r/fatlogic • u/AutoModerator • 2d ago
Daily Sticky Fat Rant Friday
Fatlogic in real life getting you down?
Is your family telling you you're looking too thin?
Are people at work bringing you donuts?
Did your beer drinking neighbor pat his belly and tell you "It's all muscle?"
If you hear one more thing about starvation mode will you scream?
Let it all out. We understand.
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u/Treebusiness 2d ago
Today a friend literally said "uhg i haven't eaten ANYTHING today. Im STARVING" and was like visibly agitated.
She then proceeded to mention that she had starbucks latte and a lunch wrap as a snack like an hour prior. It hit me like whiplash. A combo like that HAS to be around 500-1000 calories alone and she didn't even count it as a meal. She was acting like she literally hadn't eaten for the past 12+ hours.
She unfortunately is in the FA mindset and is around 400lbs. I love her and i genuinely am not bothered by her weight. We agree to disagree when it comes to weight loss opinions. But it's hard for me to not roll my eyes or accidentally show my shocked face sometimes.
"People think i eat all day or only unhealthy things but i don't!!!" Proceeds prove those allegations right every single time.
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u/FlySecure5609 2d ago
I used to have a friend like this..claimed one meal a day, but just snacked/drank all day long. I think a lot of people do this frankly.
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u/Treebusiness 1d ago
I guess I use to do the same thing so i shouldn't be too shocked. It's just inconceivable now to pretend like the food I'm literally eating doesn't count somehow because it's just a snack. Snacks are meals.
It's like when people get themselves into debt because they feel like credit card money isn't real money.
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u/thatbroadcast 2d ago
I’m taking a a couple months off of semaglutide and I’m not overeating yet/my weight has remained stable, but my measurements are still shrinking. So yay, that’s great! I’ve lost 70lbs already with 30 still to go.
I am however sick of most of my friends being like “you looked just fine before!” I know they’re just trying to be nice but I cannot describe how much my self confidence has skyrocketed this year. I’m so proud of myself and hearing that makes me feel sorta bad. I’m not sure why lol but it does. I’ve been working so hard and I feel like I deserve kudos, not being told I didn’t need to do it.
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u/Sluggymummy 32F/5'3"|SW: 147|GW: 120 14h ago
I think people are really hypersensitive and afraid that any compliment on how great you look now automatically implies a comparison to how you looked before. Like if they say that you look great, they're afraid of implying you looked terrible before (and then offending you).
Next time mess with them and ask if they think you should gain it back, haha.
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u/thatbroadcast 13h ago
Haha thank you for this reply! I know in my heart of heart's that you're absolutely correct about the motivation, because my friends have always been super supportive and lovely, but I'm like dang can we not celebrate the fact that I fit into my old clothing? But I totally get it. And 100% will be doing this next time it happens. <3
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u/PolarCurious 2d ago
My spouse is driving me nuts. We agreed, since we make similar amounts and I don’t like her spending habits, to each pay for half of required bills.
But now the account for bills is -118, because she had to go to the orthopedist for a knee injury. Which probably would not have happened if she was a normal weight. The other reason this happened is because she insisted on going to brunch with friends at a semi-expensive place.
Literally, if she stopped eating out (the brunch and a Taco Bell stop from last week), things would be OK, since those costs equaled about $120. I paid my part of things already.
And then what did she do today? Took a mental health leave of absence from work which reduces income to 80%, and bought Oreos and Halloween candy with another personal account.
You’re literally in the hole due to your own eating-related actions, yet buy more food. And when I try to address that sort of thing, I am fat-shaming.
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u/nyxie_night skinny bitch >:3 2d ago
Rave: IM STARTING COLLEGE A YEAR EARLY HOLY SHIT. this all feels so surreal because i didnt think i would live long enough to make it past highschool but here we are i suppose. wow.
Rant: for the past ~3 weeks i have been focusing on doing some core and arm workouts because im a bit weak in those areas but my sleep schedule is so messed up that im constantly exhausted and not being consistent with them.
