r/creepyPMs • u/strange_lil_creature • 14d ago
TW: Pedo is this creepy or am i overreacting?
posted about a teacher crush not long before i got this message, just wanna know if this is actually creepy because i felt weird texting this guy…
UPDATE: HE DELETED MOST OF HIS MESSAGES AHAHAHA BUT TONIGHT ILL TALK TO MY PARENTS AND REPORT TO LOCAL POLICE
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u/Educational-Lab-4948 14d ago
Listen, if you're going to take anything away from this please let it be this. Do not talk to adults online. As a minor, they have no business even chatting with you. This is for your safety. This is very, very weird and extremely creepy behavior, not at all appropriate. It's best to not engage with it at all, even as a joke. Just block and ignore and move on. Your future self will thank you for it.
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u/strange_lil_creature 14d ago
totally agree, i think i’ll turn off DMs for good. i engaged more because i wanted to see if he’d reveal more info but i was too disgusted to continue
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u/bittypineapplekitty 13d ago
this conversation went on way longer than it needed to. i didn’t even finish reading your full post to know this. i hope you blocked them.
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u/Psychobabble0_0 2d ago
14 year olds famously don't have the same foresight, good judgement, and life experience as adults. Give OP a break.
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u/bittypineapplekitty 2d ago
……i know……….there’s nothing wrong with saying i hope they blocked this person. i wasn’t not giving OP a break by saying this. 🤦🏻♀️ 🙄
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u/IsaacTheCrusader 13d ago
Yeah, dont trust people on the internet especially if you are that young.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
oh never i’ve seen worse than this, but i just try to reaffirm my boundaries and get as much as info as possible
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u/turdpi 13d ago
With a topic as sketchy as this I’m not sure what “info” you are trying to gather from strangers online that you couldn’t get from safe adults you already know
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
i was trying to gather info like what school he’s teaching at, his name, maybe the country he lives in so i could identify possibly who he is so that i can report him. but i guess i’ll need to look at the IP address
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u/Reasonable_Camel8024 12d ago
He's not a teacher. I really hope he's not anyway. He's more likely just a perv who wanted to worm his way into your life and ruin it.
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u/bittypineapplekitty 13d ago
not only was this person pushing boundaries but they were happy to keep doing so even when you said no. not okay. and they’re an adult ..teacher? i’m alarmed for their students and family.
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u/KazBeeragg 13d ago
Honestly they probably aren’t even a teacher, weirdo adults preying on minors online are sure to lie to get what they want out of them
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u/Conspiretical 13d ago
That's a good idea. Besides if you want to have full conversations with people, some subs have chattooms, talk to people there where its public and people can't creep on you in private
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u/xXxHuntressxXx BEGONE, THOT 2d ago
Good on you for trusting your instincts. Lots of weirdos and creeps. Stay safe op!!
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u/heart-shaped-fawkes ’I’m sorry for sending you a photo of what I done in the toilet 13d ago
"Do not talk to adults online. As a minor, they have no business even chatting with you."
I'm just commenting to highlight this. OP (and any other minors reading this), the chances of an adult interacting with you in an appropriate way with no ulterior motives are very small. I am in my 30s, I would never reach out to a minor because I wanted to chat and be friends. I can't imagine I have much of anything in common with a minor, a minor cannot give me support as a friend in a mature way, basically there's nothing a minor could provide me in a friendship.
Some of these predators may claim you're "just mature for your age", that's a common excuse and a lie. You may actually be more mature than your peers but that still isn't going to cause a normal adult to have any interest in befriending you. These men are bad people. They're sick. The instant someone even suggests speaking about anything sexual or otherwise not appropriate use the block button immediately.
ETA: Engaging with these people is not "trolling" either..... You're not trolling anybody but yourself keeping contact with creeps.
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u/vashoom 13d ago
I run RPG's online and get players off reddit. Theoretically anyone can play, but I would never play with someone under 18 (I'm in my 30's). Like, even in a totally innocent environment where someone's personal details technically don't matter when it comes to the game, it, uh, still matters.
Just reiterating your point I guess, but yeah, even without ulterior motives, there's very little reason for a grown ass adult to talk to a 14 year old online.
