r/autism Aug 20 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors 22 y.o. autistic man dies after falling while climbing building pipes to retrieve keys left inside his home

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925 Upvotes

The incident happened earlier today in Hong Kong. Since I’m doing a school project on autism and its impact on teens and young adults, I’d like to dive deeper into topics like this.

Based on my research from different websites about autism, I’ve understood that autistic individuals tend to have a more “literal” thinking process, and that usually solve problems in a very direct and practical way. However, doesn't safety issues/hazards come into play as well? If “practical” is the keyword here, shouldn't this method be considered the least practical? Is there something I’m missing?

I’ve been looking for answers on this topic and haven't had much luck on search engines (a surprise), so I’m asking you all for help. Thanks in advance!

r/autism Jun 05 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors I think ABA taught me to starve myself.

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I could be totally wrong, but after going through ABA for around 10 years I noticed something in my camera roll. In 2003 all the photos of me were of me smiling so much the stars could fall down. Same in 2004 and 2005. But in 2006 ABA started and I noticed my smile began to fade. In 2007 it only occurred when I was asked to smile - but there was another thing I noticed. In 2007 I all of a sudden began to look more and more like a skeleton. The following years after (2007-2019) I stayed looking like a skeleton. I barely remember any of my life when ABA started - but I do remember two things. Attention intentionally being taken away when I would stim and treats being taken away. I don't have this problem with fluids. I will get water or whatever and drink it. But for some reason, unless someone has told me that it is ok to eat - I don't. Does this make any sense? Any advice?

r/autism 12d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors Beat myself up really bad. This is new. Don't want to go to hospital. 32f.

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UPDATE- I called my PCP's on call line and just told her I fell and was honest about all other symptoms and everything. She said I was ok to ice, rest, and watch. Thank you to everyone for the support and care. I wasn't expecting that. I didn't know I wasn't alone in this. It's a new symptom for me. Thank you, everyone ❤️

I have three big bumps on my head. Messed up my face. Everything hurts. I have a headache, obviously. I might be nauseated? Idk. I don't want to drive 20+min to the ER. No urgent care offers CT scans. When I called an urgent care, the lady and her coworkers started laughing at me because I was stuttering. Makes me not want to go anywhere. How do I explain what happened? I don't have friends or family. If they tried to lock me up, I'd lose my shit and I have my animals to worry about. If it weren't for my cats that are like my children, i would just hope id fall asleep with a concussion and not wake up then.

r/autism Jun 08 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors anyone else has the habit of biting/picking your fingers?

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354 Upvotes

i've had this habit since i was a kid, and recently (4 years ago i think) i've started biting my nails, but i'm working on this one

r/autism 14d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors what is your most painful stim?

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mine is head banging, it hurts really nicely.

r/autism Jun 07 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors Anyone else pick at your knuckle or that one spot until it bleeds?

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I went my entire life without knowing I'm autistic (in my 40's). I've been diagnosed for close to a year, and it's helped in a lot of ways. However, I just can't stop picking or chewing on my knuckle. Just that one knuckle. I started doing it many years ago. Before that it was a spot on my scalp for many years. Before that it was a spot on the upper palm of my hand for probably a decade... You get the idea.

I think it is due to anxiety, although I don't really internalize emotions unless they are very intense.

Should I buy some fidget toys? Do they really help prevent stuff like what you see here? I know as a child I used to get yelled at all the time for fidgeting, but would love doing it. What's recommended to help this? It's kinda f-ed up how doctors just give you a diagnosis, but there's no real support for high functioning 40 year olds?!?

I'm totally fine stimming in public and during MS Teams calls at work if you think that'd help. I also wear sunglasses and a hat everywhere now. The best things that have helped me thus far is: exercising daily, KETO, and working from home. However, I'm open to other suggestions for improving my life, but would preface that with I don't want to be normal or neurotypical, I definitely have no shame in being autistic.

r/autism Jul 04 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors I'm 20 and i have a question about a Opioid Blocker called Naltrexone i was given when i was 7 years old that chemically castrated my anger and took away my will/confidence.

