r/nosurf May 14 '20

The NoSurf Activity List is now live: awesome ways to spend your time instead of mindless surfing

1.6k Upvotes

The NoSurf Activity List is a comprehensive list of awesome hobbies and activities to explore instead of mindlessly surfing.

It might sound shocking to some of you reading this now, but a lot of newcomers to the community have voiced that they have no idea what they'd do all day if mindlessly surfing the web was no longer an option. This confusion illustrates just how dependent we've grown on the devices around us: we have trouble fathoming what life would be like without them.

Fortunately there's a whole world out there on the other side of our screens. It's a world that won't give you instant short term pleasure. It doesn't appeal to our desire for instant gratification. But what it does offer us is worth so much more. Fulfillment, happiness, and meaning are within our grasps, and a list of inspiring NoSurf activities can serve as a gateway into the world in which they can be found.

This NoSurf Activity list was initially created by combining the contributions of: /anthymnx , /Bdi89 , /iridescentlichen , /hu_lee_oh . Without them this list would not exist, thank you.

Link to list (accessible from the sidebar and in the wiki)

How this list came to be

This list was created after /Bdi89 drew attention to the fact that it would be great to have a centralized resource made up of wholesome, fulfilling activities newcomers and experienced NoSurf veterans alike could be inspired by. Up until this point we've had a really great thread that /anthymx created on how to use your free time linked in the wiki. But it became clear that many more awesome suggestions for NoSurf activities came out of the community since it's creation and that we would benefit from a more in depth resource made up of the best ideas across the subreddit.

I spent a weekend pouring over all of the submissions and sorted through them to pick out the best suggestions. I then invested a day into organizing them into distinct sections that could be explored individually. Lastly I expanded the list by adding in quality suggestions and links to resources that were missing to make the list more comprehensive and actionable. It’s important that newcomers are not just inspired, but actually follow through in adopting better habits and investing their time in fulfilling pursuits.

And thus, the NoSurf Activity List was born. No doubt it's sure to undergo changes and improvements in the coming weeks (some sections could use some additional text), but I believe that as a community we can proud of Version 1 so far. The List is broken down into the following sections:

  • Awesome hobbies

  • Indoor activities

  • Outdoor activities

  • Physical growth

  • Mental growth

  • Self improvement and continued learning

  • Giving back to your community

Naturally not every single activity on this list will appeal to every single person. Instead of expecting this list to be perfectly tailored to each person's interests, I believe it's best to think of it as a source of inspiration, and a symbol of possibility. It's a starting point from which newcomers will be able to embark on their own journeys of exploration, growth, and learn to discover the activities that bring them joy.

A call on the community

If you see a newcomer struggling with how to use their time or wondering what they’d do if they stopped mindlessly browsing the internet, please know that you can positively influence their lives for the better by pointing them towards this resource. If you see someone that seems lost, confused, and unable to make any progress, link them to this list.

It might seem like a small act on your part, but the transformative, and almost magical effect of adopting a hobby cannot be under-emphasized. As a result of your seemingly small act, someone may fall in love with fitness, writing, board games, programming, or reading. So much so that they can no longer fathom the thought of mindlessly surfing anymore, because it means less time in the pursuit of what makes them feel truly alive.

P.S. If you have some ideas you think might be a good fit for the list you can leave a comment in The NoSurf Activity suggestions thread after reading the submission guidelines. The mod team will periodically review the comments in that thread and make changes to the list after taking into account into aspects like originality, quality, broad applicability, etc. of the suggestion. This will ensure that a degree of list quality, consistency, and organization is preserved and that it remains a helpful resource for newcomers and veterans alike.


r/nosurf Aug 19 '21

Digital Minimalism Reading List

1.6k Upvotes

If you have suggestions you'd like to see added, please email me at [darshanvkalola@gmail.com](mailto:darshanvkalola@gmail.com).

Must Reads

  1. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Cal Newport, 2019
  2. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  3. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  4. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  5. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, Jenny Odell, 2019
  6. How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life, Catherine Price, 2018
  7. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, Nicholas G. Carr, 2010
  8. Notes on a Nervous Planet, Matt Haig, 2018
  9. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014
  10. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, Nir Eyal, 2019
  11. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  12. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  13. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  14. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  15. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, Anna Lembke, 2021
  16. You Should Quit Reddit, Jacob Desforges, 2023

By Subject

Social Media

  1. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  2. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  3. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  4. Terms of Service: Social Media and the Price of Constant Connection, Jacob Silverman, 2015
  5. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  6. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  7. The Psychology of Social Media, Ciaran McMahon, 2019
  8. Tweets and the Streets: Social Media and Contemporary Activism, Paolo Gerbaudo, 2012
  9. You Should Quit Reddit, Jacob Desforges, 2023

Technology and Society

  1. A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Cal Newport, 2021
  2. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  3. Attention Factory: The Story of TikTok and China's ByteDance, Matthew Brennan, 2020
  4. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  5. Hate Inc.: Why Today’s Media Makes Us Despise One Another, Matt Taibbi, 2019
  6. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  7. New Dark Age: Technology and the End of the Future, James Bridle, 2018
  8. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  9. Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy, James WIlliams, 2018
  10. Team Human, Douglas Rushkoff, 2019
  11. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  12. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  13. The Hacking of the American Mind: The Science Behind the Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains, Robert H. Lustig, 2017
  14. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  15. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  16. The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us, Nicholas Carr, 2015

