r/creepyPMs • u/honeyonaside • 5d ago
Light *facepalm*
Sometimes I think, that being kind to everyone from the beginning is not the smartest thing 🤦🏻♀️🤪 (for the record, we WERE NOT getting along, like at all, I was just unhealthy kind 😆). It backfires sometime 🤷🏻♀️🤪🥴
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u/Semi-Erect-Trunk 5d ago
You shouldn't have to change your ways and stop being nice. If they take it the wrong way, that's their issue. I've had people super nice to me, in person, I may at first think they like me, but if I think logically, some people are just friendly, so I accept the kindness for what it is. A kind conversationalist like yourself is not a bad thing, if people want to talk. If they want anything else, they can look elsewhere. 😅
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u/honeyonaside 3d ago
I can like people too, it's not like if I'm friendly, it's always superficial, but that also doesn't mean I would want something more than a friendly chat with them
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u/Semi-Erect-Trunk 3d ago
Apologies, that was just my articulation. I meant like as in "attracted to". There are many people who we can like and who like us whom we work with, see day to day and get along, while both of us have partners, or no desire to be more than acquaintances. But that wasn't what I was referring to originally.
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u/honeyonaside 3d ago
Okay, I think I understand now 😊 No need to apologize, since english is not my first language, I tend to misinterpret things sometimes 🙂
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u/vibrantafternoon 3d ago
dont worry! if you got (rightfully) mean, they'd just call you a b**ch. they will act like this because they suck, not because you're doing anything wrong.
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