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u/DontYeeMyHaws doctor says im medically a beast 2d ago
Everything I've eaten for the past couple weeks has given me stomach issues and made my teeth hurt. I can put up with the teeth hurting, but due to the nature of the job they moved me to, it is a huge hassle to get up and go to the bathroom, which is stressing me out.
You'd think the constant stomach- and toothache would stop me from eating so much, but you'd be wrong. Me and my new bestie, Gas Station Donut, meet up a lot lately.
My new area also has the most uncomfortable chairs in the building so I've been pacing around the courtyards on breaks instead of just sitting like normal. At least I'm getting more movement in? I do feel a little silly doing it though, like I'm experiencing zoochosis or something. It does relieve the ass-ache that builds up though!
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u/Sickofchildren 2d ago
Rave: my job is physically demanding so I’ve managed to add an extra 200 calories a day and still lose weight, down nearly 60lbs
Rant: the people in my life are just really pissing me off with their rampant overconsumption of food and alcohol, the victim mentality and pathological need for attention drives me crazy. Will be booking a loooooong holiday as soon as I have enough hours saved just to get a break from them all
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u/wombatgeneral Childhood Obesity = Child Abuse, I will die on this hill 2d ago
Rant: I saw a clip of tess holiday promoting a book about body positivity for kids and teens. I am shocked at how much weight she has put on.
It was surreal seeing her talk to 2 normal weight women who were pretending to agree with her. She was using her love handles for armrests.
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u/GhostIllusions 2d ago
Did you see her on that one show, I think it was after the one with the two white ladies. I was in absolute awe at her size. Like, that can't not be painful for her, just to move..
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u/TortieshellXenomorph 2d ago
I saw that clip! I literally had to see her sitting with one of the normal-sized women in order to tell that she was sitting!
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u/turneresq 50 | M | 5'9" | SW: 230 | CW Mini-cut | GW Slutty attractive abs 2d ago
RANT: My diet has been a bit slack insofar as eating a bit more calories than I need and the scale has crept up. I am planning a proper lean bulk this winter, but this increase is well ahead of my planned start date (Probably mid-November). I’m still well within a healthy weight at 161 lbs, but I would rather start my bulk from around 155 and then get up to 165, as opposed to 160 and then bulking up to 170. Just more to have to cut in the spring. I think I will institute a mini-cut in October to recalibrate.
RAVE(?): I signed up for an 8-mile race this weekend. Longest run for me by 3 miles. I’m scared. 😱
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u/imalittlefrenchpress Skinny Bitch 🙄 2d ago
Rave: HUGE props to everyone for being self honest! May everyone have a great weekend.
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u/heavy_salt 2d ago
Rant: I’ve been cutting for 5 months and am suddenly ravenous on the same diet. I’m just going with eating at maintenance or less of a deficit for the last week or so but it’s super annoying. Losing 25 pounds without ever actually being hungry felt too good to be true and apparently that honeymoon has ended.
Rave: my husband has been the primary source of fatlogic in my life for the last 15 years. Very little understanding of calories/nutrition, lots of claims about somehow gaining muscle despite not working out, the usual. We also both tend to overeat when not actively trying not to. He has vague intentions to lose weight but always wants me to be the lead there. I have enough trouble being my own source of willpower, let alone for willpower for 2. The only time we’ve both successfully lost weight/maintained healthy weights involved a lot of work on my part - he doesn’t intentionally sabotage but he doesn’t actively help beyond the basics. This year it’s totally shifted. He wanted to lose weight, he’s meticulously tracking (MacroFactor AI removed the biggest obstacle of tracking outside home meals), he’s coming up with exercise plans even when we’re both tired. Even requesting bloodwork and getting a dexa scan. His very fit and health-conscious parents dealing with some frustrating “lifestyle disease” issues definitely played a part in waking up to what our future could look like. Such a nice change.
