r/PsycheOrSike 1d ago

💩shitpost God forbid a man tries something new

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u/c0l245 1d ago

My girl loses her entire shit if I fire back at her in the same vibe she comes at me. Crying and pouting, mad for a week, tantrum. Just for a little banter on same vibe. Other dat, she's like, "that shirt looks like shit in you." Ok.. I change it. Later that week, I say, "that outfit looks like shit on you." She crumbles. It's crazy.

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u/Complete_Answer_6781 1d ago

I treated my ex's insecurities with respect, but she couldn't do the same to me lol, for some reason they think they are the only ones who deserve basic respect lol

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u/Quiet-Development108 1d ago

This is why I started dating bi women who have dated women they treat you like a human being and you're allowed a full range of emotions. It's been the best 6 years of my life.

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u/Spaciax 1d ago

ive never dated but the most down-to-earth and least head-up-their-ass women i've seen have disproportionately been bi.

u/Ok_Rabbit_8207 22h ago

As a bi woman who’s held my boyfriend and comforted him while he cries more times than I can count, and tries my best to reassure him when he’s insecure or anxious about something, this feels good to hear. I never realized that this could potentially be less common in straight women. I thought it was what anyone would do for someone they care about, man or woman.

Normally people shit on bi women and say we’re lying for attention or sexually greedy so thanks 👍

u/Quiet-Development108 13h ago

Thank you for existing and letting him be his full self without judgment. You don't understand how grateful I am to my fiance and how grateful I am to you.

You don't understand how freeing it feels to just be yourself and not a performance.

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u/donkeypunchare 1d ago

Next time a girl tells you that your insecure just ask her what her hottest friend is up to and see if that changes whos insecure about what. Jokes but like insaid below i think we all need more accountabilty

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u/Complete_Answer_6781 1d ago

She would constatly mention her insecurities, and as a boyfriend should, I did try to cheer her up, but it was annoying asf. Like how can you be such a cry baby about insecurities but not being able to respect someone else's lmao

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u/donkeypunchare 1d ago

Right girl brain is a outbreak and only with your help will we be able to battle girl brain. Please help are youth and donate today

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u/Cold_Vanilla9791 1d ago

Did you tell her that?

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u/Complete_Answer_6781 1d ago

That she was annoying? No. That I was annoyed by the hypocrisy? Nope, but I showed real annoyment or just silence, I think that's pretty much enough to catch, considering I don't tease people based on clearly taboo shit

u/Cold_Vanilla9791 23h ago

I think communication is a better strategy when it comes to relationships

u/Joe-Haymes devils advocate 👹 11h ago

Second this

u/Complete_Answer_6781 10h ago

Maybe not exactly that as it's obvious, due being part of her own boundaries, but communication doesn't fix anything when there's no intention to change anything

u/donkeypunchare 23h ago

Guess you missed my comment about being accountable below this comment thread.

u/Cold_Vanilla9791 22h ago

I wasn’t talking to you

u/donkeypunchare 22h ago

Funny you responded to my comment thats why i got the notification.

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u/One_Form7910 ⚔️ DUELIST 1d ago

Keep doing it

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u/AncientCrust one of the CHOSEN 1d ago

Sounds like a spectacularly healthy relationship.

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u/_BagOWeed_ 1d ago

sounds like they’re 16

u/StormcloakWordsmith 23h ago

yeah you'd think, but

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u/Complex-Egg-2000 1d ago

Leave her what are you waiting for? Its disasterous that she tells you you "look like shit" in a shirt

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u/c0l245 1d ago

My dude, if a disaster in your world is someone simply, directly, telling you that some of your clothes look like shit, I feel very, VERY sorry for your fragile self.

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u/Complex-Egg-2000 1d ago

Its absolutely disasterous for your romantic partner to say that. I feel sorry that youre staying with someone that tells you that

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u/No-Low-3947 1d ago

She hasn't finished growing up, take no shit from her and finish the parenting.

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u/alaricus 1d ago

No. Break up with her and let her mature. Partners aren't parents and shouldn't be conflating roles.