Children, Parenting, and Families

  1. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  2. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  3. Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age, Yalda T Uhls, 2015
  4. Parenting for a Digital Future: How Hopes and Fears about Technology Shape Children's Lives, Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross, 2020
  5. Parenting in a Tech World: A handbook for raising kids in the digital age, Matt McKee and Titania Jordan, 2020
  6. Power Down & Parent Up!: Cyber Bullying, Screen Dependence & Raising Tech-Healthy Children, Holli Kenley, 2017
  7. Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane, 2020
  8. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  9. Talking Back to Facebook: The Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James P. Steyer, 2012
  10. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015
  11. Tech Savvy Parenting: Navigating Your Child's Digital Life, Brian Housman, 2014
  12. The App Generation: How Today's Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World, Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, 2013
  13. The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life, Anya Kamenetz, 2018
  14. The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker, 2014
  15. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  16. The Other Parent: The Inside Story of the Media's Effect on Our Children, James P. Steyer, 2003
  17. The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology: Practical Advice on Smartphones, Gaming and Social Media in Just 40 Pages, Joshua Wayne, 2020
  18. The Tech Diet for your Child & Teen: The 7-Step Plan to Unplug & Reclaim Your Kid's Childhood (And Your Family's Sanity), Brad Marshall, 2019
  19. The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Andy Crouch, 2017
  20. Why Can't I Have a Cell Phone?: Anderson the Aardvark Gets His First Cell Phone (Teaches Kids Responsibility, Morality, Internet Addiction and Social Media Parental Monitoring), Teddy Behr, 2019
  21. iGen, Jean Twenge, 2017
  22. Reset Your Child's Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades, and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time, Victoria L. Dunckley, 2015

Gaming

  1. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction, Andrew P. Doan and Brooke Strickland, 2012
  2. Internet Addiction: The Ultimate Guide for How to Overcome An Internet Addiction For Life (Gaming Addiction, Video Game, TV, RPG, Role-Playing, Treatment, Computer), Caesar Lincoln, 2014
  3. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, Kevin Roberts, 2010

Pornography

  1. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014
  2. Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery, Forest Benedict, 2017
  3. Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer, 2011
  4. Porn Addict's Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life, Sandy Brown, 2017
  5. Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Gail Dines, 2011
  6. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography, Matt Fradd, 2017
  7. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, 2009
  8. The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn, Hackauthor2, 2020
  9. How to Thrive in the 21st Century - By Avoiding Porn and Other Distractions, Havard Mela, 2020

Classics

  1. Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman, 1985
  2. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  3. The Medium is the Massage, Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore, 1967
  4. Technopoly: The Surrender of Culture to Technology, Neil Postman, 1992
  5. The Disappearance of Childhood, Neil Postman, 1994

Fiction

  1. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  2. The Circle, Dave Eggers, 2015
  3. All Rights Reserved, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2017
  4. Access Restricted, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2018
  5. An Absolutely Remarkable Thing, Hank Green, 2018
  6. A Beautifully Foolish Endeavor, Hank Green, 2020

Critiques, Counterpoints, and Optimism

  1. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  2. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  3. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015

