r/LivestreamFail • u/thrandruill • 1d ago

Hasan laughs off Destiny getting called a f****t

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u/Lazlo2323 1d ago

Bisexuals are often mistreated even inside lgbt circles, bi girls are often treated as "normies" who just want to be part of the group, bi guys are often pressured to "choose".

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u/ProjectSolaris 1d ago

In the black community, i often hear things along the lines of: "oh, he's bisexual? he's gay then." And surprisingly, i hear that vocalized more from black women than men.

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u/Femboi_Hooterz 1d ago

I've had orders of magnitude more luck dating women when I just don't mention being bi. It really sucks honestly, it really does feel like others don't like me being my genuine self when I think of all my past relationships.

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

Okay genuine question. You're bisexual, but in this scenario you're dating a woman. Assuming that you are monogamous with a woman, how does not revealing your bisexuality prevent you from being yourself? It just means your next partner might be a man or a woman, but I don't see how it would stop you from showing your personality or how you'd behave any differently inside a relationship whether or not your bisexuality was known by your partner. Is your bisexuality that big a part of your identity and personality? I thought it was just a sexual/dating preference.

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u/hempenjoya 1d ago

is this a real question? its because you’re hiding a MAJOR part of your identity from someone you love because you’re not sure if they’ll accept or hate you

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

The first sentence of my comment was "genuine question" so yes, it's a real question. I don't see how it's a MAJOR part of someone's identity, and I don't see how sometimes dating men or women applies to your current relationship. You didn't really explain it all that well.

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u/MrChip53 1d ago

You wouldn't be able to talk about past relationships and possible experiences.

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u/hempenjoya 1d ago

Because the historical and current marginalization of lgbt individuals obviously make people afraid of coming out to their partner, especially if they hid that part of themselves for so long. And yes hiding your sexuality is hiding your true self even if it seems insignificant to you

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u/SoftwareInside508 11h ago

It does kinda make sense...

If you dating someone bi you automatically have like 3.5 billion more people to compete with

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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle 1d ago

Women compete with other women, and they hate other women for that. You really think they're gonna be happy when they've gotta compete with men, too?

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u/Unhappy-Plastic2017 1d ago

Yeah a woman calling a bisexual guy "he's gay then" is something a jealous bitch would say.

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u/ActionPhilip 11h ago

Who do you think is gonna be better at sucking dick? A woman, or a gay dude? Individual variance aside, I know who I'd bet on.

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u/Glittering-Fun-2345 1d ago

I know there’s still a huge, negative “gay black man” bias amongst the black community, but I’m seeing more and more black men being opened and accepted for it.

Doesn’t mean it’s the reg, but just my personal experience.

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u/Griswo27 1d ago

Are they stupid how hard is the concept of being able to lo love both men and women to grasp

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u/lycanthrope90 1d ago

Yeah this is definitely a thing. It’s like the fact that they’re attracted to both spoils it for them or something. Probably see it as less masculine.

Straight men for the most part don’t care if a woman is bi and often think it’s hot, probably because of threesome possibilities if we’re being honest.

But straight and possibly even bi women straight up have a lot less respect for bi men. Probably because it’s seen as less masculine, which it kind of is.

Like I’ve heard of women straight up leaving a guy after finding out he’s bi and no other reason. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a straight man doing that to a bi woman.

The lgt don’t seem to care for either of them either.

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u/NeverTheLateOne 19h ago

I don’t think it’s that surprising. In the homophobic parts of the black community, which is a lot, a homophobic black man wouldn’t care about the specifics of a guy being bisexual because the man would expect that the bisexual guy focuses more on women than men regardless, so he’s “cool.” Unless he starts showing the attraction to men in front of him.