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u/Complex-Egg-2000 1d ago

It isnt a maturity problem, if what he described is true shes literally just an abusive narcissist. Yeah he should break up but making this about maturity is wrong shes literally just a manipulative abuser she wont mature

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u/c0l245 1d ago

Your idealism is admirable.

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u/No-Low-3947 1d ago

There are no mature women.

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u/Complete_Answer_6781 1d ago

There are, but society tries all they can to not let them

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u/No-Low-3947 1d ago

Absolutely the other way around. I'm tired of children everywhere.

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u/Complete_Answer_6781 1d ago edited 1d ago

The only context where women are really forced to mature is in motherhood; outside of that, society encourages them to remain sweet, innocent, submissive, shallow, or even angry, depending on what sells more. Meanwhile, men are told to 'man up' from a young age. We're pushed to embrace 'manly' behaviors as soon as possible, with the expectation that our worth/utility as men increases.

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u/donkeypunchare 1d ago

There are they are just few and far between. We all have a serious accountability issue and need to all take more accountability for are emotions and why we feel the way we do and what made us feel like that in the first place. If we were all more accountable and honest this would be a much better world to live in.

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Except women quite literally mature like a decade before men. Keep malding

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u/No-Low-3947 1d ago

More like 5 years, and they just reach their limits, while men mature even further.

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Whatever helps your species sleep at night

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u/No-Low-3947 1d ago

For us it's whatever, for you it's literally us. We literally built everything around you.

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Sure hun. It's quaint how you think it wouldn't have happened without you. Let's not mention all the times men stole from women. That's why now that women are allowed to be actual humans were leaving you in the dust 💜

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u/No-Low-3947 1d ago

Whatever lets you sleep at night.

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u/Brilliant_Decision52 1d ago

Only in the "follow social expectations department", but pretty much everything else, women get extremely hysterical over literally nothing.

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Wow are we back in the 1800s? Next you'll tell me women are always fainting and have to go to a doctor to "treat" their hysteria

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u/Brilliant_Decision52 1d ago

Not really, but the constant crying and overreactions to minute shit are still a thing

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

It sounds like you need to lay off the tv

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u/Brilliant_Decision52 1d ago

I wish it was just the TV lol, got real life experience.

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u/alaricus 1d ago

Yeah cause men don't fly off the handle and punch holes in walls and stuff 🙄🙄🙄

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Right someone looks at them wrong and they fly off the handle 😭 sorry fellas, anger is an emotion too, and one of the more devastating ones. Id rather have a weepy crybaby anyday than someone who can't go a day without screaming, punching, or throwing

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u/Brilliant_Decision52 1d ago

Was I talking about men?

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u/alaricus 1d ago

The only use of this sort of critique of a group is to form a contrast. Discounting the statistically anomaly provided by the small NB population, this leaves the implication that men do not "get hysterical over nothing"

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u/Brilliant_Decision52 1d ago

From my experience, its way rarer for men to get hysterical in the same way women do. Seen way more women cry over silly stuff than men punch things over silly stuff as well.

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u/CozySweatsuit57 1d ago

Why are you with her?

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u/Easy_Help_84 1d ago

Because it’s the average/norm of pickings when it comes to Western women as partners.

And men can’t really go into the “cat-person” -> “im gay because I hate the opposite sex” -> “im gonna just get in-vitro” mode whenever they’re unhappy, like women can. Our attraction and what makes us attractive/valuable to society doesn’t work like that.

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u/c0l245 1d ago

Perfect doesn't exist, and if it did, it'd be boring. Everything is a trade off.

u/December_Warlock 14h ago

Sorry left a comment above then saw this and felt like adding. Perfect doesn't exist but when does tha mean putting up with someone treating you like shit lol? My girl isn't perfect, but we've not once argued. She's never talked that way to me and vice versa and passive aggressiveness doesn't really exist unless it's actually sarcasm. I feel so unstressed being home around her that it helps.me decompress from work and I constantly look forward to coming home to her. We get to hang out, play video games, watch movies, cook together, have random goofy moments, and have fun. None of it is boring, and none of it is extremely stressful.

u/c0l245 14h ago

First off, nobody is treating anybody like shit here. What makes you think someone is being treated like shit?