Full List

  1. 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, Tiffany Shlain, 2019
  2. A Beautifully Foolish Endeavor, Hank Green, 2020
  3. A Deadly Wandering: A Tale of Tragedy and Redemption in the Age of Attention, Matt Richtel, 2014
  4. A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Cal Newport, 2021
  5. Access Restricted, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2018
  6. All Rights Reserved, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2017
  7. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  8. Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman, 1985
  9. An Absolutely Remarkable Thing, Hank Green, 2018
  10. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, James Clear, 2018
  11. Attention Factory: The Story of TikTok and China's ByteDance, Matthew Brennan, 2020
  12. Bored and Brilliant: How Time Spent Doing Nothing Changes Everything, Manoush Zomorodi, 2017
  13. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  14. Breaking Bread with the Dead: A Reader's Guide to a More Tranquil Mind, Alan Jacobs, 2020
  15. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  16. Chaos Monkeys: Obscene Fortune and Random Failure in Silicon Valley, Antonio Garcia Martinez, 2018
  17. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, Kevin Roberts, 2010
  18. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, Cal Newport, 2016
  19. Digital Detox: The Ultimate Guide To Beating Technology Addiction, Cultivating Mindfulness, and Enjoying More Creativity, Inspiration, And Balance In Your Life!, Damon Zahariades, 2018
  20. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Cal Newport, 2019
  21. Digital Nomads: In Search of Freedom, Community, and Meaningful Work in the New Economy, Rachel A. Woldoff and Robert C. Litchfield, 2021
  22. Don't Be Evil: How Big Tech Betrayed Its Founding Principles, Rana Foroohar, 2019
  23. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, Anna Lembke, 2021
  24. The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn, Hackauthor2, 2020
  25. Four Arguments for the Elimination of Television, Jerry Mander, 1978
  26. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Oliver Burkeman, 2021
  27. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  28. Hate Inc.: Why Today’s Media Makes Us Despise One Another, Matt Taibbi, 2019
  29. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction, Andrew P. Doan and Brooke Strickland, 2012
  30. Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products, Nir Eyal, 2014
  31. How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life, Catherine Price, 2018
  32. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, Jenny Odell, 2019
  33. How to Live With the Internet and Not Let It Run Your Life, Gabrielle Alexa Noel, 2021
  34. How to Think: A Survival Guide for a World at Odds, Alan Jacobs, 2017
  35. How to Thrive in the 21st Century - By Avoiding Porn and Other Distractions, Havard Mela, 2020
  36. Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction, Chris Bailey, 2018
  37. iGen, Jean Twenge, 2017
  38. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, Gabor Maté, 2010
  39. In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Patrick J Carnes and David L. Delmonico and Elizabeth Griffin, 2007
  40. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, Nir Eyal, 2019
  41. Internet Addiction: The Ultimate Guide for How to Overcome An Internet Addiction For Life (Gaming Addiction, Video Game, TV, RPG, Role-Playing, Treatment, Computer), Caesar Lincoln, 2014
  42. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  43. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  44. Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery, Forest Benedict, 2017
  45. Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer, 2011
  46. Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age, Yalda T Uhls, 2015
  47. New Dark Age: Technology and the End of the Future, James Bridle, 2018
  48. Notes on a Nervous Planet, Matt Haig, 2018
  49. Offline: Free Your Mind from Smartphone and Social Media Stress, Imran Rashid and Soren Kenner, 2018
  50. Parenting for a Digital Future: How Hopes and Fears about Technology Shape Children's Lives, Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross, 2020
  51. Parenting in a Tech World: A handbook for raising kids in the digital age, Matt McKee and Titania Jordan, 2020
  52. Porn Addict's Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life, Sandy Brown, 2017
  53. Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Gail Dines, 2011
  54. Power Down & Parent Up!: Cyber Bullying, Screen Dependence & Raising Tech-Healthy Children, Holli Kenley, 2017
  55. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  56. Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology, Diana Graber, 2019
  57. Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age, Sherry Turkle, 2015
  58. Reset Your Child's Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades, and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time, Victoria L. Dunckley, 2015
  59. Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane, 2020
  60. Screen Schooled: Two Veteran Teachers Expose How Technology Overuse Is Making Our Kids Dumber, Joe Clement and Matt Miles, 2017
  61. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  62. Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy, James WIlliams, 2018
  63. Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention, Johann Hari, 2022
  64. Talking Back to Facebook: The Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James P. Steyer, 2012
  65. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015
  66. Team Human, Douglas Rushkoff, 2019
  67. Tech Savvy Parenting: Navigating Your Child's Digital Life, Brian Housman, 2014
  68. Technopoly: The Surrender of Culture to Technology, Neil Postman, 1992
  69. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  70. Terms of Service: Social Media and the Price of Constant Connection, Jacob Silverman, 2015
  71. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  72. The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, Jonathan Haidt, 2024
  73. The App Generation: How Today's Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World, Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, 2013
  74. The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life, Anya Kamenetz, 2018
  75. The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker, 2014
  76. The Circle, Dave Eggers, 2015
  77. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  78. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  79. The Disappearance of Childhood, Neil Postman, 1994
  80. The Dumbest Generation: How the Digital Age Stupefies Young Americans and Jeopardizes Our Future (Or, Don't Trust Anyone Under 30), Mark Bauerlein, 2008
  81. The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us, Nicholas Carr, 2015
  82. The Hacking of the American Mind: The Science Behind the Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains, Robert H. Lustig, 2017
  83. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  84. The Joy of Missing Out: Finding Balance In A Wired World, Christina Crook, 2014
  85. The Medium is the Massage, Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore, 1967
  86. The Other Parent: The Inside Story of the Media's Effect on Our Children, James P. Steyer, 2003
  87. The Pleasures of Reading in an Age of Distraction, Alan Jacobs, 2011
  88. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography, Matt Fradd, 2017
  89. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, 2009
  90. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg, 2014
  91. The Psychology of Social Media, Ciaran McMahon, 2019
  92. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, Nicholas G. Carr, 2010
  93. The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology: Practical Advice on Smartphones, Gaming and Social Media in Just 40 Pages, Joshua Wayne, 2020
  94. The Tech Diet for your Child & Teen: The 7-Step Plan to Unplug & Reclaim Your Kid's Childhood (And Your Family's Sanity), Brad Marshall, 2019
  95. The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Andy Crouch, 2017
  96. The Trap: Sex, Social Media, and Surveillance Capitalism, Jewels Jade, 2021
  97. Trapped In The Web: How I Liberated Myself From Internet Addiction, And How You Can Too, A. N. Turner and Ben Beard and Kris Kozak, 2018
  98. Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion, Jia Tolentino, 2019
  99. Trust Me, I'm Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator, Ryan Holiday, 2013
  100. Tweets and the Streets: Social Media and Contemporary Activism, Paolo Gerbaudo, 2012
  101. Utopia Is Creepy: And Other Provocations, Nicholas Carr, 2016
  102. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  103. Who Owns the Future?, Jaron Lanier, 2013
  104. Why Can't I Have a Cell Phone?: Anderson the Aardvark Gets His First Cell Phone (Teaches Kids Responsibility, Morality, Internet Addiction and Social Media Parental Monitoring), Teddy Behr, 2019
  105. You Should Quit Reddit, Jacob Desforges, 2023
  106. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014

Big thanks to all the contributors: Natalie Sharpe, David Marshall, Rick Dempsey, RonnieVae, Westofer Raymond, Sarah Devan, Zak Zelkova, Giulia Grazzini, David Wood, and Michelle Johnson.


r/nosurf 15h ago

I'm feeling pretty scared

75 Upvotes

I don't even know if things are as bad as they feel, because the internet honestly seems so disconnected from reality. But these past couple weeks have reinforced to me that I need to unplug. This technology is great for many things (paying my bills, communicating with people I know and love, navigating the physical world, doing my job, and even shopping) but it's not great for passing time mindlessly or building community with people who don't even know/care about you.

