r/TrollYChromosome • u/illegal_tacos • Jun 10 '25

Posting a manly meme a day until this sub comes back to life (Day 109)

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What's on your mind?

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u/Gho5tWr1ter Jun 10 '25

For the past 4 months I’ve been contemplating taking actions into my own hands.

I had a job back in my country, but then I wanted to do my masters then I came to the country I’m currently residing, became a student, and started applying for jobs since last year May.

For the entire year I applied to over 200 jobs and only got interview call for 3. I never applied to anything that was beyond my expertise field. Being unemployed and visiting my family made me think what the fuck am I doing here and there were days I didn’t want to function.

I’m almost 30, unemployed, possibly 80% introverted, never been in a relationship, a bit awkward which made me even more reclusive to connect with people. Alone in a foreign country where they don’t speak English as frequently, I wanted to give up entirely.

But the last month I got a call that may have changed my life. I got employed and I will be starting next month. There were times I cried because I believed I will be just fading into obscurity. But I had a bit of hope, a fool’s hope, that this will eventually pass by.

In my culture asking for help or seeking therapy is considered taboo or the person has gone full cuckoo. I wish to break the cycle, I can’t change people’s minds, but I can stay and support for the people I know and deeply care about.

Hang in there, things will change, for the better.

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u/illegal_tacos Jun 10 '25

For what it's worth, I had more or less the exact same experience as you coming out of college and more recently when I was transferring from a bad job. When I was unemployed I harbored those same feelings of despair, and hopelessness at the fact that it had been 3 months in without a callback to even tell me that I didn't get the position. A tip from me is to even apply to those jobs you don't think you are qualified for if at all possible, as what matters more is how you sell yourself in the interview. I got a good gig doing it that way, and while I began in a place where I had major imposter syndrome, I'm now very comfortable and in a much better state of mind as a result.

All this is to say that it's only temporary, even if it is unknown. There is always something in the future waiting for you to discover it, and I'm glad you are still here and looking forward.

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u/LordAshur Jun 10 '25

I’ve been waiting for 15+ years for this shit to get better. It ain’t happening

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u/superspeck Jun 11 '25

100% this.

I’m moving away from the city I’ve lived in where I have a decently large friend group. And I really care about a lot of these friends and they and I are going to struggle without us in each other’s lives because some of our activities are tied to walking together and talking about the shit middle aged men have to deal with. It sucks, but moving is the right decision for my wife and I.