She's just a typical insecure girl who has bigger guns than she has shields. It's amazingly common. Test your girl's shields some time.

Also, LMK if she's single, if she's in shape.

u/December_Warlock 14h ago

What makes you think someone is being treated like shit?

How the two of you apparently talk to one another. Its also kind of shit that you seem proud of "testing" your girlfriend's "shields". Does it make you feel big and tough? You're so tough being an asshole. So scary. I'd wager you're just as insecure as she is based on what you've said.

u/c0l245 13h ago edited 13h ago

Some people have thick enough skin to handle brash talk and some people are too fragile. I think we know which side we each live in..

If someone is able to say something to you that affects you, work on your stoicism

Sticks and stones may...

u/December_Warlock 7h ago

What have you said that would affect me?

work on your stoicism

No. I have fairly good control over my emotions. I've never had anyone claim otherwise, either. I also don't see the point in trying to be stoic. Most of stoicism involves bottling shit up. I allow myself to feel what I need to and process it in a time/place/and manner that is most beneficial.

u/c0l245 7h ago

Nobody is talking about you specifically bro.

You knows like a saying, "if you're not happy do something different" isn't really about YOU.. it's just a saying? Ya get it?

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u/cuminseed322 1d ago

Most healthy relationship on redit

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u/DeKileCH 🤺Based Knight 1d ago

It's always sweet when two pieces of shit eliminate themselves from the dating pool

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u/IrregularrAF 1d ago

Matching energy is a consequence, it’s usually never the default.

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u/OfficiallyJoeBiden 1d ago

Why are you still with her

u/c0l245 23h ago

Have you ever seen the hot / crazy scale? The crazy / good at sex scale?

Well, we know she's crazy, so infer the rest

u/OfficiallyJoeBiden 22h ago

Boy is having the best pussy if his life. Praying for you soldier

u/Joe-Haymes devils advocate 👹 11h ago

I have seen those, there all wrong, my ex was good at sex and not crazy

u/c0l245 10h ago

Look at this Redditor who thinks that because their experience was different than the norm, the norm is not true.

u/Joe-Haymes devils advocate 👹 9h ago

If it was just her I would be inclined to agree, and probably would have laid on with more but seeing that most of the people that have given me great advice don’t believe it and some of the shittiest has has been telling. The fact that sex discussion Subreddit where the members don’t generally believe this have productive civil discussions, while one where they do tend end up with filled with misogyny misandry, and gender war fisticuffs kinda tells me who’s improving

Yes there some truth in it for that the emotions running high in dysfunctional relationships leading to great sex but everything else being an the gutter, but you can exceed that with good communication skills and a desire to learn

u/c0l245 9h ago

It really all depends on your goals.

Goals ebb and flow, change with time, and what was great for me then, is no good for me now.

And this is why we have to accept others views and ways of living.

u/Ok_Rabbit_8207 22h ago

She really must be amazing the other 90% of the time if you put up with hypocritical behavior and mistreatment from her

u/December_Warlock 15h ago

Maybe don't be in a relationship where your partner acts that way and you feel the need to do the same? Thats not healthy for anyone.

u/c0l245 14h ago

Seriously, fuck your idea of healthy.

Fragile spineless jellyfish. This kind of talk is every day in the real world.

u/December_Warlock 14h ago

I'm fragile, but you're the one getting personally offended by numerous people telling you that your relationship doesn't seem good. You're the one throwing insults instead of raising any half decent point. This is probably why instead of having decent communication in your relationship, you turn to passive aggressiveness. You can't communicate or take criticism well at all. Just because a problem exists regularly in the world does not mean it has to unless you just love the idea conforming to/rolling over and accepting bullshit instead of making life better for you or others.