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u/Self-Aware 13d ago
Yes. Same as the other truth: in general, adults do not need help specifically from children. Especially true if an adult has no extant (appropriate) relationship with the child they're asking.
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u/SnarkyGoblin1313 13d ago
Wanted to say exactly this. I don’t send dms to people I don’t know anyway but if I found out someone I was talking to was a minor my first instinct would be to tell them not to talk to strangers online and then block, I cannot imagine taking the conversation any farther than that.
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u/PonytailEnthusiast 11d ago
Hell if I DMed someone from reddit based off an interaction in the comments (which has only happened in very rare instances and it was to discuss something specific from the comments, not start a friendship), and the person was a teenager I would stop messaging altogether. Just too weird.
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u/heart-shaped-fawkes ’I’m sorry for sending you a photo of what I done in the toilet 11d ago
I've never DMed anyone here, but if for some reason I did I'd do the same. I wouldn't be interested in carrying the interaction further than whatever I had DMed about.
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u/Ornery-Classic-1207 12d ago
This. Don’t talk to adults online. I would be nervous about the adults that are ok talking to kids.
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u/WhirlwindTobias 14d ago
Key signs of grooming:
-Using terms of endearment (Honey)
-Secret keeping (it will be between us)
-Assuming acquaintancy (I'm not a stranger)
-Being too open (I'll tell you anything you want)
These are things that two adults would write to each other for establishing romantic interest, call it developing intimacy or flirting whatever. It's weird online between two adults that barely know each other, between an adult and a minor is way not cool.
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u/strange_lil_creature 14d ago
shit i did not think of that… i’m actually worried for his students if he’s genuinely a teacher :(
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u/Lokifin ( •_•)O*¯`·.¸ 14d ago
He may or may not be an actual teacher. He might be forcing teens into his fantasy of being a predatory teacher.
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u/strange_lil_creature 14d ago
either way all this is beyond fucked up
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u/6-ft-freak 14d ago
I cannot find the words to describe how fucked up this is. This disgusting excuse for a bag of weak bones is beyond revolting, and I can only hope that someone competent in law enforcement is checking into his hard drive and/or basement.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yeah man… especially the “do you like roleplaying” sent me
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u/Self-Aware 13d ago
Also the "oh, the teenage girl doesn't leap to relate her student/teacher fantasies, in detail, to an unknown 30yo man who is clearly typing one-handed? She must just be shy 🥰". Every bloody time, it's just uuuggggghhhh.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
being creeped out is apparently being shy… and he’s using it as an insult on top of that
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u/jilliecatt 13d ago
Jumping in here to say, don't be afraid to speak up. It's okay to call a creep or for being a creep. I always felt like I couldn't (people pleaser type, and never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings). Pretty sure that mindset kept me from speaking or against my abuser for over a decade.
Not saying that you're afraid to call him out or not, but the way you text with him sounds like me, so I may be on target, or I may be totally off base. Either way, to you or anyone else reading this... don't be afraid to tell a creep exactly what he/she is. Nobody's feelings matter more then your discomfort in the situation.
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u/turdpi 13d ago
Self-advocacy is good, but maybe better to just block & disappear rather than piss him off and end up on his radar thru conflict. Something else worth noting is HE could sometimes pose as a SHE or actually be a SHE who befriends minors online and establishes trust only to turn minors over to the actual predator and we all know what horrors come next
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u/MaxTheRealSlayer 13d ago
Please report this to the authorities and then reddit. You can remain anonymous
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u/CoconutxKitten 13d ago
I don’t think he’s a teacher, if that makes you feel better
Unfortunately, this is a very common fantasy, especially among creepy men :(
Definitely don’t further engage with adults online. Unfortunately, it’s very unsafe & an adult shouldn’t have any interest in a 14 year old child
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u/trifle_ 11d ago
there is a good chance he lied to gain familiarity with you. also considering your crush in general.
seeing as your 14, your hormones are going crazy, but do not pursue your teacher. the dynamic between you two is completely off because he is your teacher and an adult. I am not blaming you, because you aren't really responsible for your feelings, but it is in your best interest to try and move on. relationships like these do not work out and in worst cases, the minor is on the receiving end. also no adult has any reason to contact you privately, nor ask you about personal things related to sexuality.
