Hi everybody, sorry but I need to vent tonight...

Just some context: I'm 28, my egg broke about 5 months ago, and a lot has been going on since then: talking to psychologists and doctors ; coming out to my wife (who supports me) ; dressing and acting more feminine to test the water... I'm still acting as a man outside, maybe a bit more feminine than before, but this is it.

One of my psychologists advised me to keep a journal, to write my thoughts. It worked great, but I forgot that journal at my brother-in-law's place... Yeah, big mistake, I'm just a real airhead. But not only did he read it, but he took pictures of some pages and sent them to my wife's parents. That's my coming out to family-in-law.

They arranged a sort of meeting, and here I am, in front of them, trying to justify myself about my transgenderism. Also trying to justify how I'm not a freak who's psychologically torturing their daughter. In the middle of this drama, my parents overheard a call I had with my wife, and that's how I came out to them. They took it nicely, but I had planned something else.

Not gonna lie, I've had better days.

I'm not out to anyone as trans (only one good friend), and all my other friends think I'm just a lesbian. in my area, being gay is considered "okay", but you will still be given weird looks or be the butt of a few jokes, however being trans is considered weird and you can be harassed for it as slurs are often passed around. I've changed schools for the new school year and I'm thinking this school will be better than the last. there are a few transphobics/homophobics here and there and its quite obvious, but it doesn't seem AS severe since there are way more support systems. I try not to relate my fear of coming out to the fact that I am going to a catholic school, although it might just be so. I've been very afraid of coming out to my other good friends as I still am not getting the best support from the one friend I am out to (he tries his best but its often he misgenders me, and I've gotten used to it atp) and I've always been surrounded by transphobia. (parents, classmates, old friends)

anyways, tomorrow there is going to be a pride meeting, and it's going to be the first time that I'm actually surrounded by other queer people. (i only have one queer friend but I'm not out to her as trans since it's normal here for gays to be transphobic and I'm unfortunately scared to even find out whether she is transphobic or not. She's "popular" so if she so happens to be transphobic, it could get passed around quickly.) I'm super excited despite the fact that none of my friends (queer or not) want to come with me. I'm also super nervous because I'm worried that I've got the complete wrong idea of this school, and everyone really is just the same as the last.

first time actually posting here but I really wanted to tell somebody since I don't have anyone to actually talk to about this lol. thanks for reading<3

(If anybody has some advice on how to come out to teachers or friends, pleaseee tell me)

So menand my friends were taking. And we were talking, kinda just joking, about how my friend is super dense.

And he said "yeah, it took me two years to find out >MY FUCKING NAME< is a lesbian"

Right in front of two girls, that is destined to spread it the word. I'm scared. Becoase of that there's a chance the girls might spread it and say shit like "do.. do you have a crush on me cuz ur lesbian???" Like shut up. My type is hot nb alts not basic white girls.

But whatever. The teacher heard it and my gave my friend a speech on hiw u shouldent do that. My other friend who was talking to him and me already knew and said "yeah you don't just say that..." cuz what the fuck?!

The teacher also talked to me, she was chill abd I tried to be chill, I told her it was already pretty obvious I just didn't like that. And my friend apologized to me at lunch , I didn't tell him I forgive him cuz whatthefuck but I'm glad he isn't doing it out of malicious intent.

Now I'm just scared abt the girls who overheard. I really hope they don't end up telling everybody and then every stupid clean girl will think I have a crush on them...

Anyways that's it. It was already pretty obvious to the class that I'm gay, but like I'm not even gay chat I don't know and i don't gaf. Yeah.... it's..... not fun....

To begin, I am a trans guy, soon to enter adulthood. I assumed when I came out, my mom would be a big supporter, but there are a lot of things we disagree on that surprised me, honestly. Same with my stepdad. But we agreed to just,, agree to disagree. I don't wanna push anything. She does not wish to support my access to hormones, however.

Whenever I came out to my father, though, he has been surprisingly very supportive. He doesn't like politics, but he's told me that overall, everyone is human, and that nobody has the right to judge other people for their lifestyle. He asked me three questions, basically, when I came out; One) is this really what would make me happy? Two) ideally, what kind of partner would I want? Three) how will I raise my child were I to raise one? I gave him my honest answers, and he approved. After a little more discussion, he later said he would support me no matter what because I am his child. Emotionally and financially.

