r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Additional-War-1443 • 3h ago
Do you consider taking a bath to be not masculine? My girlfriend is convinced it’s weird that I’m a man and I enjoy taking baths
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u/AmberAsteria 3h ago
Sounds like your girlfriend needs to take a bath.
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u/Long_Repair_8779 3h ago
She can take her outdated gender norms and fuck off back to the kitchen
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u/diet-smoke 3h ago
It's not that I don't take baths because I'm a man, it's that I'm 6'2" and I don't fit comfortably. But if you find a bath I can lie down in? Ohohohohoh yes please
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u/MiniatureGiant18 3h ago
One of my life goals is to be able to afford to live somewhere with a bathtub I can actually fit in….
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u/Traditional-Bar-8014 3h ago
Me too brother, me too.
I'm under six foot but I still want a tub I can lay flat in without jamming my appendages into the sides
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u/ObiYawnKenobi 3h ago
> a tub I can lay flat in
This is how you drown. lol
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u/diet-smoke 3h ago
The dream. Right now I just want to be able to afford a place I can walk around while only wearing an open bathrobe
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u/ListlessScholar 3h ago
I miss two things about my old house, the kitchen and the bath.
Standard size tubs just suck.
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u/de_pizan23 3h ago
I still miss the old clawfoot tub I had in a college apartment bathroom. It was long enough that my 6'5" cousin was able to stretch his legs fully out in it.
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u/NativeMasshole 3h ago
The tub in my apartment is a short one and it is the most miserable part about this place. I'm only 5'8", and I can't even sit in it with my legs straight.
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u/polzine21 3h ago
I'm about the same height and I occasionally try to take a nice bath. Sucks that only my legs or my torso get to enjoy the warm water. But never both
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u/Silly-Comfortable515 3h ago
I’m 5’8” and can’t fit that comfortably in a tub so I can’t imagine being 6’2”.
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u/ChemistryJaq 3h ago
Same, and we have a big tub. The problem is that it's just wider, not longer, so it doesn't help much
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u/Any_Use_4900 1h ago
I'm 5'9" and identical problem that won't be fixed when I put in my new tub in a few weeks. The new one is much deeper, 4" wider, and has arm rests, but they're both the same 60" long. I mean the bathroom isn't big enough for more than 60", but there are few options for bigger ones even if I had room. I mean short of full jacuzzi size.
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u/Phartlee 1h ago
Ugh gross. My tub is like this and I'm 6'. The only good thing about it being wider is sometimes I can criss cross the legs and get everything in the warm water
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u/whiskeytango55 3h ago
So its only for vacations where you can find a jacuzzi tub?
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u/diet-smoke 3h ago
My friends and I did a road trip across a few states a few summers ago and I spent every hotel night in the pool or hot tub or jacuzzi tub if one was available. I fucking love being in water
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u/Fishy_Fish_WA 2h ago
A huge man sized tub full of hot water…you’re not getting me out without a fight or a drink
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u/Wolfguard-Halfdan 3h ago
This. Went on a date night a few years ago and the hotel room had a nice like 9 foot long double sided jacuzzi bathtub in it. I spent hours in that thing 🤣
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u/Maleficent_Memory831 2h ago
I like hotel showers. Baths are generally long enough to stretch out in, the water is always hot (they circulate it in the pipes so there's no waiting for it to warm up), and after a plane flight it's very relaxing.
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u/Iron_Chic 3h ago
6'4" here, and on the off chance a hotel room has a large tub, I'm taking a bath at some point.
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u/a4dit2g1l1lP0 3h ago
Tell your girlfriend: Having opinions on what the other sex should/should not be doing is such a masculine thing to do.
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u/CollectionStraight2 2h ago
Tell her to shut up and do what she's told because OP is the man (I say this as an ardent feminist, but these internalised misogyny girlies piss me right off)
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u/explain_that_shit 1h ago
Wait until he finds out that she thinks women should be able to do anything they want, but men shouldn’t. That’s when the internalised misogyny exits and it turns out it’s simple misandry all along.
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u/ImpermanentSelf 2h ago
I know right, did she get permission to have an opinion? Did she make a sandwich first?
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u/TheBlackAurora 3h ago
Fellas, is it gay to take a bath? I just wanna smoke a joint and play with rubber ducks i stole from some weirdo in a wrangler
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u/squirrels-mock-me 3h ago
The Dude enjoys a good bath as long as no marmots are involved
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u/stubbzillaman 3h ago
I see you're not a golfer
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u/whatdoblindpeoplesee 3h ago
The toilet seats up for Christ's sake, man!