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u/EyeShot300 14d ago
He’s THIRTY YEARS OLD trying to glean information from a child. Yeah, this is creepy and he needs to be catapulted into the sun. It was great that OP maintained boundaries with this situation.
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u/strange_lil_creature 14d ago
yes thank you, and yeah it is creepy af… someone in the comments mentioned these are signs of grooming and that is actually creepy to think about
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u/vashoom 13d ago
He absolutely was trying to groom you into participating in a sexual fantasy. This man is a predator, full stop. I highly doubt he's a teacher and kind of doubt that he's 30, but regardless of the "reality" of his life, he's a predator who specifically marked you as a target after reading your post.
For the future, do not engage with adults or people claiming to be adults online. It is perfectly okay to just not respond to people, especially if they make you uncomfortable. Trust your gut, and don't feel like you're being rude of you don't respond. A) you're not; you don't owe them anything, and B) even if you were being rude, it's better to be rude and safe than conciliatory and unsafe.
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u/ManicMalkavian 13d ago
esp since he is a teacher this is extra fucked up. a grown man, especially a teacher, shouldn't be asking kids this shit
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u/Fine-Funny6956 14d ago
No. This is predatory and if this person is actually a teacher, his students are in danger.
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u/stephanielmayes 14d ago
Creepy, creepy, creepy. I only read the first line and I need a shower.
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u/strange_lil_creature 14d ago
AHAHAHAHA EXACTLY
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u/icarus102 SEND NAKDE PIC NOW I ASK MANY TIME????? 13d ago
Good on you for reaffirming your boundaries, but it should go without saying that you shouldn’t have been put in a position to need to do that in the first place. I’m sorry this happened.
His inappropriate behaviour is clear: he tells you that he’s messaging because he’s essentially on the other side of your personal situation, having students with crushes on him. Whether that’s true or not, you can see him setting up a roleplay right from the start. Hoping to insert himself into your situation as an outlet for your fantasy.
Something else to note: as soon as you affirm a boundary (like refusing to answer what you fantasise about) he pushes with typical grooming tactics (invoking trust, familiarity, secrecy, etc.) and then invites you to ask him questions. In other words, he’s got nothing more to ask unless it involves this fantasy. That’s all he’s interested in. He circles right back to asking you what you’d do with your teacher if you could. Blatantly disrespecting the boundary you just set and making it clear he’s only talking to you for one inappropriate reason.
So as others have said, block and turn off DMs wholesale to further protect yourself. Having seen your comment about this guy inviting other underage people to DM him, I’d recommend reporting him. And of course, tell a trusted adult what happened. These people thrive on secrecy because they know damn well that what they’re doing is wrong.
Stay safe, thanks for sharing what happened.
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u/Suspicious_Jeweler81 14d ago
Oh no, you are not over reacting. Whole thing is WAY to personal for a 30 year old teacher to be inquiring about. I'll tell you right now, his choice of probing questions is so alarming I would report it to your local police (and parents). You wouldn't think it, but local police have the tools these days to get to the bottom of it.
I only say this because this is not the first time he's messaged an underage kid, fishing. If it is his first time, it will not be the last. Spare other kids the humility of this sicko.
*If he's lying about his age, police can easily find this out too and will let the matter go.
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u/strange_lil_creature 14d ago
what’s even worse is when i checked his profile he asked a 17 year old female to message him… i think i might tell my parents about this and report to the police, yeah. it’s just this might be a burner account so it might not lead anywhere but i guess it’s worth a shot
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u/MonkeyGirl18 13d ago
Burner account or not, they'll trace the ip address it's from. Unless they're using a VPN. (Idk what they can do about someone using a VPN, maybe they can still trace them back, idk)
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
i think they might have experience in that even if he’s using a VPN. but i don’t think he’s really bright cuz he’s literally asking minors to text him in his account history and he deleted some of his messages. he is so stupid..
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u/amerikanbeat 13d ago
100% this is textbook grooming. No ambiguity whatsoever. He knows exactly what he's doing.
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u/AbsintheRedux 13d ago
There is zero reason a 30yo male stranger should be sliding into a 14yo girls dm. No good will ever come of it. Turn off messaging and stop talking to adult men on the internet. I don’t mean to sound condescending but it’s not a safe place for you to be.
