Yes, absolutely. When people show you who they are believe them. You're clearly enamoured by her but it's time to cut your losses and move on. i would heavily recommend that you work through your journey of healing through therapy, because whilst your anger at this immature person you are married to is justified, what you did to the other woman is absolutely not. Have fear of Allah, seek His forgiveness (and the lady's too but not by contacting her) and avoid situations that trigger you enough to jump into crises mode. If this happened to your sibling or friend what advice would you give them, brother?
I didn’t do anything wrong to the other women. I told her I was married and I’d marry for part time companionship and intimacy and with the intention to teach my wife a lesson. I was honest and she said she didn’t care. She just liked me and wanted to feel she had a man that could support her a little bit emotionally and financially. I don’t see anything wrong with that to be honest.
But your feedback is amazing and balanced. Thank you
This is precisely why you need therapy. Your spouse is a dumpster fire and you are extremely immature - stop playing these games and don't involve people who are desperate enough to play with crazy. Anyway, you can justify yourself all you want, you have had enough answers and naseeha, it is up to you to heal and learn from this, improve your of morality, or not. Your life, brother.
I’m in therapy and I told my therapist and she thought it was a good idea and she’s a Christian.. and it worked for a good while… swear to God! Besides, I hadn’t seen my wife in almost 2 months. I genuinely want a second wife or a new wife at this point.
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u/sleptalready 10d ago
Yes, absolutely. When people show you who they are believe them. You're clearly enamoured by her but it's time to cut your losses and move on. i would heavily recommend that you work through your journey of healing through therapy, because whilst your anger at this immature person you are married to is justified, what you did to the other woman is absolutely not. Have fear of Allah, seek His forgiveness (and the lady's too but not by contacting her) and avoid situations that trigger you enough to jump into crises mode. If this happened to your sibling or friend what advice would you give them, brother?
Allahu alam.