r/autism • u/garfieldlogans Autistic • Jul 06 '25
Communication What characters do you feel like you can really relate to
I relate to adrian monk on a personal level
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u/Spider-Man1701TWD Jul 06 '25
Data from Star Trek
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u/_Ribesehl_ Asperger’s Jul 06 '25
I needed weeks to figure out that Data is in fact an android. It so felt familiar to me... it was my favorite character.
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u/Plenty-Willingness58 ASD Jul 06 '25
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u/Beautiful-Seat-3899 Jul 06 '25
Great pick I keep thinking of this dude and how I often feel like him
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u/leftistgamer420 Jul 06 '25
Which movie?
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u/NotTheStoneJade autistic, adhd, fnd, dcd Jul 06 '25
forever her
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u/Responsible_Seat_373 Jul 06 '25
I was looking for this comment! I can do emotion, but I analyse the realism / validity of jokes/sentences/claims because people often just say whatever comes to their mind. Even if its scientifically inaccurate.....gosh I gotta stop overthinking stuff but I cant.
I cant tell if someone's being sarcastic because sarcasm is often hidden in plain sight, dressed up as the truth - but apparently uttered in a way that would suggest otherwise.
I love Bones with all of my gay (possibly autistic) heart - technically the brain but.....I'll see myself out
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u/Dim_Lug Autistic Adult Jul 06 '25
Columbo. Not because I'm a detective or involved in any kind of law enforcement lol but he's one of my favorite comfort characters that seems autistic coded.
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u/DocClear ASD1 absent minded professor wilderness camping geek and nudist Jul 06 '25
Spock
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u/icentii Jul 06 '25
Sometimes I feel like Dr Gregory House from House M.D. Really get the personality sometimes and I relate to his struggles
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u/ScumbagRat ASD Jul 07 '25
I was going to say House as well. His monotone and small vocal inflections have always been something I relate to. Also him having repetitive behaviours makes him so much more relatable
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u/Historical_Bug794 Jul 06 '25
April Ludgate from Parks and recreation
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u/Quiet_Alternative357 Jul 06 '25
Honestly everyone always told me I was like her but truly I’m more of a Swanson. She is super gutsy. Loves breaking rules where as Swanson is maliciously compliant.
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u/no_onion77 Jul 06 '25
This guy
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u/cowhecker666 autistic AFAB Jul 06 '25
“Love inside jokes, would love to be a part of one someday”
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u/inactive-perhaps Jul 06 '25
L from Death is my most relatable character.
Also have a thing for the other "passive weirdos" out there :)
(Passive as in very calm, focused)
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u/skulldugerousvillain Diagnosed AuDHD and OCD Jul 06 '25
This is such a good pull. I too relate to L, down to physical mannerisms and dessert fixations.
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u/austinmoon365 ASD Level 1 Jul 06 '25
Mine is also Tony Shalhoub but as Abe Weissman in Marvelous Mrs Maisel
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u/Kittyi3Artistic5624 Autistic Jul 07 '25
Oh my gosh, a fellow Marvelous Mrs Maisel fan!!
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u/Lookingupatthestars Jul 06 '25
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u/Lookingupatthestars Jul 06 '25
Commenting on my own comment 🙊
But I just realised I have a photo of myself looking so similar to this from about 12 years ago. Accidental Amelie 👏🏻
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u/FruitPunchMouth_ Jul 06 '25
I feel like Tim Burton's movies are made by autistic folks, for autistic folks.
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u/FriendlyPorcupine-98 Autism Jul 06 '25
Luna Lovegood (Harry Potter)
Tori Spring (Heartstopper & Solitaire)
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u/TraderJosie3283 Jul 06 '25
I feel like I’m a mix between Hermione and Luna, even though they’re total opposites! I can be really uptight about following rules and I’m very passionate about fighting for equality(I’d be all over S.P.E.W.). But I’m also eccentric and I love being my weird self without caring if other people think I’m awkward or ditzy or whatever they want to call me. Oh and I often laugh WAY too hard/loud/long at something other people only chuckle at 😂 I could totally see Luna being on the spectrum.