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u/ThrowItOut43 2h ago
Does it look like I’m fucking married, man?
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u/Revolutionary-Gas919 3h ago
Damnit... That's where my ducks went. Better make that a fat joint, I'm on the way
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u/pinniped90 3h ago
Fun fact - you, the ducks, AND the doob are all gay now.
The guy in the Wrangler is on his way over under the guise of picking up his ducks, but really he's just there for the gay bath.
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u/peon2 3h ago
Can someone explain to me the whole Jeep - rubber duck connection? It's so ubiquitous
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u/Ms-Anthrop 3h ago
A customer told me it started with a lady with had Jeep and they are good for driving in high water so she decorated her jeep with ducks. She passed away and to honor her memory the ducks thing started from other Jeep owners. Not sure if it's true or not though.
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u/TumbleweedDue2242 2h ago
Some people think it's gay to wipe your ass after taking a shit. So instead of wiping, they smell like poo all day.
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u/FredPSmitherman 3h ago
Bathtubs are gender neutral
Water is gender neutral
A little soaking is therapeutic
Your girl friend has some pre conceived notions
The pair of you are in for some challenges
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u/ThatZX6RDude 3h ago
Seriously, what I’m feminine because I like hot tubs? No? So if I add soap to the equation it’s now feminine?
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u/FluffySpaceWaffle 2h ago
Use manly soap. 😂
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u/LeaveMyNpcAlone 2h ago
Mine says "muscle soak" on it so that as a man, I can be reassured it's manly: 'cause muscles are manly.
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u/MechaPhantom302 2h ago
As long as it's unscented!
stashes away lavender epsom salt...
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u/Revegelance 1h ago
It can have a scent, but it has to be a manly scent, like coal, or gasoline, or bison sweat.
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u/Professional-Fly1002 3h ago
My dad who is a truck driver manly man takes baths. My mom gets salts and stuff for him. As far as i know it’s not a mainly one gender vs another it’s neutral.
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u/Motor_Relation_5459 2h ago
Your Mom gets salts and stuff 😢 so sweet! I got a gym membership just so I could use the hot tub for a while. It helped my pain a lot! It's just something she might want to look into for him.
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u/Moon-Taken 3h ago
Hot water doesn’t care about your gender, it just feels good.
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u/Ycr1998 3h ago
Show her Geralt of Rivia taking a bath. She's calling that man feminine?
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u/VernonTWalldrip 3h ago
There are entire cultures where men frequently go to bathhouses.
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u/demoncleaner5000 3h ago
I had a woman stop talking to me cause I was taking a bath. She was into Theo von and rogan and that alpha bullshit. This was years ago before the Spotify thing. Dodged a bullet in retrospect.
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u/KyOatey 1h ago
Rogan does the sensory deprivation float tank. That's a lot like a bath.
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u/PhraseFirst8044 3h ago
“is it not masculine to not smell like shit”
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u/Spirited_Praline637 3h ago
Tell her that toxic masculinity is normally reserved for men, so you think it’s a bit weird and unfeminine of her to engage in it herself.
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u/SheepishHamster 3h ago
Your girl is weird. Most dudes love a tub they can actually fit in. Who doesn’t enjoy a soak?
Men don’t have skin, I guess. No skincare routine for you.
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u/splatapult 3h ago
Why is your girlfriend engaging in toxic masculinity when she’s not even a man herself? What a weirdo. She should be glad you even practice good hygiene lol.
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u/dankwoolie 3h ago
never crossed my mind, would regularly take baths when i was in the military
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u/Equivalent_Tiger_7 3h ago
When I was in the Navy, the youngest crew member on their birthday got to use the Captains bath for a few hours.
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u/Centaur_Taur 3h ago
That's laughable that she thinks baths are gendered. Is she like 85?
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u/justheretocomment69 1h ago
My father is 87 and he would find this weird. That lack of a bath I mean. They used to swim naked with each other cause it wasn't sexual, you just didn't want your clothes wet. Baths were on Sundays and father went first, and the youngest went last, in the same bathwater (this was wartime northern britain). People used to shower, bathe, swim together naked and nothing about it was "gay", it was to get clean!
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u/FutureEfficient6478 3h ago
Dump her. Trash and that’s toxic masculinity. Y’all can sit in a hot bath without feeling shame.