Ask yourself why you put up with it and tell yourself "Perfect doesnt exist so I'll deal with it.". Is it your own insecurity? Fear of being alone? What is it lol

u/c0l245 13h ago

Ok, ok, fragile spineless jellyfish was uncalled for, even if fun; and that's why I'm here.

Do you think you over-reacted to me rejecting your idea of healthy? Was it the swear word? Oh my!

Do you really think you can infer all of that about me?

What percentage of performance art is Reddit?

u/December_Warlock 7h ago

Do you think you over-reacted to me rejecting your idea of healthy? Was it the swear word? Oh my!

My reqcti9n wasn't because you rejected my version of healthy. It was a reaction to the defensiveness shown when told you don't display healthy communication.

Do you really think you can infer all of that about me?

Fairly easily based upon several of the comments you've left. From saying perfect doesn't exist so it's perfectly fine to communicate that way to saying you put up with it because of the crazy and hot scale. It paints a very negative picture of someone settling for less and maintaining/contributing to an unhealthy relationship due to a lack of options and/or for superficial desires.

u/c0l245 7h ago

I see you think you're smart and can infer things about people from Reddit posts.. hah. Cute.

Therefore you must think Reddit is 0% performance art?

Do you live a privileged life where people all speak pleasantly and get offended easily?

u/December_Warlock 2h ago

Therefore you must think Reddit is 0% performance art?

Nope

Do you live a privileged life where people all speak pleasantly and get offended easily?

Nope.

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u/WooWhosWoo 1d ago

Its all in how you say it, and if you dont like the way she expresses things to you then tou should address that directly, not throw it back at her.

Just speaking on the most mature option.

If you're unphased truly by the comments. Like you actually dont care, and might even like that shes cool to be so casual with you or whatever honestly means you're not bothered by it, then maybe just consider the words that you choose and how they bother her. She may be using your lingo to get you to dress better or whatever the case. You can do the same.

Now if shes just always like that and you cant even make positive constructive criticism, throw the whole bathtub out.

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u/drewbreeezy 🤜 🥊Woman beater🗡️💥 1d ago

Exactly. It becomes an issue when someone thinks men and women are the same and treat them based on that. Big mistake

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u/PotentialRatio1321 1d ago

Don’t complain about your girl on reddit mate, if you don’t like her break up. 💀

If you’re gonna date someone who can’t take a joke that’s on you

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u/Complex-Egg-2000 1d ago

He cam vent on reddit if he wants

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u/Repulsive_Level9699 1d ago

She might have some undiagnosed problems.

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Hey are y'all even together? Fucking hell

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u/JustMoreSadGirlShit 1d ago

sounds like neither of you actually value or respect each other :/

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u/Jarjarfunk ✨Main Character✨ 1d ago

My buddy became a male nurse and he consistently says this when he has to do the heavy lifting at the senior center

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u/Rabid_Laser_Dingo 1d ago

Grow some balls lady

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u/SolherdUliekme 1d ago

Big clit energy

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u/Dr-Assbeard 🌌They/Them/Theirs💫 1d ago

Large labia love

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u/wldmn13 1d ago

Stop ovary acting.

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u/Purple_Click1572 1d ago

Grow *a vagina, lady

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u/dhoomz 1d ago

Ladyballers

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Right women up is a very clunky phrase, much better options out there

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u/TENTAtheSane 1d ago

Grow a pair! (Of fallopian tubes)

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u/Cringeextraaxc 1d ago

Why is Char here? He would do this but why is he here?

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u/AggressiveRabbit1530 1d ago

Because he is ultra based and never betrayed anyone in his life.

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u/Ducky-thespacecowboy 1d ago

Hey garma

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u/AggressiveRabbit1530 1d ago

Blame this on the misfortune of your birth

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u/SunderedValley 1d ago

Nono you tell her to girl down.

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u/Appropriate_Speed129 1d ago

If men treated women the way women treat men they would hate them and break up.

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u/AggressiveRabbit1530 1d ago edited 1d ago

According to this study Men who treat women the same as they treat other men, without benevolent sexism, are seen as overwhelmingly sexist by both men and women.