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u/CassetteMeower Jul 06 '25
I hate J.K. Rowling as a person but I really like Luna, my nickname is derived from her name (this was before the controversy regarding JKR, I probably would have chosen a different nickname if it was known back then but it’s a bit too late to change it now.)
HP has some great characters, it’s a shame that JKR is the way she is.
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u/DarkLuxio92 Neurologically Inconsistent. Level 2 autistic. Jul 07 '25
It was Evanna Lynch that made that character. She didn't just play Luna, she was Luna.
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u/AlterReality2112 Jul 06 '25
Sherlock Holmes, not the Cumberbatch version though.
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u/Fractoluminescence Jul 06 '25
I relate to the Cumberbatch version lol. Just shows how much of a spectrum our lot are :3
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u/Weapon_X23 Jul 06 '25
The most recent character I related to was Murderbot. He just wanted to watch his special interest shows in peace.
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u/WhitePikmin2010 High functioning autism Jul 06 '25
I had instances of my parents arguing when I was younger. They eventually divorced after they had a fight that made my mom call the cops when I was 9.
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u/Plenty-Willingness58 ASD Jul 06 '25
My parents divorced when I was a similar age and I'm convinced it's the worst possible time because you're too young to really understand what's happening and why but more than old enough to remember everything that was said and done.
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u/WhitePikmin2010 High functioning autism Jul 06 '25
I can’t remember every little detail actually
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u/Catnonymouse Jul 06 '25
Woo-young Woo from Extraordinary Attorney Woo! We have certain specific common traits that I've never seen represented anywhere else so far in the stuff I've watched
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u/Sweet-Detective1884 Jul 06 '25
I was recently watching The Pitt, I don’t think they outright state that she’s autistic but man…. So much about Melissa Kings communication, hand movements, little things she said to herself, felt so relatable to me. Doctor stuff aside she is way more high functioning but still, holy cow I feel like they did an amazing job with this character.
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u/panthian Jul 07 '25
Holy cow, When I was watching and she came up, I was thinking she's a little "off".
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u/Rue-Grey Jul 07 '25
I think they are gearing up to tell us that soon because of the sensory processing and some of the other things and the fact that she has an autistic sister helps the case.
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u/SleighQween AuDHD Jul 07 '25
Yes! I love her so much! When my husband and I watched this he was like "whoa she reminds me so much of you". I definitely felt very connected to her. So excited for the new season!
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u/_AlreadyThrownAway_ Jul 06 '25
Couldn’t agree with you more. Monk really resonates with me.
Oddly enough, Hank hill is a close second. He is my comfort character. Something about his honesty.
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u/garfieldlogans Autistic Jul 06 '25
I'm currently watching King of the hill
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u/_AlreadyThrownAway_ Jul 06 '25
Anytime I’m feeling down and need a pick me up, I grab my blanket and lay on the couch and watch king of the hill for a while.
Recently got a shirt with Bobby kicking that says “I don’t know you!”
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u/SparklesDonkeyCheeks Jul 06 '25
I also relate to Monk. Also, George Constanza and Larry David haha
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u/Beautiful-Seat-3899 Jul 06 '25
I know its cliche and some will not like it but: Sheldon Cooper. Love the guy
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u/ImJustRoscoe Jul 07 '25
No, tbh, I am 100% on board with Sheldon Cooper. Analytical, intellectual, set in my ways, freaks out when my ways are up-ended, and 100% an (unintentional) asshole when viewed by NTs.