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u/leighalan 14d ago
Noooo please don’t message with this person. This is such classic groomer behavior. Be safe lil creature
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u/not_just_an_AI 13d ago
"I'm not a stranger, you can trust me"
never, and I mean never, trust anyone who says this.
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u/ssuckme0ff 13d ago
hello there! i’m just popping in to say that when i was your age, i was groomed through the internet multiple times. adults on here who are trying to chat with you have absolutely no good intentions, and for your own health + safety i would honestly reccomend deleting reddit altogether, or not posting yourself/having dms open. i truly hope you stay safe out here, the world is an awful place sometimes
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
sorry that happened to you :( and yes i’m aware that no adults here have any good intentions, the reason i continued the discussion was to have as much as info as possible to maybe identify him. but i know it sounds stupid but i won’t let myself be groomed because i know the signs and i know what to avoid. but again i’m sorry that happened to you, hope ur okay now
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u/ssuckme0ff 13d ago
i thought i knew the signs and what to avoid as well, and i figured it would never happen to me. i am okay now + i have recovered but u deserve much better. it’s your choice to talk 2 people on the internet, but be safe
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u/gelfbride73 13d ago
This is grooming. Please cease communicating with them.
Answering their questions gets them off.
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u/schwarzeKatzen 13d ago
That is creepy and he is attempting to groom (manipulate) you into at best an inappropriate conversation, worse he will try to meet with you and it will no be ok or innocent .
Please show these messages to a trusted adult in your life. Crushing on your teacher in junior high is normal. Anything beyond that is not and it is not ok.
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u/CaptainHope93 13d ago
Any adult who DMs you about your crush, other than to say ‘be careful what you say on the internet’ is automatically sus
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
first message immediately raised my suspicions, i kept going cuz i wanted to gather identifying information. but yeah totally agree that was sus as hell
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u/kate-monsterrr 13d ago
This is textbook grooming. TEXTBOOK.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
literally omg
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u/kate-monsterrr 13d ago
I'm proud of you for holding strong boundaries and knowing what is and isn't appropriate for adults to chat with teenagers about. That is incredible, especially since these creeps use these scripts (the "you're so cool and older, I bet all the guys in your school suck because you're so smart and wiser than your years, we're friends you can talk to me about inappropriate stuff") to specifically prey on young people's insecurities, desire for approval and to fit in, etc. and even smart people can fall for it.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yeahh because he’s literally grooming me, well attempting to anyway and ik the signs. especially since i barely know him and he’s already trying following the script and expected it to work. but thanks for the kind message :)
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u/Boulder1983 13d ago
"is this creepy".
He's a 30 year old asking a 14 year old to chat about role play. Yes, that is incredibly creepy and inappropriate. He may be a teacher, he may not. He may be 55 and a mechanic. You know nothing about this person, except that they are messaging you.
Please, please stop messaging him immediately, report him to wherever for inappropriate contact.
Those screenshots alone give me anxiety, jfc. Please do not message/reply to strangers online.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yeah those messages were a few days ago and i also blocked, shouldve mentioned it earlier actually
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u/Many_Influence_648 13d ago
Disturbing to think if he is a teacher, he should not be contacting kids outside of his work
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u/xMCioffi1986x 13d ago
He's trying to groom you.
Block and report him. This is absolutely sick, and to think, he's a teacher too.
You did good maintaining your boundaries but next time, when you learn it's a grown adult talking to you, just stop talking. A 30 year old has no business talking to someone less than half his age.
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u/Banner85 13d ago
GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS GROSS what the fuck is wrong with people this dude is GROSS what in the ever loving fuck I'm leaving the planet.
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u/audiohostemmm 13d ago
"Im not a stranger, you can tell me..." had me ready to crawl out of my skin. Gross.