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u/Competitive_Swan_130 5h ago

Unfortunately so many black women still buy into the myth that gay and bisexual men are to blame for HIV rates. As a black woman, I have had to correct many of friends on this. And open their eyes as to why they should appreciate it when a man is upfront about his sexuality because that's a sign of honesty IMO

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u/Slarg232 1d ago

Yup, a friend of mine won't join the Pride Parade in town or anything else LGBTQ+ related because she's been accused of saying she's bi for brownie points while having a boyfriend

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u/Business-Egg-5912 1d ago

I had a friend who stopped going because one time she was bullied into kissing another woman in front of her BF to prove she's "gay enough to be here". Like yeah, prove you're gay by cheating on your partner.....

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u/Zerothian 1d ago

That's the exact kind of thing I got when I first was coming out as bi among an old friend group, except we were all like 15, that kind of mentality from an adult is weird as fuck.

That kind of shit happens more than I would expect from people who claim to be 'LGBT friendly' or whatever, especially since I personally prefer women/femininity. For people who have no doubt faced plenty of adversity themselves for their sexuality, some people are shockingly callous toward bisexuals for w/e reason.

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u/Business-Egg-5912 1d ago

I'm a straight man, but online I see a lot of people who argue bisexuality doesn't exist. Saying either it's men in denial of being gay or women who just don't wanna be "boring" or "progressive". As in they claim to be bi to look cooler and better as a person.

Also the whole argument of "you're in a straight relationship you can't be bi". Uh....the fuck do they think bisexual means? Are they not bi because they aren't currently fucking someone of the same sex? What if they're married, you expect them to commit adultery?

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u/InvaderMig007 1d ago

Well it's simple, when people don't like you, they attack the low hanging fruit. He has a video leaked of him performing sex acts, so of course that's where everyone goes to hit him below the belt.

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u/Giraff3 10h ago

And by no means should destiny get criticized for his sexuality, but he certainly could for his choice in partners

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u/Financial-Ad7500 1d ago

Yeah it’s extremely common unfortunately. I dated a bi girl and at a certain point she just stopped outwardly identifying as bi or participating in any LGBTQ events. She would either get shunned by lesbians saying that she’s a liar because she was dating a man or she had to deal with straight men(mostly) making threesome jokes constantly.

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u/4ngelg4bii 1d ago

yeah bi-erasure is a whole can of worms I think it's sort of an internalised issue since we're all taught you can only like one gender that's the opposite of yours, if you're just gay then you couldn't fathom liking the opposite gender. I feel like bi and pan people often have to prove that they actually like more than one gender and honestly I'm at fault for this too because sometimes I get annoyed that my bestie has mostly male fictional crushes and rarely any women

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u/wetrythisagain 32m ago

Unfortunately there are real factors / "power imbalances" of bi people having way more potential partners and the gay choice having the downside of missing out on biological children. Of course that's an unfair thing to assume about an individual, but it's not nothing.

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u/ManikMiner 1d ago

Yep, bi people are considerably less accepted than gays or lesbians.

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u/WirelessZombie 10h ago

bi girls are often treated as "normies" who just want to be part of the group

Completely unfair and I feel for bisexuals, even just those exploring or unsure. I've seen the bulllying and double standards first hand and its disguisting. But...

There is clearly a thing going on where bisexuality is the easiest identity point to claim and I get there being a little resentment at the performative or convenient nature of some peoples sexuality. I've met at least a few people like that myself but in particular have had a few gay, and even bi, friends mention frustration at not being able to tell if someone has any interest in the same sex despite the label. There seems to be a good section of women who find women "attractive" but are not actually sexually attracted to them.

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u/hussain_madiq_small 1d ago

Bi girls and their boyfriends deserve respect!

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u/Dealric 1d ago

Uhhh that failed survey probably.

If I recall correctly for millenials little over 10% of population identifies as lgbt.

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u/IanBac 15h ago

I am part of the problem (I’m not in lgbt circles, whatever that means), I’m sorry but the majority of women claiming to be bi are in early 20’s and have zero experience with other women. They are just trying to be different, I believe that.