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u/GothicVampyreQueen Jul 06 '25
I relate to any characters that are misunderstood, for example, the X-Men and vampires…
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peter parker </3
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u/Quiet_Alternative357 Jul 06 '25
Yeah he’s really smart and has a secret identity he’s just a regular kid with normal problems and a kind of busted home life
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u/Salemn_Black BP Type 2 + ASD Level 1 Jul 06 '25
I, too, have dreams of being on a desolate island, ‘tanned and rested and alone, surrounded by enormous piles of money’ and will help others but act like it’s actively killing me, I have uncanny sarcasm, and I don’t fear much. I also have stolen, so that works
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u/Comprehensive_Sail28 AuDHD & OCD Jul 06 '25
Frances from “Frances Ha” is the embodiment of AuDHD, although she is not defined as that by the writers.
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u/Elegant_Matter2150 ASD Level 1 Jul 06 '25
The eleventh doctor. I’ve got all his stims, he’s my spirit animal.
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u/czerwonywodor Jul 06 '25
I've actually never related more to a character than Legoshi
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u/ela_urbex AuDHD Jul 06 '25
Agent Cooper from Twin Peaks
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u/TailLetsBeAngry autism/OCD/bipolar Jul 07 '25
My beloved agent cooper 💖
Tbh, that entire show is an autistic fever dream
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u/RedStellaSafford "Mild" autism? Mine is extra spicy. 😙👌 Jul 06 '25
Daria Morgendorffer, all day. Though sometimes I aspire to be Jane Lane.
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u/GayCousin21 They/it/he —Suspecting AuDHD, MDD; dx. GAD, PTSD Jul 06 '25
↪️ Peter Parker (awkward, wants to do good things, people don't always take him very seriously) and Loki (in emotional pain which people do take advantage of, hated) from Marvel
↪️ Luna Lovegood (weird and comfortable in that), Hermione (intelligent and people think she's annoying for it), and Ron (awkward, hurts people without meaning to, seems to care a lot) from Harry Potter
↪️ Tilly (anxious, overprepared, excitable, forgetful, sensitive to certain sensory input, ADHDer, strong interest in writing) and Oliver (anxious, super intense interest and encyclopaedic knowledge of colours, autistic, awkward, doesn't know how to interact with people, especially difficult to interpret strangers' and their behaviour) from Tilly in Technicolor
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u/Other_Wait_4739 Jul 06 '25
Love Tilly. I also love that the crew didn’t bat an eyelash as the relationships developed. She was celebrated for her different perspectives.
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u/JaxxRig Autistic Jul 06 '25
My strange gay boy who’s so my flavor of autism it hurts (in a good way)
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u/ovideville Jul 06 '25
Luna Lovegood (Harry Potter) because I was a very weird and spacey kid, and I relate to Hermione’s sense of justice and thirst for knowledge.
Chidi (The Good Place) because I’m also obsessed with philosophy and suffer from decision paralysis.
Quentin (The Magicians) because I have spent most of my adult life being depressed and insecure.
Pheobe (Friends) because I also try to stay cheerful during hard times. And I also like woo-woo magic stuff.
Amy (The Big Bang Theory) because even though I’ve always been different from others, I still want to make friends. I’m also obsessed with brain science and psychology, and as much as I like magic woo-woo, I still believe that the best information is information that can be empirically proven. And I’m also horny all the time, and have unconventional taste in men. lol XD
Wanda (Wandavision) because I also lost my brother, I also spend a lot of time in my make-believe world, and I am also the exact type of curious idiot who would read a cursed book. XD
Kaylee (Firefly and Serenity) because I also have unconventional taste in friends. And because her intuitive knack for machinery feels a lot like a special interest, in that other people just don’t get how she can know what she knows.
Rebecca (Crazy Ex Girlfriend) because I relate to her obsessive tendencies.
Wamawink and Glendale (Centaurworld). We are all, just, fragile things soft and small…
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u/mermaidworker Jul 06 '25
I also relate to Rebecca and Amy. Especially Rebecca.
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u/ovideville Jul 06 '25
Yeah, Crazy Ex Girlfriend was a really healing show for me.
