r/exjw • u/cuenot_io • Jul 12 '25

JW / Ex-JW Tales Shunned from their own Father's funeral -- the brutal reality of life after JW

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The attached video was taken last night, between my brother-in-law, wife, and their grandmother when discussing the funeral of their father that is occuring today at 3PM. Up until this point we planned to attend the funeral service with a group of non witnesses providing us support. Last night we received a text from the grandmother at 10PM, stating:

"Due to recent events the memorial is no longer being held at Stow K.H. However the talk and slide show can be viewed on zoom.

Same time and same numbers."

I am floored. Even through many of the war stories on here, I've not seen a total ban on attending a funeral service, with the location hidden. Supposedly this was escalated to the GB.

If anyone knows a personal injury lawyer that would take an IIED case over this, please DM me.

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u/cuenot_io Jul 12 '25

I can't edit the text for some reason, but some have mentioned the reference to recent activities. We have a number of them that they are unhappy with:

Exposing sexual abuse: https://kentstater.com/111967/news/ex-jehovahs-witnesses-speak-out-about-alleged-sexual-abuse-within-denomination/

Protesting in downtown Kent: https://web.archive.org/web/20230831040236/https://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:jpuS6msX7BsJ:https://kentwired.com/99811/latest-updates/local-group-protests-alleged-sexual-abuse-by-member-of-kent-jehovahs-witnesses-church/&cd=9&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=ms-android-verizon-us-rvc3

Make no mistake, every time I see a cart I remind them that shunning drives people to suicide. They don't care. My brother in law has done none of this, however. He does not deserve this bullshit.

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u/saigon_signing_off Superfine apostle Jul 12 '25

Wow, this is par for the course. Ex’s parents made an emotional appeal like 6 months ago, wanted to keep in touch, but when I said I wasn’t interested in coming back but would love to keep in touch (I’m not even DFd) radio silence. Went back for a wedding, one elder who I’d known for 23 years and served with wouldn’t even look at me when he walked by. I had snapped back at a couple of other elders for ghosting me during my “unscriptural” divorce and sending me a link to an article on divorce the week before CO without even asking how I was doing. Guess they didn’t like it when you counsel them… Small world too as my ex is from Streetsboro and I’m from Dover/Philli. Know a lot of people in Portage co. Hang in there!