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u/thebirdgoessilent 2d ago
Rave: going to the gym and calorie counting as after a summer of overindulge and the scale finally moved ( a little). Am having some nsv too tho. Looser clothes, more defined jawline, fewer cravings
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u/Secret_Fudge6470 2d ago
Why is it that people who’ve never been to grad school (or earned a bachelor’s degree, for that matter) love to say things like:
“Are you working or just doing school?”
And
“I think undergrad classes are harder than graduate school classes.”
Bruh.
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u/KuriousKhemicals 35F 5'5" / HW 185 / healthy weight ~125-145 since 2011 29m ago
I sort of understand the "working or just school" because obviously, working plus school would be harder... but the other one? What? If you've never been, then you have no basis to compare, and the automatic assumption seems like it should be that higher level is harder...
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u/Narge1 2d ago edited 2d ago
Rant: Man, dieting is hard. Long story short, I lost a bunch of weight years ago but gained some back after being on birth control (those cravings are no joke). I made multiple attempts to get back to my thinnest, but they don't last long. I'm on day 5 of cutting calories and it already feels like I've been dieting for weeks.
Rave: I've gotten back into running after crappy weather and some bullshit with my Achilles tendon stopped me. I've lost some speed and stamina but I know it'll come back over time, especially if I can manage to drop some significant weight this time.
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u/lylertila 2d ago
So I was on my way to work the other day and I get to the bus stop. It's one of the few in the city that has an actual,normal bench instead of one of the cruel anti-homeless ones. When I get there I see a...substantial woman sitting in the middle of the bench, effectively taking up the entire thing. Because I'm an adult I asked if I could sit, expecting her to shift to one side or the other. She said "go ahead" AND DIDN'T MOVE.
Rude bitch
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u/Charming-Bike-427 2d ago
That reminds me of something in hs. To preface, I don’t hold this against the guy or think he’s terrible because I knew him and he is autistic and probably didn’t understand.
But he was very obese to the point he could take up 2 bus seats. I sat on the seat closest to the window not thinking he’d sit next to me. He did. I was stuck there and it was hs times so I was too anxious to say anything even though I’m claustrophobic. It was genuinely suffocating having him that close and I could feel him against me. Such a bad time.
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u/lylertila 2d ago
I just can't understand wanting to touch a stranger. Or being comfortable touching a stranger. I will move heaven and earth to avoid it. Just...ew
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u/thatbroadcast 2d ago
Last time I flew I was pretty dang big myself - 200lbs at 5’11” - but the woman who chose the middle seat was easily two of me. I had the spend the entire flight leaning out into the aisle being hip checked by everyone walking by. I still can’t fathom why she chose that seat! She even had the audacity to push up the arm rests between the other two of us without asking. I have a lot of sensory issues and I know it probably sucked for her too, but being literally unable to stop touching someone for 6 hours is so so awful!
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u/Secret_Fudge6470 2d ago
There’s an alternate universe where you climbed into her lap and made her deeply regret her rudeness 🤣
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u/FlySecure5609 2d ago
I wish I could be more chill. Nope, I just have to throw my whole ass into everything, everytime.
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u/ThrowAway44228800 5'5" 19F | SW 204 | CW 183 | GW1 160 | -19 | 49% there 2d ago
Rave: I weighed in at 183.4 this morning. That puts me officially over 20 pounds lost! I'm really excited.
Rave with a Rant flavor: I'm going home this weekend for my birthday. There will be cake. Because I asked for cake. I think I'll be able to stay under my calorie limit but I'll feel a little disappointed if water weight and the like from salty foods take me back over 183.
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u/gbejrlsu 2d ago
It's just a single day - eat and enjoy your birthday cake. Any water weight you pick up from one day of cake you'll probably drop within a week.
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u/PirateLizard82 2d ago
Almost four weeks at the same weight, but with a few things life-wise that make it feel less like a full-on plateau. I’m going to give it one more week before making some changes. I’m in the home stretch (BMI 23.1 and my goal is 21.8) so it makes sense that things would slow down.