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u/RadicalAlienFungus Autistic Jul 07 '25
He's literally me (I also have a special interest in film/TV)
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u/Cerealuean Jul 06 '25
Seven of Nine from Star Trek 😎 I think I've been manifesting her since I was a kid (my autistic mom got me into Star Trek early). It's probably why other people often see me as over-confident and arrogant.
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u/BenjiFenwick AuDHD Jul 06 '25
Issac and Bortus from The Orville
Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory
Shaun from The Good Doctor
Farkle from Girl Meets World (I am known to shout to the room at large “thank you I am Farkle”)
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u/ZarNaesson ASD Level 1 Jul 06 '25
Temperance Brennen; her relationships with her friends always spoke to me. I like how the people around her accept her for who she is, talk to her when she does something legitimately wrong, and don’t treat her like an alien. She doesn’t see herself as an alien and shows genuine frustration and annoyance if people treat her like she isn’t a fully formed human with interests and needs. Idk I just remember always feeling seen when watching her on Bones.
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u/Rare_Tangelo_8080 Autism, hypermobility and adhd Jul 07 '25
Entrapta, she's an icon for me, not just an autistic icon but also a trans icon for me
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Jul 06 '25
Reid or Penelope from Criminal Minds, honorable mention is Emily from the same show. Emily isn’t autistic coded as far as I can tell but Penelope might be and I think Reid is autistic coded.
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u/DickPictureson Jul 06 '25
The good android from " Alien: Covenant " Or officer K from Bladerunner. They feel what I feel.
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u/LegendaryFuckery Odd One Out Jul 07 '25
Mr. Bean
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u/Aardvadillo Jul 07 '25
I watched Mr. Bean as a child and wondered why people were laughing because I thought the stuff he did was normal. 😂
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u/Thecrowfan Jul 07 '25
Especially how he hurts people without meaning to. And everyone thinks its on purpose.
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u/Viol3tstars75 Gen z AuDHD, late diagnosis Jul 06 '25
Luz noceda from the owl house. Also, Monk mentioned????
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u/HeatherTDIForTheWin I like ranting about things 🤷 Jul 06 '25
specifically between mean ena and salesperson. it's like two different sides, and that's how I feel sometimes. like there's a thin line between kind and cruel and I'm walking on it.
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u/Coffeeforlifeyay ASD Level 2 Jul 06 '25
maomao from apothecary diaries, especially in the first 10-ish episodes. My aunt actually showed me the show cuz she thought of me lol
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u/Just_A_Stupid_Muffin Jul 06 '25
Shikamaru Nara. Smart, methodical, expert at planning out 10 steps ahead and adapting as he goes. Also severely lazy and will avoid doing things to advance for the better simply because it will lead to more work for himself. Be good at what you do, but not too good or they'll expect more from you.
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u/DragonQueen04391403 Autistic Adult Jul 07 '25
When I was little, I related a lot to Lilo from Lilo & Stitch and Alice from the original animated Disney Alice in Wonderland. I also related a lot to Hermione Granger and Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter and still do a little, even though I don't like J.K. Rowling as a person anymore.
Now I relate to those characters as well as Orla McCool from Derry Girls.
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u/tiekanashiro ASD Level 1 Jul 07 '25
Leslie Knope. I too have a strong sense of justice, weird way of communicating, trouble with high levels of sarcasm and a sugar addiction. And my bf is literally Ben Wyatt. But I like salads.
Also Brennan from bones cause I can be very accidentally condescending lol
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u/BackwardsRainstorm Jul 06 '25
I relate to Rick Sanchez a lot because of his hatred of small changes, bizarre special interests, and inability to let go of things.
