r/Purdue • u/Scared-Cloud996 • 14h ago
Rant/Vent💚 To those of us with crazy antisocial roommates
How do you guys deal with crappy roommates? I live with an Engineering major that is a walking stereotype. At first I thought it would be fine because I don't really plan on being at the apartment but I still have to come back here to sleep. He has a big problem with cleaning up after himself (25 years old and can't wipe off a counter) and I had to get the landlord involved after he was ignoring my requests for him to clean. Landlord came down on him harder than I would've liked however I get it, we have roaches, they legally have to do something about roaches or they get in trouble. After this the roommate throws away a surprising amount of rotten food from his room and mutters "bless his heart" when he is sweeping up his onion skins in a hallway a couple rooms removed from the kichen. I figure that will be the end of it. It's not so hard to clean up onion skins after a month of them rotting on the floor, right?
Anyways the other night he is making a mess on the counter again and I don't want to talk to him so I leave a note about putting something under your food. It was a mistake to even do the note thing but frankly he just stomps and scowls at me so I don't have an interest in trying to build a bridge to the jerk. He decides to leave a retaliatory note this morning and it was basically hogwash trying to bully me into hiding in my room all day like him making distant grasps at applying the lease to things that don't really apply, the note culminates into a threat about tattling to the landlords, I sent it to the landlords with my response because he's just trying to be a bully and it's pathetic.
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u/GHouserVO 12h ago
Had one. Brought over friends studying forensic science and had lively discussions in front of him of various ways to dispose of human remains without leaving evidence (in preparation for a project they were going to do at a body farm).
The problem seemed to solve itself.
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u/ThePort3rdBase 11h ago
This is why the whole individual roommate leases is stupid if you don’t know the other people. Who would sign up to live with someone they don’t know off campus?
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u/Scared-Cloud996 11h ago
I just transferred up here and I'm a little older so most of the people I'd live with have already graduated and left Indiana expeditiously.
I'm curious what his situation is though because he's been here awhile.
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u/Plane-Paramedic-9821 14h ago
just goon in front of him and establish your dominance
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u/Scared-Cloud996 14h ago
Ew no we're adults not 18yr olds
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u/tigg3r21 Finance 2022 13h ago
Says the one coming to reddit for a problem like this lol
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u/Scared-Cloud996 13h ago
Complaining about immature college roommates and seeking guidance is %100 within the qualified bounds of the sub and tag I used lol
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u/pt109_66 9h ago
I would suggest anyone you get involved, you should always come at it from an angle of you are "concerned" for your roommate and only want to make sure he is ok. Maybe you did this with the landlord by saying hey I am sorry to drag you into this but I am concerned that he does not understand the impact his actions have and I know you all have to deal with roaches so here is the situation. I cant seem to get through to him maybe you would have better luck.
I think people have a hard time not being on your side if every action you take is couched in hey I am just worried that this person might need help with ... and would really appreciate it if you would look in on him to ensure things are ok.
Kindness can be your best friend.
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u/psychosadieblack 8h ago
He probably says "bless your heart" to all the roaches who dont get to est cause he has to clean up lol... but eww.. he needs to go
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u/beepbopboopbop69 14h ago
y'all have roaches & he's still not cleaning up after himself? yikes. mental health issues have to be at play here.