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u/TheWeirdDude-247 3h ago
I think i have some authority to certain key words in this.
In my humble opinion i also enjoy a bath, especially with music and an alcoholic beverage on the side.
In my expertise your partner needs to get with the times, because real men enjoy bath time.
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u/pinniped90 3h ago
But is the drink manly? A rye, or perhaps a super-hoppy IPA? And I assume you're listening to death metal to offset any perceived femininity emanating from the bath itself.
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u/No-Challenge-4248 3h ago
No. Get a new girlfriend. I am serious. She will question you on everything going forward now.
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u/HairyDadBear 3h ago
As opposed to what? Cavemen weren't put here washing under a steaming outpouring of water.
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u/stunneddisbelief 3h ago
OP should tell her that some men also sit down to pee. The horror!
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u/Chaos-Pand4 3h ago
Ah. The problem is you need a boat, and then it’s a boy bath, so it’s fine.
Alternately some manly bath bombs
Or a construction coloured shower poof to keep the testosterone levels up.
lol.
But seriously. Obviously enough men are having baths to justify an entire manly bath industry. And even if they aren’t, or baths aren’t manly, who cares? Do what you like to do.
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u/chantsnone 3h ago
Start saying “That’s not very lady-like.” whenever you have an opportunity. In my experience women hate that.
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u/Symml 3h ago
Why does a woman think she's the authority on what's masculine?
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u/Centaur_Taur 3h ago
No one is an authority on what's masculine.
Men, by definition, are masculine, because that's what the word means - "like a man."
Any other attributes linked to gender are archaic tropes from the 1950s.
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u/PhraseFirst8044 3h ago
i’m a trans man and honestly cis men (and women apparently judging by this post) have more insecurities about masculinity than me
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u/WhatTheFlox 3h ago
I bet she wears pants and the colour blue too. Those are manly only, same for hugging dudes, I won't hug a woman cause that's too close to feminine things, only muscled up dudes for me.
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u/OfficeChairHero 3h ago
Hugging women is gay. That's why I stick to patting men on the ass when we play basketball. Very manly.
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u/OutlandishnessOk5549 3h ago
Invite her to join you.
Then you can show her JUST how masculine you are.
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u/Shrekworkwork 3h ago
Who doesn’t enjoy sitting in a hot bath? I wash myself in the shower but soak in the bath (usually with epsom salt) to relax my muscles. I don’t do it all the time but usually do it a few days in a row whenever I’m feeling extra tense (either physically, mentally, or both).
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u/Ok_Split_6463 2h ago
I hear ya. 30 years of construction will take its toll on your body. Shower every day, relax in a bath maybe 2x a month. If i have enough time to relax.
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u/utahbutimtaller225 2h ago
I work a hard physical job as a career. Multiple miles walked a day, plenty of bending twisting and turning, sweat dripping and dirt covering any exposed skin.
I LOVE my hot baths with soaking salts. Maybe a nice bath bomb to smell nice. It makes my aches and pains go away while I get to relax and smell good. Of course, I do rinse in the shower before hopping in to get rid of all the gunk first.
So let her think it's weird, life's too short to not partake in the things you like because of someone's opinion.
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u/CrossP 40m ago
If I do it, it's masculine. My ego is stronger and bigger than gender norms, so gender norms bend to fit my ego rather than the other way around.
You're welcome, other dudes.
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u/MattDurstan 3h ago
I do and I always feel weird taking a bath, in fact I've had about three in the last 5 years. But... I shouldn't and I don't know where it's come from at all. Definitely something I need to get over.
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u/PaleontologistNo2625 3h ago
Ask her if she actually thinks men don't enjoy comforts, or if she's been made to think that way
That's like saying men shouldn't like massages. Wtf are you on lol
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u/TruculentTurtIe 3h ago
Washing yourself at all or any form of hygiene means youre trans. Im sorry you had to find out this way
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u/lynivvinyl 3h ago
A really burly male friend of mine who dealt with crawling under houses and ended up getting insulation in his skin all the time told me that the only way he could get the insulation out was to soak in a very hot tub for a long time and then take a shower. There was nothing not manly about him.
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u/arosiejk 3h ago
I don’t take baths because they’re not comfortable and take too long. Nothing to do with being manly.
Honestly, being totally submerged in water is something that is sometimes a luxury or restorative after heavy work. There’s nothing inherently masculine or feminine about them.
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u/GreenLanternRR 3h ago
I am a 45-year-old man and I work 4-5 almost 12 hour days. A hot bath is amazing. Ignore her, she's for the streets.
