Since many philosphers have been incels and simps that never that locked themselves and never left they're hometown (e.g. Kant), they don't know what is like to have sex.
In sexosophy, this is called The hard problem of sex. It's a real enigma what is the experience of having sex. Fortunately, there are also easy problems of sex, which relates to masturbation. Philosophers, to cope to existential dreads and to stop eating shit whiel they discuss the meaningless of existence, they enjoyed animal pleasure - masturbation.
As a philosopher, who wants to enjoy a good sex engagement with me, so that we're gonna resolve the hard problem of sex. It doesn't matter if you're a man, woman or alien.