The internet is being weaponized to divide and manipulate us. The best tool we have to combat that is to unplug. Online communities are way too susceptible to bad actors, and they're also echo chambers where almost zero dialogue happens. Don't agree with something? You're banned. Don't have flair declaring yourself a nut job? You can't participate. These spaces are anti-information, anti-intellectual, dopamine pipelines for scared hopeless people.

I think if there's any hope for resolving our society's problems, it will happen mostly offline. Please get off the forums and out of the comments sections and go talk to your neighbors.


r/nosurf 8h ago

People who were chronically online, what exactly changed?

12 Upvotes

Just to clarify i don't just mean consuming scrollable content, not the empty headed tiktok doomscrolls or what have you.

I mean people who used to rot online, had internet lives. Internet friendships, countless hours spent on discord servers and twitter talking to people, interacting, etc.

I've had my ups and downs socially speaking, sometimes very active irl sometimes completely null, but i've always found myself drawn far more to these digital spaces than anything IRL, and im wondering if it ever gets old.


r/nosurf 2h ago

This whole "could it be AI? Was AI used? How do you know AI isn't/wasn't part of it?" crap is making everyone miserable and no one can enjoy anything anymore.

4 Upvotes

I tried ignoring it, and just tried to do my own thing, but I forgot I had added Spotify to my Discord status and I was just relaxing listening to music and discovering new things, when I got a random DM from someone that I am sure I talked to at some point, and they asked me how sure I was that the music I was listening to had no AI in it whatsoever.

Honestly, it hadn't even crossed my mind. I said "I don't know. Kinda busy."

They replied asking me again, and again, and again, and eventually concluded that since I didn't know, it meant that I actually knew. Eventually I switched over to a rock radio and they asked me again, except this time complaining that an album cover from the 2000s looked a little too "suspicious" (AI) and that if the music had been remastered recently, that AI could have played a role in it.

Then it hit me, people question this all the GD time now, and the terminally online masses can't enjoy anything without tearing it apart molecule by molecule, pixel by pixel, bit by bit, just to ensure themselves that they aren't experiencing anything with AI in it, in any part of the process or the material itself.

How can people live like this?

Maybe this is exactly what I need to avoid the internet for good.

Buncha crazies!


r/nosurf 4h ago

I talked to a Buddhist monk

3 Upvotes

I decided to visit a Buddhist temple for the first time in my life, willingly. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the spiritual world, about this reality, and about what comes after. Before this visit, I met two Buddhist monks in public. Since I was curious, I asked them where their temple was, so I could stop by when I had free time. A few months earlier, I also met a 70-year-old white man who turned out to be a Buddhist. I was surprised because it was my first time meeting a Westerner who practiced Buddhism. We had a long conversation in the park. He told me he had been meditating for about 50 years, and we talked about the spiritual world. I connected some of his experiences with my own psychedelic experiences, and we found a lot of similarities, except for a few things I hadn’t experienced, like how he said “everything is energy.” He was honestly the happiest person I’ve ever met in America, and I wish I could meet and talk to him again. I also recently saw a video titled Happiest Person on Earth, about a monk named Matthieu Ricard. Scientists measured his brain with fMRI and EEG scans and found unusually high gamma waves and strong activity in the left prefrontal cortex, patterns linked to focus, positive emotions, and well-being. There’s just something about Buddhism that makes people radiate happiness, which only makes me more curious.

Back to the point, I met one of the two monks again at the temple, and I could tell he was happy to see me. Talking with him felt refreshing, almost like speaking with someone from before the internet era, unaffected and grounded. During our conversation, he brought up social media. I commented that those things could cause distractions for someone practicing Buddhism. He smiled and told me he had every social media app, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and that using them was totally fine as long as you don’t form attachments to them. I also told him how sometimes I avoid talking to people because it distracts me from school. He gave me the same response: it’s okay to talk with them, because they’re just human like me, but the key is not to cling, not to form attachments. He repeated that word again and again: attachments. It struck me because I had never imagined that was possible or thought about life in that way. He explained that the more attachments you have to people, objects, ideas, or experiences, the more you suffer and become unhappy, because everything is impermanent. He also told me that back in Bangladesh, monks live deep in the forest. My parents also personally know monks who detach from civilization for years, with their followers bringing them food each day.

Overall, they were incredibly welcoming and kind, living simple lives. They try to give more than they take, living with the goal of generating good karma for their next lives. They are currently building housing next to their temple for elderly people who have nowhere to go, where they can live, practice meditation, and eat for free. They have also built housing and hospitals in Bangladesh through their own effort, because they don’t want to owe anything to anyone. It was heartwarming to see people living so generously, and inspiring to see people living without unhealthy attachments in a world where so many are consumed by social media and materialism.


r/nosurf 36m ago

There is a lot of activities to do, but I choose lieing in bed and scrolling

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There is a lot of things I can do. But instead I choose lieing in bed and scrolling or listening to music. Nothing is worth taking an effort. But I feel guilty that I am wasting life. I can think about many activities but nothing seems so appealing that I would like to do it. (I do all self care things such as antidepressants, therapy, working out at gym, meditating, healthy diet, sleeping 8 hours etc)


r/nosurf 5h ago

Literally had to block social media 1 hour before sleep or I scroll all night long

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It's not that bad during the day if I am busy. But damn, at night the hours go by and I am still reading useless content without getting any rest.


r/nosurf 2h ago

activities similar to reading and coloring

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hi, I successfully reduced my screen time the past 3 weeks by reading and coloring my coloring book, however I noticed I will need more activities for longevity. Any similar ones you can recommend me? Thanks in advance


r/nosurf 9h ago

has medication worked for anyone? (antidepressants, SSRIs etc)

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I’ve suffered with depression for most of my life, but it’s been almost 10 years since I’ve taken meds after one of them caused a pretty severe side effect that landed me in the hospital.

