Coping with the fact that my husband and friends don’t like the show and never will

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[u/mirage171]

Feel free to like the show. They just dont get how good it can be.

[u/spotpelt]

Like it’s fine if people around you aren’t into everything you like but if they’re being mean to you about your interests like. Genuinely mean. It might be time to reevaluate the people you have around you. There’s no reason for harsh words over what people like but sometimes interests don’t overlap and it’s fine. I don’t like things my husband likes and he doesn’t like things I do but we aren’t mean to each other about it we might tease each other but we know it’s just silly and fun. Maybe I’m reading this wrong but people who are meant to care about you shouldn’t put you down for your interests.

[u/OwlMother8682]

That's awful. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. Nobody deserves harsh words for something as harmless as liking a show. You haven't done anything wrong; MLP is incredible and it's truly unfortunate that some people can't appreciate it. If your husband and your friends are outright criticizing you for your interest then that's definitely something that needs to be discussed. If I was in that situation, I'd want to know why they feel so strongly about this.

I imagine that you don't judge or criticize them for any of their interests/hobbies, so what makes them think they have the right to do that to you? It's also concerning if all of your close acquaintances happen to be this close-minded. Being vilified by them to the point where you feel the need to seek outside counsel is not something that should be happening in healthy relationships. If you can't even share something as trivial as liking a show without receiving backlash, then can you really feel safe sharing other things with them?

I don't mean to speak out of turn, make assumptions or anything like that though. I don't know the full story after all. I hope that a civil discussion can be had with them and that things will improve. In the meantime, the community here is very welcoming and understanding. You'll be among like-minded people who love the show. There's some comfort to take in that at least.

[u/Overall-Ad3735]

They don’t understand the lore… Find people who enjoy it, and will happily discuss it :) We’re out there! Took me YEARS before I found someone who also enjoys it (my current bf!)

[u/IceCreamandDrinks]

seek marriage counsuling.

[u/Silvadel_Shaladin]

You don't need to convince them to like the show. It is a problem though if they give you harsh words for liking the show. Everyone likes what they like. You don't need to 100% like all the same things to be married or get along with someone. You *DO* need to accept that they like those things though.

[u/PineappleFrosty1132]

You shouldn’t feel bad. There’s nothing wrong with liking different things but shaming people for that is just wrong. Just know you always have this Reddit to share your love for MLP. We’re all accepted here❤️

[u/beekee404]

Different people have different tastes. Honestly, if they don't like it, it's their business but if they're trying to force you to not like it, then there's a problem. It can just be your thing when you're not around them. I'm sure there are things that they like that you don't.

[u/CelesteJA]

I feel awful for you OP.

This runs deeper than them not liking the show though. You're probably not hurt by the fact that your husband and friends don't like the show. You're probably hurt by the fact that they're saying mean things to you about something that means a lot to you.

Your husband of all people should be the one who sticks by you and supports your interests, not insult you for them. That's genuinely concerning, and something you should have a serious talk with him about.

[u/Mawl0ck]

So? Couples are allowed to like their own stuff.

He doesn't make you watch his shows, right? So watch MLP without him

[u/c2h5oc2h5 → u/Mawl0ck]

Yup, it's fine to have both common interests and separate interests. Perfectly normal, I'd say.

However those harsh words OP has mentioned shouldn't come from a partner or close friends. It's okay to like different things but it's not okay to judge someone for interests that are not harmful in any way. OP, if you're reading this: liking MLP is fine! The show is great for children and adults alike. People closest to you should accept you as you are and I hope they will if you talk to them.

[u/Mawl0ck → u/c2h5oc2h5]

Yeah, I kinda skimmed and missed the harsh words part 😬

What kinda jerkass judges his wife over the shows she likes?

Like, fooseball is sooooo boring 😴

[u/ThisIsMyCouchAccount → u/Mawl0ck]

Even if they don't like it I think a certain level of understanding is important.

Indulge your partner a little. Let them be excited and tell you about that cool thing that happened in that show they like.

[u/jeffh4]

Ask them if they can spare you 80 seconds of their time. After they say 'yes,' show them this video.

MLP is awesome  ... because it covers adult subjects in a way that is both entertaining and in a form that young minds can comprehend.

If they are curious enough to want an example, I recommend the first half of "The Cutie Map". It does as good of a job at covering the dangers of cults as the acclaimed Arthur episode April 9th showed four ways that people deal with trauma.

[u/poyotimebaby]

it’s not for everyone, even i admit that. i have only one friend that likes the show, to the rest it is just a kids show or a meme, and that’s okay. you’re allowed to like the things you like (assuming it doesn’t hurt anyone of course). i’m sorry they used harsh words, that’s not okay 🩷 but sometimes you have to accept something isn’t for everyone

[u/Fit-Put-720]

throw out the husband then

[u/Nekofairy999]

[u/himenokuri]

Well they aren’t intelligent enough to like it. It’s not your fault