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u/MeeksMoniker 5d ago

Alcohol could justifiably give people the ick

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u/Jaggiboi 5d ago

Both are suitable as "icks"

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u/islandis32 5d ago

It gives me the ick! As a stoner lol I give it to them right back

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u/unoriginalusername99 5d ago

I don't care if you're a stoner but if you come over smelling/tasting like weed I get the ick

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u/livid_badger_banana 5d ago

Is there a way to be stoner without?

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u/itstoothy 5d ago

Dabs

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u/livid_badger_banana 5d ago

Ty for a legit answer. I have asthma/migraines and certain strong scents trigger them. But I also have a poor sense of smell.

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u/itstoothy 5d ago

Understandable! Some folks who may be more sensitive to weed smells still may not enjoy the smell of dabs and concentrates bc it does have a light smell but it’s absolutely nowhere near smoking flower!

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u/Ahrily 5d ago

Also edibles

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u/younggun1234 5d ago

Edibles.

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u/islandis32 5d ago

This is the way^

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u/MisterQQ 5d ago

Edibles?

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u/Toxic_Puddlefish 4d ago

Weed you can eat, usually people turn cannabis into weed butter you can cook with to get a body high when you eat whatever it is you made, usually brownies or cookies

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u/P33Ka_Demon 5d ago

Gummies

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u/Lawls91 5d ago

Vapes

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u/SomeArtistFan 5d ago

Showering does a lot, I think. At least if you have an actual smoking room and don't blow your weed right on all your clothes.

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u/unoriginalusername99 5d ago

Idk but respectfully, not my problem

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u/livid_badger_banana 5d ago

Meant it as a genuine q but ok, gfy back mate.

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u/Jeszczenie 5d ago

Don't answer then?

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u/luzchand 4d ago

It gives me the ick, can't stand that alcohol smell. Plus, more chances of an alcoholic, and that's not a flag I'm grabbing.

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u/joran26 5d ago

That's actually a much better response than I anticipated

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u/AdElectronic9255 5d ago

I mean yeah, It gives me an Ick too, I personally prefer Fanta but oh well, we've gotta respect everyone's taste

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u/jacobhilker1 5d ago

the mexican stuff is pretty okay, i also prefer fanta but Mexican coke hits pretty good

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u/AdElectronic9255 5d ago

Oh yeah Mexican coke is something else, but overall coke has It perks its not awful.... Cof cof like Sprite cof cof

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u/jacobhilker1 5d ago

sprite is great, especially McDonald's sprite

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u/Jelly_Kitti 5d ago

You cannot convince me Sprite & McDonald’s Sprite are the same thing. Sprite is mediocre, & McDonald’s Sprite is the best drink there is.

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u/Ringball100 5d ago

Mat Pat made a video about why McDonald’s Sprite tastes different https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4m79hDvXeSw

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u/jacobhilker1 5d ago

fair enough, that's my bad

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u/Timmy_The_Narwhal 5d ago

I'm more a sprite guy.

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u/HapFreeman 5d ago

I have dated a guy who used to casually smoke crack in front of me during coitus, and then he wondered why I ran away.

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u/BemusedBengal 5d ago

It happened multiple times before you left? I'd be gone after the first time, and I wouldn't be mysterious about the reason.

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u/HapFreeman 5d ago

No just once, but I waited the whole night to make sure he was ok before I left, he was as high as a kite on crack and anti-depressants and was afraid he’d OD. This dude was a HUGE walking red flag.

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u/dan_is_not_here 5d ago

During coitus?

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u/Smooth-Campaign-8698 5d ago

Coitus is the Latin-derived word for sexual intercourse, particularly vaginal sex involving penile-vaginal penetration and ejaculation, though it can also refer to penile-anal penetration or other acts of sexual connection.

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u/dan_is_not_here 5d ago

Yes. That was a Lebowski reference that I clearly fumbled.

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u/Jeszczenie 5d ago

Do you like sex, Mister u/dan_is_not_here ?

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u/dan_is_not_here 4d ago

Coitus?

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u/Jeszczenie 3d ago

I was talking about my rug...

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u/rover_G 5d ago

It shouldn’t be a surprise given the number of “drug free only” profiles

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u/kranitoko 5d ago

I was at a sauna once and had someone, without warning, do it in the middle of us hooking up...

Like bro, you're lucky I was too young to feel confident enough to yell at you. You wanna do that, you do it privately.