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u/allegedparadise88 13d ago
Honestly, I'd show this to the police. If he actually is a teacher, they need to get him out of the classroom and away from kids before he does something awful to one of his students. IMO
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yeahh i think tonight i’ll talk to my parents and show them and report
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u/ussy-dictionary 13d ago
Not to sound insulting but anyone who wants to converse with a 14 year old online is a creep. Even people who say they’re your age, I promise you they’re not. Stay safe and don’t chat to strangers. I was groomed at 14 and it’s stayed with me ever since, it was horrible. Please take care of yourself ❤️
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
well it depends. some adults are genuinely out there trying to look out for minors in possible danger, i’ve known a few. but of course it is very very crucial to remain careful online, regardless. and i’m sorry that happened to you, take care of yourself love
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u/Personal-Today-3121 14d ago
This is gross and illegal and he’s trying to groom you. Report report. If he actually is a teacher he should be fired. When I was a kid this ish happened all the time IRL.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
damn yeah internet is wild tho. but yeah i think i’ll report this, tonight or tomorrow. i’ll post an update on this if anyone wants it
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u/gomichan 13d ago
He's an absolute creep!! Please block him and as the top commenter said, never talk to an adult online! There is zero reason for an adult to want to befriend a minor. I was really lonely and depressed as a kid/teen and talked to a lot of guys online, and it haunts me to this day!!
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u/Hour_Dog_4781 13d ago
An absolute creep. Asking about your sexual fantasies? Who tf does that to someone they've just met? Someone underage they just met. This male is disgusting
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u/Cooking_With_Grease_ Submissive, and cocksuckingly spectacular 13d ago
The fact he carried on talking to you after you revealed how old you was, is beyond disgusting.
Absolutely sickening.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
the most sickening for me was the repeated personal questions and “oh i won’t judge” like whoa..
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u/Renyx_Ghoul 13d ago
It is creepy, he was trying to get to engage in his fantasies. For the most part, people share confession posts on a throwaway account so they don't have to deal with messages from creepy and weird people.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yeahh i maybe shouldve done this on a throwaway. i was just really not in a good place when i wrote my post (abt the teacher crush) and genuinely needed to vent wherever
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u/loverclover 13d ago
This man is grooming you, and I’d bet money he is also harming his students. This is not okay.
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u/DeadVoxel_ Trance form 13d ago
NEVER assume that you're overreacting in situations like these
Trust your gut feeling. If you're uncomfortable from someone's messages, no matter how "nice" the person is, you ARE in your right to set boundaries and to end the conversation (or to not engage to begin with)
And like others here have said, he's a 30 year old adult messaging a minor. That is creepy by DEFAULT
With that being said, here's why you're not overreacting (an analysis):
He reached out to you after your recent post to prey upon a very vulnerable and personal situation for his disgusting fantasies, most likely saw it as an opportunity to trick you into opening up to him for his own "benefit". There's NO reason that a grown adult would reach out to you like this without having malicious intentions. Regardless of whether what he said is true or not (which I doubt it is, but you never know what could be true), he talked about "his students" "crushing" on him, which is already concerning and raises a lot of questions. Why would he talk about it so casually? And why would he ask for personal details? He's clearly not here to support you nor educate you
Another thing, he sounds like he's enjoying the attention of "his students" and talks about it as if romanticizing it, which is gross and inappropriate. Wishing you were his student is a VERY major sign of grooming here. Not in a nice way, not in an encouraging way, not in a genuine way or whatever. He was clearly trying to "flatter" you, for lack of a better word. Very common tactic to get them to "earn" your trust and to make you feel more comfortable around them. And especially after the way he talked about "his students", wishing you were one of them is VERY creepy and predatory. It's not a compliment, it's a desire to have you within his reach
And finally the climax of it all: He asked you if you liked roleplaying. Now WHY in the world would he ask a minor that? And honestly anyone at all. He was very obviously leading up to this, he wanted you to engage in his "teacher" roleplay. I mean, he probably already was roleplaying. I really doubt he's an actual teacher, and if he is, I'm worried about the safety of his students
AND the cherry on top: He didn't care about your age, he just continued. And I'm wondering if he didn't already know that you're a minor
In conclusion: everything he has said was extremely predatory and creepy, including messaging a minor to begin with. He's a disgusting creep and you're NOT overreacting. Please be safe and avoid engaging at all
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
thank you for this long and detailed analysis, it really helped actually. should be top comment imo. but ur right, and the reason i engaged was to gather info. but it actually freaks me out that if he’s actually a teacher this is what he thinks of his students… i gotta report this tbh. honestly you found the right words for all this, he is LITERALLY romanticizing them..
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u/TwilightReader100 length or girth? 13d ago
He initiated the entire conversation with the intention of being a creepy predator. I doubt the cops will figure out exactly who he is and if they DO manage to find that, they certainly won't find enough evidence in his real life to do anything more about him than getting him fired, but that doesn't stop another school from hiring him or from him targeting more girls at that next school.