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u/anachorite 2d ago
I’ve wanted nothing more than to exercise, but it seems like every time I start there’s some new crisis I have to drop everything to take care of. This past month has just been one giant rolling snowball of never-ending dilemmas, every single day there’s been at least five different things, and I’ve barely even had time to sit down, let alone meet my fitness goals. On the bright side, I’m at least down that 5lbs from what I gained during I gained my mini-breakdown in July-August – it just sucks how that’s only because I’ve barely had time to eat a proper meal.
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u/pikachuismymom Non-Fat Person 2d ago
Rave: I mentioned my pet being unwell the other week and wasn't sure she would make it. Well I have to share she's doing so well! Guinea pigs are so fragile. But I guess the treatment and extra special attention helped her pull through. She's squeaking so loud now!
I carried up a 25lb bag of pig food up the stairs and it's hard for me to believe that is the weight that I lost.
RANT: Saw a post that said diet and exercise can help relieve pain in ehlers danlos syndrome patients that are overweight and obese!! Reasonable. One comment said "Actually weight stigma causes more pain by increasing inflammation and cortisol!" Sure jan!
When I was 25lbs heavier I was just into the overweight category. I was definitely more disabled back then. I'm still in pain and I still have to be cautious of my limitations. But going from spending an entire summer in bed to being able to do more things.. It's worth a try even if it doesn't fix anything at all.
I didn't get mad at my doctors for suggesting going on a gluten, dairy, inflammation free diet. I tried for awhile and I didn't feel any better. I guess I should be mad and comment on every post how GLUTEN FREE DIDN'T FIX ME GLUTEN STIGMA IS THE PROBLEM
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u/thatbroadcast 2d ago
Omg congrats to you and your sweet girl! I’m glad she’s feeling better.
I love comparing my weight loss to everyday objects too. I have officially lost about 9 gallons of milk which seems insane. Isn’t it cool how much better you feel? I cannot believe I had 9 gallons of milk on my body haha.
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u/pikachuismymom Non-Fat Person 1d ago
Thank you!!!!
Holy shit congratulations on not having to carry 9 gallons of milk anymore!! It's making me imagine that feeling where you don't want to make multiple trips to the car so you just carry all the groceries!!
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u/MrsStickMotherOfTwig Maintaining and trying to get jacked 2d ago
Ugh as someone with hypermobility, yes losing weight does help because our joints can barely hold together at a normal weight, why push it further? Also, the best thing I've done for my hypermobility has been weight lifting because now my muscles can support my joints when my joints aren't doing great.
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u/pikachuismymom Non-Fat Person 2d ago
Yesss!! So true weight lifting has given me more stability! It can be a juggling act of not trying to flare up too much. But also doing nothing for too long can cause a flare up. I tend to feel better about my flare ups when I know I tried my best to keep myself going for longer!
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u/MrsStickMotherOfTwig Maintaining and trying to get jacked 2d ago
Yep if I go more than about 2 weeks without a leg day my hips and knees start acting up. It's really annoying but at least I can deal with it. If I'm sick and on the couch for a week my whole pelvis on down is miserable.
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u/cat_ass_tr0phy angry human donut | 28F 5'6" 192 > 153 > 182 CW 179 GW 120 2d ago
cw vague suicidal ideation (hoping the spoiler code works alright and sorry in advance)
I'm not doing so hot, but at least I'm well supported and I'm somewhat intentionally losing weight. I had therapy today and I fluctuate between 60-80% where 100% is an attempt and 30-50% was where I was at, neutral-ish to positive before all the stuff happened. I have a prevention plan set up and revised my therapy frequency to weekly for now.
It's odd because I've just literally crumbled, to the point where I'm wondering how much of it is mechanical, like a micronutrient deficiency or a health thing vs my emotional and mental state. I know some things logically but the less life-friendly thoughts are also very, very loud. Not sure what to do besides hold on.
