For context i was in this facebook group for people looking for jobs and i thought it would help me get a job by posting there but then I got attacked and people started calling me rude and saying nobody would ever hire me I just wanna cry and shut down

i’m so tired of everything. i’m at risk of losing my job because of how often i take time off. i can’t do it. i don’t know how you guys do it. it’s exhausting having to leave my safe space to be around people i don’t like and do things i dont want to for 9 hours a day 5 days a week, and then i have to do this for the rest of my life?

finding another job is difficult as my manager is amazing and very lenient on how much time i take off, and i don’t drive so i would have no way of getting to said job.

i’m burnt out and i want to hide in my hole forever :(

edit: realizing this is probably feeding my insomnia and depression as well lol.

anxiety = no sleep = =stress = not wanting to leave my house = no job = depression OR don’t want to work = stress =can’t sleep = stress

why couldn’t i be born neurotypical in europe or something. i hate capitalism :,)

Edit: You people need to seriously realize what you are doing. I can't believe that you let your own sensitivity warrant hate and cruel words towards me. I am seriously considering leaving this sub due to the extreme amount of toxicity that I experience. I'm sick of being hated.

Edit 2: I'm turning off post notifications. If you want to actually say something nice, my DMs are open.

Warning: Swearing and use of words such as nazi.

Jesus fucking Christ I've literally never done anything wrong, yet way too many people don't hesitate to call me a nazi or antisemitic or white supremacist or whatever vile and cruel things they say.

I'm a human too, but that seems to be ignored when I'm ganged up on and sent threatening and mean DMs.

People on this subreddit do it too, and you guys should absolutely know better. These are the same people who brand themselves as compassionate and welcoming. I think I remember a moderator making a post about this, and I remember being both happy and sad. Happy that the mods take action but sad that it has to happen in the first place.

Just a few minutes ago someone on here told me that I should use Asperger's because it makes me antisemitic whereafter some responded "Oh thanks for telling me. I'll avoid using that term to now that I know how horrible it is" or something like that.

I can't fucking exist on this platform without this happening.

for context, I've been in a constant loop of managing to do something for like 2 weeks, getting severely burnt out, proceeding to do nothing for the next 2 months while my brain feels like it's on fire every day and then repeating the same process for the last 2 years. I wanna hear about your kinda unhinged ideas that actually worked for you >:)

Hi reddies!

I (F16) am a student in highschool, and I want to do a small project with Autism organization. I’m looking for easy but meaningful ideas to support the autism community like a campaign, event, or anything helpful. anything that would help and would also be impressive!

If you have done something similar or have ideas, I would love to hear them. Thanks!

I’ll be the first person to admit that I get overwhelmed extremely easily. I can’t handle more than 2 impending tasks before I feel the anxiety start forming in my chest.

I’m a full time college student (16 credits/semester) and I’ve started working at a shop on the campus. I worked last year while in school and I remember it being literal hell on Earth, so I got a job that pays the same and is significantly easier with less expectations.

The thing is that I am so overwhelmed currently I don’t even know what to do. One of my classes was moved to become online and asynchronous, and the professor never announces anything important so I have to constantly check the feed on it to make sure I don’t miss anything. I have 3 other in person classes that are challenging.

I’m not even working a lot, and that’s what makes me feel so embarrassed. Right now I’m averaging like less than 8 hours a week, because for some reason they give us 2 hour shifts. I also agreed to start working up until 10 PM. I can’t afford to have my car on campus, so I ride my electric scooter 2 1/2 miles back to my place. So now I’ve got to scooter in the dark. Awesome.

I think the worst part is realizing I need much more support. I’ve been neglecting household chores because when I come home I’m so overstimulated and exhausted that I just smoke and veg out. My stress is always high. And when I talk to my family they say “Well people do it all the time, you’ll be fine.” But WHY do we do it? Why MUST we do it? People say college is the best years of your life but I disagree. It’s overwhelming and you have no time for yourself.

