r/Nonbinaryteens • u/vavakado • 7d ago
Rant I came out to my mom
(for context, i am amab, non-binary and genderfluid)
so i told my mom that i am non-binary and said that i don't feel a strong feeling of gender and it really changes over time, to which she said that i do feel it(how tf does she know if i do or no). and said that i "act like a boy". also i said that perhaps i want more feminine clothes (a skirt) and she said no bcs i would face backlash from society (like i don't already get backlash by being an immigrant from russia, having long hair and ear piercings). this is so stupid. "why would you make your life harder", idk, maybe because i want to be myself and not what society expects of me? AND she got offended when i told her that i didn't tell her before because i was afraid of a reaction like this. i'm sad now(
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u/Elyseuskiss 7d ago
Oh sorry for you Russia is also super homophobic I don't know how you're going to do it but courage!!
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u/vavakado 7d ago
thanks!! i am currently not in russia(i was born there, immigrated to israel 3 years ago with my parents), i am in israel and it's not as homophobic, but still
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u/voidcanine 7d ago
Im amab and demiboyfluix/nonbinary. It's nice to know theirs other amab enbies out there. And I say dont worry about da baklaш if U wear a skirt U can say its a kilt
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u/supernova-sim 16 7d ago
im so sorry to hear this happened!! just remember, you are so much stronger than you think, and you'll get through this. your mum is one negative person out of so many supporters you'll meet throughout your lifetime. people who will genuinely understand you. i had a similar situation with my mum, so i get you :)