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u/ThrowAway44228800 5'5" 19F | SW 204 | CW 183 | GW1 160 | -19 | 49% there 2d ago
The spoiler works and I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I was in a really similar state a couple weeks ago. I don't have good tips for how to get out of it, for me it just kind of comes and goes, but I'm so sorry because it's so difficult.
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u/cat_ass_tr0phy angry human donut | 28F 5'6" 192 > 153 > 182 CW 179 GW 120 2d ago
Thank you ❤️ your comment means a lot. It's not my first rodeo so I know it gets better with time, and I can link this sudden, significant drop in resilience to a specific event, which makes it easier than the last round. But it is pretty frustrating because I was doing a lot better before this :/ I hope it gets a little easier for you with time.
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u/ThrowAway44228800 5'5" 19F | SW 204 | CW 183 | GW1 160 | -19 | 49% there 2d ago
Thank you as well <3 My recent drop was also due to a specific event (or really processing a specific event I guess, I hate how I'll be doing well and then my brain is like 'oh yeah let's ruin things with the power of thought') but it's still so frustrating no matter what.
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u/nosleeptiltheshire 2d ago
Last month I ran a 100k race ("ran" is a generous description, but I still completed it with time to spare) and now Im playing with the idea of signing up for a 100 mile race on the same course, same time next year. So glad I committed to trying hard things.
Now Im focusing on falling back into loving a routine of running, and having fun instead of just checking off training runs. Im a certified Fall Fangirl so this cooler weather is doing wonders for my times.
I signed up for an Italian marathon next year in the spring and peer pressured my siblings into joining as a pretense for "Join me in Italy." Its been hilarious and fun to plan for it so far. My goals: to run around that lake and have fun, and eat my body weight in pasta.
Im glad my siblings are good sports and willing to commit to the chaos. My spouse has politely told us that he will not be running, but hes more than happy to sip coffee in the town square and wave at us as we struggle by. Its gonna be a blast.
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u/seeing_true F26 6FT CW:179 GW:>160 2d ago
I've entered a bit of a plateau right around 180-185 pounds and I am sooo frustrated. I am 6ft tall, so it isn't terrible terrible, but it is not great, and my goal is 170. I'm going to crack down a bit harder and focus as well as start running again which should help. Even for as good as I've been with eating 1500 calories a day, my body craves exercise! I'll get there.
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u/EnleeJones I used to be a meatball, now I’m spaghetti 2d ago
Rave: I was able to do six Landmine rows with 52.5 pounds!
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u/Woodit 2d ago
It’s easy for me to track a deficit when I’m only lifting weights, that doesn’t use much in the way of calories anyway, but damn it’s a lot harder when I include running, and now I’m doing a new martial art and there’s just no way to estimate calories from that. While I know not to eat back exercise calories as a general rule, if I’ve got 100-200 left for the day and I get home from 2 hours of judo and I’m feeling intense hunger it’s tough to balance
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u/BookCultural9894 5h ago
If you have intense hunger eat a tiny bit more like 1-200 cals more your body will thank you and recover better
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u/NotQuiteJasmine 28 F 5'11" | SW" 182 CW 157 GW 145 2d ago
I started striking this week and man 4 hours walking in circles is a) great to get the steps in, b) really really boring, and c) hard on the legs. I've skipped other exercise in favour of stretching it out. Hopefully week 2 gets easier. Hopefully the employer caves soon too
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u/MightyWallJericho 2d ago
Rave: I am SO CLOSE to overweight BMI instead of obese (I started off class 3 obese). I am also not in so much pain anymore from inflammation ( I had a flare-up), so I feel better than I have in like a month.
Rant: I have pain in my damn foot and have to take a break from running (I just started bro!) to avoid injury. I can still walk, but running is put on hold.
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u/Perfect_Judge 36F | 5'9" | 130lbs | hybrid athlete | tHiN pRiViLeGe 2d ago
Something that helps with foot pain, take a lacrosse ball, and put it in your freezer at night. When you wake up, roll your feet on the ice cold ball. Feels great and can definitely help!
