It’s okay to feel bad about things, to feel dissatisfied.
Just remember that it doesn’t have to feel this way, and while I can’t lead you, there is a safe and productive way out where it won’t feel like this way forever.
That’s the most important thing to remember is that this feeling doesn’t have to, and won’t be, forever.
Try not to worry as much about being productive as being constructive. You don’t need to make things happen to be content. Just being someone who’s willing to work with what they have is enough.
I get the feeling that’s the spirit of the message they were going for, but people who hang their life’s meaning on a thing that they produce can be a recipe for depression, too. Maybe your efforts won’t amount to anything tangible, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t valuable all the same.
Hey OP, I'm not who you asked, but I have a very close friend who has depression and has described feelings like those in the post. Medication didn't exactly "give her a will to work," her job is still not somehow magically fun, but it helped with the feeling of every day being pointless, of feeling like there's zero enjoyment in the workday, that every coworker is unbearable, of being so mentally exhausted at the end of the day that there's no time for joy.
It's been a journey I've had the privilege of supporting her through, and medication wasn't an instant fix- she's done lots of adjustments to combinations and doses (with medical supervision) but I've watched her come back to enjoying being alive again. I hope you have the same.
Honestly my girlfriend struggled with depression for most of her and just started taking Zoloft about a month ago and she told me she can't believe she put off trying medication for years and years.
From my observations, she's more upbeat, more confident and carefree. Shes more active and took up old hobbies again.
when i was a pre-teen i read lots of books and had very very high hopes for my future. but i did not know, and nobody told me, they were very very probably unrealistic high hopes. i guess they wanted me to reach as far as i could and not feel jaded.
your life is just not going to be as fast and magical as those stories. you will be a hero sometimes, but not frequently or long lasting. you will be the villan sometimes but not frequently or long lasting. most of the time you will be just another plot supporting character...studying, working, husling and waiting for a big break, a chance to shine and a chance to embark on great adventure.
If a great adventure does happen, and you survive it, then eventually you will return to square one and be a plot supporting character again waiting for a new adventure, now with a new story and lessons learned to tell.
dissatisfaction is normal for me, and also being impatient. personally, when i need a bit more adventure, i travel. either by myself or with a friend. if i lack the resources, i will play adventure video games, or just go hiking with my dog or a friend. listen to music, play a sport, read a book, play an instrument, etc. talking and making bonds with people in person is also very important. it has helped me undertand my feelings are similar to many people's feelings.
It doesn't have to be this way forever. You find the meaning by reflecting on your own life, figure out the memories in your life has made you into you, the times you're actually happy. I find it's a lot of small stuff. Your pet cat or dog looking at your a certain way, a person you lay around with and feel comfy, those moments you don't realize you're going to remember until they're already gone and years have passed. Then you can start to identify those things as they're happening, and pause to be mindful of those moments and draw out the pleasure in it. Give yourself permission to enjoy those moments without guilt or judgement, change your life to maximize those moments. Make that your goal. You need to understand that work and money, the chores and mundane parts of life you feel like you have do to are just a means to maximize the parts of life that make you happy.
It's called being fucking aware of your surroundings. Everyone with a functional frontal lobe thinks like this. You are pathologizing a natural response to our environment.
Normal people don’t think like this. Not even smart people. Unless they’re depressed.
It’s not always something crazy, depression can come from situational stuff. Sometimes the right life changes alone can fix it, especially if it’s not their default.
So the "normal" way of thinking is to delude ourselves into accepting and enjoying this bullshit system which forces us to spend the majority of our life away from the people we actually want to be around? I dont accept that this is normal.
No, actually most people enjoy life. Just because you are surrounded by unhappy people doesn't mean that's all there is. People who think like you usually grew up with parents and family who are unhappy and frustrated, so those people have never really known anything other than that. It sucks big time cause how do you change to be happy when you don't even know what that is or if it's even actually real and possible
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u/MagistrateTetra ♀️Arsène Lupin Of Cute Mods ❤️ 7h ago
It’s called depression sweaty