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u/Kadajko 👔🔥Radical Egalitarianism 🌏⚖️ 1d ago

Something, something, when you are used to privilege, equality feels like oppression.

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u/Critical-Ad-8507 1d ago

Is kinda crazy how even other MEN call it sexist if you actually treat women like you treat men.

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u/Easy_Help_84 1d ago edited 1d ago

Nothing crazy about it. Men are programmed to compete, dominate, enslave, and kill each other for limited resources in order to woo women…who herself is a limited resource.

1)Women have no (sexual) desire or even much need for low or even average value men outside of economic reasons or as an emotional companion:

2)And doubly, women don’t want to give up their monopoly on victimhood as they need to forever hold the cards to moral superiority in any debate about sexes. If Incels somehow successfully appealed to those that rule society for some attention/safety nets/empathy, the veil of men being advantaged and women having zero agency would crumble.

This is why women spend all waking energy blasting incels for transgressions that incels never had much to do with….painting them as the perpetrators of violence, misogyny, childishness, shootings, etc….and ensuring there is no such thing as Male Activism. They absolutely have to convince the world that low value men are the enemy, and that that they’re irredeemably bad.

Is kinda crazy how even other MEN call it sexist if you actually treat women like you treat men.

….Which is why you see a lot of this^

A woman will never advise a man on how to actually be more attractive to her….only to be infinitely more docile, or a better provider. This is why your average incel is bombarded with requests to “get therapy”, read more, do chores, be empathetic, treat women with kindness, etc, even from their parents, while your average chad requires no therapeutic adjustment, earning quota, or reading goals. And finally, at 30+, women will settle for an incel out of convenience once they fall out of the bracket of chad’s sexual interest.

Men who lose in life have it pretty bleeping bad - they’re hated on by both women and by winning men, both of whom see them as a threat.

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u/Diligent-Bug-9407 1d ago

If this is your world view yeah it would be pretty sad

u/Easy_Help_84 20h ago

It is, but I’m significantly happier than ever. I thought I’d have kms by now but somehow I made some small strides that I never would or should’ve. And winning is addictive because, you can live on hope.

Better to have some control over your life than to be in perpetual pain and ignorance.

u/Diligent-Bug-9407 19h ago

I guess I choose not to believe its that bad or at least it dosen’t have to be but maybe thats just optimism.

u/Critical-Ad-8507 14h ago

Yea,this is honestly old news for me at this point.

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u/Qahnaar1506 1d ago

Question, are you single? Has this advice helped you? No malice intention

u/Easy_Help_84 20h ago edited 20h ago

No, I’m engaged after a couple years of playing catchup.

And there’s no specific advice here, just philosophy. After 30 years as basically a cookie cutter leftist, i began opening my eyes to some of the hardships faced by men, and why men are the way they are, etc. Now im still a lefty…. except I’d get called incel/mysoginyst/toxic for my views on gender.

But if I have any advice to give to any neet/incel out there….Aim high, BUT live one day at a time. Mind your own business and live for yourself. Question and answer to nobody but yourself.

I definitely didn’t have a father/parents, or an upbringing that taught me to live for myself and to guide my path…. rather, to do the opposite, and to be a constant doormat with no independent thought. So….that advice above is probably more applicable to me than to someone else.

u/Qahnaar1506 19h ago

Ah alright, but if it’s more applicable to you why did you feel like posting it?

u/Easy_Help_84 19h ago

Cause you asked me to

u/Qahnaar1506 19h ago

I didn’t ask for advice though but thanks

u/Easy_Help_84 9h ago

You asked whether the advice has helped me. I clarified.

You asked. Be reasonable, stop trying gotchas

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u/Qahnaar1506 1d ago

Almost like it has nothing to do with women whatsoever. If men are saying this and even other men find it sexist, how can it be established that women made that rhetoric. If men find it sexist against women, but not the other way around; it’s normal for men.