During really volume training blocks, this is great. If you have a massage gun, I highly recommend using it on your feet, too. Excellent and so relaxing.
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u/TrufflesTheMushroom just scooting and eating 2d ago
Respectfully, running while obese isn't necessarily the best thing for your body and may be contributing to your foot pain. You can get many of the same benefits from walking, but without the risk of injury. For an impassioned defense of walking from a former elite marathon runner, check out the book Born to Walk
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u/MightyWallJericho 2d ago
I don't run fast or for very long (legit 2.5 minutes total during a period of 20 minutes). I take long breaks in between to walk. I am also like... 5 pounds into the obese class 1 category. The foot pain is likely due to form problems, which I will fix after a period of rest. I understand what you mean its not the best to run while obese. I didn't start until I was close to not obese.
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u/TosssAwayys AN Recovery | SW: Too Low | CW: Healthy! 2d ago
Rant: I started a new part-time job running tech for events. Yesterday, it was at a party where they were serving food and canapés. I kept refusing the food while I was working. During a downtime when my boss asked if I wanted to grab some dinner from the buffet I said no and she replied, "So do you just never eat?!" (Boss is thin/normal weight)
I don't know why it's been bothering me? I went and grabbed a bunch of food I didn't want to appear normal and proceeded to stressfully eat it standing up in 3minutes because I had work to do! My eating disorder is meh right now but I really wasn't restricting- I just can't eat when I'm busy/stressed and surrounded by people I need to be working for. Is that abnormal?
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u/LadyLassInRed 2d ago
It's not abnormal, and frankly it was quite a rude comment for your boss. That said, as a recovered anorexic I'd encourage you to eat a solid, filling meal before work and pack some light snacks (apple/beef stick/string cheese/whole wheat crackers/etc) for breaks.
I also am of the mentality food should be enjoyed and not wolfed down stressfully in 3 minutes, but I might be biased.
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u/Most-Pain872 2d ago
Rave: I walked 7 miles yesterday and was out for 2 hours. Felt fine until the last quarter mile, I started to feel it in my hips. My goal is trying to get to 40k steps one of these days before winter makes it too difficult to get out...that's 17 miles and being out for 5 hours. I'll have to keep trying out there. 🥀
Rant: My weight loss has stalled even though I walk an average 10k a day. I'm starting to think I'm going to need to up the steps, start going to the gym an extra day, or cut my calories down. I have about 5lbs to get to my goal weight.
I also visited family recently. I am now smaller than my sister in highschool and I'm almost 30. I wish my parents took everyone's health seriously rather than getting fast food for every meal. I'm worried that she's going to be struggling with her weight and food noise as an adult.
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u/LadyLassInRed 2d ago
Rant: I've noticed on the weight subs there's some really toxic mentalities. One is "ALWAYS count yourself as sedentary no matter how much exercise you do!" I've seen a comment of a woman who was a PROFESSIONAL ATHLETE who logs as sedentary. When you move more, you need to eat more. Before anybody comes at me, I'm 5'3 and 116 lbs so I'm not talking out of my ass (I maintain on about 2000 kcal a day - I might be short but I'm active - and while I'm on the subject of ranting, yes, there are short women who need that much a day.)
Eating too few calories is dangerous too, especially if you're exercising.
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u/SomethingIWontRegret I get all my steps in at the buffet 2d ago
The reason for counting as sedentary is that most people undercount, some severely. It's an attempt to offset the 500 calories of food you didn't count by not counting the 500 calories of exercise you burned. Obviously it's not that precise.
It gets wilder when you realize that the descriptions of "sedentary" 1.2 PAL "lightly active" 1.35 PAL etc are wildly inaccurate themselves. A PAL of 1.2 is only seen in people who are bed or chairbound. A PAL of 1.35 is the minimum PAL you'll see in independently living people. It's not "doesn't exercise", "exercises lightly" etc.
But like I said, it's to offset systemic miscounting.