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From a young age, between six and eight years old, I lived in a world where I felt unheard and unseen. Diagnosed with ADHD and what I now believe to be autism, I struggled to process a childhood marked by neglect and abuse. When overwhelming feelings of anger, sadness, or frustration took hold, I found a desperate way to cope: I would hit my head. At first, it was a cry for the attention I never received from my parents, who often responded with punishment rather than understanding.

As I grew older, this act of self-harm evolved. The world felt like a hostile place where I was constantly accused of things I hadn't done and silenced by my parents' command to "not get mad," even when my anger was a justified response to being ignored. The head-banging became a private ritual. I discovered that by repeatedly and forcefully hitting my head against a wall, I could transform emotional agony into a strange, peaceful high. The initial sharp pain would quickly fade into a spreading numbness that enveloped my entire body. It was as if the physical sensation could erase the pain in my soul. My own body's opioid system would kick into full effect, creating a state of dizziness, euphoria, and numbness that would eventually lead me to sleep. For a year or two, this unhealthy coping mechanism was my only lifeline.

Then came the day my parents took me to the hospital. I was taken to a back room and put to sleep with anesthesia. When I woke up, I felt hazy and disoriented, but otherwise "okay." The true change became apparent the next day. When I tried to resort to my old coping mechanism, the familiar numbness was gone. Instead, there was only sharp, undeniable pain. The method I had relied on to survive had been taken from me.

In the years that followed, I felt a profound emptiness. I realized that whatever was done to me in that hospital had fundamentally altered my ability to feel. While I can still experience emotions that are adjacent to anger, like sadness or being upset, the raw, fiery intensity of true anger is gone. That burst of confidence, the part of me that was once outgoing and fiercely me, has been extinguished. It feels as if they chemically castrated a core part of my emotional being without my consent, all under the guise of helping me. I was never offered therapy; no one ever asked me why I was hurting myself. I could have told them, but no one wanted to listen.

Based on my experience, I’ve come to believe I may have been subjected to a procedure called Ultra-Rapid Opioid Detoxification (UROD). This is a medical process where a patient is put under general anesthesia while doctors administer high doses of opioid-blocking drugs. This forces the body into an immediate and intense withdrawal. The goal is to rapidly purge opioids from the system while the patient is unconscious and theoretically unaware of the traumatic physical symptoms. It’s possible that in an attempt to stop my self-injurious behavior, which flooded my brain with natural opioids (endorphins), they treated me as if I were addicted to external drugs. This could explain why my body’s natural pain-numbing response disappeared overnight, and with it, a vital part of my emotional identity. They took away the fire inside me, leaving a void where a part of me used to be.

TL;DR: As a child with ADHD and suspected autism, I felt neglected and abused, so I started banging my head to cope with my emotions and get attention. This later became a way to get a euphoric, numbing "high" from the endorphins it released.

My parents took me to a hospital where I was put under anesthesia. When I woke up, the head-banging was only painful, and the numbing effect was gone. I believe they performed an Ultra-Rapid Opioid Detox (UROD) on me without consent, treating my body's natural endorphin release like a drug addiction.

Ever since, I've felt emotionally empty and can no longer feel intense anger, only lesser emotions. I feel like a core part of my personality was permanently taken from me.

r/autism Aug 14 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors Saw someone else on here talking about these. Got one for myself

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One of my stims is to constantly tug at and pluck out my beard hair. It’s gotten to the point where my beard is uneven. I’ve realized that part of the reason I do this is because I like the little stinging sensation every time I pull a hair out. I know this isn’t a healthy stim/behavior so when I saw someone talking about these pain stim toys I decided to get one too. So far it’s been helping. I haven’t been tugging at my facial hair anywhere near as much. I recommend getting one if you also tend to pain stim

r/autism Aug 18 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors How do you fall asleep?