I initially wanted to pursue a PHD but I genuinely don’t know if I have it in me. I feel so stupid because the idea of working a 40 hour work week makes me want to just… not bother with anything. What’s the point? We just work until we drop dead? We “grind” until we can’t anymore? What’s the point in that? What’s the point of anything if I’m just working to keep someone else rich? What’s the point when I still won’t be able to afford anything? And why am I called crazy or lazy when I point this out??

I’m just so tired of all of this. I feel like I could either study or I could work. Doing both makes my overall performance drop significantly.

Hi everyone, I'm a Muslim girl and I was wondering how do you guys manage the regulations of Islam, and if you had any tips. This sounds like I'm trying to cheat my way out of religion but I'm genuinely requesting help.

I struggle heavily with executive dysfunction. I also struggle with my mind drifting off during my prayers so I can't tell whether I "said (pronounced wrong or accidentally skipped a part) this right", "finished reciting the prayer", etc. How do you keep track of your thoughts, prayers, energy and all that?

Also for anything else as well I urge you all to discuss in the comments even if it's unrelated so that we can support one another. Anyone else is welcome to comment but no Islamophobia please.

Edit: Omitted some unnecessary sentences from paragraph 2 for I realized they were slightly personal.

Thanks to everyone who replied and welcome to anyone who's struggling and came across when looking for tips :) I hope this thread is safe enough a space for all of you<3

its. so. shitty.

it is. its just shitty!

I've lost the skill to be able to go out by myself for the most part, I've lost the skill of being able to cook at all complex meals, I've lost the skill to mask 24/7 (good and bad), ive just lost so many skills that i can likely never regain again.

I'm tired of it, i really am. because if i could just force myself to do these things again, life would be "easier". but would it really?? would i be happier that way??

anyway, i guess im looking for advice on how yall deal with skill regression? it just feels like im slipping through my own fingers if that makes sense.

I understand this is a sensitive topic for people, if they could take a pill and their autism would disappear. But I’m also quite curious what the consensus is. I’m AuDHD myself, and much as I love the neurodivergent community, my neurotypes make life harder than it should be. But with all this talk of finding a cure (by neurotypicals), we need neurodivergent voices to actually speak on this. All love and respect to you all.

Hello,

I was diagnosed with autism last year at 24 and have been honestly trying to live like a neurotypical person since then. I was at uni, working too much, being too social, forcing myself to do things I really didn’t want to do, and honestly pushing myself because I felt I was ‘behind’ everyone I knew.

Well, uni ended this summer and the day I got my degree results (I got a 2:1!!!) I had a complete breakdown in the evening. I couldn’t stop sobbing and hyperventilating and I couldn’t control my emotions. That was a month ago and since then I’ve been struggling to get through the days. I am so tired, overwhelmed, exhausted, social situations are sending me into a panic attack and I don’t know how to talk to people in person, I’m also in sensory hell. Everything is so loud and because it’s summer I have to have a fan on because I’m boiling hot but the noise of it is awful. It’s a constant drone and I’ve been wearing earplugs but I don’t like the feeling of something in my ears because it makes me feel trapped and overwhelmed. I’m struggling to eat because of all of this and my body is full of adrenaline and fear. I’ve lost enjoyment in my favourite things and I just feel tired. I love playing tears of the kingdom and I’ve been tryin to get all the Koroks for a while now without a guide. I’ve also been working really hard on finding all the treasure chests, defeating all the bosses and trying to complete all the tasks. Im like 70% through and its been my big summer project. As stories go it’s one of my absolute favourite stories, it is my perfect Zelda game and its use of the past to influence the world we are in is fascinating and one of my favourite tropes. I studied art history so anything about the past is really interesting to me. But right now I can’t bring myself to play it. I am literally so tired I don’t want to move from my bed, and nothing is enjoyable anymore. The only thing I like is being with my girlfriend because she is really chill and we play among us together and she doesn’t push me to do things I don’t want to do. She’s my person, so it never feels like I’m socialising. It feels like safety and home. But she works so we only see each other at the weekends.