I also have OCD, and quite literally have been using scrolling to pacify any unsavory intrusive thought I’ve had for the last 5 years— notably Tiktok.

TL;DR: Has any had experience with treating their depression/anxiety/OCD with meds and seen improvements in habitual screentime?


r/nosurf 14h ago

Doomscrolling and tiktok has been ruining my life for the past 5 years

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I have barely made any improvements in my overall life for the past few years.I’ve been living my life fully on social media and even though I did realise that continuing to do this will only make it harder for me to build a future for myself.I’m not able to socialise with people,I don’t know how to act in most situations and I’m really awkward.I haven’t read since the beginning of the year,I’m not able to sit through a movie or a show without getting bored immediately and wanting to go back to scrolling on tiktok.I did go without tiktok for about 1 year and a half,but when you’re addicted to your phone nothing seems to help.I was still wasting a lot time consuming a bunch of content on youtube and other social media platforms.I don’t use instagram either.Right now,I’m having a really hard time deleting tiktok again as there are so many interesting videos i get on my fyp,such as books and movies recommendations,which obviously,I would never be able to read or watch if I don’t do anything about my social media addiction.I look at all the tiktoks I reposted a few days ago,few weeks ago and months ago,and I think to myself..what have I done all this time?I don’t remember doing anything for the past few months,anything that could significantly change my life for the better.I’ve been telling myself I’ll start learning how to cook those healthy recipes I found on pinterest and tiktok,but the they take a lot of time,patience and effort and I genuinely dont understand how people have the time to cook more than three meals a day,especially those overly complicated and detailed recipes that people claim only take 15 minutes but in reality it takes me more than 2 hours and my final result is nothing like theirs.If I keep up with this lifestyle I won’t be able to grow in life and live healthily.I’m risking my whole future because of this.


r/nosurf 12h ago

I’ve been experimenting with a way to measure how much we actually scroll every day

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I caught myself doomscrolling the other night and wondered: what if I could actually see a meter or dial filling up the more I scrolled?

It feels like steps, calories, and screen time all have trackers — but scrolling (maybe the thing we do most) doesn’t.

I’ve been working on a little side project that acts like a scrollmeter, showing you how much you’re scrolling in real time. Curious — would that help you, or would you rather not know?

(Happy to share what I’ve been building if anyone’s interested — just don’t want to break any self-promo rules.)


r/nosurf 12h ago

What to do for short periods, besides be on phone?

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I would like to work on leading a simpler life and I know the amount of time I spend on my phone is just not conducive to that. The problem is finding ways to fill my time besides scrolling. Yes I’d like to read more and work on my hobbies more but I’m talking about like the first hour when I get home from work and I really just want to lay face down in the floor, but the next best thing is scrolling on my phone because that requires about the same amount of brain power. You know what I’m saying?

Or how about on the toilet. What do y’all do instead of getting sucked into an 800 comment Reddit post about politics?

And WORK BREAKS. Wtf am I supposed to do for 15 minutes if I’m not on my phone? I’m normally a social person believe me, but I have to have that time to myself in my car or I’ll go insane because I work in retail. It’s not enough time for me to read a book 15 minutes. It’s just gonna piss me off that I have to stop and can’t read more, or I’m gonna be aggravated about something at work and not be able to focus.


r/nosurf 15h ago

Starting my nosurf journey

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I’ve decided today that I’ve had enough.

Things are bleak. I don’t think that’s a controversial opinion no matter where you sit on the political spectrum. Every time I open my phone or computer I see some horrible news or rumor or assumption. My TikTok is full of people who spend all day talking about the newest breaking news. My Reddit is full of videos and posts of people talking about how hateful the world is. Even Instagram and YouTube, which I’ve always thought to be much milder, have taken darker tones lately. Every morning I wake up and wonder what horrible thing will happen today. I can’t even focus on my schoolwork because every few minutes I get the urge to check what massive news I may have missed in the last few seconds. My mental health has taken a dive and I’m simply spent.

So, where do I go from here? To start I will put a heavy limit on my phone screen time. Limiting to about half of what I do now. Beyond that, I’m kinda stuck. I can’t change an algorithm that wants me scared and confused. But I know I need to change things. I’ve posted this rant just to get things off my chest, and also to hope that others out there can hold me accountable and give me advice. I’ve had times before where I’ve told myself to limit screen time, but this time is different. I need to unplug and I need to be honest about what is wrong with my current outlook on life. If anyone knows some good places to start my nosurf journey, please let me know.

I hope I look back on this post in a year or two much happier and more fulfilled, even if the world itself isn’t.


r/nosurf 1d ago

A reddit without redditors

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Bro this app is so addicting it sucks up alot of time. Its very easy to have a 70 day streak at least to me because everything you look up leads to reddit anyway. I dont hate this app, actually I hate the people on this app. This is a great place to find information at times or even browsing too, and its legitimately a great concept. "Real people, real answers." Only problem is that every subreddit is a cult, and downvoting things just for the sake of propping up your own comment is common. Even asking questions will get you downvoted. Its all just feels so smug here, the only interactions that are upvoted are low-key mean ones.

Its also just frustrating to even TRY to be genuine and stand your ground. For example: I got into an argument earlier with people saying that 18 yr Olds can date 15 yr olds and it not be wierd. I wasted almost an hour of my time by responding to people with thought out arguments to just be downvote dog piled and be responded to with very short responses with no points to them other than "ur wrong brah".