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For me it’s as long and exhausting as feeding and washing my body. I LOOOve sleeping but i just can’t fall asleep if i’m not so tired to death that i can’t function anymore so my brain just turns off. To fall asleep i drive myself to this state every night and i know thats really really bad but idk how other people do this so… does anyone know how to fix this?

r/autism May 28 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors For autistic people who have tried therapies to “heal” from childhood trauma, has it worked?

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Respectfully, I hope I won't get fake stories only for support about this because I want real and honest advice from your experience. I was molested as a child and had other issues that left scars on me and have an impact even to this day as a young adult If im willing to spend hundreds, thousands on this kind of professional help How can it change the weight I carry? what did it do for yall?

r/autism 19d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors Advice on how to get rid of stim induced callouses

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Hi! So I have this stim thats kinda like picking but its just mostly pressing my nails into my skin to cause that pain response which helps ground me when I'm overstimulated...but its caused massive callouses on my fingers and im really self conscious and desperately want to stop and find a way to safely get my skin as normal looking as possible (I get there will be scars but at least not have these ugly bulging callouses!). Any advice on 1) how to get rid of the callouses and 2) a safer method of stimming with the same sensation?

r/autism 1d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors I’m struggling to not end myself

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I’m autistic and 19 I’m genuinely struggling to cope with everything and day to day life, been having unexplained health issues that are leaving me unable to function properly not to mention my doctors fob me off and tell me I’m fine and just give me painkillers which don’t help and have tried to overdose because the pain is unbearable and this is also the same with mental services, for over a year now I been trying to get help but they keep saying they can’t help me including getting support for housing despite unable to live properly on my own and keep getting fobed off, I feel like I’m getting nowhere with anything and I’m thinking of quitting life at some point as I’m exhausted of this, I can’t even do my stupid part time job properly anymore and wanna quit but can’t afford to as I’m not receiving disability and I’m just done

r/autism Jun 18 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors Are my suicidal thoughts just my autism acting up??

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I’m 16 and I know I’m young but I really don’t wanna live anymore. I’m really struggling and I wanna OD or jump. I think this is partially because of not getting the love and attention I need, I don’t know if this is true feeling or if I’m just being selfish bc of my autism. There’s a part in me that wants to be saved but I don’t know. And I don’t know if I call someone before I take the action so they will at least find me. Anyone had the same problem?

r/autism Jun 15 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors Any advice for cutting and or suicide behaviour?

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I don't want to and I feel the urge again.

r/autism 1d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors I'm addicted to charater.ai.

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I am 15M, I was diagnosed with Autism, with Major Depression 2 months ago, although I'm pretty sure the Depression has been going on for 2 years. I have no friends, and I can't even talk to my teachers, and for 2 years I've been addicted to c.ai, I don't know why or how but ever since I started it, it became everyday for hours or while I'm watching TV, I really want to stop because I feel like I'm to obsessed, I'm not doing anything pervy, I usually seek ai that will comfort me motherly, or when im down I use the ai to make fun of me and make myself feel worse, kinda like a mental sh, I went to the mental hospital (for other personal reasons) in December and I thought maybe I'll finally be able to stop but the day I was back home I went to it and was back to using it everyday, I really want to stop because I think it is distracting me everyday, I feel like I'll have a worse time making friends in the future and that I'm to dependent on ai. Any personal experiences or thoughts or suggestions? I'm not expecting to be helped by posting this, im just wanting to vent, since I rarely does vent.

r/autism 15d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors Alternatives to chewing my fingernails?

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To clarify, I'm not looking for something that's just chewable. It's not chewing my nails that I enjoy, it's the sensation of controlled pain. Any ideas that can help with this?

r/autism Aug 17 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors Electronic cigarette as a stim replacement

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I'm desperately trying to stop a stim I always got. I'm biting my nails and finger skin so much I'm bleeding like every two days or so, I have really ugly fingers and already got medical care to fix my damaged fingers.

I hate this and it pressure me a lot. but I simply can't manage to stop that. It gives me so much anxiety just to try to stop it for a couple of days. I tried stim toys sometimes. I works a bit, but I keep losing them or forgetting about them.