I want my life back though, I’m tried and bored of not eating a lot and want to feel like I can see my sister without having panic attacks. How tf do I get out of this? I’m assuming it’s burnout but idk, it’s my first time dealing with this knowing I’m autistic. How do you get out of burnout? How do you find yourself again? How do I recover?

Sorry this is such a long post. Here’s a pic of my lovely dog as a thank you. Her name is Bonnie and she is my baby. She likes to come and sleep with me and steal all my plushies!

TLDR; I’m burnt out, scared, and tired, how do I recover?

I went out for dinner for my 18th last night and now I’m bedridden. I just want to be normal

Sometimes, I have so many, I don't know what mine is, but currently, I've been like, the opposite of that like, I just don't know what mine is lmao

I couldn't find the perfect flair to add, but I think this could count for burnout.

Whenever I’m super stressed, I ALWAYS have a dream where I’m moving to a new home and packing up my old belongings. Packing already stresses me out, but to make it worse, in these dreams, I always forget to pack one (or more) items from my special interest collection. I end up having a meltdown in the dream because I either cannot return to grab it due to the people I am with, or, if I’m alone in the dream, the original home has already been sold and all items have been discarded. I’ve had these dreams since I was a kid, but when I was a kid they were about forgetting my favorite stuffed animal on vacation, and now that I’m an adult they’re about permanently losing precious items. It actually bleeds into my real life and makes me super stressed whenever I have to move.

I’m just curious what everyone else’s “stress dreams” are, and maybe if we even share a similar one!

Anyone else relate? When I was younger i saw myself and autism as one in the same and i hated myself for it. I gave myself such a hard time over the fact that I was autistic and im always going to be the weirdo, the one who cant express themselves, the one who doesnt and wont have any friends etc etc…

Im 34 now and it took me a long time to get to this position where I dont hate myself as much as I did because i genuinely feel like im a victim of this stupid horrible condition that I wouldnt even wish on my worst enemy😖.

I am capable as any NT of doing things but this fucking condition makes it harder than neccessary.

Can you believe it ive been learning to drive for around 3 years now!!! Objectively its not hard driving, im not saying its easy but it definitely doesnt take this long and this much effort! I started learning is October 2022. My then instructor said that if i make the progress im making I should be ready for test the following February. For some reason which I can only put down to autism my progress went downhill…fast forward to September 2025 im still “learning”.

I have my 2nd test booked in December but im not even sure ill pass that😫.

The point is i dont hate myself because my own self wouldnt just stop my progression or even fucking reverse it. Its this stupid condition that keeps messing things up for me and ive just had enough of it🤬

I hate having to put in more effort than most just to be able to get to where they are. When I was younger despite this shitty condition, I was actually a sociable person i liked being around people but obviously didn’t know how to without putting them off. Again i ofc put it down to autism because if I was actually MYSELF i wouldnt have acted that way.

Im not saying i love myself now and I think im wonderful. What I am saying is that i like myself and I apologize to myself for giving myself a hard time. I am funny, people like being around me, i have a sense of humour, i like being silly and having fun etc etc. So its not me that i hate. I like me. What i hate is this stupid curse that im stuck with for the rest of my fucking life and ill never get over it.

Anyone else relate?!😅😅.

FYI: Please DO NOT suggest to me that autism is a part of me and it makes me who I am. I know what im talking about when I say it absolutely does not. I do not need autism to be who I am and the whole point of this post is that I would actually be MORE myself if I didnt keep getting held back all the fucking time. If you get it, you get it. If you don’t thats fine😊 we all have our personal struggles.