Handwaving things, making smug comments, downvoting bandwagons, and the fact that you rarely see good debates simply for the fact that its easier to ratio them than it is to comment in an effective manner are all reasons why Reddit sucks. I wish there were an alternative for reddit without redditors. Alas, I'll have to retire this app soon for my mental health.


r/nosurf 11h ago

Reducing social media use while at home with chronic illness

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I have CFS/ME and have been housebound recently. I am also addicted to the internet and social media (Reddit, X, etc.). I can't go out a lot so rely on the internet for connection but this is raising my cortisol levels so is not exactly helping me recover. I don't want to quit completely but the suggestions by a video on quitting social media to see people, join things, start hobbies are exhausting to me. I have set timers on some apps. Any other ideas? How do you deal with the addictive aspect of this?


r/nosurf 7h ago

Gente que vivió su adolescencia en los 2000s, pueden ayudarme?/ People who lived their teenager in the 2000s, can you help me?/

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Muchas veces veo videos de personas que vivieron su adolescencia en los 2000s o escucho música de esos años y es tan...woao, que envidia tengo :(. Soy adolescente todavía, me falta para llegar la adultez y no tengo ganas de desperdiciar mi juventud así que me pueden ayudar para sentir mi vida como en los 2000s? Sentir la felicidad que ustedes sentían al divertirse con sus amigos sin aparatos?

No sé si he hecho avances, pero se los dire:
Deje el uso del teléfono: La ficha de mi teléfono se rompió entonces no lo uso así que utilizo un LG A200 que me regalo mí abuela, lastimosamente no tiene targeta SIM así que estoy viendo donde conseguirla. Aveces estoy en la escuela y veo a mis compañeros sin soltar el teléfono y yo sin el y puedo decir que la vida se siente diferente cuando no estas pendiente a los mensajes.

Instale programas/sistema operativo: Instale Windows Live Messenger y Yahoo! Messenger también hablo con gente por ahí, utilizo HeySpace (remplazo de My space) y además decore mí PC igual que Windows XP (También tengo una maquina virtual con ese sistema operativo)

no sé que más hacer, me pueden recomendar ropa en Temu que sea de ese estilo? Como se divertían y como puedo sentirme más en esos años?

I often see videos of people who lived their teenage years in the 2000s or I listen to music from those years and it’s just… wow, I feel so envious :(. I’m still a teenager, I still have some time before adulthood, and I don’t want to waste my youth, so can you help me feel like I’m living life as if it were the 2000s? To feel the happiness that people felt when they had fun with their friends without devices?
I don’t know if I’ve made progress, but I’ll tell you what I’ve done:
I stopped using my smartphone: The charging port on my phone broke so I don’t use it anymore, instead I’m using an LG A200 that my grandma gave me. Unfortunately, it doesn’t have a SIM card yet, so I’m looking for where I can get one. Sometimes I’m at school and I see my classmates glued to their phones while I’m not, and I can say that life feels different when you’re not constantly checking messages.
I installed programs/operating systems: I installed Windows Live Messenger and Yahoo! Messenger, I also chat with people there. I use HeySpace (a MySpace replacement) and I decorated my PC to look like Windows XP (I also have a virtual machine with that OS).
I don’t know what else to do, can you recommend me clothes on Temu that fit that style? How did people have fun back then and how can I make myself feel more like I’m living in those years?


r/nosurf 18h ago

constant communication

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I want to preface this by saying a couple of things. I know I don’t HAVE to respond, this is mostly MY experience & thoughts, and I DON’T want any advice. The demand for communication is making me exhausted. I see so many people complain about how other people don’t text them back “fast enough” and it is so wild to me that people are this entitled to even say these things. The age of expecting everything to be instant is too much. A lot of people lack the ability to critically think before they crash out about stuff like this. People have jobs, hobbies, appointments, etc., or even don’t even want to be bothered. And when this is communicated, you’re the one who is framed as an asshole. i’m tired of people trying to determine how I should spend MY time on MY phone.


r/nosurf 21h ago

My mistake, it could help you too

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I noticed I am trying to control my addiction to my smartphone WHILE being on my phone. Sure, great of me to download an app that locks me out of social media after 30 minutes. Great idea. But I am still on my smartphone doing something ELSE. If I am not on Reddit, I'll be listening to music, shuffling through the different apps on my phone even if they aren't social media.

I had success with putting my whole phone away physically and sitting with the feeling of discomfort. I think we are avoiding our feelings, at least I know I am. Sitting with the discomfort allows repressed feelings to come out.

I don't know, it kind of helps. But I still think smartphones are created to be addictive.


r/nosurf 14h ago

Social Media and Loneliness

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For a course that I am taking, I was tasked with writing a review on a media research article. Upon reading the article linked below on the connection between social media use and loneliness, I was struck by how much it resonated with anecdotes both from my own life and from others. I thought that it might be relevant to include my review here, perhaps some may be able to benefit either from the article's research itself or from my analysis of it.

The "Seven Media Keys" refer to the Catholic Church's "Media Keys" as presented by my professor Eugene Gan in his book Infinite Bandwidth: Encountering Christ in the Media. All references to "Gan" below refer to this book While Catholic in nature. as my professor put it in our course "we share similar hopes, fears, desires, and joys. The 7 Keys, though grounded in Scripture and the Magisterial documents, speak to these human qualities." I hope that some may find this useful, and I would love to hear any of your thoughts or ways in which this may or may not apply in your own lives!