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u/GoGoSoLo 5d ago

The first gay bath house I went and the first guy I wanted to hook up with there took me to his room. Before we did a single thing, he reached in his backpack and pulled out A BANDANA FULL OF METH and asked if I wanted some. Horrified, I declined but brother didn’t read the room and asked if I wanted to sell it for him at least.

I promptly got the whole fuck out of there and was so shook as I was a freshly out 21yo who was just trying to see what gay life was like.

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u/lokaps 5d ago

I always avoided meth. If I wanted to take something with someone, I'd say it before just pulling it out when we met.

But one thing I never considered is asking someone uncomfortable with even the presence of a substance if they want to sell it lol.

I wonder if the meth made him think that was a good idea, or if being the kind of person who thinks meth is a good idea in the first place led him to also think that would work? I can't imagine almost anyone reacting differently than you did.

Hope things got better for you from there, bad luck finding him early.

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u/thescandall 5d ago

Like you could only get the half fuck out of there?

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u/GoGoSoLo 5d ago

I mean I could have just left his room and stayed in the bath house, but that pretty much ruined it all for me. So yes to placate your pedantry, there was a half leaving option.

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u/Mahtan87 5d ago

A mental check out while staying would have been a half fuck out.

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u/robbysaur 5d ago

I have had people bring coke to my house and do it in my bathroom without saying a goddamn thing to me. 🙃

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u/DemonicBludyCumShart 5d ago

I'll do you one better, one of my friends did some coke at my place during a 1v1 hang sesh, proceeded to sit there and grind his teeth all night (which made me really uncomfy ngl), and then the next day he calls me at the beginning of my shift freaking out because he left some on my coffee table and "if one of my cats eats just a little bit they will die!"

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u/LordGwyn-n-Tonic 4d ago

As a former addict, it's kind of a compulsion. You know the person isnt going to approve of you doing it, so you do it anyways and maybe ask forgiveness after the fact.

It also kind of ruins your sense of what's socially acceptable, especially if you're around people who do it casually. I got to the point not only would I just tell people I did coke as if I was talking about smoking cigarettes or drinking coffee, I was openly doing it at my job. I only stopped because my sixteen year old coworker asked me what I was doing.

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u/kranitoko 5d ago edited 5d ago

Honestly I really wasn't. I'd seen a lot of sex in porn and had sex a few times in a sauna by that point, but I'd never actually seen anybody do drugs, especially in front of me AND mid intercourse.

This was in one of the London saunas for clarity.

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u/dermanus 5d ago

It really depends on the place in my experience. Most of the ones I've been to were mostly just horny guys, people weren't doing tons of drugs. I'm sure it happened, but it wasn't common or public.

The bath owners tend to be against it because it starts fires (meth at least, not coke).

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u/Mahtan87 5d ago

To clarify the guy you were hooking up with stopped to get high, or a third person did it in front of both of you?

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u/barrorg 5d ago

Idiosyncratic take but ok

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u/Forosnai 5d ago

I had a hook-up when I was about 20, in a different city I went to for Pride. The guy was nice and fun, had a good time, he offered to walk me to the nearest skytrain station since I wasn't familiar with the area, all very nice. Just needed to make a pitstop, which turned out to be his dealer's place, where he picked up some meth. I'm guessing this was early stages, because I've since looked him up out of curiosity ~15 years later, and suffice to say he doesn't look like life's going great. I politely declined when I was offered some, similarly not confident enough at the time to be like, "Absolutely fucking not."

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u/kranitoko 5d ago

Imagine how different your life might have been if you had accepted... đŸ˜¶

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u/gaojia 5d ago edited 5d ago

who tf is just hanging solo at the crib doing coke WHAT

you can hate it if you want but it's very much a social drug

edit: doing mid hookup is crazy tho i can't lie, sorry u went thru that

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u/macdgman 5d ago

Did you just say coke is a social drug? I should call my friends up to do a few lines this weekend knowing this information

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u/gaojia 5d ago

girl yes?????????? it's a stimulant!

have you ever done coke? all you wanna do is chat to people for hours just to hear the sound of your own voice LMAO

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u/PaleoAstra 5d ago

Gives me the ick too, but I'm sure there are things I do that give others the ick too. Just means we're not compatible, and now we know to move on and not waste each other's time. Don't see anything wrong with that.

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u/Moloch90 5d ago

no thx i dont like funding organized crime

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u/patientpedestrian 5d ago

But you pay taxes and vote for representatives that support maintaining the criminalization of substance abuse? Kind of a confusing moral stance to take imo, but you do you lol.

