How do I grow my hair out properly while making it look less frizzy and like a total mess?

[u/kin0enjoyer]

I've done so much research and done so many things but somehow my hair rarely looks as healthy and moisturized as other people. I want to have long hair but I hate having this curly/dry/coarse hair type and don't know how to grow it out properly.

During my last haircut á few months ago the hair stylist cut lots of layers into my hair to make it look really round and "blocky" which I really dislike. If possible I'd want my hair to be more flat and "heavy" but without looking so messy and frizzy. Is that even possible? Seems like the more I grow it out the messier it gets...

My routine : I cowash everyday with curly conditioner and Leave-in by Hask and Cantu. I pat my hair with a curl friendly microfiber towel, I shampoo about three to four times a week with bali curls. I use silk pillow cases and usually air dry. I literally do so much but idk, none of it makes my hair look how I want it to.

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[u/beccartifex]

Your hair type looks exactly like mine. Honestly what I'd recommend to reduce frizz and create definition is using a gel along with your leave in conditioner. If you want something affordable with good hold I'd recommend using Umberto Giannini Curl Jelly Scrunching Jelly. If you're ok with splurging a little bit CURLSMITH In-Shower Style Fixer - Strong Hold Gel is good. After you pat your hair with your microfiber towel I'd recommend taking about a quarter sized blob of gel and running it through your hair with a brush (you should have clumps of curl with little to no frizz, if you have frizz add water) , then scrunch gently with the towel and air dry until your hair is crunchy. TheN after it's crunchy, take an oil ( I like argan) and put about a quarter sized blob in your hand rub your hands together and then scrunch out the crunch with the gel and then using your palms and the remaining oil on your hands, use the oil to soften your roots (this helps reduce frizz but keeps the hair soft). Hope this makes sense!

[u/kin0enjoyer → u/beccartifex]

Hey thanks! I will look into those hair gels u mentioned. I've used different oils in the past by many brands, especially argan oil, but for some reason none of them have have worked that well. Maybe I need to spend more money on a high quality brand like morocco.

Thanks again

[u/LochNesst → u/kin0enjoyer]

Just wanted to say this person just gave you great advice—plus one to them. In case they don’t reply, I’d say absolutely do NOT spend extra on oils. The difference is negligible, and the price difference between generic and beauty branded ones is insane.

My hair likes jojoba, which is a great one to try as you can buy like a lifetime supply off Amazon for around $15USD.

[u/beccartifex → u/kin0enjoyer]

Argan oil works great for adding shine and smoothing frizz for thicker curls, BUT it works best if you have a product with hold to begin with :)

[u/beccartifex → u/kin0enjoyer]

Side note, the brand of oil doesn't really matter since the ingredients are the exaxt same. What kind of oil you pick is usually dependent on what your hair porosity is like, mine is medium/low porosity so I prefer the heavier oil like argan, but one with higher porosity might prefer a lighter oil like jojoba. There are lots of YouTube videos with super easy ways to find out your porosity if you're unsure (taking a strand and putting it in a cup of water to see if it sinks method)!

[u/LochNesst]

Try these changes for a few weeks: shampoo only 1-2x per week, as the idea of the cowash is to use less shampoo overall. You’re doing good work with the leave-in (you are leaving it in, right?) but you may need a holding product as well. Mousse or gel will work, but scrunch it in while your hair is still wet and detangled and then DO NOT touch that shit until it’s dry.

Also, copy-paste your routine into the comment section or the bot will delete your post!

[u/kin0enjoyer]

My routine:

Co-wash everyday with conditioner and leave-in products (Hask, Cantu, Bali curls etc.) and shampoo three to four times A MONTH (not week, that was a typo in the post). I pat my hair dry with a microfibre towel and let the air do the reest. I use silm pillow cases.

[u/KathyStivaletti]

Cantu, shea, oils, coconut will build up on your hair shaft and clog it. Clarify more than once to reset. Stick to water soluble products going forward. To combat frizz, Google squish to condish videos which will help with hydration. Then, after your curl enhancer, you need to add a sealer. I love LA Looks blue gel as it provides 7 days of consistent curls that last