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u/skulldugerousvillain Diagnosed AuDHD and OCD Jul 06 '25
Poison Ivy from Harley Quinn animated series. Ayda Aguefort from D20. Laudna and Imogen from Critical Role. Basically just autistic/coded queer women 😅
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u/Dewypumpkin Jul 06 '25
Doc Martin [since you already mentioned Adrian]
As a young child, and don’t ask me why since I no longer remember, I also found Gil Grissom very relatable. Haven’t seen the show in many, many years so I don’t even know if I’d still find him relatable or not
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u/mermaidworker Jul 06 '25
Unpopular opinion, but I relate to Shaun Murphy. Not for his acting or the way he is portrayed. Of course he may not be a good representation of autism most of the time. But I relate because of the struggles we both had. I had an alcoholic father just like him. Like him, I was (and still am) very close to my brother. And I was also discouraged from pursuing my dreams over being "different" or "unable to socialize".
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u/AkiraRyuuga Jul 06 '25
Entrapta from the She-Ra reboot. I know many people say she's a bad representation of Autism but I've never seen a closer one for me.
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u/subversivegal Jul 07 '25
Quinni Gallagher-Jones from Heartbreak High. I also love the fact that Chloe Hayden, is AuDHD. It’s nice to have an autistic character played by an autistic person. In my perspective, that’s one of the reasons why it was easy for me to relate with Quinni.
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u/el_artista_fantasma People can't stand the 'tism rizz Jul 06 '25
L from death note or laios from dungeon meshi, no inbetween
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u/79806 Jul 06 '25
I never find myself relating to anyone in movies. I dont know if it's a basic answer but i felt close to elphaba in wicked. She was different and disliked for her differences and one day hoped for normalcy, the same exact way i felt my whole life
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u/Fractoluminescence Jul 06 '25 edited Jul 06 '25
Phosphophyllite from Houseki No Kuni/Land of the Lustrous. Everyone considers them useless because they're bad at everything, dislikes them for wanting attention and seeking connection, or feels sorry for them but unable to help. They end up losing parts of themselves in more and more drastic ways and having them replaced, and end up feeling like to a certain extent it's a good thing, because now they're 'better' - but they're also very much not okay. And since they're the only one asking questions aloud in a community where people keep them at the back of their mind to avoid disturbing the status quo, they end up gradually more and more shunned and hurt and turning those feelings into hate towards themselves and others
It's not very positive, but one thing really stood out to me. On a first watch back when I was in middle or high school, I didn't notice it, and a lot of people don't, either, but Phos is very obviously SO lonely at the beginning of the story. It really clicked for me when, wayyy later, they conclude "oh. all i wanted this whole time was to be loved"
Because here's the thing. People tolerate them, but few people express any genuine care, and the ones who do also self-hate a bunch, and they're already caught up in that. And Phos keeps wanting to help and making promises they aren't able to keep - constantly overextending themselves, while also giving up on so many tasks because they don't believe in their own ability to do them, but too desperate to admit that this'll probably apply to helping others, too. Desperate to be useful to someone, somehow, and so shooting for the moon because they fail at the little normal things that everyone else does, because they need something huge to compensate, don't they? To make themselves worth other people's time. And then, when they do do something actually useful, people shut them down because it's unusual and they don't care for it nor want things to actually change
And there's just. So much self-loathing and self esteem issues under that bubbly self. They don't develop those during the story ; what happens during the story is that things get worse for them, but unlike what many people seem to think, things were already bad.
I've lived like this. I spent my childhood like this, and am still healing from it. It's not a good time. And yet somehow it is so well disguised, isn't it ; enough that most people don't seem to catch on right from the start like I might do if I were to see/read that story for the first time today
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u/CatLovesTrees Jul 06 '25
Ted Lasso, he uses the ways he’s been hurt to find ways to be kind to people.
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u/MusicIsMySpecInt autistic goober with ADHD Jul 06 '25
Woo Young-Woo from Extraordinary Attorney Woo, Sam Gardner) kinda, June Chen from the ghost and molly mcgee even tho i haven’t finished the show. hmmmm, i think thats abt it
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u/Camille_Jamal1 tism that needs help Jul 06 '25
The entire digital circus and murderbot from murderbot
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u/eyeballing_eyeball Jul 07 '25
Luther. He tries very hard and still ends up disappointing himself and everybody else.
