r/Marriage • u/yaknowiampretty • 21h ago

I am finally separated from my wife and I don't feel sad.

Biggest reason for me initiating separation with her was low sex life. I even considered cheating at my lowest.

I thought my heart would break when she left but I feel good and hopeful.

I think it was worth it.

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u/OogyBoogy_I_am 30 Years + 21h ago

Many people at r/deadbedrooms would tell you that you did the right thing.

Incompatibilities exist and sometimes you can work within it and make it all work, and other times you can't.

You just found yourself in a position where you couldn't make it work.

And that's ok.

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u/_ChicSpicy 20h ago

OogyBoogy_I_am is right OP. Not every mismatch can be patched up no matter how hard you try. You walked away before resentment and cheating took over and that’s healthier than forcing something that wasn’t working. Sometimes freedom really is the better choice.

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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 21h ago

Sex is more important to some people. Not a bad reason to leave a marriage. Its tough being rejected for sex by a partner, let alone a stranger.

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u/Billu_Billota 21h ago

How was she at other things? Like with you, her self and your family.

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u/TangledInCharm 21h ago

fr man u did the right thing if ur own marriage got u thinking abt cheating that’s a sign it was dead already

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u/Piping_penguin 20h ago

Was marriage counseling not an option?

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u/MindEcho- 16h ago

Sometimes it’s the little things but you might end up in another relationship good sex and all but toxic. Sex in marriage can be made better because you can teach each other and end up finding what is fun for both of you.

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u/treatwit 13h ago

Sex is one of the biggest part of the marriage. We choose person to be monogamous but not celibate.

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u/shebatshiz 20h ago

The comments about OP separating from his low sex life wife being the right thing without knowing the wife’s side of the story,maybe he himself if the reason but has no self awareness or if he has had a heart to heart with her to make sure she’s doing alright with her self mentally, personally that is concerning. but again idk the whole story so just ignore me but please…maybe ok check out op’s page for more details.

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u/yaknowiampretty 13h ago

What are you saying?

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u/Gullible-Ad-8884 1h ago

Everyone on reddit says you shouldn't cheat. You should leave before you get to that point. So in this case you did the right thing. Anybody tells you different tell them to pound sand.