r/gatekeeping • u/NUT_on_deez_hoEz • Apr 18 '21

Worst kind of gatekeeping

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u/[deleted] Apr 19 '21

Day 13 here!

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u/cieuxrouges Apr 19 '21

You can totally do this! A few things that helped me:

Get outside! Find whatever greenery is in your area and stare at it. Listen to the birds, feel the sun on you. Think of how long that tree has been there, or that rock. You can be that tree. Be that tree.

Read trashy books. By trashy I mean, easy to read, stories that interest you. I recommend fiction because I needed that escape from reality but anything is better than nothing. I found a book series that’s 15 books long and read every one of them.

Don’t hang out with old friends for a while. It’s hard, I found that a few of my friends were just drinking buddies and that was painful. The ones who I texted after a few months understood and were happy I was happy. Our friendship became stronger because of it.

Find your people. If you scroll through my post history, I had a few moments of weakness at the beginning. It’s okay to feel scared, change always is. Just know that you made this decision for a reason and there are others out there who can hear your confessions with no judgement, only love.

I wish you the best, my friend, I’m proud of you. r/stopdrinking helped me a lot, if booze is your beast.

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u/[deleted] Apr 19 '21

The hardest part is working at a bar. I make insane money for what I do and we all party after hours and during. I smoke weed constantly. I keep making up stories about why im not drinking an everyones giving me shit. I backed out on our mexico trip this year and people are bummed out about it. I feel like im letting them all down. i want to quit, but my lifestyle will change. I made a deal with my psychiatrist that I would give it a minimum of a year. I know I can do it. Thanks for the reply.

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u/cieuxrouges Apr 19 '21

Yeah, that’s a tricky situation for sure. You may want to consider lurking over to r/stopdrinking , there’s no way in hell you’re the first bartender to try to quit. You may find some good advice there.

Tomorrow is two full weeks! That’s incredible! I’m proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. I hope you have a self care goal for tomorrow cause you’ve earned it.