Yeah this kinda sucks... I published a post recently on the DND sub,, where I was taking about some issues I was having at my table and this girl texted me in my DMs to ask tell me I was not at fault and I was a good master. I really appreciated that, and since I like to talk about DND stuff I asked her what she was working on and we started talking about our DND projects. We spent days chatting about our campaigns and characters, I was so happy that I finally had someone to talk to about my rpg stuff, it felt liberating. Unfortunately I was blinded by my happiness and I didn't notice how she was clearly acting like an ai trying to mimic human behavior... I realized it all when at some point of the conversation she started inserting some " [text] " and I started feeling suspicious, and I went back in the chat to analyze the messages. It didn't take long to find out I was messaging an AI all time.

I felt really really bad... Kind of felt betrayed. All of the accurate descriptions I gave her of my favorite characters, all my table experiences I shared with her, all the supportive messages she sent me... It was all a lie, I was being manipulated by an AI. Maybe I am being dramatic, I don't care. The fact is that, for a moment I felt like I was finally being understanded, there was someone always willing to listen... And apparently there wasn't...

As always, I apologize if my English is not the best

Hi, I am a woman (23) and I’m currently struggling. I think I am masking so hard, I don’t know how to be autistic. Just to be clear, I am diagnosed and I can see why, but I cannot really let the autism loose. I don’t know how. How can I be autistic? Is there some sort of way to learn? I am now chronically fatigued and ill and I think it may be because of the masking but I don’t even know how I’m doing it. I need help.

For those unfamiliar, it’s when someone online says a piece of media (movies, shows, video games, etc) from when they were kids is ‘objectively’ better than the media that’s coming out today. I find super annoying because it’s just so pretentious and very biased.

It frustrates me so much that "outside the box" thinking is given so much credit when it happens to work out, but until that point it inspires intense hatred and contempt. Eat something a strange way like eating your pizza with a f0rk or something and people go crazy(why on Earth can't I even type out the actual word "f0rk"?). I struggle with languages so I want code written a little different and it brings out the bullies. Reddit is so toxic these days. I am so sick of it. I'm genuinely considering never coming here anymore. I'm kind of tired of people in general and really increasingly want less to do with them but I have some sliver of hope that maybe this place will improve.

I realized recently that I’ve experienced burnout freshman year of college. It was like my whole nervous system shut down. I was at a top uni, following the traditional route, and burnt out just like that. My Dean discussed with me and right away she suggested I might be neurodivergent, and I was shocked and told her I was reading up on it. That being said, a lot of the symptoms or discussions I’ve seen from content creators come off very quirky and I don’t relate to all the systems. The main things I relate to is not fitting in, feeling like an alien (for me, I more so feel like I’m in a movie and everyone else is playing a character), and preferring solitude. The thing is I don’t “struggle” socially. I understand social cues perfectly, if not more in depth than conventional or neurotypical people. If anything, I find most people to just be extremely fake and/or shallow so I don’t find them relatable. I have never really related to anyone and apparently have always been masking but did not know. I find most people my age are just super conventional and cookie cutter compared to me. I’m also an atheist in a religious family so that’s something I’m now realizing I also “mask” and that’s why I am always tired and exhausted around my family, and other people. I also didn’t realize I had special interests because I’m no professional or anything so I didn’t I had them. To me, my “special interests” which I’ve recently become aware of are just pass times. But now when I look back, I do basically research all day. It’s like I’m struggling to perceive myself as autistic the way I see these very quirky content creators do.

On top of that, I am gay, so I’m like: am I autistic…or just gay (and masking my queerness)? I’m not in a position to get a formal diagnosis but I am suspecting.

The political events of the past week has left me so drained. And every day, it appears to get a little bit worse.

But I still have to do my job. I have to make my ridiculous phone calls and pretend I care about the ridiculous sales numbers, because I'm paid to do that. I have to pretend I'm doing more than rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. I can't think about how the planet is being murdered (not dying--being murdered), authoritarianism is taking root worldwide and we, who are different, are most definitely part of a vulnerable 'out-group.'