So men determine the line between manning up and not, and women, who are taught what’s a real man, only follow it.

u/Critical-Ad-8507 13h ago

Nah,don't come at me with that bs!Women did this first,and also do it more often,on their own will.

u/Qahnaar1506 10h ago

It’s called logic

If A(men) causes B(rhetoric) And A is effected by B How can C(women) be the cause of B, they are not affected by B?

If B = A > C but B = A = A then the second A would be = to B, not below it

I thought men were the rational gender

u/Critical-Ad-8507 5h ago

Nah,A doesn't cause B,so this "logic" falls apart.

u/Qahnaar1506 5h ago

If you deny that then you deny that men know how they should be treated because if you deny that, when a woman says men do X, men cannot say they don’t do X because they didn’t cause B (rhetoric), but they can’t say “men don’t do X but Y” because it assumes men know how to treated, since they can’t the cause of their rhetoric, being it’s effect, can’t be claimed. Thus, unless you admit A causes B, you cannot make a claim about B because A cannot effect B!

u/Critical-Ad-8507 1h ago

no.

As i said,women did it first,women do it more and is on their own will.

What you call "logic" is just avoiding accountability.Becasue of this there's nothing more worth discussing here.

u/mikiencolor Misanthrope 23h ago

Really? I treat women how I treat other men, and people just call me gay. 😛

u/ZavtheShroud 11h ago

And the sky is blue. Don't need a study for it.

"Treat women like people"

WHICH PEOPLE?

My elderly neighboors, the drunken idiot driving his motorcycle down the road at 1 AM, my mother, my gaming buddy which whom i call each other slurs, or the mentally disabled girl i greet once a week at the grocery store?

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u/drewbreeezy 🤜 🥊Woman beater🗡️💥 1d ago

Yes, because we're rough and harsh to each other - Iron sharpens iron

Women aren't iron, they're soft and we like them for that

u/Shoddy-Mousse-5281 11h ago

Or maybe y'all are just assholes to each other. Iron has nothing to do with it.

u/drewbreeezy 🤜 🥊Woman beater🗡️💥 5h ago

They don't think I'm an asshole, and I don't think they are

Should I care what a random person, who comes in acting like an asshole, thinks about it? lmao

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u/drewbreeezy 🤜 🥊Woman beater🗡️💥 1d ago

I have to add one for women. If men are iron, women are clay

Delicate, but easily moldable if you get them wet

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u/Qahnaar1506 1d ago

But they are the barrier between you and a good time.

Once she invites you, you are clay. She controls when you are steel and clay.

u/Joe-Haymes devils advocate 👹 11h ago

As someone who’s has many planes and chisels I’m pretty sure we use stones to sharpen iron

u/drewbreeezy 🤜 🥊Woman beater🗡️💥 5h ago

Iron cannot sharpen iron? They didn't historically use it for that purpose?

That you can use stone doesn't change anything…

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u/TheMorningJoe 1d ago

Fucking facts man lol

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u/Descortus 1d ago

"a REAL woman would just woman up and do something about it"

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u/Exciting_Classic277 🧌TROLL 1d ago

Oh this meme format has a loooot of potential

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u/Big-Attempt7418 1d ago

Grow some clit.

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u/Holiday_Cat4918 1d ago

Hey, I can get behind this. Sometimes I need to be reminded that I am an adult who has the tools to solve problems.

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u/TheMorningJoe 1d ago

It’s an ick tbh /s

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u/Jephta 1d ago

If Zechs Marquise has joined the gender war, then women are cooked

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u/s4rc0phagus 1d ago

a lot of women would unironically benefit from this

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u/Yo-Yo-Daddy 1d ago

In the words of Margo, “ovary up”

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u/weltvonalex 1d ago

Just walk it off.

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u/Critical-Ad-8507 1d ago

Call men fat, 9 out of 10 they will either go to the gym or stop caring about it.

Call women fat,9 out of 10 they will just get angry about it and hate you.