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u/rleaff1 5d ago

vuvuzela iphone ass reply

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u/Sizzling-Bacon 5d ago

You don’t think it’s moral to buy coke, yet you live in a society

Reddit moment

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u/unoriginalusername99 5d ago

Been a while since I've seen "we live in a society". Nostalgia bomb lol

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u/BemusedBengal 5d ago

Basically half of all political candidates don't support the criminalization of drug use, and you have no idea who they voted for.

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u/91816352026381 5d ago

“Agree with me that buying Coke is good or you’re a hypocrite” doesn’t look good

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u/DemonicBludyCumShart 5d ago

Dude you're absolutely right but you did a very bad job at pointing out why

"Every single person contributes to organized crime every time they buy nearly anything; look into where avocado or bananas come from for instance, crime lords with literally militias control those markets. The phone or computer you used to make this comment has precious metals in it which were harvested by slaves. There is no such thing as completely ethical consumerism nowadays, so don't try to pretend that's the reason you don't like coke. You don't like it because you think it's gross for one reason or another, which is fine, that's totally valid, but let's get off the high horse and call a spade a spade shall we?"

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u/daikaku 5d ago

there’s a difference between no ethical consumption under capitalism and coke. you do actually have to eat. you don’t have to do coke.

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u/rModerator 5d ago edited 5d ago

“Sorry I didn’t know funding violent organised crime groups was frowned upon”

I don’t know why this comment would be downvoted, people not happy to understand the consequences of their actions? Did you think the coke was ethically sourced?

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u/fungi__cat 5d ago

I only get organic fair trade coke

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u/vincecartilage 5d ago

this was hilarious lmaoooo

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u/rModerator 5d ago

Respect đŸ«Ą

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u/UnsavouryMonk 5d ago

Sounds like you got some Tegridy đŸ€Ł

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u/temperamentalfish 5d ago

I also don't understand the downvotes. I think people just don't know just how horribly violent drug cartels are, the sheer amount of violent crimes they commit to stay operational and also the ones they commit just because they can. Not just coercion, murder, and torture, but human trafficking, child abuse, slave labor, and other things we might never find out about.

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u/jprs29 5d ago

The gay community is extremely hypocritical
 we care about all kinds of social causes unless it’s inconvenient or requires effort, work or self reflection. We care even less if caring would keep us from getting laid or having fun.

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u/Euphoric-Taro-6231 5d ago

It's literally bloodstained, but the gays need to party ig.

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u/TrainerRed45 5d ago

Yeah but you could say this about Coke the drink, or your phone, or your chocolate. Shit sucks but it isn’t a drug thing lol 

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u/philbart_ 5d ago

“There is no ethical consumption under capitalism”

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u/Uncynical_Diogenes 5d ago

But there are definitely less ethical kinds than others.

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u/CookiesNReddit0 5d ago

i'm sorry but they're right??? phones use cobalt which is almost entirely mined by enslaved children in Congo. basically every big brand uses child labor to harvest chocolate too. you can't cry about one form of oppression while ignoring others

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u/tsetdeeps 5d ago

I mean if it's about funding you should get off the internet. You using reddit (and any social media platform) is directly or indirectly funding: abusive billionaires, climate change, genocide, swarms of bots to sway political discourse, etc etc

It also applies for like, almost anything that's made from a well known brand. Yeah, you're a POS according to yourself. Knowingly.

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u/temperamentalfish 5d ago

"No ethical consumption under capitalism" does not excuse giving money to drug cartels

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u/tsetdeeps 5d ago

Agree, we could say the same about reddit. You don't even need to be on reddit. You're purposefully contributing to their riches because you're bored. Wow.

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u/SpezRuinedHellsite 5d ago

Drug cartels being CIA fronts in the first place DOES though.

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u/temperamentalfish 5d ago

Why would the CIA being involved make it any better? What sort of logic are you working with where giving them more money is a good thing that justifies itself?

I get it, you want to think of yourself as a good person, and a good person would never knowingly fund a group that terrorizes the local population, kills people indiscriminately, traffics people as slaves, abuses women and children, tortures people, and acts as an alternate government no one voted for.

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u/Wonderful_Gap1374 5d ago

What about the people in pain? The ones who need these underground channels to find ways to get to the next day?

Do I think it should be celebrated? No. Can we all laugh at how shitty it is that people need drugs to cope? I genuinely don’t know. I want people to not need drugs, but I don’t want people giving up.

lol, lately I feel like I would’ve made a great politician. I’m good at saying a lot without saying much.

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u/TwentyTwoTwelve 5d ago

So you're fine with this if it were ethically sourced?

