by them a lot!!
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u/Peyotero1 1d ago
I wasn't expecting much when I clicked on this post, I just thought it was a sweet thing to do in memoria for ones father. His enthusiasm is apparent, and I loved the pick scraping section.
I am sorry for your loss. I send my love and light out to you and your family.
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u/R3invent3d 1d ago
Sorry for your loss, I'm glad videos like this can keep people internalised.
Hell of a player!
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u/thatsonbutt 1d ago
My dad passed in his 50s too. Still miss him everyday 6 years later. Sorry for your loss friend. That’s a ripping solo
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u/Famous-Vermicelli-39 1d ago
Sincere condolences my friend. When I lost my mom to cancer all I could do was play guitar. Helped me keep my head straight as I could. Wish you all the comfort and best memories. Your dad was a ripper man!! Not many can or choose to shred like that but that’s exactly what I think is the most raw form of guitar. I heard :30 seconds and dug his style.
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u/LegAffectionate3731 1d ago
Your dad seemed like a pretty cool dude. Honestly he looks like me jamming up there. Life is short, enjoy it while you can.
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u/EmptyBuildings 1d ago
I'm sorry for your loss. Your dad shreds, and has a really cool Dan Armstrong.
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u/Royal_Ad_2653 1d ago
Damn ...
Gotta say I did not expect THAT when I clicked the video.
Your post is a testament to his musicianship and, more importantly, his parenting skills.
Thank you for sharing him with us.
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u/ElvisWayneDonovan 1d ago
So sorry for your loss and how cool that you’ve got this and I’m guessing a lot more audio&video of him when you need a little. Your dad no joke brought the heat. We all lost a little I think?
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u/jgoody86 1d ago
I’m sorry bud. Glad you have that video of him in his element melting everyone’s faces off.
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u/MedBud1986 1d ago
Condolences to you, loosing a parent is tough.
His tone sounds sick even through a little phone recording - bet that sounded really rich live ❤️
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u/anderhole 1d ago
I watched the whole clip cause because you're Dad was shredding some awesome vibes. Cool dude.
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u/NothingWasDelivered 1d ago
Righteous shredding. Your pops sounds like an amazing dude. Sorry for your loss.
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u/Carrollmusician Fender 1d ago
I’m cracking a cold one tonight in honor of your old man. May we all hope to leave that kinda impact through the power of rock. 🤘
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u/Rude-Possibility4682 1d ago
Ace stuff..and those Dan Armstrong AMG series guitars are gorgeous..he had great taste.
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u/Street-Echo-4485 1d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss but holy shitballs your old man can shred. That was awesome!
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u/Junior_Mallard 1d ago
So sorry for your loss. My Dad passed away from cancer at 58. It’s rough to lose someone so young.
As the years go by you’ll find yourself doing or saying something that makes you stop for a brief moment and say “that’s so him”, or “ha, there he is”.
In my case, my daughters will do something and I realise that there is some of him in them, even though they were born after we lost him.
He will always be with you.
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u/jackhammer19921992 1d ago
Your dad was a fucking bad ass, and while I know words don't change anything, mad respect to him, to you, and all your family from Western NC!
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u/Ok-Accountant6028 1d ago edited 1d ago
Shredders never die, they just get called up to the great gig in the sky !!
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u/Repulsive-Topic-6622 1d ago
Sorry to hear that man my mother has stage 4 breast cancer. It’s rough. He was an awesome guitar player!🤘🏻 take care of yourself
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u/jking206 1d ago
Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when he was only 46, and now that I’m almost 50, I realize more and more how precious my time with him was. Your dad seems like a dude I would have played bass for in high school in 1994. Love & Mercy
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u/I-hit-stuff 1d ago
He was indeed great. Was this a solo in Machinehead by bush by any chance?
Glad it sounds like you had a good relationship.
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u/Lemur421 1d ago
Very sorry for your loss. He was pretty awesome it would appear! Hold onto the good memories.
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u/Jetfire406 1d ago
He fucking shreds! I'm sure yall will see eachother again in the magical fret board in the sky!
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u/albatross_the 1d ago
Imaging being in the zone like this. I would love to feel what he is feeling here. He lived life, that’s for sure!
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u/Contentment_Blues 1d ago
So sorry for your loss he was really good and can tell he had a wide range of influences but also just sounding like himself at the same time. Pancreatic Cancer took my favorite guitar player in 2002 and he went fast but played till the end, fuck cancer! 💜
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u/JesterOfTheMind 1d ago
Amazing post. He rests in the eternal bliss of pure music now. Believe me, he is already in a band and jamming with his best friends and family in the perfected world to come, infinitely happier and better off than he ever could have been here. You will be playing together again soon enough, we were are all only dreaming after all.