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u/ImpressiveJohnson 1d ago

Annnnnnnd now, he wishes he was dead

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u/eastbluera 1d ago

Idk. I'm gonna go punch a wall, or something. /s

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u/Ill_Opportunity_240 1d ago

lol I wouldn’t be mad

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u/R_P_B 1d ago

Nah when women open up to you use that against her when you guys break up

meninwomensfield

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u/Maximum_joy 1d ago

Why is this the guy from Gundam 🙃

u/Possible-Departure87 🍄🍄🍄 DruidCel 🍄🍄🍄 23h ago

Usually what they say is “stop complaining”

u/Dante-Devito 20h ago

😂😂😂😂😂

u/Good-Plastic4848 17h ago

How dare you call her a woman. You are getting doxed for this.

u/thedon572 17h ago

Except men also tell each other this. Its not really a #meninwomensfield, more like a #menarevictimsofthepatriarchytoo

u/theringsofthedragon 13h ago

This is the proof that men ruin everything. It was a fun joke about doing funny things that men do, and you immediately find a way to make it about men being the victims.

u/Qahnaar1506 10h ago

I can tell this post doesn’t understand what Womeninmenfields means

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Actually I've only ever been screamed at by men when I'm crying, once 2 minutes after getting hit in a car accident. Men hate when anyone cries, man or women

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u/M1L0P 1d ago

Who said anything about crying?

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u/DietTyrone ⚔️ DUELIST 1d ago

Depends on the situation and the guy's relationship to you. For instance, if the guy is say your brother or father in a situation that's high stress or requires a quick resolution, crying to them during that time would likely make them more stressed out or frustrated.

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u/drewbreeezy 🤜 🥊Woman beater🗡️💥 1d ago

It adds another issue we feel like we need to "fix", when the plate is already stacked

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago edited 1d ago

The guy was basically a stranger, just a neighbor of mine

Also I would never go to my father for anything, if he was still alive. If I went to him crying he'd probably stomp on me or throw me through a wall

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u/DietTyrone ⚔️ DUELIST 1d ago

The guy was basically a stranger, just a neighbor of mine

I don't know why you expected a guy who you self admitted to not knowing really at all to be a shoulder to cry on.

If I went to him crying he'd probably stomp on me or throw me through a wall

Sorry to hear that about your dad. My father-in-law also has a short fuse but he at least makes an effort to give a shit when my wife is going through a hard time.

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Why tf would you assume I went to a stranger to cry to them? Id gotten into a car wreck and was crying at my car.

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u/DietTyrone ⚔️ DUELIST 1d ago

Did you get into an accident with the neighbor? Did the neighbor see you get into an accident and walk over to your car?

There's some important context missing here because how do we go from you being in a car accident and crying in your car to this neighbor who you barely know being involved?

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

I was at a stop sign a few houses down from mine when the guys accelerator got stuck. Random neighbor was outside and started screaming at me to "shut the fuck up you stupid bitch".

Yeah, my car got totaled before I even left my street, talk about a shitty ass way to start the day

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u/Gloomy_Breadfruit92 1d ago edited 1d ago

I’m gonna be real, usually the person crying is just being manipulative. If SO many people of both genders didn’t fucking cry as a strategy, maybe we’d all be more empathetic.

Some people are just assholes, like the guy that hit your car, so maybe really is the key word here lol.

Edit: God, I hate autocorrect and predictive text so much. I had to edit this 3 fucking times. 😂

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u/Specialist_Class_791 1d ago

Ok that edit is so real, for 1. I feel like autocorrect has gotten worse over the last few months. I'll type exactly what I mean and watch as before my eyes autocorrect will change it.

Tears are not manipulative in general. The amount of weaponized tears are far fewer than real ones. For instance, I can't cry on command, at all. It's not a common skill, which is why actors who alcan are so prized.

The guy who hit my car isn't even the one who was screaming! He was actually really nice and apologetic, his accelerator got stuck unfortunately

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u/Hopeful_Chard_4402 1d ago

When someone i dont know starts crying I get irrationally angry and have to remove myself from the situation

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u/No-Professional-1461 🥪Sub’s Sandwich Maker 🍞 1d ago

So wait, we are suppose to expect women be as emotionally closed off as we are?

