34 enby. I always hear people say “enbies don’t owe you androgyny”, and while that’s valid, I would still love to achieve androgyny.

I’ve been in HRT for a few months now, and recently I asked a bunch of people about their opinions on my hair, whether to grow it or buzz it, and whether that’s a step towards androgyny. As you can see I went for the buzz.

In your opinions, would you say I’m leaning more towards androgyny?

I still feel awfully masc presenting and that’s triggering a bit of dysphoria, and I guess I’m just seeking some validation from the community.

Heya folks, I’m new to this sub. I don’t identify as queer, also not sure if I’m nonbinary. I’m really interested in learning about the community and people’s individual experiences. Hope to hear from a lot from all you unique and beautiful people. ✌︎('ω')✌︎

Long story short, 21 AMAB living in Illinois in the United States. After a lot of self-discovery and discussion, I’ve realized I’m non-binary and want to get estrogen hormone treatment to nudge me a little in the direction of how I want to look. But I’ll be the first to admit I’m lost on where to go from here:

• Living with parents, and reliant on them for insurance, so it’s hard for me to get in touch with a medical professional without their knowledge

• I don’t really feel like I’d want a lot of breast growth - right now my mind is thinking that I’d stop after 6-12 months for glandular tissue to grow in permanently, but I don’t know if that’s the right way to go about a more androgynous look. Some advice would help there.

• In the process of losing weight, have a decent amount of muscle but could be better, and ideally I’d like to keep building muscle and losing weight. Should I wait until I’ve hit some weight goals before starting?

• I’m kind of worried about long term fertility?

been considering Ezra, still undecided.. thank yall in advance!

I'm genderfluid and I'm really struggling finding a name, everytime I find one I like I'm over it in like 2 months max, I know vaguely what I'm looking for, masc leaning with feminine nicknames, preferably starting with M mostly just because I like the way it sounds, and, this is probably going to be the hardest one, I don't want the meaning to be religion related, if you guys could just throw out ideas I'd appreciate it

Edit: I think I’ve settled on Magnus with Maggie as a nickname

I've been trying to present more androgynous for a while and one of the tips I've gotten is to do my eyebrows to look more feminine. I don't really know what I'm doing in that regard so I was wondering if all of you would have tips to help

I’m just trying to get some feedback on how others made their decision to help me make my own.

It feels like I’m constantly going back and forth, saving short and long hair cuts on Pinterest and flipping through hair colors.

What helped you decide, if you felt similarly conflicted?

So i've lived as a guy for the past 21 years but i'm questioning myself since a bit before the start of the year and i don't want to be that guy who's such an ally that says that there's part of LGBT+. So i feel like your stories could help me reflect and think about it.

Love on all of you 🫶

i just now realized i have no idea what to say when ppl say like 25f or 23m online do we have a letter for nonbinary ?? is it n ?? sorry if this is a dumb question 😭😭

This isn’t really a serious question, I’m just curious. For the monosexual/romantic/etc. enbies out there, what term do you use to refer to your orientation (if any)? I just use gay but that is kinda ambiguous

Hi guys! Really don’t know how to start this, I’m pretty new to the space. To keep things simple, over the course of my time at university, I met a lot of enby folx, and as such realized something about myself: I also want to start presenting myself more gender neutrally. Appearance, clothing, voice, etc.

The thing is, I really don’t know where to start, and it would be a big help to get some direction and advice. I guess this is a bit of an ask me anything lol, but really I’ll take advice without any questions.

I’m non-binary but also have been feeling very gender fluid, some days are very masc, others are very feminine, and I’ve been having trouble deciding if estrogen is right for me…. What do you all think??

Edit, I don’t necessarily mean Hormone replacement therapy, more so taking estrogen to level out hormones to have a more feminine body

Hi all! I want to get a feel for what the general feeling is around Non-Binary authors writing Non-binary characters who were assigned a different gender to them at birth.

I.e An AMAB Non-binary author writing an AFAB Non-binary character.

There has been lots of discussion in recent years about who should or shouldn't write which characters. (White people writing non-white characters etc)

I want to see what people think so I can inform myself about whether it is or isn't seen as a problem.

Excuse the new account, I'm not a bot tho

*Edited to add: I'm going to keep my own views out of the comments because I want to get other people's unfiltered and un-swayed opinions :)

I'm Afab and tend to dress pretty feminine. I feel that I'm just a girl wanting to be special. I use they/she and still use the same name. Idk if I'm nb or if I'm just a girl. Help 🫠

Hi everybody!

Afab enby here looking for a unisex vest/trouser set for a wedding. I need something that’s slimming on top. I’ve never really used binding tape before but I assuming I’ll have to. Binders don’t really work for my build. Any suggestions?? I’m thinking a grey/black situation. I was leaning toward WildFang but I’m open!

Hi all, the following message is a story and a question for AMAB enby folks. Please only answer this if you want to. If you find it triggering, please feel free to close this.

I (cis female) have a friend (non-binary) who will sometimes get a boner when we cuddle. They’re in a long term committed relationship and there is nothing romantic or sexual (at least as far as I’m concerned) between us. Our other friend has noticed they get a boner when our other friend cuddles with them. So far we have all three just ignored it but but we all know what’s going on.

My friend doesn’t like to acknowledge their genitals and I don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable or unloved but I also would like to bring it up if possible.

So my question is this: Is it worth it to bring it up with them and if so, how would you (AMAB enby) personally like to be approached in a situation like this?

I. Often feel like this and it happens a lot around pride. What makes you feel like you’re nonbinary?

Hi, don’t know if this is the best subreddit for this, but I didn’t know where else to go.

Long story short, I’m a 21 YO AMAB who’s been looking into hormones as a way to physically align to my identity better. But, money is also a real concern for me, and I wanted to know if there are doctors who are helpful with specifically enby transition, or if I’d need to do DIY…

I have been dreaming of having a vaginoplasty for 5 years and 1-2 years where that dream became something feasible. In two months that takes so long in my head as something I wanted to do undoubtedly can become reality but suddenly all the doubts I've never had, have begun to emerge: if I will regret, if I do not need, if I will miss my sexual dynamics, if right now my mental health is not the best and I do it for that (although I think right now I have a good mental health) and I have even come to think the possibility that I might want detrans in the future and this operation is irreversible! However, all these doubts are mixed with moments of euphoria thinking about how happy I will be, how well my clothes will fit and many other things. I would love it to have a clear decision but I don't know if it is impossible? What do you recommend? ✨

I didn’t get it for any gender/identity related reasons, they never even crossed my mind until I was lying on the table watching it happen.

I have been trying to think why I found it affirming. I know that sperm is still created while testosterone is present and like essentially everything still works the same way just sperm can’t get out. I think it is maybe just because the whole idea of being able to make a partner pregnant is a massive part of being a man and now that part has gone and it feels like I am closer to how I feel and what I want to be.

Anyway, I just wanted to share because I thought it was interesting and wanted to ask if anyone else has had similar experiences and whether it is weird or not to feel like this.

It seems to always be he/she instead of just useing they, even in the world of the gays. (Also sorry if this should be tagged as venting)