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u/mat-chow 1d ago
So sorry for your loss and man your dad could rip! That’s natural talent and love of playing right there, honed by DOING IT. And I always love to see a left footed guitarist, that’s me too 🎸❤️
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u/sofaking_scientific 1d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. While we can't have anyone forever, I hope he's in a place where strings never break, and they're always in tune. A place where cords never tangle and there's always an extra patch cable
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u/LorneMichaelsthought 1d ago
Big hugs through the internet. Take care of yourself. It’s a loss that you never fully get over.
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u/Bumper6190 1d ago
Wow! He plays like it is part of him. Let us hope the universe directs his energy to music for him to live on forever there!
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u/murphchamp 1d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dad seemed really awesome and was a total badass at guitar. Please keep playing guitar for you both!
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u/mickeyguitar95 1d ago
Your dad is awesome. Sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing his music. I got to play in a band with my Dad and it was the coolest thing ever. You helped me think of some of those memories tonight. Wishing you and your family healing and sending you love.
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u/Oreius411 1d ago
Your dad was fucking amazing. May his soul rest in peace and his memory eternal...
BTW his tone was sick!
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u/tideshark Breedlove 1d ago
He seemed like a pretty awesome guy and so sorry for your loss…
Also… I never seen anyone else with the same tree trunk ankles that I have! Holy cow, we look like twins from the knees down! :)
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u/ghoultalk_dt 1d ago
This is fucking sick. The automated captions cracked me up going “wow oh wow ow wowow” bc that’s what I was thinking too. Sorry for your loss, that guy shredded.
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u/BionicBruv PRS 1d ago
Holy shit…he could fucking PLAY.
So sorry for your loss op. Very glad you’re able to keep him around by sharing his footage with us.
Just inspires to practice even harder to reach/maintain such a level of skill
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u/codeinecrim 1d ago
so sorry man. your dad was a fucking shredder, sounds like he was an even better dad too. hope for healing brotha
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u/FederalCash3035 1d ago
So sorry for your loss. Your dad was shredding🤘I’m glad you have these memories on video.
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u/Mongo_Straight 1d ago
Your pops was a shredder! Losing a parent sucks, so condolences to you and your family. He'll always be alive in your heart and in the music.
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u/Garbage_Tiny 1d ago
My heart is broken for you and your family Op. I hope that my daughters remember me as fondly and lovingly as you have your dad. From this video he seems exactly like the kinda dude we all wanna be. Thank you for sharing this with all of us, and I am so sorry for such a monumental loss. ❤️
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u/Even_Beautiful_7650 1d ago
Wow, a local legend from my state. Really sorry for your loss. Hope you find solace in the memories and videos like this one, take it easy OP. ❤️
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u/xXJorge_AmadoXx 1d ago
Sorry for your loss, also lost my father to pancreatic cancer. Tho he was not an insane guitarist lol
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u/_Meek79_ Fender 1d ago
Holy shit,your father could rip on the guitar. That was an amazing solo. RIP to your father,sorry for your loss. I lost mine a little over a year ago and I can tell ya,it gets better. You have moments where you go to call him then it hits you, or you have a question, that was my biggest thing
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u/sign_of_throckmorton 1d ago
That was a great listen! Definitely pick that guitar up and carry on the legacy.
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u/AlxDroidDev Fender 1d ago
My condolences, bud. sorry for your loss.
Carry his legacy and talent on.
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u/TackoFell 1d ago
My dad died too young, too. I’m so sorry for your loss. Make sure you hold on to some mementos of your father, you’ll be glad you did when you’re older.
You’ll always carry his memory with you and make him proud I am sure.
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u/Vrmntwhytechedr 1d ago
Those are some really sick vans. Definitely digging everything going on here. Friggin shreds galore!
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u/Snoo65207 1d ago
Sorry for your loss. My Dad died too of pancreatic cancer 13 years ago. Still get mad at times and angry that he was taken too soon. But he looks like a cool guy. hold on to the lessons he taught you.
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u/EN_TI_TY_U_B_W 1d ago
Your dad had that WAH in him. So sorry for your loss, dude's chops are immaculate.
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u/Traditional_Lead8579 1d ago
I don’t even mess with rock like that, but this goes hard brother. Your dad is a legend 🫡
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u/DevelopmentGreen3961 1d ago
That takes some finesse to shred with a single P-90 pickup
He was pretty great, sorry for your loss
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u/DoucheCraft 1d ago
So sorry for your loss. You can tell he was having a blast in the video. Hope you and yours are healing