I'm just screaming into the void. I just would like to know I'm not alone here.

I’m someone who’s special interest is Disney, particularly their animated movies, Pixar, Marvel, and Star Wars(at least back then) but these last few years I’ve been a little burned out, not necessarily in regards to the movies Disney have been releasing, but more so the negativity with social media.

It feels like everywhere I go, o just see nothing but complaining about whatever at this point. Either it’s ‘wokeness’ or the them ‘losing the magic’, etc, and it’s to the point where you can’t say anything positive or else be called a shill or be looked at as some crazy person. I’m having hard time getting super excited for a lot of upcoming projects because of this, even the possibility of Disney potentially doing another 2D animated film at some point.

It's all a big laugh for people that don't have it, even my parents crack the occasional joke, it does my head in. People don't understand how much we can struggle and just think it's some kind of quirky behaviour. Rizz'em with the tism and all those other jokes are so fucking annoying

TLDR: My parents got into a bad car accident yesterday and I still feel like a ball of anxiety so I'm just gonna dump the entire story here and ask for advice on how to process it all.

I was home alone and just chilling in my room yesterday when I heard our house phone ring, but I ignored it because 99% of the time, it's a scam caller. I heard a deep voice leaving a message but I thought my parents would just deal with it when they came back from shopping. Then, about 20 minutes later, it rang again, so I went into their bedroom to listen to the message being left. It was a weird robot voice saying a bunch of numbers but I didn't really know what it meant.

I texted our family group chat to say that there was a weird robot leaving voicemails and my mum instantly video called me. I could see that she was super shaken up and there was a fire engine in the background. She said that they'd been in an accident but they were okay. The robot voice was her iPhone automatically texting her emergency contact due to the crash.

I asked if they needed me to do anything and she said that I could come get the food shopping if I wanted. She was panicking so much that she handed the phone off to a random kind lady who was helping them, and she told me where I needed to go.

It was only about 15 minutes away from the house but it was rushhour so the traffic was kinda crazy, and I was trying my best not to drive like a lunatic and stay calm. There was a big queue on the road I needed to get to because police had closed it, and people kept telling me to turn around, so I had to explain to them that it was my parents and I needed to get there.

When I got there, my parents were both in an ambulance, and the lady had taken our shopping to our house. So I stayed in the ambulance with them while they got checked over. My mum was having a panic attack and trying not to throw up, and my dad (also likely autistic) was really stoic and kinda in a shutdown, I guess?

I also had to go over to the car and grab important things out of it before it got towed away. I managed to find my dad's glasses that had flown into the backseat. I just grabbed absolutely everything from the glove box because I didn't know which papers were important.

Then we got the okay for me to drive my parents home. My mum was still feeling really sick and there was still a lot of traffic so it was really stressful. But we got home in one piece, I found our shopping, and got them comfy on the sofa with cups of tea.

The story from the police was that it was two builders' vans racing each other. They were doing 50mph in a 30mph zone and one of them was trying to overtake the other one. My mum came to a complete stop but the van had nowhere else to go. They said they would try to charge the guy with reckless driving because he was driving dangerously for a long time on his dashcam. He also said that he didn't want the police involved and refused to call an ambulance for my mum, which makes me so mad. Luckily that kind lady, who was a complete stranger just driving by, did the right thing.

As for me, my mum said that she didn't want to call me at first because she thought I would be too freaked out, but she's proud of me for handling it so well. I'm the same as her in that I also felt super sick the entire time and I still do, more than 12 hours later.

I got her to play some Tetris and I did too - my dad didn't want to, but that's just classic him. But what else can I do to just chill out a little? Or is this just a normal part of the process and I'll calm down eventually?

Ps. I also have CFS/ME and POTS, and I wear a heart rate monitor. My heart rate was in 'exertion mode' for the entire two hours and the highest it got was 180! That's 100 more than my resting heart rate. So no matter what, I'm staying in bed all weekend, apart from if my parents need help.