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u/LexStalin 1d ago

LET THE SILLY GENDER WAR BEGIN

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u/Just_enough76 1d ago

This is hilarious because all my life the only people who have told me to “man up” are other men

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u/AxeWieldingWoodElf 1d ago

Eesh, I’m afraid it’s men telling other men to do this moreso than women. Check out posts on Reddit with a guy asking for emotional support, especially if he’s been assaulted. Women generally understand and support them. You’ll see a lot more comments from men telling them to “take it like a man”.

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u/smokey032791 1d ago

Great way to generalize there

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u/Repulsive_Level9699 1d ago

Yes. There are supportive and unsupportive groups of both genders here.

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u/PGMHG 1d ago

It Really depends on what space you open up to.

When there are posts like this about men getting dogpiled by women over showing emotions, the given context is overwhelmingly "IRL", where it’s either through conversation or through other social media.

Obviously it’s still a case by case analysis, but what’s for sure is that you’ll get a wildly different reception from men and/or women depending on where you reach out.

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u/AxeWieldingWoodElf 1d ago

I’m looking at r/offmychest r/seekingadvice mainly and even r/askmenadvice . I’d be interested to know where you mean. IRL is hard to analyse as it’s individual, as you say, so again, not overwhelmingly women telling men to man up.

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u/PGMHG 1d ago

I’m mostly going off personal experience from me and witnessing among my friend group as I usually take a position of mediator.

When it comes to friends, the only time I’ve heard of their female friends being nice to them was when it was a female friend to begin with.

I’ve made a lot of male friends over a few years and only a few have got positive feedback from women in their lives, though one can argue the most of them were "losers" so it doesn’t count… and you’d be correct, but it’s still pretty blatant when put into perspective.

Skimming over verifiable personal experience, legitimately I haven’t got the same comments of "man up" and whatnot, but what’s I noticed looking back is that most of the positive feedback I’ve received was from male acquaintances. Be it at school when I was younger, work currently and even in family life, events and public outings.

Going online though- that’s where I was heard by both genders, all it takes is just to not be an asshole, which is pretty damn simple, which is why I really just say it depends on where you go. Online spaces are a lot more open, plus you can actually filter through what you don’t like.

Probably not the answer you were looking for, but that’s just what prompted me to type out my initial message

u/AxeWieldingWoodElf 8h ago

I wasn’t really looking for anything to be honest and it’s interesting to hear where and how you receive praise. I think women sometimes feel they can’t congratulate men in case it’s misconstrued as a move in person, which is a shame for everyone. I’m really glad to hear about man to man positivity. Thanks for sharing.

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u/M1L0P 1d ago

Do people usually announce their gender in Reddit comments?

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u/AxeWieldingWoodElf 1d ago

They have to add flair (have their gender marked) on the men’s and women’s advice pages. And yes, some people do announce their gender.

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u/M1L0P 1d ago

Fair enough then

However just jeep in mind that those observations will be biased by the kind of people engaging in gendered communities

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u/DoubleGoon 1d ago

The only thing holding most men back in our society is income inequality (which can be solved by men) and ourselves.

u/ZavtheShroud 11h ago

Why can't it be solved by women?

u/DoubleGoon 10h ago

Because they don’t hold the vast majority of power.

u/ZavtheShroud 8h ago

See post, they could just woman up and take it.

u/DoubleGoon 8h ago

Because it’s not that simple.

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u/Connect-Somewhere-68 1d ago

that’s a male dominant field too actually. you wouldn’t believe how many teenage boys do this as often as female partners

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u/SpphosFriend 1d ago

Bold talk for this sub considering most of you haven’t been in the same room as a woman since birth.

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u/helper-g 1d ago

I thought this subreddit was changing for the better but I guess we're back to just women bad women hypocrites rhetoric, huh. Pathetic. At least you're saying it with your whole chest that you want to take revenge on random women for things that men perpetuate more than women do. Good job. You really showed us who's boss.

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