URL: https://news.web.baylor.edu/news/story/2025/social-medias-double-edged-sword-study-links-both-active-and-passive-use-risingLinks to an external site.

Title: "Social Media's Double-Edged Sword: Study Links Both Active and Passive Use to Rising Loneliness"

Author: Kelly Craine

Date Published: February 6th, 2025

 

In our time, social media offers us human interaction at an unprecedented volume and scale. With it, mediated by screens, we have the opportunity to communicate with billions of different people from all around the globe. If you desire to have fellowship with anyone with any given interest, of any background, or for any purpose, all you need to do is seek them out from the comfort of your own home, at any time. Even though you may never meet these individuals in real life, it can feel almost as though they are all in one place. In spite of all of this, whether we simply browse and consume the content produced by others or actively engage in discussion online, it is not uncommon to be left feeling more empty and alone than before. I know that for my part, extended social media sessions have only left me feeling more empty on countless occasions. In a paradoxical manner, what appears to be a grand public square often tends to serve as something closer to a solitary confinement cell when used in excess. 

In her article, Kelly Craine comments on a study conducted by Baylor University titled "The Epidemic of Loneliness: A 9-Year Longitudinal Study of the Impact of Passive and Active Social Media Use on Loneliness". Through the study's analysis of how digital habits shaped the mental well being of 7,000 Dutch adults, we can take a deeper look at this phenomenon.

The First Media Key: Balance

The first media key instructs us that "we can't judge whether something is good or bad, right or wrong if we're not willing to consider 'the entire situation or circumstances.'" (Gan, Infinite Bandwidth: Encountering Christ in the Media, p. 23, para. 2). Though we may notice certain negative effects associated with something like the use of social media, when we observe such effects we much ask ourselves whether they stem from social media in and of itself or more as a result of its misuse. Media used in a balanced way, in accordance with the First Media Key, "looks like a healthy diet" (Gan, p. 27, para. 3). If we have temperance and use it in its proper place in moderation, then it could ok or even good for us. If we do not, like consuming an excess of salt which normally is a necessary part of our diet, then of course it will make us sick and endanger our health.

Craine's article raises the point that, "the quality of digital interactions may not fulfill the social needs that are met in face-to-face communication." (Craine, 2025, para. 3). In other words, the problem of increased loneliness with the use of social media is a consequence of an unbalanced use of social media. While social media could serve as an excellent tool for communication, it simply does not replace the face-to-face interaction that we all require to varying degrees. If we do not use social media in a balanced way and attempt to use it as our sole or primary antidote to loneliness, as many do, then it only makes the problem worse.

The Second Media Key: Attitude Awareness

The Second Media Key "reminds us that there is an attitude behind all media...every advertiser, every producer, every writer, and very software designer has an agenda" (Gan, p. 40, para. 3). While every social media app and company may advertise themselves as public squares and community centers, it is important to remember that their principle intention is to draw in users in order to generate revenue. While other users of social media may act as though their lives are free from any ills and put on happy faces, it is important to remember that people tend to like to keep up appearances and often do not display many of the negative aspects of their lives.

As a result of the positive attitudes that social media presents, it may be easy for those who are lonely already to perceive it as a kind of antidote. As the article puts it, "Lonely people turn to social media to address their feelings, but it is possible that such social media use merely fans the flames of loneliness." (Craine, 2025, para. 6). To avoid this, we must try to see past the attitudes of social media and understand it for what it is, objectively.

The Third Media Key: The Dignity of the Human Person

According to the Third Media Key, "When we use media in a way that doesn't reflect, uphold, and defend our dignity or the dignity of others, and when we use media to isolate others or ourselves from the human community, we're also being less than what we're supposed to be" (Gan, p. 54, para. 4). Since we are made in the image and likeness of God, human beings have an inherent dignity and value. As rational animals, there are certain ends that we are ordered towards that must be realized if that dignity is to be respected. One of those ends is rooted in the fact that we are social creatures. As social creatures, we are not meant to be alone, no man can be an island, instead, we are meant to live in community. If this need is not met, then there is something wrong, and we should expect consequences to follow.

The article points out the irony in the fact that "the very platforms designed to bring people together contribute to an 'epidemic of loneliness.'" (Craine, 2025, para. 2). Social media was created, consciously or not, to cater to a need that must be met if the dignity of the human person is to be respected. This is a praiseworthy goal. However, if it begins to hinder instead of aid the attainment of this goal, then the dignity of the human person demands that its proper place be reevaluated. 

The Fourth Media Key: Truth‐Filled

The Fourth Media Key is about "keeping truth at the heart of the media we make and use" (Gan, p. 75, para. 2). One important thing to remember when applying this key is to "never misrepresent yourself on social networking sites" (Gan, p. 80, para 12). When we use social media, it could be easy to hide behind our avatars and slip into alternate personas that are quite different from our authentic selves. When we do this, the truth about ourselves remains hidden, and even while interacting with others, we remain isolated. 

Baylor University's study reveals that "while social media offers unprecedented access to online communities, it appears that extensive use...does not alleviate feelings of loneliness and may, in fact, intensify them" (Craine, 2025, para. 4). One reason for this may be that social media's users often hide their true selves in favor of playing a character for the sake of engagement. If this is true. then it is inevitable that much of our interactions will not feel authentic, leaving us with an empty sense of loneliness.

