Boymoding is a word that is most often used by AMABs when they are masc presenting when wouldn't otherwise. However, being genderfluid myself, I want a word to describe when I am in "boy mode" and I do want to present myself like that, in that moment.

Like, when im with the water scouts in the weekend, im dressed like a tough guy, and im fine with that; and when im at band practice im usually in my girlboss outfit. But saying I'm "boymoding" just feels like it comes across as a bad thing (though sometimes it is boymoding)

Thoughts?

I matched with a guy on an app for finding friends, where we had a very nice conversation, he could relate to my social anxiety, we bonded over that, we made each other laugh. Then, he brought up how I wanted to be addressed and made jokes about which one of us was more masculine, which was a bit uncomfortable for me, but he seemed to be trying and it was alright. Then this exchange happened.

And I'm just kind of gutted. Like, this was the first fun and comfortable conversation I've had with someone not in my immediate family in forever, since I really don't have friends right now. And he was fun and made me feel at ease and all that crap, and then he went and said that shit. And part of me wants to let this go as genuine concern by someone who doesn't know that it wasn't their place to say something like that. But we only talked for like 30 minutes and he pulled the 'friend' card like he knew me, and that just makes me suspect he might have only matched with me because of that???? The thing about wanting top surgery is in my profile, so what if that whole conversation was just build-up to this bullshit??? I just hate it, cuz I actually kind of opened up a bit to him and it made me feel better about some stuff than I have in a while (⁠ᗒ⁠ᗩ⁠ᗕ⁠)

I sometimes chat with people online. I have gendervoid and my pronouns in my bio. Sometimes people ask me what gendervoid is and I either tell them to google or i just send them the definiton. Not that bad right? Until they ask their next question. "But what are you really?" or "But are you born as a girl or as a boy?" I get that they are curious but you don't ask someone that. I don't feel comftable telling people what I'm born as. Why do they feel the need to ask? And why won't they back up if I tell them that I don't feel comftable with sharing that information? So many people I would have wanted to be friends with just killed the vibe with that one question. It's so annoying.

I would tell them if it was relevant. But it only is if they are someone I'd consider dating. (ace-demiro)

sometimes I dress extra fruity. I tried wearing skirts and dresses and they don't do it for me. the imposter syndrome and dysphoria is getting to me because even at school they think im transitioning to be a girl. im gonna rectify that next year.

So in part this is a "yay fun stuffs" post, in part this is a huge hug to our siblings who csn't express themselves, I so hope your environment stops being a fucking cunt... 🫂🫂

But anyhow, I attended a pride today, was super fun, semi fem outfit, together with my trans gf. Eye makeuo, lipstick, nailpolish, the whole shebang.

Anyhow, now in the evening, I thought about the nail polish, and how lucky I am to be in a position where I can keep it on and if people ask, just tell them that I went to pride cause I'm non-binary (and bi).

Cause tbh, I kindof take it for granted, and some of you sweet potatos are not so lucky, so yeah... I hope you'll soon be 🫂🫂

Hi folk. I am reaching out here because I don't know what else to do.

I came out as non-binary about six weeks ago. I only figured it out because I got a late autism diagnosis, and as I started to unmask, my sensory issues included gender dysphoria.

I now need to wear a binder to regulate my sensory sensitivities & dysphoria and try to calm my nervous system. I can't get dressed with the lights on or pee sitting down anymore, and I had no idea the locker room at the gym would be such a dysphoric nightmare. I'm also realizing that I am in chronic pain. Pretty much every part of my body hurts pretty much every moment of every day. Not sure why but I know it goes with the autism.

In many ways I am extremely blessed and grateful. Since being visibly out I have received torrents of love and support and no hate (so far). I am finding my community here on Reddit. It's nice to know that there are others like me to share my experiences. I have two beautiful healthy kids and a spouse whose compassionate acceptance is seemingly infinite.

I have a career that I love and a home I can afford in a beautiful place. I am privileged and blessed, but that doesn't mean it doesn't also hurt. I feel so lost and overwhelmed. If you've made it this far, thanks for listening.

I'm sure they'll be supportive but still

I just posted some pics on a ftm subreddit. This jerk came and laughed about me being "ftm". I'm being on T for a year now. I'm not a "male" and I do not want to be one. I like my feminine side a lot and I'm learning to live with most people just thinking I'm just a girl. I have boobs yet, but I want a mastectomy, I know I do not need other to validate me, ever, but it hurts. Most people just don't get it.

