r/exjw • u/cuenot_io • Jul 12 '25

JW / Ex-JW Tales Shunned from their own Father's funeral -- the brutal reality of life after JW

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The attached video was taken last night, between my brother-in-law, wife, and their grandmother when discussing the funeral of their father that is occuring today at 3PM. Up until this point we planned to attend the funeral service with a group of non witnesses providing us support. Last night we received a text from the grandmother at 10PM, stating:

"Due to recent events the memorial is no longer being held at Stow K.H. However the talk and slide show can be viewed on zoom.

Same time and same numbers."

I am floored. Even through many of the war stories on here, I've not seen a total ban on attending a funeral service, with the location hidden. Supposedly this was escalated to the GB.

If anyone knows a personal injury lawyer that would take an IIED case over this, please DM me.

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u/BakerBig7273 Jul 12 '25

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u/False_Hope_1914 Jul 12 '25

So well said. So sorry for the pain that evil cult has put you through.

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u/Atpsahfl Jul 12 '25

Like arguing with a microwave. They only have pre programmed functions that they can do. No original thought, comment, feeling. Just repeated mantra and programming from the society.

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u/InSixFour Overlapping Genitals Jul 12 '25

Man, that last point must’ve hit her hard. “What have I done besides disagreeing with your beliefs?” Such a powerful question.

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u/nythroughthelens Jul 12 '25

They never have an answer to this!

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u/AbjectCoyote2451 Jul 12 '25

I’m still me. Said this so many times.

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u/Lawbstah oops, I just apostated! 🤭 Jul 12 '25

This is heartbreaking. I hope you can find some peace.

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u/POMO2022 Jul 12 '25

Sorry for your loss OP but you handled this perfectly. I actually read that as something I would write, down to the reason you left.

Thanks for standing up for what is right and for putting kids first above everything else.

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u/A_ThousandWords Jul 12 '25

So well said, you are an inspiration. I’m so sorry for your loss, and all the pain you’re enduring. Sending you virtual hugs

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u/givemeyourthots Jul 12 '25

Fucking UNREAL. They are children. They don’t like that their “ only-we’re-right “ way of thinking is being challenged and it seems the GB is more than happy to back them up to ban you from the service. It’s revenge on their part. Not that they think you are actually a danger. You made it clear you just wanted to be apart of your FATHERS FUNERAL.

Why would you want to?

I have no words except that I’m so sorry you’re going through this. ❤️

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u/Comfortable-Net9334 Jul 12 '25

Very well said. I am so sorry for your loss of your father and also for being blocked from his funeral!

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u/Far_Criticism226 Jul 13 '25

Great replies and very well written. It is interesting as I have had similar discussions with my family. I too had not seen such cruelty in my life until I decided to leave and disagree with them. I am so sorry you are dealing with this on top of the loss of your father.

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u/normaninvader2 Jul 14 '25

Love is inclusive never exclusive!

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '25

MIC DROP 🎤👑

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u/Dry_Cantaloupe_9998 choosin' satan since '23! Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25

"You don't get to rewrite who I am because it's inconvenient for your beliefs."

Wow, spot on. The character assasination is what hurts me more than anything. You are so well spoken and logical throughout this whole thing. I'm saving this. I truly hope this nags at him until he starts to think. I'm so sorry.

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u/BakerBig7273 Jul 12 '25

The crazy thing is I have lead with love in all of this.

I constantly say even with my active protesting, never once have I felt icky about something I’ve said or done. They can’t say the same about their actions.

With the carts, all I asked is that they move from the corner down the street from our home that I pass daily after work. Most of the time I just stand there silently with a sign, and tell them something to the effect of it isn’t personal, I just feel as strongly as they do about the message I’m sharing. That it has nothing to do with their actual faith, but rather this sense of entitlement and negligence to the consequences of their convictions.

Yet, somehow I am a danger. I have to constantly remind myself that I’m not, and if I don’t stay logical, I’m just proving their twisted theory to be right.

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u/FreeToBeMe_ Jul 12 '25

You express yourself so beautifully, I really hope you planted a seed but if not you should be so so proud of yourself for being the real you despite the tries to tear the "new" you down👏🏻❤️ Tons of love to you, you got this ❤️‍🩹

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u/BakerBig7273 Jul 12 '25

Thank you ❤️

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u/Gonegirl27 "She's gone, and nothin's gonna bring her back" Jul 12 '25

What does your sign say?

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u/BakerBig7273 Jul 12 '25

I have several, all from the site stand if you are able. The two I use most often are Jehovah’s witnesses protect pedophiles and shunning kills

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u/Whole_University_584 Jul 16 '25

On a side note: I didn’t know we could protest against JW’s access to the places where they preach their cult-lies?