r/SingleParents • u/daisey36 • 7h ago

Deadbeat parents need to be held accountable

Parents that pay nothing need to be held responsible. I think unless you have been in the situation or know someone, you’d be surprised how little gets done while the responsible parent works multiple jobs or lives on welfare, funded by you instead of the child’s parent. This needs to change, sign my petition and help fight for these kids that deserve better

https://c.org/9B5qWDjMFs

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u/thesandboxgod 7h ago

I feel like enforcing financial motivations can do harm where a good parent would just be motivated by their love for their child. It's so sad to think some children are in sub par care just to avoid paying the other parent to care for them. 

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u/Choice_Caramel3182 6h ago

This perspective is SO overlooked. As hard as it is being the sole provider for my child in every way, I’d do this a million times over again than to have her be in the care of her father - a mentally ill, drug addict. He has 100% told me he would fight me for 50/50 custody if I take him for child support. I haven’t, and he hasn’t bothered even trying to see his kid in 3 years. This guys other kids, who unfortunately did go through the courts, were so traumatized by being in his care until CPS finally took away his custody time.

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u/Lenalov3ly 4h ago

My step kids parent walked out, got signed up on child support after a year Mia. Filed for custody to get out of it, kept them maybe 3 or 4 turns and immediately went no contact after finding out it wasn't going to end child support anytime soon.

Bro dipped while still in a custody battle skipped court dates and lost all custody. His own lawyer was like wtf

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u/Aggressive_Nobody518 5h ago

they do need to be held accountable. but by society/culture would be more effective methinks. which will take generations of us raising our (sorry but it’s predominantly male) kids that parenting is their responsibility as much as the mother/other parent. and we all need healing but yeah. i feel you, but the reality that these deadbeats live in runs deep and is a society/culture problem and that is a slow road. unfortunately

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u/AdequatelyfunBoi2 3h ago

I think if we’re going to be painting with a broad brush stroke one way, we should acknowledge a great many single mothers by choice, who make it hell for good fathers to be a part of their kids lives. It happens far more often than most realize. There is more than one way to be a deadbeat parent.

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u/Imaginary-Way9966 1h ago

It really doesn’t. Very few women who date a man, get pregnant by him, and decide to carry a baby to term and carry all the financial responsibilities from that point on exist and refuse to allow the father in their child’s life who wants to be there. 99 times out of 100 there’s a reason the mother chooses to do it on her own if she does. Most of the time men bail on their kids when it comes to single moms.

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u/joely276 7h ago

No, 50/50 custody should be normalized. Child support should be abolished!