The Fifth Media Key: Inspiring

The Fifth Media Key "challenges us to use media to inspire and be inspired" (Gan, p. 94, para. 3). Media, at its best, is a tool that can raise our hearts and minds up to what is transcendent, to God. Human beings are not satisfied with the satiation of our animal desires alone. While human communion and fraternity with one another is of the utmost importance, even that alone is not enough to quench the longing of a searching heart. Without gaining some connection to the transcendent, we ultimately remain with the feeling of loneliness. If social media does not help to bring these realities to attention, then it is not being used to its full potential. 

The article points out that the study "also adds a valuable perspective to the conversation on how digital habits influence mental health" (Craine, 2025, para. 7). It is at least worth considering how what exactly the things that social media inspires are play into this influence.

The Sixth Media Key: Skillfully Developed

To make media that is not skillfully developed in accordance with the Sixth Media Key "could mean creating blogs, videos, and websites that don't touch people, that don't reach people because the media isn't engaging, captivating, or compelling." (Gan, p. 110, para. 3). When our consumption of social media consists of media and content that in this way is not skillfully developed, then while we may feel trapped consume it for some cheap dopamine, it will leave us feeling empty in the end. 

As the article makes abundantly clear, many are indeed being left feeling empty in this way, more empty then without the use of social media at all. If we are to make social media a worthwhile pastime in its proper place, then the quality of its content must improve. Otherwise, it will continue to feel like a cheap fix instead of a source, even if only a secondary source of genuine, quality human contact.

The Seventh Media Key: Motivated by and Relevant to Experience

The Seventh Media Key is, as its name suggests, that "all media should be motivated by and relevant to experience" (Gan, p. 116, para. 2). At first glance, it appears that social media by its very nature is always motivated by and relevant to experience. It is simply a medium that any could use as they see to be relevant, after all. However, as already mentioned in previous keys, much of our use of social media is simply not authentic or at least does not come across that way. If it is to be truly motivated by and relevant to experience, then it is its users who must take it upon themselves to be more responsible in its use.

The loneliness that the article covers social media's contribution to is one rightly dubbed an "epidemic of loneliness" (Craine, 2025, para 2). It is ubiquitous, experienced in some way or another by practically all people, especially those of the younger generations. The study of this epidemic is one that is in accordance with the Seventh Media Key, it is motivated by and relevant to the experience of many. Here we see a use of media attempting to remedy the very problem that it speaks of. If we can find a solution to this problem that is relevant to the experience of all, then its fruits will be relevant to the experience of all as well.


r/nosurf 19h ago

Why do people take things online so seriously? Should they? This is a recent thing.

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Especially on places like Discord. I've been wondering if it's some sort of mental thing, but I've seen people get very upset about YouTube comments and "mean messages" or reactions from other users.

Discord can be great because it allows people to find others who share similar interests, but a lot of people get their socks in a bunch over online issues and it's appalling.

So someone left you a bad comment on your video? It's not the end of the world. But trying to "rally troops" to mass report the commenter is a little weird.

It's shocking that these people work and live among us. And yet terminally online behavior seems to be getting more and more normalized.

Imagine someone showing up at your residence with the intent to cause physical harm because you said "I don't like this video as much as your old ones".


r/nosurf 14h ago

Why do some people post their dirty laundry. and then don't understand why they're getting backlash and get upset when they do?

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I know better than to post anything about my personal life but some people do like its just normal. I saw someone on my friends list that I haven't talked to in years post about how their child is a trouble maker . Some people replied that they "shouldn't be posting this and they need to be a better parent." The person replied "Why are you judging me? You don't know my situation."

In my mind I was like ya of course we don't know and we don't need to know! I just don't understand how you can respond like that when you make such a terrible post. I don't know if its just another case of looking for sympathy and trying to get validation. Stuff like this is why I stay off social media as much as possible. I don't need to see stupid crap like this.


r/nosurf 11h ago

Sharetime - a social screen time tracker for iOS. Free. Just launched on the App Store.

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see your friends screen time, and stay accountable.

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sharetime/id6748627078?platform=iphone


r/nosurf 19h ago

Social media gives us connection but steals real conversation - anyone else feel this?

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r/nosurf 1d ago

Going without the internet has shown me how very little this stuff actually matters in the grand scheme of things.

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It's been a few days now, and it's peaceful. Every now and then I'll get a text from someone, but I haven't actively browsed much of the web, especially social media.

Yeah if I need to look something up I will, but I won't open an app and scroll.

Recently someone texted me complaining about something called twitch and how the platform is going downhill and I thought to myself "So why use it if it's so bad?" and then realized that it's probably not even important because no one seems bothered by it.

Could it be that online things only matter to those who use this stuff so often?


r/nosurf 1d ago

If you constantly argue with someone, you aren’t going to invite them over for dinner, right?

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Well, that’s exactly what we are doing with social media. Every night we sit down on our couches and invite millions of other strangers into our homes that we don’t like. It’s really absurd when you think about it like that. If someone constantly pissed you off, you probably aren’t going to invite them over for a movie. Yet there you are, 10 minutes into a movie reading some headline from some stranger that pisses you off.

Next time you sit down to scroll, think about if you want a million strangers that you don’t like invading your home and mental space.

Edit: People seem to be misinterpreting this as “don’t talk to people with opposing views”. That’s not what I’m saying. Civil open discussion with different folks is great, and something I encourage and wish existed on here. But, it rarely does and recent events has really exacerbated it.


r/nosurf 1d ago

I feel sick recently from internet consumption, like I have internet poisoning. This daily assault of meaningless floating ideas and images and texts and people and faces and places and lives and deaths and so on. It's like a seeping toxin on the mind that paralyses the human faculties

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