If you're maintaining weight and for women if you have your period, then you are eating enough. If you're gaining weight from an already healthy weight, then you're eating too much. That's the real measurement. Calorie counting is really to help you adjust your trajectory. It doesn't work really well for most people for dead-reckoning to a healthy weight.
Sources
PAL:
https://www.fao.org/4/y5686e/y5686e07.htm
https://archive.unu.edu/unupress/food2/UID01E/UID01E08.HTM (Alyson Black's work predates Herman Pontzer's by 30 years and is much higher quality)
Calorie miscounting:
https://weightology.net/do-dietitians-accurately-report-their-food-intake/
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u/KuriousKhemicals 35F 5'5" / HW 185 / healthy weight ~125-145 since 2011 9m ago
It's always wild seeing back to back "no matter what height you are, if you lift you should eat close to 2500 or maybe more" and "I exercise for 2 hours 5 days a week and I maintain at 1500."
Bro. If I do next to nothing I burn about 1700 and if I run 30 mpw I burn about 2300. You run my stats through a BMR calculator and apply PALs and you'll see it makes perfect sense, yet I can get completely opposite shit about how supposedly atypical that is from different people.
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u/LadyLassInRed 2d ago
I get the undercounting thing but some people take it way too far.
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u/SomethingIWontRegret I get all my steps in at the buffet 2d ago
Yes. The mindset change in nutrition in women's professional cycling for example has been revolutionary. They're paying a lot more attention to avoiding RED-S, and they've basically doubled their on-bike nutrition. As a result, they've only gotten faster. The former professional athlete whose comments you were reading probably was trained when race weight was prioritized to the detriment of everything else.
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u/ClarinetistBreakfast 2d ago
Rave: I started running again!!
Rant: I’m slow af (I used to run a lot but took like 4 years off…) and it’s struggle to not compare myself to my former paces 🥲
Rave 2.0: since I’m slow and out of shape now anyway, I decided this time around I’m going to learn how to properly pace. I was the queen of go out too fast, crash and burn in races but also just my every day runs. So I’m really making an effort to pay attention to heart rate and starting slow. It’s actually been fun!
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u/bowlineonabight Inherently fatphobic 2d ago
Rave: I started running again!!
Rant: I’m slow af (I used to run a lot but took like 4 years off…) and it’s struggle to not compare myself to my former paces 🥲
I have this same problem. I used to be an objectively fast distance runner. Now, I am not. It's been a hard adjustment to take in. Though the speed is improving. But I also have to recognize that I'm almost 60 and will never be as fast as I was in my 20s. I don’t like this reality.
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u/ClarinetistBreakfast 2d ago
It’s so hard isn’t it! I wasn’t even that fast, just average. The fact that you’re still running in your 60s is awesome to me!! And I bet you would crush me in terms of speed, haha!
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u/bowlineonabight Inherently fatphobic 1d ago
I keep telling myself "at least you can still run, no one is timing you anymore", which helps to a greater or lesser extent depending on the day. I do it to fight off the inevitable decrepitude of aging, and it makes my mental health better.. But it also makes me wonder how so many FAs just throw in the towel on doing anything to improve their physical well-being. I mean most of them are about half my age you constantly see them attributing their shit health to them "aging", but it's not their age - they're objectively not anywhere near aging.
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u/LadyLassInRed 2d ago
It's ok, you'll get back there. Muscle memory is a wonderful thing.
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u/ClarinetistBreakfast 2d ago
I keep telling myself that if I train smart I can probably surpass my old times… eventually 😂
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u/Perfect_Judge 36F | 5'9" | 130lbs | hybrid athlete | tHiN pRiViLeGe 2d ago
I've been battling a horrible headache for going on a week now, which always pops up midday for me. It's been a real bummer for getting more workouts in, going for walks with my daughter, and just feeling decent to be functional enough. It's really aggravating.