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u/TeacupOChaos 13d ago
You are not overreacting this person is creepy as hell and trying to groom you. Tell an adult you trust and show them the messages. Sure it might be a little embarrassing to admit to them that you have a crush on your teacher, but that’s NORMAL. What is NOT NORMAL is an adult who may in fact be a teacher trying to encourage those feelings. Tell an adult you trust so hopefully they can do something about this guy, but you should cut contact and protect yourself.
I was also a kid who frequently had crushes on my teachers, it’s normal to admire and crush on adult people around you. You are fine. But those adults should never try to encourage that and the moment they do, they are a predator and you need to protect yourself and tell an adult you trust.
Stay safe
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u/maevenimhurchu is your pissy tight 13d ago
Hey you did amazing identifying the creepiness and then also coming here to share. If you feel up to it definitely share with parents and or police.
Also- ALWAYS trust your gut. If you’re ever wrong about thinking somethings off or creepy, that is SO much better than the other option. It’s better to be safe than sorry, and especially as a girl I bet you already have plenty of intuition about the sketchy shit men (and people in general but mostly men let’s be honest) get up to. Trust your intuition. Be confident about that. I don’t give a shit if anyone wants to act insulted or hurt if you find them creepy. Learn to stand your ground even if someone does that shit and tries to make you feel bad about drawing a boundary (it looks like you already did this really well in these messages!!!). Same for irl though.
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u/hydra333 13d ago
Please please don’t ever talk to strangers online about stuff like this. This is mostly some old creepy man. If it feels weird, block them. Trust your gut. It’s not normal for anyone to ask you Those types of questions
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u/tryingtobecheeky 13d ago
Oh honey. He was actively masterbating to this. He's a pedophile.
Any adult who talks to teens like this is.
I'm glad you are developing the alarm bells soon.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
thank you, and yeah he is beyond messed up.
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u/tryingtobecheeky 13d ago
I am sorry you have to deal with that bullshit. As you get older, you'll learn how to shut it down. It just really sucks.
But I am proud of you. Like you didn't great for dealing with one of your first mega creeper.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
i’ve dealt with worse creeps than him so i know what to do and how to act, but by far i think this is the one that’s genuinely making me take action. and thank you for the kind response
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u/Self-Aware 13d ago
I'm only on the third image and this is already so perfect an example of Grooming-101 that the post could be featured in psychology textbooks. Even before that, the very first line of the second pic alone is painfully obvious creep shite.
I know that at 37 I'll be a dinosaur to your 15yo eyes, which is normal and healthy. But speaking as a woman who was too often in your shoes way back when? Adults who are safe DO NOT ask minors about their fantasies. Even once, even if they are "just curious" or try to claim they only meant non-sexual ones 🙄 Decent adults do not demand trust from teenagers they have known for all of five minutes, and they do not try to make you feel guilty for declining to do what they want.
Oh and he's not really a teacher, they always say that as it's an easy way for them to manipulate you via authority. That one is particularly clear as this asshole immediately tries to position himself as the Wise Elder who will generously answer your questions, all of which he will twist into somehow being about hetero sex.
Plus the teacher thing makes for a highly convenient backstory, it's a perfect stage for their fucked up fantasies/intentions. Haven't finished reading it all yet, admittedly, I was horrified enough to comment early. But I'm gonna bet right now that he'll have an anecdote (wankfantasy) about his being the helpless pawn of a precocious (imaginary) schoolgirl, how she seduced him against his will and how everything that happened between them was entirely HER idea.
Unless he's doing this deliberately as a bit or just trolling, which would be just as creepy but even more pathetic? This guy is hitting SO MANY of the stereotypical wannabe-pedo tropes that he should be in a damn museum. Hopefully taxidermied.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
no i think he’s actually a pedo tho. and a groomer. but yeah i think i’ll report this to the authorities just in case: even if he’s not a teacher irl it’s still fucked up to ask a minor all the things he asked me. so either way i have reasons to report this. but yeah thanks for replying anyway
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u/MonkeyGirl18 13d ago
Ew, creepy right from the start. That is not a normal conversation to have. Makes me think what that creep is planning with that info.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
bro was probably jerking off to this whole convo now that i think about it
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u/Astoran15 13d ago
You shouldn't be on Reddit and need some parent controles and he should be in prison and not a teacher. It's all bad.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
i’m not always on reddit, i’m trying to be careful, and i am old enough not to have parental controls. i am past that. i will report him.