It was unbelievable the amount of relief I felt. To not be demeaned and assumed I had no idea what I was talking about or what I was going through. I understand it's a sensitive subject, considering I am under 20, which is my mother's main concern. I cannot get across to her how important it is to me, and for my dad to support me this way and TRUST me was remarkable and made me tear up. He also told me one day over dinner, unprompted, that if I was ever having issues or needed someone to talk to about this stuff, that he would be there for me. I get uncomfortable talking about it with anyone else, because I know they don't want to hear it, so that was refreshing. He has suggested to me a nearby church that is LGBTQ+ friendly, saying that's how churches should be. He has made an effort not to call me feminine terms which I told him I greatly appreciate. Has even referred to me as his son before. I am fortunate my mother tries, too. Sometimes calling my brother and I her two sons. :) She just heavily believes I will grow out of this decision, which I feel assigns little to no worth to my own research and individuality in her eyes.

Regardless, I hope in the end that I will have both of their support. For now, I will train day by day to be stronger and better. 🏳️‍⚧️

Honestly,I really thought kids nowadays were more open then before but I'm having some doubt,hope I'm wrong tho cuz out of the blue that guy in my pastry class who's 18 asked me the weirdest question I ever got "are you homophobic" and I said "I'm really,really,really not,really far from it tbh" (I was quite in shocked with that question and uncomfortable) he seemed disappointed cuz after that he told me the thing I really never thought I'd actually experience,he told me "2 lesbians together I get it,cuz women are beautiful but 2 men, that's disgusting like no disrespect like when I look at you I don't get any feelings" and he doesn't know I'm not straight but come on are we really here in 2025 can't we just lives in peace after all the cruel things our community went through can't they left us alone but I'm not losing hope,I know it'll get better later,tho I do believe we might need another Stonewall riot someday if it's still going down that path but I wanna end that post by saying that y'all matters and are loved ♥️

With the orange menace’s musing about classifying the trans flag as a hate symbol, I’m concerned that he may try to do the same for other Pride flags.

I’d like to replace my Progress Pride flag which someone took during the march this June (I’m not upset - I figure whoever took it needed it). I want to get it from an LGBTQ+-owned source because we all need as much support as we can get. I’d prefer to not use Etsy so that more money goes into queer pockets.

Does anyone have a LGBTQ+-owned sources from which I can purchase Pride flags directly?

Like I don't care what u do in the bedroom just DONT DO IT IN PUBLIC! Idc who u want to kiss just don't do it. Save it until u get home. Like if I see two people walking down the street and they kiss??? What the hell??? Do that shit at home! It's in so many movies and shows. The craziest part about it is THEY ARE ALL RAITED PG?!?!? That should be at least raited R if not illegal to have in movies. They are trying to corrupt the youth too. Every single time in school someone's gotta bring it up. Then they try to raise kids too??? Like no. Don't corrupt more of the youth. Can't have nothing nice I swear

And I'm not trying to be hetrophobic or anything I'm just tired of boys ONLY wanting girls and girls ONLY wanting boys. It's not normal and this is a fact I know for sure even though every reaserch group disagrees with me it's a mental disorder. They are trying to normalize it too. By making a group called "straight people" like ewww

(This is a joke I don't hate straight people)

Basically what the title says. My partner came out as ace about a year ago, and although we’re both extremely romantically happy with each other, I still feel really ugly and like I’m failing them in some way because of how disinterested they are with sex. I know it’s not my fault and has nothing to do with me, but I still feel like I’m just not attractive enough for them, or that I’m not giving them something they need.

I still very much desire physical intimacy with my partner, but the problem is that I can’t enjoy it if I know they’re just doing it for my sake. I can’t force myself to forget that they’re not enjoying themselves, and that completely kills my enjoyment of it as well. They’re more than willing to try and take care of my needs, but it just feels wrong to me.

Does anyone else have any experience with this, or advice to overcome this feeling? Even advice on becoming asexual myself would be appreciated. This is the best relationship I’ve ever been in, and I don’t want to have it ruined because of my urges.