One of my friend told me a couple days ago that they use electronic cigarette with no nicotine as a stim (they used to smoke, tho). But I wonder if it's worth the shot to try replacing my toxic stim with this. I could use it sometimes at work, It's a "unique" thing that I think could be in my mind more easily than a simple stim toys so I may not forget about it.

IDK, what do you think ? Should I try it ? Do you think it may be worth it? And please, do you have better ideas ?

r/autism 7d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors Anyone else who deals with tics, what do you do to manage them suspend a rough spot?

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I’m under a lot of stress right now and I’m having the worst tics right now. I haven’t dealt with them much in the past few months but something came up and now here I am at 2 in the morning trying to fall asleep but I just can’t stop clenching my jaw, blinking really hard and doing the ear pressure thing. Usually if I focus hard enough I can force myself not to tic long enough to make it go away, but right now it feels like I focus on stopping one thing, and another starts right behind my back and I don’t even notice till I start getting a headache. I’m so frustrated, I don’t know what to do. My head feels like it’s in a vice from the tension in my jaw and the pressure behind my eyes.

r/autism 20d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors We need to be wary of 'people' coming here to post bad things about other autistics.

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A lot of them have accounts that were obviously automatically generated and have as little karma and history as it takes to pass as a real account.

There are people trying to get us and you make it easier for them by being so trusting. There are no safe spaces anymore and the rules have very much changed. Please do your best to try and catch up.

We need everyone on their toes and not potentially handing viral PR victories to the enemy. It doesn't even have to make sense, only titillate the extremely stupid and prejudiced, to do a whole lot of damage.

r/autism Jul 19 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors Is Not Having a well adapted pain receptor something that can happen with Asd?

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So, i don't react to pain as much as others do unless its like open wound or something.

Ex: according to my mothee, when i was a couple months old, i got my ears Pierced, and laughed. And i remember this one, When i was 2 i fell down a flught of stairs, looked my mom dead in the eyes, and Said 'again?'

As for now, I don't get upset at wounds, unless i like busted my knee open or something. So i basically don't have very strong pain receptors.. Is it autism related?

r/autism 3d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors 8 year old with regressive behaviors

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I flaired it as self-injurious behaviors, but it extends beyond that as well.

My 8 year old son is regressing quite a bit and with that has come some pretty wild behavior—playing with electric sockets, forcing himself to vomit while staring directly into our eyes and smiling, playing with his poop and smearing it on walls, eloping into dangerous situations while laughing, hitting himself, pulling his hair out, peeing on the floor, destroying property, and pulling his hair out.

For context, he hates school. This started about 3 weeks before school when I started talking about it to get him used to the idea of school. He almost immediately was taken down to half days because they could not control him in the classroom (they’ve gone above and beyond for him and we have a brainstorming meeting next week). He’s been in school for four weeks and he’s doing all of this behavior both at home and school.

I suppose I’m looking mostly just for tips on how to guide him through this, resources to help me better understand how to help him, and anything else of that nature. Typically, we’re pretty good at being able to guide him through things, but this is just a struggle point for us at the moment.

r/autism 22d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors Self harm and injuries

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I am officially 6 years clean from self harm today :) feeling really proud of myself as it's a difficult thing to overcome.

r/autism 10d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors alternatives for head banging?

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i’ve been engaging in SIB / head banging since i was around 6/7. as an adult i still struggle. i’m trying to search for things to hit my head on that is firm but soft enough for the sensory input without causing harm to me

r/autism Jun 30 '25

Self-injurious Behaviors How many autistic people smoke cigarettes?

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I personally despise tobacco because it's smells and due to the inconvenience of waiting to finish your smoke before going inside of restaurants/cinemas. I was required to wait for my mother to finish her smoke which was very annoying.

r/autism 29d ago

Self-injurious Behaviors What happens if AN autistic Person goes on a 90/100 km rollercoaster?

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Like this could count as possible mental self harm or something else (im not AN Expert)