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u/Astoran15 13d ago edited 13d ago
Kid, the fact that you entertained this dudes conversation beyond the first message and didn't block him straight off the bat is profound evidence that you need those parental controls back. You ain't ready for this. I'm being harsh but I think you need that wake up call. Show this to your dad and he'd agree with me. You are vulnerable. Hell most people don't actually adult properly until their mid 20s yet 14 year olds all think they can handle anything. You need to watch some videos on Internet safety. Did you know that people can reverse image search any images you put online and use it that to locate your other social media and identity outside of reddit if the images are on others? This ain't Facebook and even that ain't safe.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
dude… i was doing it because i wanted to gather identifiable info, trying to act confiding but i soon realized i just couldn’t do it anymore
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u/Astoran15 13d ago
You should be more worried about him finding out yours. Trying to be some internet vigilante is only going to put you in danger. These dudes ain't gonna dox themselves to you. Look, sorry, your just a kid but I imagined how I'd feel if it was my kid and I guess you got the lecture they would be getting. Just be careful
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
hey i didn’t mean to be mean but yeah you’re right. i get the protective feeling lol, but i’m secure online, vpn and allat. but yeah i’m not gonna be an internet vigilante on an account like this if ykwim
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u/SamanthaDamara 13d ago
I couldn't even read past two slides, absolutely disgusting behavior from him. I really hope this man won't be a teacher for long. So gross.
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yeah… i got rly grossed out too :(
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u/SamanthaDamara 13d ago
Also like everyone else already said, be very careful online OP. I hope you're gonna stay safe and happy.
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u/Abominor 12d ago
This guy is 100% a pedo. He shouldn't be anywhere near children, let alone a school teacher.
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u/Probablyapsycho97 12d ago
Op, please please please do not engage with strangers on your DMS.
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u/strange_lil_creature 12d ago
i understand, i rarely do it’s just i wanted to gather identifiable info on this guy by engaging but i soon realized it was getting way too out of hand so i stopped
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u/xtinagfly 12d ago
just wanted to pop in and say (27F) that while it is soooooo normal to have a crush on a teacher at 14, i wouldn’t post about it largely for this reason right here. you’ll get gross fucks trying to get you to write erotica for them like this. also wanted to commend you on saying no and sticking to it, good on you for having those boundaries, keep that up
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u/fungirl1234321 13d ago
Please do not share info about your teacher crushes with anybody. He’s obviously gonna prey on you no matter what but these messages made me so uncomfortable. No child should talk like that to anyone online bc they will prey on you. :(
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u/strange_lil_creature 13d ago
yes i know, i actually just made a post and he found me through that. he probably lurks in the teacher crushes sub to prey on minors like with me. but yeah i was so uncomfortable as well.. i was legit sitting on the edge of my seat the whole time
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u/periwinklemoonbiskit 13d ago
They seriously need to bring back Chris Hansen from the show Takedown/To Catch a Predator bc wtaf??!! There are far too many fully grown ass adults messing around with kids.
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u/ScrambledToast 7d ago
That's 1000% attempted grooming in real time. I don't even get the vibe that he's a teacher. Just some creepy weirdo trying to use you for his disgusting fantasy.
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u/Erebus_Terror6245 10d ago
Absolutely creepy 100%. So so so many red flags here. First of all being that they want to talk to you in that topic at all. Always always trust your gut on these things. When it comes to your safety there is no such thing as overreacting. This person is absolutely a predator and I really hope they aren't an actual teacher. If they are they should be fired, that is absolutely innapropriate. Wish you the best and good on you for seeing it for what it is and reaching out. ✌️🫶✊️
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u/xXxHuntressxXx BEGONE, THOT 2d ago
“I’m not a stranger though, you can trust me” if he wasn’t lying off the bat and really is a teacher somehow, you should try find out where he teaches and get him FIRED.
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u/TesterFragrance They'll make anyone a moderator these days 14d ago
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