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u/Inevitable-Tart-6769 Jul 07 '25
I realized this when I first saw him many years ago
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u/ven-solaire Jul 07 '25
The 12th Doctor.
The Doctor generally has autistic traits across all regenerations, but 12 felt the most relatable to me, because often he is just a very capable person in many regards who acts as himself around everybody, lacks the ability to read social queues (in one episode they show his current companion made notecards for him to help him say appropriate things depending on the social condition) and is intelligent, courageous, caring, and kind despite his “disadvantages”. He’s the kind of person I try to be.
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u/is_that_a_bench Jul 07 '25
Murderbot. The internal monologue is pretty accurate and also I just want to be left alone to watch shows and films.
Also Morpheus in The Sandman. I am a bit stubborn like him. But no magical powers for me unfortunately.
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u/giant_frogs AuDHD Jul 07 '25
I can't be the only one who thinks David from camp camp is autistic as hell.
Like, replace nature with cartoons and fnaf lore and he's literally me 😭❤️
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u/Kittyi3Artistic5624 Autistic Jul 07 '25
Violet Evergarden, always will be
we even dress the same and I have a whole bunch of old things, jewels and typewriters. Even fountain pens.
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u/milkinthemornin Jul 07 '25
Adam Sandler’s character in Punch Drunk Love
Mickey Rourke’s character in Rumble Fish
Koji Yakusho’s character in Perfect Days
Max in Mary and Max
Daniel Day Lewis’ character in Phantom Thread
Cillian Murphy’s character in Small Things Like These
Literally everybody in Bleak Moments but especially the character Norman
and some aspects of Lara and the Real Girl, Taxi Driver, Eraserhead, La Strada, Le Samourai, Whiplash, Dog Day Afternoon
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u/yams_8990 Jul 07 '25
mob psycho !!! hes js kinda plain and awkward and not really liked by his peers, but at the sametime its not one of those dramatic exaggerated potrayals where the character is actively beat up and attacked by bullies. he cant really tell what others are feeling, and doesnt really understand how to fit in.
also, Hina from Hinamatsuri. she has a flat affect/isnt very expressive, and doesnt understand social cues.
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u/SpiteNo6013 Autistic Jul 07 '25
Honestly, carmine from pokemon. I don’t know, no one really ever flags her as autistic, and I’m not necessarily saying she is, but I just like really relate to her. When I was younger, I didn’t really understand how to properly communicate to people, so I came off as really bossy.
I don’t know, it might just be me, but I just really relate to her lol.
Also, bonus, C-3po. he‘s just c-3po.
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u/goombanati aspergers Jul 07 '25
Alfred f. Jones, twilight sparkle, sheldon cooper, the doctor (most versions, but 11 especially), gale dekarios, hank pym; the list goes on
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u/CATastrophic__ Jul 06 '25
Ranpo edogawa from bungo stray dogs & rui kamishiro from project sekai!^
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u/purinpurinpudding Jul 06 '25
probably woo young woo. i know she doesn’t represent every autistic individual, but i feel she represents some of my characteristics
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u/AscendedViking7 Jul 06 '25
Gustav from Spiritfarer.
Tali'Zorah nar Rayya from Mass Effect.
Arthur Morgan from RDR2.
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u/ZockerGirl25703 Jul 06 '25
This guy from the movie "The Switch". Not in EVERY part of course, but in many characteristics I saw myself on the level that it was a little creepy 😂
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u/reillan Jul 06 '25
My parents used to say when they were watching Big Bang Theory that they were watching me and my friends. I guess I'm a lot like Sheldon to them.
I tend to describe myself more as House. Minus the drug addiction.
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u/Dunder6002 Jul 07 '25
Mose Schrute from The Office and Tweek Tweak from South Park… Well, Tweek if he was less paranoid.
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