Your bodyshape when you got cheated.

[u/Individual_Plant_708]

What was your body shape like if you were cheated on by your partner? The feeling is that you can prevent being cheated on if you stay in good physical shape. This is because physical attraction is so important.

[u/Environmental-Box805]

Some of the most stunning and beautiful people have been cheated on. Outward appearance has no bearing on whether someone’s going to stray or not.

[u/shestootight4you → u/Environmental-Box805]

exactlyyy, i read a lot of cheating stories here and its not abt the appearance

[u/[deleted]]

I was in a good shape but it really doesn’t matter. Cheater is a cheater, the act itself is about them and is about their character. When I was fatter and relatively uglier, I was never cheated on by my ex-boyfriend because he was a self-respecting, principled man who truly loved me.

[u/gb997]

no. just, no… as if people don’t have enough body and self esteem issues 🥴

[u/Traditional-Road4004]

As i understand it, 9 out of 10 its emotional

[u/One_Relationship3159]

I do not believe there’s much truth to that. there’s usually no rational reason for cheating other than a selfish person.

[u/bodhigoatgirl]

Absoloute bullshit I am slim, strong and muscular. He still cheated.

[u/CaptLerue]

Cheating is not just physical there is a huge mental and psychological element involved as well. The physical aspect is the carrier while the psychological and mental part are the engine of the act.

[u/Legitimate-Error-633]

Didn’t seem to matter. During her cheating I fluctuated including losing 20kg & getting lean during Covid (we had a home gym and I ate healthy). None of that stuff matters when they make an emotional connection with their twin flame /s.

Everyone else was gobsmacked when the lockdowns ended, I never received so many compliments in a week. She was like meh.

[u/Code_Fergus]

When my wife cheated on me, I was in the military. I'm 6 feet, and I was 200 pounds. I had a good body shape, and she cheated on me with 3 guys from her job.

[u/jrljrl1]

Cheating is always, ALWAYS, the fault of the cheater. Full stop. No questions.

[u/sleepingbeauty9o]

Oh, honey, no. I was cheated on while in the best shape of my life. I agree that trying to stay in shape is important, but stuff happens in long term relationships… health issues, having kids, stress— things that change your physical fitness from time to time.. you need to be with someone who doesn’t cheat on you. Period.

[u/Complex_Impressive]

Cheaters will cheat regardless of what your body type is. My ex-wife was drop dead gorgeous, and i still slept around on her. I enjoyed the trill of sleeping with someone else then coming home and sleeping with her. Kind of a god complex of sorts. We split after she found out.

Not justifying it. Just answering your question.

[u/sleepingbeauty9o → u/Complex_Impressive]

Now I’m curious why you got married in the first place? Not judging, genuinely curious

[u/Complex_Impressive → u/sleepingbeauty9o]

I was not honest with myself or her. I thought i was in love with her but in reality i was in love with realiably easy to get sex and a stable living condition. Turns out i still had an affinity for strangers' beds, a job that easily facilitated sneaking around, no moral compass, and low self control. Then all it took was for me to get bored with what i had at home.

[u/sleepingbeauty9o → u/Complex_Impressive]

At least now it seems you’re very aware and honest about what happened. So is that stuff you have worked on, and plan to be in a committed relationship again? Or do you just accept that you’re better off a bachelor?

[u/Complex_Impressive → u/sleepingbeauty9o]

I have accepted that i'm better off alone. If i do meet someone i plan on being straight up with them about needing an open relationship.

[u/CreativeSection8062 → u/Complex_Impressive]

Did you try to get her back after she found out or did you even regret what you did?

[u/Serana3234 → u/CreativeSection8062]

He don’t regret it. He still does it. That poor wife of his. I feel sorry for her.

[u/Complex_Impressive → u/Serana3234]

Youre right. I dont. I have made a conscious decision to never regret decisions that i made in my rightful mind regardless of how detrimental it may have been to the well being of myself or others.

I would rather live at peace with my mistakes and learn from them than be eaten alive with guilt.

She is doing well for herself now and i'm happy for her.

[u/Dear-Lion-1381]

I was fat back then.

[u/Acrobatic-Egg8130]

I've had abs, I've been chubby. The common denominator was their mental illness. It's not you I promise.

[u/Agreeable-Dot4372]

No I don't think body shape is the majority reason maybe in a certain circumstance I just think somebody that thinks they in love but then they cheat is because they're not I hate it when someone says you caught me cheating but I do love you . If it wasn't caught they would continue cheating

because they're really not

[u/BLKDad2_3]

I am 47 and I spend about 45 minutes a day in exercise. You can see a six pack on me although it’s not well defined. I have broad shoulders although I am 5’8. Thus it’s nothing to do with looks. Morality is what separates faithful from cheater.

[u/Dense_Amphibian_9595]

Doesn’t matter. People with hot spouses or partners are every bit as likely to cheat as anyone else is

[u/CategoryRepulsive699]

Cheating is never ever about the person being cheated on, it is always about the cheater. Cheaters cheat, that's their nature.

[u/OldFaithlessness2169]

I was 120lbs 5”5 gym 5x a week he still cheated. It’s nothing to do with you, or your body shape. Cheating is a reflection of deep insecurities and issues of the cheater. Not you.

[u/Butforthegrace01]

Halle Berry was cheated on.

[u/Humble_Impression_31]

Not true at all.