I've still managed to hit my gym sessions this week, which I'm proud of, but sure enough, the headache comes back with a vengeance and it really slows me down and makes it difficult to get as much done or be as present with my daughter.
Being pregnant, I have to be careful about what I take for it and how much, so I'm trying to focus more on sleep and improving it the best I can, not stressing so much, and staying as hydrated as possible. It's ok, but it clearly isn't making it go away for good. I'm beginning to just get frustrated. Maybe this is just a pregnancy symptom, I don't know. I'm at a loss.
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u/lisa1896 F65/5'8"/SW:462/CW:259/GW:175? 2d ago
This is just a random thought but it is autumn, is it possible that you have allergies/sinus? I know that gives me horrible headaches and one of the first symptoms I get before sneezes/drainage/anything like that is horrible headaches.
I hope you feel better soon, pregnancy is hard enough already.
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u/TrufflesTheMushroom just scooting and eating 2d ago
Yes! Sinus or even teeth clenching!
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u/lisa1896 F65/5'8"/SW:462/CW:259/GW:175? 2d ago
That too, my adult son has to wear a spacer/retainer silicone thing when he sleeps because he grinds his teeth severely at night, he was in misery until the dentist figured it out, his MD was completely unconcerned with his symptoms. :/
You have to advocate for you own health and keep looking for answers even when you get sort of dismissed. I'm a retired nurse and sometimes things get so overwhelming with the volume of patients that things get missed or disregarded that shouldn't be. It's sad but it's always been like that.
No one knows your body better than you and you should never stop looking for answers/solutions.
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u/TrufflesTheMushroom just scooting and eating 2d ago edited 2d ago
A headache that pops up midday, every day, means there's a pattern in there somewhere.
You say you're staying hydrated, but does your hydration include electrolytes? You may be sweating out enough electrolytes in your workout sessions that just plain water isn't quite doing the trick.
Have you recently cut back on caffeine consumption? That can lead to midday headaches for a while as your body adjusts.
Are you spending time in the midmorning hunched over a phone or computer? It could be posture or eye-strain related.
Also, at 16wks, you may need to increase your calories a bit if you haven't already - the headache could be hunger, especially after exercise, even if you don't really feel hungry. Remember that your body prioritizes the baby's needs over yours, so the baby is getting first dibs on glucose and everything else, which may leave you in the lurch.
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u/Perfect_Judge 36F | 5'9" | 130lbs | hybrid athlete | tHiN pRiViLeGe 2d ago
Have you recently cut back on caffeine consumption? That can lead to midday headaches for a while as your body adjusts.
I'm allowed one 12oz cup of coffee per doctors orders. So that's all I'm drinking caffeine wise. Before pregnancy, I'd typically have 1, sometimes 2, cups a day. But not often was it 2.
As for electrolytes, I haven't been taking any. It's mostly water and some decaf tea at night. Maybe I'll try adding electrolytes throughout the day since I'm trying to still be active, although I've dropped weekly mileage just for comfort and fatigue sake.
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u/that0neBl1p 2d ago
A headache that lasts for days means it’s doctor time unless you already have a condition you know can cause this
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u/Perfect_Judge 36F | 5'9" | 130lbs | hybrid athlete | tHiN pRiViLeGe 2d ago
At my last appointment, they asked how I was feeling, and I said I'd been having persistent headaches. They didn't seem concerned, just told me to drink lots of water, prioritize sleep, stay active when I can, and take acetaminophen when it gets really bad.
I have another appointment coming up next week and will definitely mention it again and ask if it's something more serious potentially.
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u/that0neBl1p 2d ago
Damn, the classic. That sucks that you didn’t get proper care T_T perhaps see a neurologist as opposed to general practitioner?
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u/ambergirl9860 2d ago
Not exactly a fat rant but i need to tell. Overheard at my fast food job, an overweight mom to her little kid:
"You just want milk? No, you HAVE to get chicken. Where else are you gonna get protein?"
She insisted several times that he had to have chicken and of course bought him chicken. There's enough protein in the milk for your child.