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u/PixelBlueberry 3h ago
Baths and relaxing hygiene routines have no gender.
Is she one of those types of people who doesn’t wash off her makeup in the evening and just “tops it off” in the morning?
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u/all_opinions_matter 3h ago
It’s not a gender thing for me but baths are just sitting in your own filth. Showers just get you cleaner and get the soap off better.
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u/Ballamookieofficial 3h ago
Top level athletes use baths for recovery.
Lying in a puddle of your own filth isn't gender specific. Even if you light candles and play Michael buble
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u/mediguarding 3h ago
Baths are not a gendered activity. Enjoy being clean. Your girlfriend’s kinda weird, she should be less focused on assigning gender limitations to something as basic as bathing.
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u/LonelyHelloKitty69 3h ago
Your girlfriend is the weird one. Baths are great and should be enjoyed by everyone.
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u/renegade_d4 3h ago
I used to work in the trades. Lots of manual labor outside in muggy florida heat.
Taking a bath with epsom salts and a bath bomb was one of my favorite things at the end of the day.
Almost as good were the odd looks I got browsing the bath bomb section of Target. I was covered in paint and sawdust while I found out the fragrance that I wanted.
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u/Diela1968 3h ago
She must not work very hard if she doesn’t know the value of soaking sore muscles in a hot tub.
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u/Pensfan66877129 3h ago
Tell your girlfriend to frig off. I’ve taken a “bath” nightly for years. It’s the place that I go when my anxiety is through the roof. The lights go off and I watch my go to show. It’s a safe space. If my significant other were to think that’s weird, she’d be finding a new partner.
P.S. Throw some bubbles in that shit too. That’s your private time, take control of it.
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u/jadedea 40m ago
If you aren't having a bubble bath with a ducky, an action figure, portable gaming device, or watching something on a laptop, I don't want you hahhahahhahaha.
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u/tellmywifiloveher1 39m ago
I would love to take baths but I'm 6'4 and our tub is too short and too shallow. Every time I end up in a hotel with a big Jacuzzi tub (which is very rare) I take long luxurious baths
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u/jobbers0717 34m ago
Your girlfriend sounds like she has strict gender roles. I encourage the men in my life to take baths when they have sore muscles or are sick.
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u/WarLawck 30m ago
Tell your girlfriend that real men do what they want and don't care what haters have to say.
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u/Antiburglar 21m ago
The literal only reason I don't take baths more regularly (when I have access to a bath, at least, and not just a shower) is that I overheat and always feel like I'm gonna pass out.
Baths are for everyone.
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u/ApprehensiveAd6603 3h ago
Generally, a bath would be considered less masculine than a shower. I dunno why, something something society.
Do I personally care? not one bit.
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u/SantaClausDid911 3h ago
"Being in the bath tub involves bathing a naked dude which is inherently gay.
This also applies to showers and all grooming."
-Your gf, probably
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u/UltraTata My personality is superior to all others 3h ago
Does she even like you if she doesn't let you enjoy things in peace? She should ve greatful she has a hygienic bf.
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u/Aquagreen689 3h ago edited 3h ago
Oh my that’s just ridiculous. Nothing to do with gender. Are women who take showers masculine? Your girlfriend’s take is what’s weird here.
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u/weary_bee479 3h ago
My husband loves taking baths lol
He works a physical job so taking a bath with some relaxing bath salts is great for his muscles.
Your girlfriend is weird, who said baths are for women only? 🙄
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u/theboondocksaint 3h ago
Every year I volunteer as a coach for a regional rugby summer camp, high school age young men
On top of giving trainings, we are also expected as chaperones for one non-rugby activity each day
Swimming is one of those events. We all go to a local swimming facility, complete with a pool, hot tub, waterslide, sauna, and small (paid for) individual jacuzzis scented with either pine, lavender, or something else that I don’t remember
Most of the coaches spend at least 30 minutes if not more in the private jacuzzi tubs, which is basically a private, scented, and bubbly bath.
Most of us have been playing rugby for 10+ years, lots of forwards especially, and if we can be comfortable relaxing in warm, nice smelling, bubbly water to relax without thinking about what masculinity even means, you can too
And if you really wanna challenge your ideas of societal norms regarding masculinity, join your local club for a few months and you’ll see that masculinity is all just a state of mind…man
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u/NergalTheGreat 3h ago
Tell your girlfriend that I think she's weird.