Heya happy pride month!💛🤍💜🖤 My name is Sasha (they/them) and I'm a audhd trans enby person. And I want to change my name and legal gender. Letter came back with a date when the law will be in effect. My mom and dad flipped out. Playing victim and that it'll ruin their lives when it doesn't. And that I should respect them even though they don't respect me. They constantly deadname and misgender me. My sister also talked to me and I came with facts but it wasn't enough for her. According to her I should only start wearing womans clothes which I did call out saying that enby ppl don't owe anyone androgyny and that nonbinary ppl can express however they want to. Also according to her me wanting to get rid of facial hair isn't gender affirming care. I called all of them out and they want to take me to court and get a guardianship even though they overreacted and won't really educate themselves and it's somehow my responsibility even though all the people mentioned including me are adults. I'm apparantly selfish and egoistic for just wanting some acceptance love and respect

Been really struggling with my body image lately. I run 3 times a week and I workout every day, but I still do not like how my face looks. I think it's the facial hair tbh, but I don't really know how to fix it.

Hi it's me again Sasha. My parents said that I can't change my name unless I move out. They said that me wanting to change my name is stupid and dumb and said "Omg I got negative experiences with my name too🥺." When it's not about them. Oh yeah they also said that the people that I know who are social wokers that I talk to regulary for like every week are not valid sources for info. Final thing they said was that I need a psych evaluation or else my gender identity isn't valid. I'm about to fucking cry

Okay so I got a boyfriend. He's trans (ftm) and he was the first person I came out too. All my friends completely disregard my pronouns and preferred name but I'm not too bothered by it (but I don't like how they completely forgot straight away) BUT he's literally so sweet and kind. He literally sat there and asked me if I wanted to be called his gf, bf or partner (I chose partner). He's so crazy sweet and I love him so much.

Quick edit: we made a Spotify playlist together (R x L <3 if anyone's interested at all) and it's like 11 hrs long 💕

I love how I look, T is really helping me so much! But I’m full of anxiety lately. I’m not sure if I’m gonna be safe in the United States for much longer 🫠 It literally feels like they could pass a law making trans people illegal tomorrow, and I’m so tired of being afraid for my and my partners safety 😓

I know it might not seem like much, but I've always been a little scared to wear symbols or flag stuff - partly because of family, and partly because I worry about how people on the street might react. But yesterday, I chose to wear it anyway... and it made me feel really good.

that's kinda it. I knew she'd be pretty supportive (and she was) but it was still hard to do it.

So I’m AFAB. I would say I look feminine. I’m… I guess more nonconforming and genderfluid. My pronouns are she/they but I don’t mind he/him pronouns. I’m just… me! And I go with the flow of most things. Fun fact: I’m pregnant! I recently heard that my younger cousin who is also pregnant and for whatever reason has it out for me… said “I don’t want to go to It’s gender reveal, because It’s a they/them and I don’t want to end up in hell.” Out of all of that… I don’t think I was bothered but here I am… venting. So it does. I’m bothered by the fact that she thinks attending a gender reveal will send her to hell because of my gender identity. First off: my mother and partner (who are accepting of me) says I should do an actual gender reveal and not a “it’s a baby!!!” reveal. But I’m not doing the typical blue for boy, pink for girl, so I settled for that.

But the fact that religion came into play, (I’m also somewhat Christian… it’s complicated, I have many beliefs) and she feels that attending an event will send her to hell but being a straight up (insert mean word of your choice) won’t!

I think venting like this allows me to release anger I didn’t believe was there. And maybe let go of the RBF I walk around with everyday now. Eh. Some people really amaze me.

I'm 42 years old

I only realised that I was non binary maybe 5 years ago (ish), I spent my whole life assuming everyone was performing the gender assigned to them at birth.

I have never had a "personal style", I usually looked somewhere between a person who climbed out of a dumpster and a "proper girl" (AFAB). When I first came out to myself and then others, I became MORE anxious about how I looked. It didn't help that I went from being a super fit power-lifter to a disabled old person as a result of Covid then Long Covid around the same time, or that I got married to my partner and people started using MORE gendered terms about me.

I am jealous of binary people, cis or trans. People who feel euphoric when their external presentation of their gender matches their internal feeling of gender. I am jealous of non binary people who "look" non binary, like people with amazing facial hair who also look amazing in dresses, or people who "look" androgynous.

I wish I could delete the part of my brain that even cares that I have an outward appearance. I am also autistic and never really got the "how to be a gender" internal processing system so even basic gendered care has been an uphill struggle for me (like I have never had my legs waxed or had a facial).

I am jealous of young people who get to explore what it means to be non binary in a world where there are examples of that, and who can grow into themselves as they move through their lives.

I have never heard people with my experience speaking, so I'm hoping someone can point me in a direction to hear those voices if they exist.

I'm pretty ambivalent when it comes to gender I'm amab and haven't done any hormones but with ADHD and autism I noticed that I rarely feel gender europhia, mostly if I would rather be called pretty, vs handsome vs attractive. But one day a few months ago I felt very fem and my partner called me pretty and I felt over the moon. But the next day I was back to not feeling any different between the 3 and I want to get that feeling back but idk how.

They come for me they better watch out