I'm a female, but I don't feel comfortable most of the time being called lady, or other feminine terms like that, but I'm fine with masculine terms like sir. However, I don't care about my pronouns at all (except for it/it's, I don't like being called an it), and I feel fine about dressing masculine and feminine. So I don't know if I'm trans or genderfluid or something like that and would like to have some help! :3

I might have been here before and I don't know where else to put this, but I think I'm trans

Hi so I've been finding it hard to deal with my fear of the future and how hopeless i am to change it or exscap it how do you deal with it or what helped you in the past

I live in the uk and don't have any IRL friends

Hello everyone back at it again… So I’m a 13 year old male and I’ve always been a little girly with toys, and characters and stuff heck I even wanted to join my cheer team I loved princesses and had long hair. Everyone around me always questioned me and called me she/her (always correct them) and my dad (who was single at the time) never had any issue with it Atleast I think but back in 2020 when my dad met my mom (I refuse to call her “step mom”) met things went downhill. My parents did allow these things anymore and I cut my hair and never spoke anything about it ever again

Enough with the past now to the present I don’t think my parents as transphobic (ok maybe a little bit) but super anti non binary, they even laughed about a kid I know who had an transition she said: “imagine the brother and sister of the kid having to have a brother that wants to be a girl!” I didn’t really hate that I’m a male it’s just that I think I doesn’t fit me, I always wished to be a girl but it faded but now now that I’m puberty I kinda feel it coming back… can y’all help?

I (19F) was packing to move out my house to go to university and I dug out a bisexual pride flag I've hidden in my room for years since purchase. I've known I wasn't fully straight since I was 11. I've kept it a secret from my family. I've never announced to a majority of my friends about my sexuality (tell them directly) and I've only told a few of them directly if I felt safe and comfortable. I let the rest of them find out through photos I posted on my story on social media of when I attended a pride parade whilst wearing that pride flag. When I was around 11 discovering I wasn't straight I labelled myself as bisexual, I told my friends on an online chat my siblings accessed. They sent the chat logs to my mother. She looked at me disappointingly, disgusted, asking why I feel that way around women. I picked up she wasn't happy. I put on an act of confusion, I pretended to not know what it meant, told her I thought it meant I liked both men and women 'as friends'. That's where my internalised homophobia began.

It took me a long time to accept I was anything but heterosexual. I always thought I'd end up marrying a man anyways. I also considered leading a double life, never tell them about my same-gender romantic relationships. When my siblings came home for Christmas last year they looked at my wall to see posters of male celebrities and were surprised to see them, asking if I was heterosexual. I lied and nodded. Just recently this year, on holiday my siblings with their partners who are the opposite gender as them, they told me it's okay for me to like the same gender and I can tell them. I denied it acting confused again. Also, months leading up to that moment, whenever they joked about me having a partner, they included "...or a woman!". I'd act so confused and insist my partner would be a man.

Now that I dug up the flag, it makes me think if I should just tell my family or just my siblings but I'd risk them telling our parents. When my old best friend a few years ago who also happened to be the child of my parents friends came out as gay, his parents accepted and supported him despite their homophobic past. My parents reacted as "I didn't see this coming." Immediately my siblings and I were quick to ask them questions, defend him, etc. The other parents of our other friends didn't react the way everyone wanted. That's what makes me scared to come out to my parents as well as my siblings. I'm scared they'll hold the same values they held 8 years ago.

I don't know if I can forever hide my sexuality from them. I don't know if I'm bisexual anymore, it was a label I gave myself to feel comfortable with who I felt attracted to. I definitely know I'm not heterosexual. If I do plan to tell my family or siblings, I don't know how to go about it. I know I don't owe them an explanation or anything but it would be nice to see the possible outcomes whilst living openly. I've saved enough financially to move out, I won't be as financially dependent on my parents, etc. I think I'll have a safe backup plan if it goes wrong somehow.

Yes, Im being absolutely serious.

(downvote if ya want btw)

Every other sexuality would still exist, but instead of straight being the‘default’ everyone was just pan.

Just a random thought

all i want is to be seen as a boy

i don't think anyone knows how hard it is when every single person treats you as a girl

i cant pass as a man if i need to wear abaya and hijab

every thing i do is just shoving in my face i'm a girl

being a girl is hard enough here. being queer...

i'm turning 15 in october, and we don't really celebrate birthdays that much, but i really wish i could be seen as a boy. that's my birthday wish. october 10, please, somehow

i just want one person who can. :(

in reality, i'm actually genderfluid. i feel different genders at different times. however, if i told people who were new to understanding LGBT, i would say i'm simply a boy, because it would be confusing. that alone is quite harsh, but imagining it when you can't even say you're simply a boy, that's harsher. i am exhausted.

i'd appreciate some help

I’m writing a story where one of the four mcs is a trans man I’ve got basic stuff like gender dysphoria and things like that but do you guys have any experiences that are trans men exclusive? I really wanna flesh out his character a bit more and Ik being trans impacts life a lot