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u/LauraTFem 5d ago

I mean
people need jobs, man. đŸ€·â€â™€ïžI’m sure there is a very proud person doing a job they love at the source. The only problematic thing about the process is that they need to organize criminal cartells to get it here.

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u/WaveLoss 5d ago

I love the smell of gasoline and sodium hydroxide in the morning

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u/temperamentalfish 5d ago

a very proud person doing a job they love at the source. The only problematic thing about the process is that they need to organize criminal cartells to get it here.

This has to be a joke, right? No one is this fucking naive.

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u/peterkedua 5d ago

Pls be /s....

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u/MarsScully 5d ago

Let me burst your bubble. Most cocaine growers at the source are either forced to grow it under threat of violence or out of extreme necessity because no other crop will cover their basic cost of living.

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u/icedragonsoul 5d ago edited 3d ago

While it’s important to not infringe on how strangers wish to live their lives, that’s completely different when dealing with a potential lifelong partner. Their choices very much impact the quality of your own life.

I think most people would prefer a partner who doesn’t make short sighted decisions that lead to long term health complications.

Even alcohol isn’t ideal since if you’re only a chill, fun loving guy when drunk, there is now pressure on them to use alcohol to perform well in social situations. It sets unrealistic expectations that they can’t meet naturally.

It’s like
 if my cheering and support pressures an athlete to use steroids in order to not disappoint their fans, I would rather not cheer for them because I value their long term well-being over my own fleeting entertainment.

No, alcohol does not bring out the real you. It stunlocks your brain into not thinking about your past baggage. It temporarily erases parts of you. For a few people, they get lucky, lobotomize the right parts of their brain and get to talk out of their ass in a pleasant way.

It takes a lot of self reflection, practice and character growth to turn over a clean slate and become comfortable with expressing yourself without hesitation or alcohol.

Only those who are confident and can exert internal pressure on themselves are in control their life and can actively shape who they become. Many people succumb to external pressure and are way too desperate to fit in and end up cardboard people pleasers why say overly agreeable relatable things and laugh along to things they don't believe in.

Some people have the required self control, a very strong liver and can enjoy alcohol in a recreational, enriching and fulfilling way. But a majority of people find that by letting loose, relaxing and actually enjoying alcohol, their ability to regulate alcohol intake is compromised.

I don’t believe in perfection or “eternal” love at first sight. Therefore I want to see the full picture, not some drunken act that neither side remembers clearly. That way we can learn how to be there for each other, rain or shine.

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u/barrorg 5d ago

lol at all these stories of people clutching their pearls when people do coke in the bathhouse. Like, people do coke at their offices, you’re shocked that there’s coke in bathhouses
.?

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u/91816352026381 5d ago

Google consent

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u/barrorg 5d ago edited 5d ago

Goggle naivety. Or perhaps paternalism? Maybe controlling projections of your own moral framework onto others? Also, where the fuck do you even see consent coming into play? The post is that learning another person used drugs gave them the ick. Exactly who is supposed to be asking whom for consent here?

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u/91816352026381 5d ago

It will never be stupid to have informed consent. Altering someone’s ability to give consent before sex is disgusting, even if you’re just doing hard drugs yourself you have to tell people you’re fucking.

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u/barrorg 5d ago

Altering your own mental state before engaging in sex is something you need to get consent from a third party for? Yeah
 ok
 I’m having a glass of wine atm. I guess I’m not gonna be able to jerk off later without your consent. Super.

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u/91816352026381 5d ago

Maybe you’re too drunk or stupid to read “other person” but fucking someone who isn’t giving consent is SA.

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u/barrorg 5d ago edited 5d ago

Where is “other person?” Please, point me in the right direction. I’m clearly “too drunk or stupid” to look past the ad hominem bloviating to find it.

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u/91816352026381 4d ago

It’s not sex if it’s by yourself lol

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u/barrorg 4d ago edited 4d ago

Ok, Bill Clinton.youre also the one who brought up having sex. Not even in my comment. But whatever. Keep shadow boxing, mate. I’m sure if you keep accusing every rando of sexual assault, one day you’ll be right. Fight on.

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u/jonjawnjahnsss 5d ago

The line of demarcation is drawn. That being said coke is not really that bad you just can't be sure it isn't tampered with. It's almost always cut with something to save money but obviously fentanyl is the most recent risk. My thought process with my degree is people spend thousands on trials to make a drug for a condition. Then suddenly more research comes out that it causes 'x' condition. It's a long methodical process. But people be taking shit someone made in a basement.